Did I fuck up texting a girl?

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    Did I fuck up texting a girl?

    So I just wanted you guys to answer this question to me.
    I used to know this girl in school up untill 9th grade. But then I switched schools. I have always liked her, but I never had the gut to tell her. We haven't spoken for 2 years. But I plan to meet up with her soon. So my plan is to text her a couple times and then ask her to hang out. I asked my mom to help me text her (Yeah, I have bearly any expirience with girls). Now I regret asking her because I think we messed up.

    So here's how the conversation went:
    Me: Hi
    Her: Hi
    Me: How's things?
    Her: Fine 😅
    Me: How're things at school?
    Her: Fine
    Her: What about you?
    Me: Did you know that now I learn in Riga now?
    Her: Yes
    Me: Fine
    Me: Do you have to learn a lot?
    Her: Yes
    Me: Where do you plan to go after 12th grade?
    Her: Dunno yet
    Me: Are you waiting for the autumn holidays?
    Her: uhmm...
    Her: Well yes
    Her: 😅
    Me: Me too
    At this point I just couldn't take it. The conversation has went totally to a mess thanks to my mom. Neither of us wrote anynthing to each other anymore.
    The reason I didn't like this conversation was because I simply asked such generic and boring questions. Yet I saw tonns of oppurtunities to make the conversation flow better. But my mom was like: "No. Do as I say! You'll mess up."
    Of course I can still fix things, but I simply need your opinions, so I would know how badly I messed up.

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    The conversation sounded a little more like you interviewing her, that is, asking questions and taking answers. But I don't think you messed up even a little bit. Judging from your age, some other boys have probably had much worse conversations with her. So there's nothing to worry about, just be relaxed when talking to her, maybe she already likes you too, you never know.

    "We should hang out sometime during the holidays, I miss seeing your pretty face." Write her that and let's see her reply. All the best young man!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eroft View Post
    The conversation has went totally to a mess thanks to my mom.
    First of all - start taking responsibility. The conversation went totally to a mess thanks to you since you decide whether to invite your mom on it or not (hint: don't, it's a terrible idea - how would she know how to date a 12th grade girl?). YOU are responsible for all the interactions with girls from now on - I do apologize for sounding harsh, but once you accept this mindset your success rate with girls will go up by 1000%.

    Second - yes, it was pretty bad because there was never any follow up on any topic. Example:

    You: how are things at school?
    Her: fine, what about you?
    You: Doing great! Looking forward to the weekend, I wanna see this new awesome movie. Have you seen it?

    then depending on what she says you can easily invite her to do it together.

    instead, you(mom?) go into a new topic about you studying in Riga and start all over again.

    Anyway, regarding fixing: just be direct and ask her out. If you know something the likes (let's say ice skating), then just invite her to hang out together. Like:
    "Hi (her name)! I'm going ice skating this weekend, and I wanted to invite you to hang out if you have time"

    If she says yes - wonderful.
    If she says no because she's busy or something - ask what other day would work for her.

    And please don't write "We should hang out sometime during the holidays, I miss seeing your pretty face." (sorry Richardd), it sound very romantic/cheesy out of nowhere, she probably doesn't even know you have feelings at this point! And even if she agrees, "sometime during the holidays" might as well be "never", it's not a date.

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