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    Project Rockstar 2011 - Collective Journals

    Project Rockstar 2011 is well underway. The Rockstars have been in NYC for a week and the gears of change are already in motion, within both the Rockstars and even within myself.

    The Rockstars will be blogging daily as part of their requirements, and we welcome you to read along as they progress through their journey.

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    Hey Guys,

    So we got the kick in the ass to begin the blogs today. I figured I'd tell everyone a bit about myself and talk through the first few days of PR 2011. I'm Todd, and am 28. I'd taken a bootcamp with Fader before applying, and was really excited when I was accepted into PR.

    Day 1 (June 23):
    The Big Apple


    Met my roommates for the first week, Adam and Matt, and we took a cab down to hear Venture's opening speech. Afterwards, Nick Hoss described his life story, and the rest of the Rockstars began to give a bit of background on themselves and their businesses/life experience. It was pretty incredible to see how diverse all of our backgrounds really are. We have guys from Australia, Asia, Europe, and an incredibly wide range of work/gaming experience. Pretty damn cool. We also have former Rockstar, Laurent, here who has agreed to help and just hang.

    Our first night we all went out to dinner, where we briefly met Mr. M and Sterling . I was feeling pretty overwhelmed at this point - meeting around 12 new people including a few other friends/jr instructors was quite confusing. Making matters worse was the loud ass bar we'd gone to for dinner. Ultimately, the Rockstars began to approach a few sets after we'd eaten and they were all pretty lousy. The bar was generally filled with loud-ass douche bags and I saw another Rockstar almost get into a fight after being pushed.

    Some positives from that night were going home at a reasonable hour, as I'm sure that will soon change, and I opened maybe 4 or 5 sets. A couple hooked, but the girls were so drunk that I couldn't really have much of a conversation and got bored. The bar seemed to have fish bowl party drinks that one or two girls were chugging by themselves to avoid talking to the guys I mentioned earlier. Overall, it felt great to get into bed.

    Day 2 (June 24):
    Going Camping


    Starting today we sat in on a bootcamp being run by Mr. M , with several guest appearances. There were 5 (maybe 6) students signed up for the bootcamp , and it was cool being able to see the process for new guys - especially because two had never approached before at all. We had so many different instructors that it was awesome for doing exercises. Throughout the whole weekend there was Venture , Future , Bullet , Sterling , his roommate Alex (whose handle I don't know), an AC named Joe, Nick Hoss , and of course Mr M . The first day was a lot of review from what I'd learned in my previous bootcamp , but the exercises were all new and are things that the Rockstars will likely continue to practice: he said/she said and visualization.

    The whole huge group of us went out to 230 5th Ave for some rooftop bar action and to actually begin gaming and hanging out as a group.

    I was SHOCKED. The Rockstars as a whole, did awesome. I saw every single guy in set, and had a blast winging with both of my roommates and for a couple of the other guys. As I post for some days closer to the experience I'll happily fill in some detail for sets. Overall, the night was a lot of fun. Highlight for me was picking a girl up in the air (physically) for the first time. Felt very dominant and was fun.

    Here are Future 's Big 10:
    Have fun!!!
    You Will be rejected
    Talk to girls
    Keep talking even when it's awkward
    No Judgment!
    Break your wrists taking notes
    Baby steps
    Dont ask permission
    Everything you say is right and is going according to plan
    Do not determine boundaries , discover them

    Day 3 (June 25):
    The Batchelor


    Day 3 brought us to Khan's apartment for more seminar . The way that Attraction is now being taught completely blew me away. Frameworks are incredible and Sterling does such a good job of using diagrams and explaining topics. Props man!

    For our evening we went back to the same club and had an outrageous time. Suffice it to say, we won't be going back there anytime soon - Khan was kicked out, way too aggressively, for nothing at all, and when we tried to get bottle service they put us in a table in the very back corner.

    A highlight was proposing to a batchelorette who was out with her whole party. I discovered that not only does this open the group but the batchelorette will point out all of her single friends to you and encourage you to hit on them

    Later on, with the help from a wing from Matt I was able to pull two girls. They grabbed a cab with us and Matt busted out one of the best ways to keep state up I've ever seen - teach salsa dancing at 4 AM. Thanks buddy, you made that night for me.


    Day 4 (June 26):
    Sleepless in NYC


    I wanted to write up this day as it was the last day of the bootcamp . I was so impressed with the other students that were taking the bootcamp and especially with the rockstars. I feel like while we all have incredibly different styles of game, I've seen all of them in set so far and they all seem to be excited to learn.

    The info today at bootcamp was also great - we had some good new methods and diagrams that I hadn't heard before from Sterling. I'm exhausted. So much information to digest, I can tell it will likely take me a month just to read through all this material and begin implementing everything! Sweet.

    We went out for a Rockstar and instructor dinner later and to officially begin the Rockstar time in NYC! Tomorrow it all begins - we are heading to the gym to begin our workouts, diet time starts, and day game as well.

    All I want to do right now is sleep, but I’m so excited. I am looking forward to beginning our diet and to working out. We’ll see who is willing to work on fitness hardcore with me. But I’ve seen some hilarious shit from the guys and I can tell I will be smiling my ass off frequently.

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    Day 5 (June 27):
    Let’s Get This Party Started


    Beginning of Rockstar time! We all met at the gym to begin our training sessions today, home for a quick shower then right off to a mini-seminar with Nick Hoss . Today we are going to mostly focus on opening , I'm pretty excited!

    Overall I think the day went really well for us, I definitely have some strong approach anxiety in the daytime and that's something I need to work on. Maybe opened 7 or 8 sets and I hooked one. I was amazed at watching Edgar, the kid has some great daytime skills. I'm definitely going to be learning from him as we work on this. As we walked back for a quick debrief I had a critical realization about one of my limiting beliefs:

    I care way too much about what my friends think of me. My approach anxiety at night is nearly gone, and during the day it's so/so, however, whenever my friends from home are with me I become results oriented and care about what they think.

    I opened an eastern European woman today who literally jumped about three feet backwards and screeched. I think I was actually more scared than her! Haha. I forget that not everyone in NYC speaks English.

    The Rockstars are really starting to gel, we are all starting to discover some big issues we have with ourselves and with game in general. I think this next week will be tough as we are forced to confront them head on. Tonight I get to catch up on sleep!

    Day 6 (June 28):
    Daytime is Playtime


    Back to the gym again! Our place is about 1.5m from the gym so I've been jogging to and from every morning. I can tell I'm gonna be sore after this one.

