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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfpack View Post
    So I'm sorry for being so negative and bringing everybody down.
    Don't worry bro you are not bringing no one down. Especially the people that have tried, practice, and seen the power of this stuff.

    Quote Originally Posted by wolfpack View Post
    I am talking reality whether you PUA guys want to admit it or not!
    That reality in my opinion is based off of what the media, some friends, and other people want you to believe. I thought the same too. I thought hot women only went out with good looking, in shape, and rich guys. Lol, there is a bestselling book I saw a while back that cater to that telling you to not go for women that you might be really attracted to and no chance with, but to settle with women that you are less attracted to and have a chance with. Then comes VH1's The Pickup Artist. What intrigue me wasn't Mystery or Matador, but their little friend who didn't have looks. He was able to get a girl dancing around his finger when they went out to prove the system works.
    Keys to the Vip with Cajun. The guy, no offense, looked like a guy my friends would cockblock without breaking a sweat. After watching Cajun, I believe he would use my friends if they tried to cockblock him as fodder to get the girl and my friends would be wondering what the hell just happen as Cajun walks away with the girl while fingering her.
    Mr. M, definitely will not try to offend or say anything bad about him because his teaching helped me steal a HB greek chick from a black guy who looked like Tyrese that was orbiting her and her friend kept telling me she wanted to fuck me. Learned a technique that built up sexual tension on another HB that allowed me to makeout with her in less than 5mins of the interaction and she was thrilled when I told her let me take you home. Let's just say the guy looks like a guy, which no why in hell this guy can pull a playboy playmate like the article stated, boy was I surprised. At the Miami bootcamp the guy had HBs surrounding him while he was chilling and instructing at the same time.

    I also noticed and heard from Fader when I got the Super Conference DVD in Frame Control, which I laughed after see it and noticing it. The competition, which is mostly guys that have the looks and money, don't even approach or wait till they have the guts or liquid courage. I was in downtown Orlando at the bars in Wallstreet and I approached probably 20+ HBs. Didn't care to hookup, just wanted to have fun approaching women. A good amount of them have not even been approached or hit on yet. Hell two guys that were taller than me, in good shape, and looked good was looking at 3 HBs and never even approached them. I told them watch me get slapped and they told me good luck. I approached the HBs and the 3 really liked my company, especially the really hot one out of the 3. She was popping IOIs left and right as I had my arm around her waist fingering her back as her body was resting on mine and her arm around my shoulder.


    Quote Originally Posted by wolfpack View Post
    Now I will admit that there have been some very cute attractive girls who definitely made serious eye contact with me in the shopping malls and yeah I choked and just kept walking and that is something I need to work on. When you're a sensitive guy like me and believe me I didn't ask for this this, this was handed down to me by my fucking biological parents and you've been hurt too many times in your life it is much harder to want to stay in the game especially when the odds are stacked against you.
    In my opinion you should try to go up to store clerks that are paid to be nice and tell them they look pretty and then tell any girl you see they look pretty and telling them to have a good weekend without being outcome dependent, but have fun. It is something I use to get myself to try day game and noticed as I am going out I think women subconsciously want to be picked up or like Vox said to meet a guy that is confident to approached them.

    You have a ton of options to help you with your inner game, online game, day game, and to debunk everything negative you think about women.

    Only you can make that choice.



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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfpack View Post
    Wow you must get laid a lot hanging around advice forms all the time...
    Nice try

    Fact is that you've made so many posts about your looks that the moderators started renaming your threads to "Yet another WP thread about his looks", and that's fine, I just skip those threads. But when you give advice from your limiting mindset, then I have to react.

    You've spent at least 7 years envying beautiful guys dating beautiful girls. When will it end?

    1. Stop feeling like a victim. Did you read that article by Fader?
    2. If you're fat, get fit. I don't care if you're a truck driver, eat healthy and take a walk for half an hour a day. If you do those already, good
    3. If you don't like your job or life-situation, start thinking about how you can change it
    4. Get a nice haircut or shave if you're balding
    5. Buy some nice threads
    6. Read some literature about self-worth and confidence or consult with a coach or therapist
    7. Approach some women
    8. Learn game
    9. EOD

  3. Yeah I do envy the tall good-looking guys because you always see them with the attractive girls. Your looks probably matter a lot more then whatever game you have. But the fact is there's not a lot you can really do about your looks other then change your wardrobe your haircut, shave or be clean-shaven and trying keep in shape. There's nothing a guy can do about his height once he's past 25 years of age.

