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    I cum too fast

    I got my first kiss under two months ago and made my sexual debut just over a month ago. Everything with the same girl, and we both like each other very much. Things are going really great between us. We're having an extremely good chemistry.

    There's one problem, though: When we have sex, I cum way too fast. We've had sex like 10 times, and it happens every time. I can go off in only 15 seconds if I don't pull out. So that is what I do - several times every time we have sex. I pull out and start fingering her or such for 15/25 seconds, before I enter her again. In average, I think it might be 15 seconds in; 20 out. This is annoying, because I don't wanna restrict myself all the time. Last time, she slept over at my place (decided at 10pm to instantly come visit me, although she has to travel between one and two hours by train, boat and bus to come to me). I masturbated earlier that day, but that did'nt seem to help. We had sex before we fell asleep, and again early in the morning, but I still had the same problem. We had sex one last time a couple of hours later, and it was a little bit better, but still I could have gone off in maybe 30 seconds after entering her.

    So I wonder, will it be like this for a long time? And although I doubt there is, is there anything I can do to prevent myself from going off this fast? I know about stacking orgasms, and I'm gonna try working on it, but apart from that? I'd be glad to get some tips.

    Anyways, she says she thought I was a very good kisser already from the very first time we kissed - and indeed the very first time I ever kissed a girl. Haha! If she only knew. She wants me to tell her, though, about my first kiss, but I don't wanna tell her i was with her, because I think it's embarrassing.

    She's also saying I'm especially good in bed, and that it feels like I'm reading her mind, 'cause I always do what she wants me to do, without her saying it. Also, she says she has been self conscious and shy about her own body, but with me she's not feeling this.

    So, things are going great, but as I said some small problems I'd like to get fixed. Glad if anyone could help...



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    Hey, tough shit u goin thru, i'll recommend this technique i ripped of my mens health mag, hope it helps. take a small wet towel and while ur hard hold it up and do pull ups with ur merchandise, 10 reps about 3 sets couple times a day. it should develop ur muscles and help u last longer. i actually have the opposite problem, i last for more than an hour and get tired as hell and give up, then i have to take care of myself by hand, what a life

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    Can you get it back up after you bust?

    I've had similar problems in the past (after about 5 minutes I'd not be able to hold it back). The way I fixed it was to have her suck me off before we had sex or we'd just do it twice/three or how ever many times it took til I felt like I had done my part.

    I also know I can last for ever when I'm drunk. Maybe have her over to your place, drink some before she gets there and then split a bottle of wine. (you want to be more drunk than she is).

    One other thing I've done that I would NOT recommend... but worked... is to put it in without a condom on for a little bit and then put one on. There is such a difference in the feel without a condom that when I put it on I could go for ever. Bad idea though in hind sight... I got lucky that nothing bad happened.

    -Big T

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    Think about your sister/mother/grandma :S

    Its all in the mind man....thas all I can say....

    you just have to phase out of the sex and think about other stuff...then go back. And yes the drunken thing can help A LOT with this. The main idea is to phase out your mind from sexs while still being good at it.


    But the good thing is that she thinks you are good in bed, and thas a big plus

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    put some Ora-gel dental pain releiver on your dick, it will numb it. then you can last forever cuz you won't feel a damn thing.

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    Yes, actually, it sometimes stays up for quite a long time after we've had sex. But that's only annoying, really, 'cause it's not like I could continue having sex with her. I need at least one hour before I can start again.

    We've had sex both with and without a condom. Maybe I could try your combination method!

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    women say this shit to massage ur ego so just be glad she likes/loves u

    "ur so good, blah blah" just polish ur bedroom skills and don't pay attention to what she says, pay attention to her bodys responses

    give the best 15 secs of her life ha ha.

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    Practice. You'll know when to stop yourself, before cumming.

    Also consider getting few sex books on male multiple orgasms. You need to exercise your PC muscle.

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    You better be damn good at oral if that happens, at least until your PC muscle is more conditioned.

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    why do you have to wait an hour before going again? Just take the rubber off, milk out the jizz and then re wrap and go at it again. That sensitive feeling will shake off after about 2-3 minutes and while that is waning you can play with her clit and keep her hot.

    I used to have this problem. After a while it got better, but I didnt have total control. Now I have control. I cant bust off getting head now unless he is really good, and before I would blow off in 30 seconds flat no matter how terrible the head was.

    Just like pickup, sex is a learned skill. You have to go through the pains of learning. Thank goodness its a lot of fun learning it!

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    Think of comedian Buddy Hackett. Lets me go for hours.

    http://www.cultvegas.com/art/buddyhackett.jpg

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    Kegel exercises are a set of exercises designed to strengthen and give voluntary control over the pubococcygeus muscles. They are often referred to simply as "kegels." These exercises also serve to contract the cremaster muscle in men, as voluntary contraction of the pubococcygeus muscle also engages the cremasteric reflex, which also has sexual benefits. This will make the penis rise, and control can be achieved with practice[citation needed].

    Kegel exercises appear to enable some men to have multiple orgasms and can help with premature ejaculation.

    Google it shit works wonders

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    Kegels are the shit for sure. I started doing them a couple years ago.

    After doing them for like a month I squirted for the first time when I busted. My orgasms are waaaayyyy better now too.

    One good way to remind yourself throughout the day to do them is when you piss. When I piss I cut off the stream about 10 times while I piss. Its basically the same butt clench muscles that are worked when doing kegels. It stings a little when you first start doing it but it gets better with time. I'd recommend giving it a shot.

    -Big T

    P.S.- don't do it when you wake up in the morning with a piss boner... you'll piss all over your bathroom. .. and yes, I know from experience haha

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    Yes some of the excersises listed work well you bassically have to strengthen your PC muscle, that muscle that stops your piss (if you try to) you can just 'work it out' any time of the day, the other excersise with the warm towel works well it expands the blood vessels in your penis making it overall bigger as well as helping with premature ejaculation.

