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    From an Alpha Male's point of view...

    Hello everyone, this question is more related to friendship in general than dating...

    I would like to know how you guys handle this kind of situation, if ever happens to you..

    Do you think is it rude not to reply a missed call?

    Let me explain a bit, it has happened to me that I call some people that i know from a long time... from the same social circle... but they do not reply and they never call back...
    People a, supossed to be friends with and that when we meet we happen to have a good time, not that we had problems between us or something.

    I understand people is busy, people have a life and cannot always take your calls 100% of the time, however, i thought the right thing would be to return the call at some point. Normally I would call them to get some coffee, to get together for lunch or something, if it was something urgent or utterly necessary to talk about i would call them again, but since it is not urgent i just go about my day.

    It is not like my life stops because of them, if they do not call me back i just look for someone else to hang out on, or something else to do... however i do wonder if I should say something about it.

    I have sent msgs to this same people on whatsapp/facebook and they read them and there is no reply, not at the same time, sometimes i call, sometimes i text, and not often, perhaps once every 3 weeks or so.

    Should I just brush it off and carry on with my life and if they decide to call/reply that's fine or should i say something just to let them know thats not cool...

    I read somewhere online it is not rude if they do not reply, since they are not obligated and i should just respect the fact they can't talk or reply for any reason. However, I wonder if they do that to everybody or is something more related to the respect they feel towards me and perhaps they think they can do that and get away with it.

    I mean, if it was a salesman, a broker, a bank representative, or just an unknown number i wouldnt bother calling back if i missed their call, but if it is someone I know (even if they are not close friends) i would return the call...

    What are your thoughts about it?



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    Life is busy and it's not always easy to reply. I have a couple friends who are horrible at phone communication but who I'm really good friends with. However, seems like you're never getting responses. If you truly are doing the things you said above (calling/texting not very often) and you are never getting replies, I hate to say it but the brutal truth is get some new friends. Have people who want you in their life also. Friendships are a two way road.
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    Thanks man, indeed i do see other people instead, i dont let that stop me from having a good time with other people... however, it can be annoying some times. I was thinking on dropping a text like "hey man, everything ok? it would be cool to reply msgs or return calls every now and then lol" , and just leave it at that.

    Last time i tried to get a hold of that mate was like 3 weeks ago, i think i wont come across as pushy or needy

    Anyway, perhaps it has something to do with some changes in the dynamics of our friendship, such as drug use... the last couple months someone who isnt me hasn't feel like using and someone who isnt my buddy does every weekend... so last few times we spoke he wanted someone who isnt me to buy, for both of us and politely refused... i guess the lack of contact has to do with that...

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    My philosophy is you have to cut toxic ties. Sometimes it sucks, but it's worth it for having better people surrounding you.
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    Lalala

  6. People always return my calls.

    They know it's important. Also, I always return people's calls. [Unless I'm deliberately cutting them out of my life.]

    Take that as a lesson.
    Lose these people. Go your own way.

  7. Nowadays common courtesy is a rare thing. Yes you should call back or the least thing you can do is text back.

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    Lose em. If they're reading your message, but not responding AT ALL, they dont see you as important to answer to. Ive got my hands in several social groups, and when i send texts, i get responses. If i dont get a message back, i usually wait about a day and text them again. If i don't respond to their message (like now; i realized one of my acting buddies responded to my text, but its 10:10 pm), I'll contact them around 9 am the next day.

    Again, lose em. Find others to hang with!

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