    Over to Nick Hoss ' again for more theory. I'm starting to understand how daygame works a bit better, but it still feels incredibly awkward for me. I'm having a difficult time approaching women I'm genuinely attracted to, and while I can approach those I'm not I don't feel sincere in going direct. Do you ever have one of those moments where you want to just yell a bit, maybe something like, “RAWWWRRR”. Read on.

    Had another interesting day, I think 7-8 sets again. Two jumped back in shock and terror. I hooked two, but I just didn't feel able to keep the conversation normal. I got some great feedback from Nick, so I'll keep on truckin'. I think there’s some internal feelings I need to look past that make going direct an issue for me. This is going to be a big breakthrough whenever I can understand what is preventing me from opening up this side of myself in comfort.

    I'm really starting to have fun. Meditating has kept me centered, and I need to make more time to cook healthy food and get my daily meditation in. Rock on.

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    Thursday, June 23 (Day 1/46)...dealing with alot of different emotions today coming into this experience: anxiety, excitement, nervous...I know I’m about to meet 8 other people (between the other Rockstars and instructors) that I’ll have a bond with for the rest of my life that nobody can ever take away...when I meet Nick Hoss first in our apartment, he is a really chill, down to earth guy and I’m happy I get to spend time with him.

    After heading over to Venture’s apartment to meetup with everyone else, I still wasn’t sure what to expect...when I meet Edgar first I know that they have chosen good people...I’m sure we’ve all watched the video’s of one another online and began to make some judgments about what we think about each other but when we actually meet face to face it’s clear that we’re all in this for the same reasons and any of our differences are just going to provide us more opportunities to bond over the next six plus weeks...this is pretty evident when we introduce ourselves to each other and share more to each other than we would normally do with anyone else...Venture gives us our first lecture on “Inner Game” which really helps to set the tone of what we’re trying to accomplish here -- i.e. becoming better people.

    Thursday nights meetup at Brother Jimmy’s is notable for many reasons...first of all we meet some of the other legendary instructors were going to get to know better over the next few weeks, notably Mr. M and Sterling who join us...but also something that keeps sticking out to me is how normal everyone is -- normal isn’t really the right word (and truly the wrong one) but I am really glad to see that nobody is WEIRD...when talking with the instructors they are all engaging and charismatic but also have this ability to amp up their interactions the moment a girl is involved...a pretty cool thing happened as about 12 of us were sitting eating dinner around 10.30pm on Thursday night and the bar is in full swing so we were seated in a dining room off the bar with just only us in it...pretty soon there were people walking into the room every 3-5mins, coming in, looking around and then just walking out...I don’t know if someone thought there was a “famous” person in the room with us, but the energy that we were able to get going in that room just having a good time getting ready for the journey was really fun to be a part of.

    After dinner we officially started working some “game”...although we hadn’t really gone over much theory at this point, the instructors wanted to get an idea of where we each stood...unfortunately for me, my sticking point at the moment is opening...Brother Jimmy’s was a difficult first night for me as I had trouble opening anyone up in the loud, crowded environment but I was able to vibe off of the instructors...it wasn’t much of a late night but certainly opened the door for how much was out there to work on going forward..

    Friday, June 24 (Day 2/46)...woke up and went for a nice run along the river, trying to start reflecting on this experience early on..I’m slowly getting to know Rockstar Jake..he’s the youngest guy on the program but more mature than most his age and has a wicked sense of humor...it’s nice to be living with Nick Hoss as well, the guy has a wealth of experience and knows game inside and out, so I imagine over the course of this program I’m going to learn a ton from him...Mr. M was teaching a bootcamp in NYC this weekend so we were lucky enough to be invited along to participate...it was an all-star cast as Venture, Sterling, Future and Nick Hoss all joined Mr. M for the bootcamp...Future taught his 10 rules as one of the opening parts to the seminar and that alone was worth the price of admission: certain ones that stick out are ALWAYS have fun and everything is going according to plan (those two alone can guide a person to great success)...we did some opening exercises and played games like he said/she said which really help the mind to get on the right path for interactions with girls...Sterling also did a really helpful exercise at the end of the seminar of visualizing success with women as well as putting it into the context of why we were all there and to seize that opportunity for what it is worth to each of us.

    On to 230 fifth for the night and boy did we have a large group...between the Rockstars, bootcamp students, AC’s and instructors we were rolling at least 20 deep...it was an interesting night as there was some Indian doctors convention so there were a ton of them around the venue and they were incredibly easy to open as they are one of the kinder races of people so I think that allowed alot of people to warmup in a way that otherwise they may not have been able to do...there’s a bunch of tourists in that place so it was a good, eclectic crowd..I got into a bunch of sets, had one number close but was really just trying to watch the instructors in action as I know I can learn so much from each of them if I do.

    Saturday, June 25 (day 3/46)...again back to the classroom for more bootcamp...one thing that I will repeat from my review is how impressed I am by Sterling...I read The Game over three years ago and although intrigued, the gimmicky element really put me off so much that I waited longer than I wish I would have to get involved...Sterling is trying to change this: his vision is to make all “game” into “natural game” and it’s something I am relieved to see...his teaching of the attraction material is revolutionary...he depicts it as a pyramid and the most interesting part is the two foundation bases: organic conversation and subcommunications...to think that the first thing people are being taught in attraction is to have a normal/organic conversation with someone is really encouraging to see...what can’t be overlooked is the value of having strong subcommunications >> this is really difficult to teach in words and one of the only ways to get the proper value of this is to take a bootcamp...the upper elements of the pyramid are the classic attraction mechanisms that everyone knows: teasing, roleplays, push/pull and sexual escalation.

    Back at 230 Fifth on Saturday night and I really succumbed to my anxiety this night...not able to harness my energy and getting into my own head, I did not have any sets I would consider to successful and made an early night of it, definitely left a feeling of self-doubt in me...also something that I can’t overlook is how I felt I letdown the instructors (even if they might not have even seen me because there were so many of us running around)...these guys -- most notably Venture and Nick Hoss -- are giving up six plus weeks of their lives for NO COMPENSATION to try to make seven peoples’ lives better...how f’in cool are they? Going to take a few lifetimes to thank them but have a feeling there are a few ways we can put smiles on their faces in the interim...I just want to commit to myself to put the maximum effort into this program...as some may know, I was the last Rockstar selected for this program for a number of reasons, and I want to make the most of this experience to thank the instructors for having the confidence in me to accomplish my goals.

