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    Sticking Point: How to invite girls over to your home

    How do you invite girls over to your home when you don't have a living room and when all you have in your room is your bed and your TV?

    So basically in my case when you enter the apartment you enter to the kitchen, and then you walk forward and that's my room, which only has a bed and the TV, there would be nowhere to sit for the girl and all that, if she's a new date, I don't think she's gonna sit on my bed!

    So how is this supposed to work?



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    Quote Originally Posted by Fedor View Post
    How do you invite girls over to your home when you don't have a living room and when all you have in your room is your bed and your TV?

    So basically in my case when you enter the apartment you enter to the kitchen, and then you walk forward and that's my room, which only has a bed and the TV, there would be nowhere to sit for the girl and all that, if she's a new date, I don't think she's gonna sit on my bed!

    So how is this supposed to work?
    I feel you bro'. I had this on my mind last year too. I had nothing in my house, but clothes, books and a computer sitting on the floor with jumbled
    wires.

    Still on my second day home I pulled this chick to my house; thinking man what am I going to tell her?

    What did I tell her?

    JF- Yeah, I just moved in. Ok here's the . . .

    I just played cribs with what the house would look like. Even for you guys who have a bad ass house(Or don't) playing cribs shows personality, makes her feel comfortable and other stuff I have no idea how to describe other than it works.( yes I live in a studio too.)

    I remember the most awesome pirate to grace these forums saying,

    "Ambition to women is like big breast to men."
    Moral of the story is she is at your because of who you are.

    Honesty, personality, humor and manlyness are what pulled her, plus I am always bringing sexy back!

    Did, "is this guy going to fuck me on the floor next to this pile of dirty clothes cross her mind?

    I don't know.

    I was thinking lucky her

    Go for it and read my signature


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    That's very good advice, I like the sig, it should be on everyone's mentality but sometimes you forget about that. The thing I can't figure out is what is she going to do, is she supposed to sit on my bed, is she going to be standing while on my room, will she enter my room, I don't get it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fedor View Post
    That's very good advice, I like the sig, it should be on everyone's mentality but sometimes you forget about that. The thing I can't figure out is what is she going to do, is she supposed to sit on my bed, is she going to be standing while on my room, will she enter my room, I don't get it.
    Why are you bringing her to your house?

    To f*ck her, right?

    Yeah sit her on your bed or the floor. Whereever you are the king of your castle. Captain of your ship, but the bed will be just fine.

    Put a boring dvd in and start amping up the sexual tension.

    How? Push pull and masculinity. (No means no!)

    Honestly the truth is no amount of reading is going to help.It's all about the 80/20 rule player.

    Best,

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    Quote Originally Posted by Javier Francios View Post
    It's all about the 80/20 rule player.
    Whats that? Is that a juggler thing...put 80% of the work in and get her to do 20%. I think that was jugglers old style of doing conversations, but it might work for sex..is that what you mean?
    My Natural Attraction is:
    -Masculinity (strength/leader)
    -Preselection/Social Circle
    -Authenticity
    -Character/Boundaries
    -Sexual Tension (push-pull)
    -Value (give positive emotions)
    -Presence (*with eyes+body)
    -Challenge (takeaway/qualification/teasing)
    -Connection
    -Humor

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    The 80/20 rule is:

    20% of your actions give you 80% of your results.
    Juggler use to talk about the 90/10 rule.


    ~Javier F~

    P.s. Your signature is also bad ass.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fedor View Post
    How do you invite girls over to your home when you don't have a living room and when all you have in your room is your bed and your TV?

    So basically in my case when you enter the apartment you enter to the kitchen, and then you walk forward and that's my room, which only has a bed and the TV, there would be nowhere to sit for the girl and all that, if she's a new date, I don't think she's gonna sit on my bed!

    So how is this supposed to work?

    Start your date early so you have time to escalate: meaning: you two should be already making out on your date before "let's go back to my place" even comes up.

    In fact, my most successful dates, I was already making out with a girl, still at the bar. At that point....it didn't matter. Saying as "let's just go watch a movie back at my place" was sufficient enough.
    The ghost of pua's past.

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    I ahve the same. I have it even a bit worse: I got a roommate behind a thin wooden wall. I still invite people back home. A TV/Laptop is enough. Just start watching something on in that is long enough. During the movie just make a move on her. Start hugging and if it seams natural - kiss.
    I call myself a 'veteran'...

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    Get a futon. Look into some design magazines/books for ideas about creative space design. Try to find an AIA bookstore, they have tons of great books. Additionally, some Barnes & Nobles have sections on design.

    One book I've recommended in the past is Living large in small places (expressing personal style in 100 to 1,000 square feet) by Marissa Bartolucci.

    Make sure whatever space you have is spotless, organized, and inviting.

    Good luck and take care,
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    haha I was moving stuff to this apartment. I only had a rug on the ground, TV and some tables. (no bed or couch)
    I explained to her, this is asian style that we watch tv sitting on the ground and sleep on the ground. I f-closed her that night on the rug. lol

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    Just get her to join you on your bed. You only THINK you can't get her to sit on your bed.

    If you've done things right during the date, and your kino and chemistry is good, it should be no problem. Generally speaking, if she's willing to come back to your place alone, she's probably down for some fooling around at the very least. If women are coming to your place and then suddenly aren't cool with hooking up, you're doing something wrong.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tenmagnet View Post
    Just get her to join you on your bed. You only THINK you can't get her to sit on your bed.
    Just Do It! <<< My favorite kind of advice

    If you've done things right during the date, and your kino and chemistry is good, it should be no problem. Generally speaking, if she's willing to come back to your place alone, she's probably down for some fooling around at the very least. If women are coming to your place and then suddenly aren't cool with hooking up, you're doing something wrong.
    This is probably the BEST way to point out your mini-sticking points and things you're doing wrong.

    I absolutely love reading Field Reports when guy says, "we had great time, good kino, lot's of chemistry, touching, then we came back to my place and she wont even let me kiss her!!!!" <<<<<< then down the road you find out that there was barely any touching, what he thought were IOI's are just polite gestures, what he thought as chemistry was her friendliness and what he thought was kino was just her accidentally brushing against him.




    In other words: your sticking point is probably not the "bringing girls home" but something in the mid game. Like TenMagnet said: "if you did everything right, there is not fucking way she is not going to join you on the bed"


    But there is a difference between not being able to close and LMR.

    Last night, I hung out with a girl for the first time after the night i met her. Initial meeting was brief and sealed with a kiss close. Then logistics prevented us from hanging out for almost 2 months. I finally got her to meet me for drinks last night.

    We had great chemistry, i escalated things fast: very intimate kino (holding hands, hugging, putting hands around each other, then later kissing, and making out).

    By the time we got to her place we were all over each other. I ran extremely tight escalation on her, we "watched" a movie, but ended up doing some heavy petting...... but my point is:

    I did all the right things. I had no problem taking her to HER place
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