How to disqualify/give space to the girl who wont give you space?

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    How to disqualify/give space to the girl who wont give you space?

    this is a follow on from my last post that I wasnt getting any replies on.

    So girl in my social group is showing all the signs that she wants space/ive shown too much interest/ am being smothering whatever. the problem is I am trying to give her space but she is the type of person who HAS to be the center of attention. always butting in on conversations, walks up to you to talk as soon as you enter the room, you do something shes all 'whats that?! gimme attention'.

    Ive tried flirting openly with other girls infront of her, getting IOI's. Ive tried ignoring her inputs and just conversing with others like shes not there but nothings working. I havent talked to her outside of seeing her in person for 2 weeks and she messages me a meme saying this is us at work:

    You: you need to smile more
    Me: You need to fuck off more

    I tried to reframe by being playful saying 'I think someone thinks about me too much :P, I dont even remember talking to you at all in the weekend'

    Its probably something super easy that i need to do anytips would be awesome.



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    I don't understand, if she said all those things and you are backing off with showing interest and smothering her then it's okay right.
    If she comes to you or comes to the group of people you are with but you aren't giving her attention, isn't that backing off?

    You 2 are colleagues so avoiding her completely sounds impossible.

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    apparently thats not giving her the feeling of space, cause she is still acting like im smothering her, hence the meme. im also confused thats why im asking the question.

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    Be non reactive when she brings up something like that. It's obvious you are not smothering her, so if she says something like that. Just don't react, brush it off and don't give it any attention.

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