    Sunday, June 26 (Day 4/46)...last day of bootcamp...incredible to see the transformation in people over the course of three days...these students were so lucky to have Mr. M, Future, Venture, Nick Hoss, Sterling, Bullet, Laurent, J Intrigue and many others out there offering their wisdom -- it’s funny because I thought twice about the word wisdom but these guys truly are gifted...in a somewhat selfish respect, it’s worth noting that the students of the bootcamp were given far more personal attention than the Rockstars during the bootcamp...why I mention that is because on an aggregate level, it’s fair to say the bootcamp students progressed at a far more rapid level than the Rockstars did over the course of the weekend...some the students were taken from a level of absolutely no experience to the ability to open > hook > and get attraction over the course of three days (others were definitely getting further into qualification and comfort) but just watching their growth was a testament to the skill and dedication of the instructors >> Mr. M has a personal investment in all his students and makes sure to put 100% effort into their development without any f’ing around.

    Good way to end weekend, had nice closing dinner at Balthazar. I sat by Mr. M and just have to say I find the guy fascinating...he’s obviously a very smart dude with alot of wisdom to share but what really strikes me is the way he listens as if you are the only person in the room and like he could sit and listen to you all day...as a person he is a compelling person to speak with and I hope I get the opportunity to know him better on a personal level in the future. I try to stress his knowledge of game is bar none some of the finest in the world but he can speak on a whole range of subjects because he listens and wants to learn...as a sign of things to come, some tourist came up and wanted to know everything about our group: how do we know each other? where are we from? what are we doing? to say the Rockstar crew gets attention when we go out would be a huge understatement...I look forward to seeing where this goes down the line as we are just getting started.

    Monday, June 27 (Day 5/46)...first day of group gym workouts and first day of DAY GAME...well to say the least I was a bit nervous about day game...had a brief chat with Bullet about it the day before and his explanation was, if you’ve never done it before, it’s like: *takes hand to chest and does heartbeat of 200x/min*...well first of all, Nick Hoss gave us an awesome seminar on the basics, primarily mindset and opening...I don’t know whether it is funny, sad or just plain pathetic that speaking to random people -- be it a gorgeous woman or homeless man -- makes people nervous but for whatever reason it is a fact of life for nearly 90% of people...well I can say I went out as nervous as can be but had an absolute blast! Hanging with Bullet and Rockstar alum Laurent, we went through Union Square and had a great day...I opened over ten women, getting a few numbers on the way, but the real empowerment came from knowing that after a couple hours of discussing the why’s and how’s of the theories that this stuff could be put to use and actually be effective (not to get carried away, I have a LONG ways to go)...

    I had two number closes during this first day and I have to say it was extremely encouraging...day game is a funny thing because “closing” is really when you get a number, where as opposed to night game, when you close, well, yea you get the picture...I’m looking forward to running some text game with the numbers I’ve gotten...it’s clear that the instructors here know what they’re doing and this is a part of my game that I have very little direction on, so will be interesting to have a more holistic approach...riding this high, I went out with a couple Rockstars (one of whom was meeting up with a girl he had met earlier in the day at Union Square) and met a really cool girl who I chatted with for a while and expect to see again soon...long story short, day game is awesome and I can’t wait to learn more of it, I can tell it’ll be up and down to learn it but am going to make sure to enjoy the ride.

    Tuesday, June 28 (Day 6/46)...day game is awesome? Ummmm, errrr, well today was a bit of a setback...it’s funny because I saw a similar thing happen after the second day of the bootcamp when I was a bit overloaded with theory and then naturally over-thinking things...after Nick Hoss gave us another awesome seminar on day game with an emphasis for developing interesting conversational topics, we set out to implement some of these tactics...unfortunately for me I was having some real difficulty synthesizing all the information and got in my own head so much that my approaches were lacking the requisite sincerity to be affective...the instructors have all been really good about helping us focus on the positives and learn from them so that we don’t overstress the setbacks as there will be many more to come...at the end of the day we all put together a press release to try to get some national media to help promote Project Rockstar.

    The basic structure of a day game interaction we have been using is: 1) what are you doing today? 2) what do you do for work? 3) what do you do for fun? this is more or less the standard blueprint to get a conversation going and then push it to a point where you can get a bit more...seeing that I am not currently working I am struggling a bit with the second question and need to put some time into thinking about how I believe I should go about answering that question...these inner game issues are something that we all deal with, to be honest I’ve even seen instructors deal with some of these differently on their own personal level as everyone has had different levels of success...the one thing that seems to resonate with all of the successful people is that they own who they are and are not ashamed of anything about themselves..I am going to do my best to adopt this framework as I came on Project Rockstar to become the best person I can on many levels and this is definitely one of the ones I need to put work into...I feel lucky to be here everyday and have enjoyed getting to know the Rockstars on a more personal level.


    Wednesday, June 29 (Day 7/46)...well another day at the gym, but unfortunately was genius and left my wallet in the cab...as upsetting as I could have let that be, it was a distant memory just an hour later because of how much we are doing...Project Rockstar is an intense mindgame, just a week in and can already tell how much of a grind this is going to be...back to day game after some helpful talks on “mastery topics”...mastery topics is something that is both so basic and so advanced at the same time that there is no way you can get anywhere in game without it...if you don’t have 3-5 interesting things in your life to talk about, then nobody will want to talk to you, nobody...I’ll save the why’s/how’s of that for another time but just goes to show the value of having an interesting life...back at day game with former Rockstar Laurent at the helm and another successful day... as Laurent says: the first one always hurts.. -- but set the tone for the day and made some of the following blowouts more bearable and humorous...gotta give Khan some credit as that guy throws it down and was closing left and right with some crazy, hot girls...out at the Standard Beergarten at night...felt the anxiety coming on real quick...first Nick Hoss spun me into a set with Rockstar Nick that we had a good time vibing off of some girls and then Venture and Sterling pushed me into a set with three cuties that I really didn’t want to do...needless to say I went in shy, anxious and begging for approval...the guys watched me and as I stood and took the social pressure of the situation, both Venture and Sterling came in and took control of the set...what should have been a monumental blowout, turned into a crazy opportunity, as after 15mins all three girls were begging for supplication across the plane...after rejoining the others, I went into a set right as the bar was about to close...the girl’s friend came back a little later which gave me the opportunity to see Nick Hoss really go into action as a wing and jeez is this guy good...only 5mins in this guy was able to convince the girls to come with us to another venue 20mins away...his stories are filled with passion and really bring out the emotion in the girls, awesome to watch...long story short the girls came to our apt buuuuuuuuut, left before coming inside...till the next edition...

