Overcoming Anxiety - Change Your Life Now

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    Overcoming Anxiety - Change Your Life Now

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    Overcoming Anxiety - Change Your Life Now

    Are you a guy who goes through life affected by other people?
    Maybe you’re impacted or hindered by outside influences and circumstances.
    Perhaps you feel that you’re not in full control of your life....

    These common problems plague many guys looking to improve their love lives and these issue also bleed into other areas of their lives as well. We’ve all envied the guy who seems to go through life doing his own thing, not allowing outside influences affect him. This is the type of guy who takes charge of his own life and circumstances.

    The truth is that anyone can change himself from being influenced by others opinions and by their own anxieties and negative past life experiences. Anyone can become a man that acts for himself and on his own desires. This kind of man, most importantly doesn't care what others think of him. It is most definitely in your reality to become this type of man that isn't held back by ANY set of circumstances. You have to believe it, and it will absolutely take hard work on your part!

    Many men when faced with the decision to talk to beautiful women often don’t man up. There is a moment though, whether they realise it or not, that the decision to man up or not is made.

    You need to see, that EVERYTHING is a choice. You approaching or not approaching that attractive woman that just walked past you is a CHOICE you make, and this choice can become your default or habitual response if you don’t become more consciously aware of it.

    When you are not acting on your desires, and not approaching, often a slew of excuses follow. We’ve all been there.

    • ‘She looks mean’
    • ‘She looks too busy’
    • ‘She looks like she doesn’t want to be approached’
    • 'She is out of my league'

    You’ll be surprised how often we make some of the excuses above. A good exercise is to write down all of these excuses that you make as they come up and read them back after a day or a night out. You will be surprised what you come up with.

    You need to ultimately remember though, that before these excuses, there was a choice to be made. YOU make that choice whether you realise it or not.

    Experiencing anxiety about something new is usually a signal for potential growth.

    Knowing there is something you want to achieve or experience that is new to you pushes you outside of your comfort zone -- Cue anxiety! Ultimately though, it’s our CHOICE if we let that anxiety take control of our life or not.

    If you can understand this anxiety as just a new experience that we haven’t quite gotten comfortable with yet, you can then ultimately overcome it. You can learn to simply accept it for what it is…a natural byproduct of comfort zone expansion. CHOOSE to take right action anyway.

    You are in complete and full control of your own life. No one makes decisions for you or forces to you to act on your desires, sexual or not. It all comes from you. Everything is a choice, and your reaction to those feelings of approaching is ultimately a choice as well.

    Your task then, once you understand where this anxiety comes from is simple:

    You need to go out there and create the world and life that you want for yourself. Start choosing NOW, today, the action that will lead you to where you want to be.

    Start taking control of your anxieties, owning them, and ultimately choosing to act in spite of them. You will become a whole new you.

    You will slowly and gradually become the guy who no longer lets outside circumstances influence him. Instead, you will become the man you've always wanted to be. You’ll become the man who acts in spite of outside influences. The man who sees what he wants and goes for it. The man who sees the beautiful woman of his dreams walk by, and makes the CHOICE to go and talk to her.

    Make that choice now, take action, and change your life!

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  2. #2

    Amazing article

    Well written - direct and to the point.

    Thanks for the inspiration!

  3. #3
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    Jul 2013

    I wish I could be that man, but I often find myself overwhelmed with the exact opposite unless my state is really good.

  4. #4
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    Jan 2013

    This topic is pretty close to my heart and was a big topic during my Mastermind program with Vox himself back in September.

    I was completely paralysed by a fear of approaching in a rather small town environment, and my game pretty much came to a complete halt at the end of last summer. The e-mails that came from the Mastermind, and eventually the inspiration in this article really resonated with me and helped put me back on a path to success. I'm really grateful for this.

  5. Pretty good stuff. Keep up the great work!

  6. #6

    I'm tired of anxiety controlling my life. Anyone out there from New York willing to go out to the bars and we push each other to approach? I work around so many bars and my co works are so beautiful and I don't have the balls to talk to them. I'm to serious

  7. I am new and read this article now this good one and I like this article so much. This will help me so much in my life.

  8. Its hard to override what's so ingrained but steps in the right direction always make progress

  9. This is one of the best articles I have read! Vox is an inspiration and I wish to meet him in person, if only I know how.
    Overcoming anxiety is a real life task! It is not only related to pickup but also to every new experience that comes in our life.
    Yesterday I almost lost a beautiful girl because of anxiety, but I made my choice and now at least I have a chance to meet her again!
    I'm not perfect but my tip for anxiety is to make a picture of the best yourself and the one you want to be. And then just act on being that person!
    I'm dedicated to improve and I know everyone on this forum is here for the same reason.
    So let's do it!

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    May 2016

    Great one from vox

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