    I do have elevator shoes that make me look over 6 feet tall but they're uncomfortable to walk in a long period of time and once you take the shoes off your short again... But I'll tell you I have noticed that dressing up and looking like I'm over 6 feet tall definitely get a lot more noticed by attractive women then when you're short.

    Maybe or something you guys could help me out with. What I really need help with is conversation starters. I don't believe in Canned openers because then you got to keep coming up with bullshit to keep that Canned opener going. What are some good ways to approach a total stranger and not come off as obvious that you're hitting on a or that you're giving her some stupid line and she can tell instantly your just using the line on her. I know ia lot of guys in the videos go up to girls and say excuse me I just wanted to say how beautiful you are and had to come over and meet you.

    I personally think this is too over-the-top especially if you're a guy who shy just starting out. Sure you're just giving her a compliment but, I personally wouldn't feel comfortable walking up to somebody and just saying that.

    Some the things I've been thinking about using for example you see somebody or a group of girls and ask them if they're from this town and what are some places they like to go sightseeing or fun places to visit and if the conversations going good then you could just say well what are you guys doing later on I have no plans would you like to get together. Or ask them what their favourite restaurant in town would be or a place to go for drinks and you can always ask them later on during the week if they would like to go to that.

    Wp



    QUOTE=Hurley;1030870]Nice try

    Fact is that you've made so many posts about your looks that the moderators started renaming your threads to "Yet another WP thread about his looks", and that's fine, I just skip those threads. But when you give advice from your limiting mindset, then I have to react.

    You've spent at least 7 years envying beautiful guys dating beautiful girls. When will it end?

    1. Stop feeling like a victim. Did you read that article by Fader?
    2. If you're fat, get fit. I don't care if you're a truck driver, eat healthy and take a walk for half an hour a day. If you do those already, good
    3. If you don't like your job or life-situation, start thinking about how you can change it
    4. Get a nice haircut or shave if you're balding
    5. Buy some nice threads
    6. Read some literature about self-worth and confidence or consult with a coach or therapist
    7. Approach some women
    8. Learn game
    9. EOD
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    Your terrible beliefs just shine through in your posts and since you've put across no indication that you're willing to even shine a light on your beliefs and challenge them then my only advice to you remains the same as it was the last time......you need to give up. This is not for you.
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  5. I just had phone coaching session with one of your instructors... I am making small strides and trying to approach women. There's a very good reason why I believe what I believe because of the way I've been treated in the past. And I'm trying to overcome that.

    Maybe you should quit calling yourself a dating coach telling people to give up. To be honest

    Wp




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    Quote Originally Posted by Vox View Post
    Your terrible beliefs just shine through in your posts and since you've put across no indication that you're willing to even shine a light on your beliefs and challenge them then my only advice to you remains the same as it was the last time......you need to give up. This is not for you.

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    There's a very good reason why I believe what I believe because of the way I've been treated in the past. And I'm trying to overcome that.
    Everyone here is hoping that you do.

    Having a belief, whether erroneous or not is one thing. But choosing to constantly put down those beliefs on forums and stubbornly hold them as true when you are trying to change is not productive.

    Choosing to lay out your beliefs in each and every post you make will hurt you and will keep you in a cycle that means we're still here in a another 7 years time.

    Understanding you hold a belief, but that it might not be true and might be a hindrance to you is another thing all together and that can be worked with. That is the attitude and approach you want to have.
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    Look at me !!! I'm another Lovesystems success story !
    I've been in and out of this forum for well over 7 years, still can't cut and paste a paragraph, have read Magic Bullets cover to cover, routines manual, some audio series etc. Unofficially done a bootcamp and as a result have graduated back to net porn !!! So I empathize with wolfpack, Vox makes some positive comments and Hurley sounds like a douche bag with his trademark put-downs.

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    Did you do a bootcamp with LS job20?

    Learning game is something you do, it's not something that is done to you. Don't blame the teacher for you having learning impairments. Take responsibility for your own progress.