    Thursday, June 30 (Day 8/46)....interesting day...woke up with a raging hangover after a long night...missed the Rockstar gym session but able to motivate to hit the spinning class at a local gym and get the gears in motion...went to the Rockstar lair and got an interesting talk from Venture...he explained his game and had us all explain what we’d seen so far, when asking us for explanations we heard: ESCALATION, dominance, abbundance mentality, “don’t give a f*ck”, and many other similar responses...the interesting thing was Venture’s explanation for his success: he loves women...he loves that they are sweet/caring/feminine/emotional people...at the root of all his success has been his respect for this incredible species of people...with a little more on winging we went back at day game...a little slower in Soho than we’ve seen other days but we got back at it...lots of blowouts: the Rockstar mantra for blowouts has been “good talk” as in F anyone who doesn’t give you the time of day, plenty of those...number closed a cute girl at end of session: one thing worth noting is the high that comes from this kind of thing, you have a good interaction with a cute girl (mind you, we’re really just talking about a NORMAL conversation) but it brings such elation to the mind that it radiates through the whole body in a way that makes you almost feel like you’re floating...after day game today we met up with Sterling and started some fashion consulting, I’ll be the first to admit that I have a long ways to go in this department...heading out with some Rockstars we hit some shops and I number closed a girl at one of the stores...the real point of this story comes in the followup text game with both the day game and store girls...both were sending some strong vibes in our texts that really cemented the work I had done earlier.....final highlight of night, going to Big Business’ comedy show with Nick Hoss, great show! I can’t wait to hear this guy give us his seminar on comedy in game...it’s something I’ve wanted to hear for quite some time and I’m really looking forward to it because it’s quite clear he has some serious game that we can all learn from.

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    Day 7 (June 29):
    Abierto Los Ojos


    We are in the midst of our day game crunch right now and should be able to start going through some of the highs and lows. I find myself really struggling with day game - I get a lot more AA, and I don't feel congruent yet. I was able to watch a couple of the other guys today (Edgar, you are a BEAST), and it helped me tremendously seeing how they hook into the conversation. I got some great feedback from Nick Hoss the previous day, so I'm trying to tone down my nervous energy some.

    After our designated time was over, I went with Edgar to go check out some sunglasses with him at sunglass hut. On the way, I had one of my limiting beliefs utterly shattered. I saw this stunning woman cross on the opposite side of the street in the opposite direction as the light changed. By the time I was able to get across the street (and it was busy, we were in SoHo at 6 pm...) she was already over a block away and I had to RUN for almost 3 full city blocks and cross the street back again in order to catch her. The street was completely silent except for around 8 people walking by us at the time. As I opened her I really had to project and everyone in the area stopped to listen. It didn't end up hooking, but two of the guys listening both came over to high five me and congratulate me for having such big balls. It reminded me exactly how I feel when I see a guy do something similar, yet I'd rather be the guy telling the girl than the guy watching. I want to harness this feeling.

    When I met back up with Edgar we began talking more about how to approach a set that was walking behind you. I think I'll keep practicing these as it doesn't force a weird situation because you are both walking in the same direction after the interaction.

    OK, that night we began to continue working on night game and went out to a beer garden. Fuck yeah. I love beer, was just in Munich a few weeks ago, and was able to just have a great night out. Sterling and his roommate pushed me into a couple of sets right off the back and they all felt great. I ejected from one with probably the most attractive woman I spoke to all night on a high note planning to come back in after I was more in state. Unfortunately, they left while I was # closing another girl. Timing re-entry is something I definitely need to work on and I spoke to Bullet about this some the next morning.

    Overall the night was fantastic, I think I # closed 4 girls including a girl I'd say was a 9. I was able to # close every set I wanted to, and had a great time with the instructors. Laurant gave me some really solid feedback about my energy and body language . I need to bring things down a bit more and give off more of a sexual vibe...always great to have things to work on.

    Day 8 (June 30):
    SHOPPING


    So last night Venture and Sterling pretty much ripped our fashion sense to pieces. We had an idea we'd be doing some day game and shopping after our time to the gym. The day game went alright, I only opened up a couple of sets because we were mostly in a few different stores and not out and about much. Feeling utterly exhausted didn't help. I need to take care of my body some, find a little meditation time, and get fully comfortable in all of the new clothes I'm gonna be sporting.

    Lots and lots of big things to work on in day game , and a few small things I need to tweak in night game still that I'm aware of. It's been great having the instructors there to look over my shoulder and give me feedback (often mid set..thanks Venture ). My biggest goal for the weekend though is to really watch all of the instructors in set and see what other things I can learn from just observation.

    Oh, and a quick shout out to Jake for pushing me to get a few pieces of new clothing I wasn't entirely comfortable with. Thanks for keeping me in the discomfort zone! I can tell I’m gonna enjoy this new sense of fashion, it fits my personality well.

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    Rockstar Blog - Peregrine

    Day 1 (Thurs):
    First day of Project Rockstar! I have been looking forward to this for the last few months now and I am finally here! We started off the day by doing self-introductions. We actually went into pretty deep stuff about each other, the challenges that we faced in our lives, and the successes. I could tell immediately that this was going to be an incredible bonding experience with everyone involved.

    Venture then taught us about Inner Game and emphasized that this was going to be the most important part of our game and who we are as a person. I believe that to be true. I have a feeling that over the next 6.5 weeks, a lot of our inner limiting beliefs about our relationships with women (and with other aspects of life) are going to be challenged.

    At night, we went to Brother Jimmy's on 32nd and Lex. We had a great meal and when we were done, we were supposed to show the instructors what we were capable of at this point. I thought I sucked big time! Granted, the place was loud (which makes it tougher for my game), but I definitely could have done better. I opened ok with a few sets, blew up with a few others, and didn't even know what to say after a opened a few other ones. I felt so rusty for not having been gaming for a while, and totally out of my element at the place. But hey, it's good to suck at the beginning!

    Day 2 (Fri):
    Lots of basic theory during the day, most of which I was already familiar with since I had attended two basic bootcamps before.

    At night, after stopping by 230 Fifth for a bit to hang out with others, I went with Nick Hoss to the Standard Hotel in the meat packing district. Once we got to the bar, I immediately opened a Norwegian girl standing by herself while her friend was being hit on by another guy. She was pretty cute, blonde, and we really got into it for about 10 minutes or so. She was laughing at my jokes, and I was escalating physically with mostly compliance (although not always). Didn't number close, but it was good progress from last night.