    I suffered too but its getting MUCH better. Just work on it don't forget your excersises and it will get better eventually.

    Also google it if your having trouble picturing what to do. Good luck!

    EDIT: As a side note it will be harder to get your penis up after doing these excerises don't worry your dick just needs some resting time. I wouldn't suggest masturbating much either..
    Last edited by Display MOB; 05-22-2008 at 03:39 PM. Reason: adding more.

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    There's some really sh1t advice in this thread. Seriously, if you guys have no idea what you're talking about just STFU before you mess this kid up.
    I had this problem when I first became sexually active, so learned a lot while i dealt with it.



    Don't:
    -Use numbing gel on your dick. It'll make you last longer, but it destroys your enjoyment. Sort of pointless having sex if you're not enjoying it.
    -Don't try & think about other things (like your grandma) to get your mind off coming. If anything, that will make things worse as it will make you anxious.
    -don't ignore the problem. If you hope it fixes itself, well, it won't. And the longer you wait with this problem the more it will be ingrained in your brain that its normal

    Do:

    -Go see a doctor. There's actually medication that can help you, though can get expensive so i'd use medication as a last resort. But a doctor can help discuss the issue & give ideas on how to approach it.
    -those Kegels exercises. They genuinely do work.
    -Learn how to have sex properly. Sex shouldn't be like a porno movie. Learn foreplay, learn how to pleasure your missus without riding her like a rodeo clown.
    -Breath. Seriously, deep breaths help you relax & helps you last longer. Don't feel like its only the chick who has to breath loud & moan.
    -Get your gf to work through this with you. A very effective technique to lasting longer is being erect for longer periods without coming. So if you're having sex, and you feel you're reaching the point of no return, just stop. Cuddle her, kiss her, whatever. Give it 60 seconds or longer if you feel the need, until you have backed off the point of no return, and then restart the sex.
    Do this 5-6 times before letting yourself cum.



    Believe it or not this is more common than you think, and for a lot of men its something that they live with their entire lives.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FlyTrap View Post
    I cant bust off getting head now unless he is really good, and before I would blow off in 30 seconds flat no matter how terrible the head was.
    !
    unless HE .....?
    that was a typo right....

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    ^^^ Haha I hope it was a typo FlyTrap!
    Last edited by Chopps; 05-22-2008 at 09:42 PM.

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    ^haha, yeah I was going to point that out to. I thought maybe 'he' is referring to Mr. Johnson.

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    *she

    LMFAO


    you fuckers!


    hahhahahahahaaaahahahahahaha

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eages06 View Post
    -Learn how to have sex properly. Sex shouldn't be like a porno movie.
    Hahaha either you haven't had enough sex, you watch some weird ass porn, you aren't having sex with the right girls, or you are the one who actually doesn't know what hes talking about.

    Go read the sex god method take two advil and call me in the morning. haha j/k but for real, read it.

    -Big T

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    Quote Originally Posted by FlyTrap View Post
    *she

    LMFAO


    you fuckers!


    hahhahahahahaaaahahahahahaha

    Freudian slip, you can't hide from us, we now know the truth


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    Quote Originally Posted by The Big T View Post
    Originally Posted by Eages06
    -Learn how to have sex properly. Sex shouldn't be like a porno movie.


    Hahaha either you haven't had enough sex, you watch some weird ass porn, you aren't having sex with the right girls, or you are the one who actually doesn't know what hes talking about.
    Disagree completely. I don't know a single girl who wants to be fucked like they do it in pornos. Porn is made for male audiences and often tends to ignore what it is that actually gets girls off. The positions are those which look best on film, not those which necessarily provide the most pleasure. Most girls won't be impressed if you just start pounding away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sampanye View Post
    Disagree completely. I don't know a single girl who wants to be fucked like they do it in pornos. Porn is made for male audiences and often tends to ignore what it is that actually gets girls off. The positions are those which look best on film, not those which necessarily provide the most pleasure. Most girls won't be impressed if you just start pounding away.
    Depends on a girl.

    I've been with girls that get off on fantasy of being fucked like a dirty slut for a porn filmed in a cheap motel. .......Ok, actually, this goes more along "roleplaying" than actual fucking...

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    Zoloft, Prozac any ssri, high cholesterol, sitting on a bike seat to long, all may help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mindquicken View Post
    put some Ora-gel dental pain releiver on your dick, it will numb it. then you can last forever cuz you won't feel a damn thing.
    lmfao ... lmfao..might actualy work thinking about it i don't know about the side effects though.

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    i wanna post a good technique, this should be used when the girls is really getting into it. Put her on her hands and knees aka " ass-up-face-down" make sure that her back is curving. Put your penis inside her fuck her for a little bit, go over her grab the base of her hair neck portion [ you need to do this right or it hurts] pull her head back say something dirty "you got a fucking tight pussy" she should feel your breathing right next to her and only move your thrusting..while keeping your upper body without movement.

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    I had the same prob. So I read ejaculation delay is a newly-discovered characteristic of the famous magic meds (V***ra, C***is). Developed to cure ED concerns, it also overcomes difficulty ejaculating too fast. As I know Dapox***ne has made especially for premature ejaculation.

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    The thing is that you are too fast sex is not just doing and getting off, but you have to be a role player, I suggest for Oral sex or foreplay the best way to rid out you should try some new ideas to get longer in bed times rather than just only having sex, Kiss, pressing boobs, touching, fingering this all just stuff for oral sex this could gain you more time and you can enjoy lust for desire. Trying out fildena 100 can have some longer time in bed and you can have just awesome sex and fun.

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