Is there any hope or is this a lost cause?

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    Is there any hope or is this a lost cause?

    So I got back in touch with the girl I cut contact with five years ago. I realised that there probably wasn’t a chance she would answer after all this time, so I sent my message without expectations.

    A couple hours later my phone lights up and she replied:

    - She told me all the hurt and pain had come back since she saw my message.

    - She said that what I put her through had badly affected her and still does.

    - That shes had significant issues with her relationships and that she’s never quite felt the same again.

    - She also added that she thought I hated her.

    There’s one thing she told me that really confused me is when she said

    “I like the idea of us trying something together but I’m afraid of the result”

    Don’t get me wrong, I fully understand what she told me... what I don’t get is why tell me this?

    Is it false hope? Is she conflicted?



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    My own (possible wishful) thoughts are that she would never have respond with this, let alone at all, if she didn’t want anything to do with me. Meaning that she does still have feelings for me to a certain degree.

    I obviously really hurt her when I cut contact, and she’s spent quite some time thinking it over.

    I was stupid and insecure enough to think she didn’t like me, because she obviously did - quite a lot considering her response.

    All this meaning that she likely is conflicted. She would like us to try again, but she’s afraid I would cut contact again if things turn blue.

    I regret what I did, but most of all I regret putting her through it.

    I never once acknowledged her feelings and how it would affect her. I was selfish.

    She meant so much to me back then despite what I did, and she still holds a big place in my heart.

    Tell me what you think.

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