    We then went to Beer Garden, it was a great environment for pick up, a very casual setting, lots of beautiful women who were there with their girlfriends. The first set I opened were two beautiful Brazilian girls, I went in with 'hey, you guys look cool'. I could literally see in their faces - they were scoping out my body language for a milli second, and when I rolled back a little, they extended their hands out to shake mine, and then I proceeded to introduce Nick to them. The one girl that I was interested in, I got into a good 10 minute conversation with and ended it with (based on Venture 's earlier suggestion) "hey, I'm going to go hang out with my buddies right now. you go dance with your girlfriends. I like you, I think you're hot, so come look for me later tonight". And then at the end of the night, as the bar was closing down, she was talking to a guy that was clearly hitting on her. I walked to them, turned to him and said "sorry to interrupt, but can I borrow her for a minute." I think the guy was pretty shocked, and he said "errr...I don't know", and then the girl said "Yes!". That's when I said to her, "I think you're beautiful, let me have your number and let's hang out sometime", and she said "sure!" and took out her phone and we exchanged numbers. That was a major victory for me because she was absolutely beautiful. That was an awesome Day 2.

    Day 3 (Sat):
    On day 3, we learned an AMAZING amount of theory in the afternoon, the concepts of Attraction have evolved so much even from a year ago that I keep getting these "wow" and "ah ha!" moments. The stuff that is being used now is shockingly good. The part about Sexual Intent taught by Venture is really good.

    I was so excited to use all the theory that I learned in class, but the night in-field didn't turn out so well. We went to 230 Fifth again. I approached about 15-20 sets, and was blown out by many within the first 5 seconds. Those that I was able to open, my transitioning was still a little awkward, but if I can quickly move into talking about myself and my background, I can get them intrigued enough about me to keep listening. I need to be more playful, I need to be more dominant and sexual, and I need to be more persistent in set. If I can focus on those more, it will help my game significantly. I didn't number close anyone, but looking back, there was one opportunity in particular with a 7 where I probably could have.

    I'm struggling in set, but its not a bad thing that I'm struggling this early in the program. I just need to make corrections to a few things in my game, incorporate more of the theory, and then bring my game up to the next level.

    Day 4 (Sun):
    I'll submit a more detailed review of this NY bootcamp on the review section of TAF, but the thing to highlight is that this was easily the best bootcamp that I've ever taken (I've attended 3 other bootcamps before). My first bootcamp was last March, and the technology being taught in bootcamps now is totally revamped and much more advanced than even a year ago. Mr M (my first bootcamp instructor) is legendary in breaking down the technical aspects of Game, Sterling did an awesome job teaching us about Attraction, condensing and filtering the best information of all the LS instructors, and then presenting it in a way that is easy to understand. Venture 's section about sexual intent is extremely powerful, and was a big part missing in my game, and Future is just the best in the business at creating a range of emotions and creating Comfort with women. I really felt we had the All-Star team teaching us this weekend - so much of the information is new, and much of it enlightening. It was a lot of information, and it will take a while for me to figure out which parts best fit my game, but I have time over the next 6 weeks to do that.

    After these past few days, I've realized that a lot of Game is about overcoming Inner Game issues and Limiting Beliefs, and there are Limiting Beliefs that surfaced over the last few days that I didn't even know I had. And in the next 6 weeks, I'm determined to break through ALL of those Limiting Beliefs.

    Day 5 (Mon)

    Day Game ! This was my first experience running day game and it is a lot of fun! I think it fits my personality and background well (more conversation based, more story-telling). And I really like that we can approach the most attractive women around, without having to compete with other men all the time. And the typical worst case scenario (if you deliver the opener right) is that she smiles and says thank you before walking away. And the best part is, the sets that do hook are usually the hottest women I approach (because of the genuine feeling I have when telling her how her gorgeous she looks).

    Today, I was able to number close 2 girls, and one of them was a cute Asian girl. I am not usually attracted to Asian girls, but this one was interesting because I when I saw her, she was speaking fluent Spanish over the phone. So I opened with a situational opener “Asian girl speaking fluent Spanish? Where are you from?” Turns out that she was Chinese, but had grown up in Venezuela. She had moved to NYC to pursue a career in modeling and acting (which made her more interesting to me). This led to a very interesting conversation about travel and leaving home to explore new places (both of which I had done a lot of). Her girl friend showed up about 10 minutes into our conversation, and Nick immediately came over to wing for me. We kept talking and I started introducing light social kino into the set, I was high-fiving her, pushing her playfully, and giving her hugs for things that she did that I loved. She was really into it! I had her in set for more than 30 minutes just standing around in Union Square.

    Later that evening, after I sent a text “hey cutie, it was nice meeting you…”, she replied immediately “yes, it was! What are you doing tonight?”. We sent texts back and forth and arranged to meet up for drinks at night. I was meeting up with Jake and Zach first and the three of us decided to join this girl and her girlfriend for drinks at the lower east side.

    This is when things just started getting weird. Over text, she was extremely warm and expressed interest in seeing me. But once we got there, she was extremely cold. At some point, I was pretty annoyed and I left her to approach other sets (which may not have been a good idea, since I ended up getting blown out). And by the end of the night, after getting the cold treatment from her all night, I just told her “I came here to see you because I thought we had a great interaction earlier today and I think you are cool. I don’t really understand why you are treating me so coldly right now. I’m going to leave with my friends, and I will text you tomorrow.” And we left.

    Day 6 (Tue)
    In the last 2 days, I've number-closed on some of the most attractive women I've ever talked to, and it feels great!

    I've gotten more comfortable now engaging girls and bringing up my mastery topics in conversation. Through just the practice of 'he said, she said', I've found two questions that I can ask that can lead into my mastery topics. The first one is "How long have you lived in NY?", very normal generic conversation question, but I realized that regardless of what she responds with, I can go into saying "Cool, I just moved to NY a week ago, I moved here from Africa... ...and 20 of my closest friends have flown in from around the world to hang out here". At this point, I would have gone into talking about travel because of the initial question.. and when appropriate, I bring up the 2nd question "so do you like to travel?", she will almost always say yes (and if she says no, I'm not sure I would want to talk to her anyway), and then I can give her a high-five, and then "That's awesome, I love meeting people that love to travel, I don't think Americans travel enough...".

