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    Flake follow up

    Need help with a girl who flaked on me despite showing interest. Should I follow up with her or will that demonstrate low value? Here's a transcript of our instagram convo.

    Me: Hey you wassup
    Her: Hey nothing much. How are you
    Me: I'm doing good, how about yourself?
    Me: Still can't believe how much you look like the person I saw at that concert (I met her at a club and used the opener I saw her twin at a concert)
    Her: lol I'm good
    Me: What you up to
    Me: after taking another look at your pics you might actually be better looking than your twin
    Her: lmaooo well thanks!!
    Her: nothing much bored at work
    Me: Same here... like could Friday come already?? (it was a Monday)
    Her: Lmfao rightttt
    Me: I got you cracking up all day, we pretty much dating now
    Her: lol yes you really have!
    Me: lol well just lemme know when and where to pick you up for dinner
    Her: lol no you let me know!
    Me: lol wyd later
    Her: Nothing planned hbu
    Me: had no plans but I guess now I do with you
    Me: You in Queens right?
    Her: Lol yes corona
    Me: Okay, can you be ready by 8?
    some time goes by, no reply
    Me: My bad make that 8:30
    no reply
    Me: Someone got cold feet lol
    Her: Lol no I'm just doing too much. Laundry cleaning my house tryna get as much done as I can (even tho she said she had nothing planned)
    Me: Okay no prob
    2 days later
    Her: Heyyy
    Me: Hey wassup, what sort of trouble you getting into today?
    Her: lol nothing at all. Just relaxing
    Me: cool relaxing never hurt nobody I dig it
    Me: What's your availability this weekend?
    Her: Nothing planned hbu (again!)
    Me: Okay nothing much I just have one show Saturday night. (She knows I play keyboards in a band and I have a concert at 8pm Saturday) Would you mind if I took you out sometime after the concert to grab a bite or drinks?
    Her: Sure!
    Me: Cool. First and foremost, do you have any drug addictions, crazy exes stalking you, or any warrants out for your arrest? (keeping it light hearted and qualifying her at the same time)
    Her: Lmao hell no. Do you?
    Me: okay cool just checking... nah I'm clean lol

    day before Saturday date
    Me: Hey I got a couple nice spots in mind for tomorrow. Do you drive?
    Her: no but I work tomorrow & get off at 4 (not sure what she was getting at because my concert isn't until 8pm and we agreed to meet after)
    Me: That's fine we agreed to meet after the concert. I'm leaving the concert around 8pm
    Me: Would you like me to pick you up or meet you at the restaurant?
    No reply
    Saturday around 6pm
    Sent her a knock knock gif
    Her: Hey sorry I just got off but I have to work in the morning so idk about drinks *sad emoji
    Her: I'm gonna be a zombie
    Me: Stop it lol it's just one drink
    Me: Here's my number text me when you get a chance
    She texts me a few mins later
    Her: Hey it's me T*****
    Me: Hey I'll pick you up after the show and drop you off before you pass out on me lol
    Me: What's your cross streets btw?
    No reply for 2 days now


    Did I fuck this up and demonstrate too much low value? What can I do to follow up with her or should I wait to see if she texts me? I'm new to this and still working on my game. I felt like she had some interest in me. Did I kill her interest? Be as honest as you can be, I need the critique.



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    Instead of ask "did I fuck up", then try to ask: "What does this interaction say about HER" (Not what she thinks about you, but what does the interaction say about her personality)

    What would you say the answer is?

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    Hmmmm I would say she's not reliable. Very flaky.

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    Is it acceptable to you, that a woman is unreliable?

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    Absolutely not! But she did actually come around and apologize recently. She wants to make up for it. That should count for something right? Women rarely apologize these days. If I'm to give her another chance, she must make it up to me someway, somehow

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    Quote Originally Posted by clpianostudio View Post
    Hmmmm I would say she's not reliable. Very flaky.
    Agreed

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