    So, you read some material. But did you also apply it infield? Did you do a tons of approaches? Did you journal about it and track your progress? Did you ask relevant questions and seek out specific knowledge? Did you have focus on your sticking points?

  9. The struggles for me is, once I got up to a certain age I think it was 25 years old and in the nightclubs and couldn't figure out why is it that women seem to just walk right by me without even glancing yet I see these other guys talking to girls and everybody looks so natural and having a good time and the girls actually want to be with these guys.

    Then I started to really pay attention to how tall lot of these guys are how masculine they look how confident they look and overall just seem to be better looking than me.

    When you're short and average in looks at best I think the reality is it's going to be a lot harder especially in a small town were most attractive women seem to already have a steady boyfriends and I will say Vox article really touched on something that makes a lot of sense.

    The part where he talks about making excuses about not wanting to approach women because they look unapproachable grumpy that sort of thing. That's probably 100% of the reasons why I don't approach because I just feel like if I even dare going up to these women they are just gonna look at me like who the fuck are you and why are you even talking to me!??

    And the harsh reality is you are going to run into women like that for whatever reason they seem to have that attitude. At least in this town that I live in the few times I have approached women they seem to have almost a standoffish attitude when all you're doing is asking for directions or something.

    Last Monday I decided to go to a new restaurant lounge a friend of mine was telling me about and I walk in there and theres maybe four people in that place and only two attractive waitresses working and the minute I walk in these two waitresses were just hanging around with these two dudes the whole time I was there, and these two chicks with these guys talking with these guys laughing with these guys and I'm sitting there all by myself and the only time the bartender waitress even came up to me was just to see if I wanted anything else then she went right back to those two guys and was laughing at flirting with them.

    And this seems to be the story of my life... It's like life is always shitting on me just because I really want to try and get good at this and all it's doing is shoving it in my face that I'm not even in the picture let alone do I have a chance with any of these women. Same thing last weekend attractive female bartender was serving me and when she was done her shift she comes out in every day clothes and sits right next to the guy next to me and she's talking to him the whole time...

    And once again I'm sitting here thinking for fuck sakes can I not just once get a fucking break in life! There seems to be a lot of couples here in the town I live in and not very many single women from what I've seen. And I'm sorry but the advice of why don't you just move to another city??? I mean get real. I will say though going to other cities are even smaller towns were the women might be more available is definitely an option.

    I truly believe that to get good at this you have to be the best looking you possibly can. Trying get yourself above average in looks no matter what it takes because I'll tell you from experience it's simply much easier to attract women then going up to these chicks and literally getting blown off right off the hop because they're not attracted to you physically.

    When I was doing steroids and my body was in great shape and I was walking around with a tight muscle shirts on, dark tanned I've definitely seen attractive young girls checking me out big time. I don't recommend going on steroids it was just something I wanted to try and I did it I wouldn't go back to it. Too many negative side effects. Now I'm trying to diet eat properly and trying to lose the gut.

    The other thing if you do see an attractive girl who's definitely looking your way and smiling don't hesitate just go up to her (easier said than done of course) but you may not get another opportunity like that again. I know too many times I fucked up and just kept walking because I didn't know what to say, I didn't know how she was going to react and didn't want to come across as some losers so I thought I better just keep walking and enjoy the moment a cute girls actually looking at me Who seemed interested

    Wp

  10. With me it really comes down to shyness. And when I go walking around the shopping malls and see all these good-looking dudes with these attractive young girls I think to myself, well I guess that's why I'm single. Because I don't look like these guys

    Wp



    Quote Originally Posted by Vox View Post
    Everyone here is hoping that you do.

    Having a belief, whether erroneous or not is one thing. But choosing to constantly put down those beliefs on forums and stubbornly hold them as true when you are trying to change is not productive.

    Choosing to lay out your beliefs in each and every post you make will hurt you and will keep you in a cycle that means we're still here in a another 7 years time.

    Over all my my real sticking point shyness... That's really what it comes down to. And when you walk around the shopping malls and see always good looking deals with these really attractive young girls you think yourself, well I guess that's why I'm single because I don't look like them.

    Wp

    Understanding you hold a belief, but that it might not be true and might be a hindrance to you is another thing all together and that can be worked with. That is the attitude and approach you want to have.

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