    Day 7 (Wed):

    Just had my first SNL in NY with this cute brunette Australian girl. She was obviously attracted to Nick, and she and her friend had shown up at Beer Garden to meet him. I had met them earlier in the day with Nick and so she recognized me. We saw her as she was leaving Beer Garden, she was slightly tipsy, and flirted with me heavily the moment she saw me. Within a minute of seeing her, I had pulled her closer and we started making out. There was another guy that was lingering around next to her, and I had to figure out how to deal with him. At one point, after I was in conversation with her I started walking with the rest of the group (including her friend) to another bar. The other guy then took her away to another bar. At this point, I had considered giving up, but then I realized that if I did and the other guy ended up with her, then I would have done everyone involved in Rockstar a big disservice. So with the encouragement of Sterling and Laurent, I sucked up my pride and went with her friend to go grab her. When we found her, I didn’t have to do anything to separate her from the guy, because her friend was pissed and started yelling at her for just walking away without saying anything. The next 15 minutes was just me standing aside while the two girls had a huge argument. I didn’t do anything, I just told them that they obviously had issues to sort out, and if they needed me, I would be there. After the fight, then friend left, and my girl decided to hang out with me the rest of the night. I then brought her to a lounge to have drinks, and then we went back to my place. The entire thing happened a lot easier than I thought it would. From the time I saw her at the beer garden, it seemed like she was already sexually attracted to me. One thing I have learned is that the better you are at game, the luckier you get…

    Day 8 (Thur):
    Day 8 was a game changer for me. Venture described the reason behind how good he is at game (and his game is ridiculously good) - and it stems from a strong love and passion for women, which is what allows him to be so dominant in set. That inner mindset allows him to take on the role of protector in a relationship with a woman, which then allows the woman to give him control. It is a very powerful lesson and one of the bigger 'Aha!' moments (of many) that I've had since rockstar started.

    In the afternoon, after going through some day game theory and infield practice, we all went out shopping for clothes, with the help of the instructors and one of the other rockstars. I've never been into fashion very much and honestly have hated shopping for clothes most of my life. Although some of the clothes I was asked to try on and buy are things I would have never ever purchased in the past (black leather pants being one of them), I allowed them to take control.

    And wow, what a difference fashion made last night. Whereas during the previous days I would get blown out of 75% of my sets within the first 5 seconds, I was able to open up 75% of my sets last night! And most of them happened just by leaning over to the girls and telling them that they are cute/gorgeous. My 'thin-slicing' had completely changed with the clothes that I wore, and I'm sure the confidence that I had with nice clothes on showed in all the sets I opened.

    We started out at the Beer Garden last night, which ended up closing really early at 1am, and then Laurent and I went to the Gansevoort Hotel. And although I only number closed one girl (which honestly, is not a bad result), Laurent and I had a lot of fun just opening sets and winging for each other. The best banter came with a mother/daughter set who were in NY on vacation. I was hitting on the daughter, a really cute, tall blonde. It's great, I have almost zero fear of showing attraction towards a tall blonde girl anymore. One week ago, I would have never approached her and created that kind of banter with her. Amazing progress just after only one week in PRS!

    Day 9 (Fri)
    Day 9 - it's shocking how much all the rockstars as an entire group have improved in just one week. A week ago, we were still struggling to open up sets at night and keeping girls entertained, but last night, back at 230 Fifth, it was as if we were the focal point of the entire club. All the rockstars are very comfortable opening up sets and at a minimum keeping the girls entertained for a while, and we were all having a great time. I'm at the point where I am enjoying myself a lot more when I go out, and just having fun running game, and not getting myself overly worked up about the result - I'm confident that the results will come in time as long as I continue to work on each aspect of my game. At this point, I can confidently open sets, and engage in conversation with women. I still struggle with creating attraction and having playful banter with the girls, but I find that once I get through the attraction phase , I can usually do pretty well . So I will be spending more time working on creating attraction, and on better calibrating myself.

    Last night, the most memorable set for me was this perfect 10, she was a really hot, tall blonde girl and she was there with her two friends. I would have never had the courage before to approach her, but last night, opening the set wasn't an issue at all (SUCCESS!). However, once I opened up the set, I had a tough time building attraction and keeping her entertained. I played it too safe. I spoke to her for about 5-10 minutes and then they left to get a drink. On hindsight, I should have just brought them over to our table. But the fact that I was able to get the attention of a perfect 10 for 5-10 minutes is a lot more than what I could say a week ago (when I would have never even approached).

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    DAY 1 THU

    The size of the city is overwhelming it is only when I lookup that I fully realise that I am in New York, there is a sea of people everywhere you walk. The TAXI drivers I am sure think they are driving in a non contact form of smash up derbie as they contend with the traffic.

    We had the opening address in Hell's Kitchen I was a bit hesitant but excited to meet the other Instructors and the other RockStar participants. We all gave our introductions and it was evident that all the guys including the instructions would be easy to get along with and were truly very interesting people. I knew after this point that the 6 weeks would be fun but also very challenging.

    The main focus for the remainder of the afternoon was about inner game.

    At the welcome dinner that night it was surreal to met the instructors who I have read most of their ebooks. It was like the star studded lineup Mr M, Sterling, Venture and Trigger I was feeling a little introverted when meeting so many new people it was challenging for me at the start to get into my normal extrovert mode. Approached a few people in the bar however could not keep the conversation rolling more then a couple of minutes. I would of talked to at least 6 sets during the night with most of them talking to me out of interest from my accent I did ask the normal touristy type questions. What local attractions should I see. Most of the New Yorkers I met that night had not see the Statue of Liberty. These things happen I lived in North Queensland for the majority of my life and had not gone scuba diving until 4 years ago.

    I am sure at this stage the instructors must of thought we have some serious work to contend with.

    DAY 2 FRI

    The first Day of Mr M boot camp was in a building where there were auditions of dance, singing, music there was at least 10 rooms per floor. I thought gee I might even be able to audition to be part of a musical whilst i was here..... even though I can’t sing but it may of been a possibility.

    The boot camps have progressed so much and the information is constantly evolving and after seeing the information presented again it had become clearer. The guys have really constructed the some of the best training techniques. It was amazing to the see the concepts finally mesh within my head The guys on the boot camp where really going to have a great time with the amount of instructors in NYC to help them. There where so many instructors for the boot camp. Mr M, Venture, Future, Bullet and approach coaches Trigger and Joe.

    It was good to break up the class with activities from how to tease, approach and body language. The teasing concepts are easy enough to apply with most of them stereotype jokes, I may have a little harder time with teasing since I don’t really know specifics about certain states in the United States but I am a little bit of a smart arse so it will be fine

    That night we went to a roof top bar in NYC over looking the the city skyline. There was a lot of Persian looking people.... turns out there was a Doctors conference being run........ stereotype i know but.... that’s what happened. I had some really interesting conversations and had a great time talking to a lot of people. Mr M did give me some feed back on my attire and suggested a few things that i needed to change.... It was a fair call.

    A gave it a little tilt that night with the booze may of got a little tippsy. At the end of the night I started talking to a girl from South America she did not speak English that well but we hit it off and next thing I know I am kissing her at the bar. I ended up leaving the club with her and walking back to her hotel. She had some friends staying in her room so she told the concierge that she need to pick up some laundry downstairs………We played around a little longer and then left. I think I am really going to like New York.

    Day 3 Sat

    The theory is finally starting to make sense Sterling has done an amazing task of combining the theory into visual models. The information in the second day of the boot camp was intense by really specific I was able to pin point where my issues are. I wish I had a memory like a video camera some of the physical techniques are hard to describe verbally. We did not have this many physical techniques shown when I did my boot camp. I know that I am defiantly lacking with respect to physical escalation.

    I have decided only to have 2-3 drinks..... exercising intensely and drinking don't mix. Spoke to some of the most interesting girls.... everyone has a story I don't think I have met a boring person in New York yet. Myself and one of the boot camp students opened a two set a very cute Italian girl from Jersey and her friend. We spoke for about 20 minutes conversation was good but that was as far as it went. I approached a few more sets that night and then moved into a set with Nick F and winged him for the remainder of the night about 5 hours.

    They where two girls from Taiwan one who lived in NYC and the other that was here visiting. We spent a fair bit of time in the club talking to them moved them downstairs and started to dance. The place is very very loud and you feet stick to the carpet. Nick was going great with his girls. After about an hour we where in the CAB back to our place. Nick done a great job of keeping the energy levels high for the trip back. I don’t think he stopped talking the whole time.

    The energy levels where getting a little low so I put on some Salsa music and taught the girls a few Salsa dance moves. Gave us the opportunity to get a little bit closer to the girls. They split up the girl from New York City slept in my bed. I went to sleep. I was woken by what sounded like someone having loud grunting sex. It wasn’t Nick it was a pigeon sitting on the ledge outside of the window. I woke up every morning to a loud sex grunting pigeon.


    DAY 4 Sun

    It has been a massive three days my energy levels where starting to drop off.... so much information and long days. The final day of the boot camp was upon us I was battling to stay awake but I held in there. If it was a documentary about global warming everyone would of heard me snoring.

    A lot of information was loaded onto the guys in the boot camp. Future gave a talk about comfort outlining the certain techniques.

    Venture indicated that my posture was really poor and that i defiantly needed to work on it...... I slouch forward. My physio indicated this a month prior however he was a little more direct telling my I was turning into a turtle. Focusing on my posture is one of my priorities at the moment.

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    Day 9 (July 1):
    Soul Crushing


    We had our first week evaluations today and I found it really difficult. I was called out in front of the whole group for several things which put me on the defensive. I ended up needing some alone time to sort things out in my head - had a call from my father about stuff at home as well that isn't going well. Thankfully, we had a few hours off before we went out and I went for a massage next door. Afterward, I had some meditation time, showered up and headed out to the rooftop club again with the guys.

    Had a FANTASTIC night. We were the first ones there and just started opening right off the back before the others arrived. Big Thank Yous to Laurent and Nick Hoss for two very separate things. Laurent gave me some excellent feedback after a couple of sets last night, he keeps doing a great job of breaking down what I need to work on and explaining it in a way that I understand. Nick pushed me into a hilarious set, he tapped my shoulder and said, "Go"...I turn around and its a group of 65+ y/o women. Opened them and had a blast talking, they were in town for a wedding and were really funny.

    Great time out with the rockstars, the change coming over us all is wonderful to behold.

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    DAY 5 Mon

    Hooray Day Game ! Finally some day game ...yeah!!! This stuff is really fun and very enjoyable. I believe it is one of he most exhilarating activities on the face of the plant. The subtle techniques the instructors give you are sooo helpful. It feels great to have the other guys around really keeps the whole afternoon really fun. Looking forward to develop this further. Nick Hoss is a great instructor for day game.

    A great tip from Nick was to wear comfortable shoes. My feet did feel it after a couple of kilometers and three hours.

    The first girl I opened didn’t actually stop she looked behind and kept walking. The problem was that I was too far behind when I approached this sort of freaks girls out. Great tip from Nick Hoss to be in there peripheral vision for a couple of seconds before opening. The second girl I opened was wearing a long red dress she was very responsive we had a good chat but I now I am a little clunky with my Mastery Topics her phone was shoot and I ended up with an email address.

    We all opened a few sets that day with the last one for me a cute brunette girl with a Dark Side of the moon Pink Floyd shirt. I liked her spunk she was a little surprised and we only talked briefly I got a little bit nervous and the conversation drew dead. Everyone in the group was doing well we where all a little clunky but we did start to get better.
    Looking forward to more tomorrow....


    DAY 6 Tue

    Completed the remainder to the day game theory portion and having heard this again the techniques really started to stick. Opened a couple of sets during the day tried to incorporate some more material into the opening and it made a few of the interactions a little robotic. One girl said i was trying to sell her something......(yeah probably not what you think). I watched Bullet in set a few time and have started to adopt some of his techniques. The best thing about having so many different instructors is that they all have different styles some which are easier to replicate / model.

    My posture is improving and I have developed a technique or system to help me improve my posture and it is working extremely well. I have noticed that I am taller than the average New Yorker and the city has a hell of scenery when you walk tall.

    That night the guys where a little rattled and tired and none of the Rock Stars actually went out. Most of the instructors went to the Standard and where a little pissed off that none of us made it out. We should of all gone in…… As Venture said to me one Day “This is not project pussy…….This is project Rock Star” I did feel bad for not going in there are a lot of people who are giving up heaps of their time to help us. There was some fall out Venture and Sterling giving us all a three strike policy if we failed to incorporate and follow the guidance and recommendations. So three strikes and you are out of the program bye bye….. This did something for all of use to think about. They are right this is a once and a life time opportunity we all need to take the project by the balls and give it 100 percent.

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    Day 7 Wed

    I stuffed up some positioning with the day game approaches had issues with hooking sets the entire day. It was draining and nowhere as good as the first day it was if I was sliding backwards with the day game.

    Venture gave me some really confronting feedback about that expressiveness of how I speak and interact with people (lack of). It really rattled me to the core and I started thinking when did I become the this boring as shit person... It did introvert me for a couple of hours. Confused and a little in denial about not being very expressive with my voice and tonality. It was difficult to come to terms with this especially when I thought I was doing an alright job. So it made me think when did I become Professor monotone. However the benefits of being more expressive not only would improve my interactions with women it would also add more zing to my comedy and radio work. So I aim to focus all my energy in being more expressive. That night I made a really concerted effort to increase my energy and being more expressive it started working really well. My organic conversation is getting better I am having some really fun conversations.


    We rocked up to bar which was under a bridge very similar to the story hotel in Brisbane. The beer garden was large well set out with long tables in the middle, a few table tennis tables with two bars. The people in the bar varied from suits to travelers to locals very interesting mix and a great vibe to the place. I kept the alcohol to the minimum and went full extrovert I was only out of set 15 minutes in 3 hours. I really enjoy talking to people


    DAY 8 Thu

    We have been doing a lot of he said she said exercises and these are great to think about and incorporate concepts into verbal interactions. We also discussed how people get good at game and the mindset that Venture has for every interaction with women. It finally clicked that I need to make a large adjustment in my thinking. Seeing the overall mindset that Venture truly has a love for women prompted me to figure out what my mindset was when I talk to women. When I approach women I am more in my head and thinking about going through the exact steps / buttons to push to get a girl attracted to me. I was not approaching and thinking this girl is really cute. Thus some of the sets that I was opening had no drive or chemistry.

    After the previous day of multiple blowouts and few successes I did feel reluctant to open any sets. How ever after seeing Bullet open a few sets the previous day I mimic'ed his positioning and practiced opening a few sets in the mirror being cautious of my body language . The first set I opened......finally hit we had a great conversation I was back on the game. It is amazing how one good / positive interaction can really change your perception and thought pattern

    It was time to get some new threads, i knew my style and fashion was a little to be desired. Sterling , Venture myself and another Adam went for some seriously needed retail therapy. I ended up with some really cool clothes and completely changed my whole look. I had a bit of luck with the shoes they stuffed up and put them in the wrong box so got the shoes for half there price………….Sweet… I now am rocking the Lumber Jack ruggered man look. Truly thankful for the assistance from Venture and Sterling

    Time to unleash the new threads to New York would be a Friday Night adventure

    DAY 9 Fri

    The instructors gave feedback on the first week and most of us stuffed up the previous night by not going out. I may be feeling really tired but I need to push myself. The instructors have given us a three strike policy to ensure that we all go out ........fair call. I opened the first day game set by myself today. Nick F and I was on the way to the customized belt store when I saw this women in a Red Dress walk past, she had Blonde hair and was quite striking. I don’t know what came over me I just had to approach. We had a lot in common and conversation just seemed to flow really well. I like this girl and she told me that she was so relieved and refreshed about or conversation. Number Close

    Another cracking night in NY the girls in the bar are so lucky to have so many confident interesting guys approach them. I drank no alcohol the whole night I felt great in the morning. One thing I realised is that i can enter a very high state with out the aid of alcohol. This night was the most fun I have ever had without drinking. I was able to engage a two set of Swedish girls and when I was telling my stories I could see my feelings that I projecting in the story reflected back through the girls emotions. This was a magic moment for me I finally have realized the importance of projecting expressive and positive attitude.

    Posture still working on it and have been correcting myself. I have found that I am taller than the average New Yorker and can see over the sea of heads. The new clothes have given me a little bit of extra confidence when Adam, Nick F and myself walked we could see at least two groups of women eye fuck us. It felt good then we went over and spoke to them.

    This program is altering my perception on what is possible.

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    What up everyone. Just to give a little background on myself, I’m 29 years old from Denver, Colorado. While I’ve never taken a bootcamp, I’ve been studying “game” for the last two years and really trying to push myself in the past 12 months. I couldn’t be more excited about this opportunity to push my limits over the next six weeks.

    Day Zero: Wednesday, June 22nd
    When I finally arrived at the Rockstar apartment I met my first roommate Matt from Australia. This was when I first realized how real this was. Interesting guys from around the world really are all coming together to challenge the very core of who we are and what we’re capable of.

    Day One: Thursday, June 23rd
    Our first meeting was a bit surreal. Me and the two guys staying in our apartment (Matt and Nick) we heading to meet a group of guys we’ve never met, many of which we’ve never even seen. However, any question of whether these guys would be weird was quickly overridden with a sense of how fun, interesting, and welcoming they were.

    The most interesting part of the day was when everyone, instructors and students alike, gave their detailed backgrounds. While everyone is very different, the two constants were that 1) This is a group of guys that have had impressive successes in other aspects of their life, and 2) everyone is unsatisfied with their current level of success with women and willing to push their limits.

    Field: We met at a local bar for dinner and it turned into a madhouse. Several instructors were in attendance (Mr. M, Venture, Sterling, and various others) and you could just feel a vibe about this group unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. Since I have never taken a boot camp, this was actually the first time I had ever seen people at the instructor level in action. Let’s just say I was incredibly impressed. I can’t wait to start learning more about how they get such awesome results with women.

    Day Two: Friday, June 24th
    We were very lucky that the timing of a boot camp in NYC coincided with our journey. Mr. M was the lead instructor, but for this special circumstance he was also able to bring Future, Venture (the Project Rockstar lead), Sterling (very bright up-and-coming instructor), and a couple approach coaches (including Laurent, a Rockstar from last year). .

    Field: Wow. This night blew me away. I have had other nights in the past when I thought I was talking to a lot of girls. Tonight redefined what that means. I was at the club for about four hours and must have talked to at least 50 girls (probably 20 sets or so). While I got two phone numbers (one I really liked), I can tell my ability to smoothly escalate both emotionally and physically needs some work. After getting a much better look of what the instructors can do (guys that were in no better position that me when they first started!), I see tons of room for improvement in my game.

    All-in-all, I was sort of in awe tonight. Everyone brought such great energy and all the instructors are really top notch. It’s exciting to see so many people coming together for a common purpose. And you can feel the extra energy when all the students, Rockstars, and Instructors are at the actual venue helping each other and bringing great energy. Each student, and Rockstar for that matter, is here because there is a deficiency in their ability to attract the woman of their choice. It’s inspiring to see so many people that refuse to simply accept that reality and instead choose to attack it head on. The balance of theory and practical application is interesting to see. I can already see it working a little, but there is certainly a long ways to go. I’m looking forward to what we cover tomorrow and if we can maintain the same level of excitement tomorrow night as we did tonight.


    Day Three: Saturday, June 25th
    Heading into today I was excited based on the whirlwind of last night. Today was day two of the bootcamp with an emphasis on attraction. It’s absolutely amazing what Love Systems instructors have done with the theory and practical application of attraction. While Magic Bullets is fantastic, you have no idea how much amazing insight is presented in these bootcamps. I have to give a special shout out to Sterling who blew my mind with what he’s done to consolidate all the best attraction material from instructors across the company – fantastic.

    The most interesting section of today’s lecture, in my opinion, was on the newest concept of attraction. The instructors, particularly Sterling in this case, has done a great job of not only breaking out all the components, but also prioritizing them in a sense of priority and frequency. For example, two of the elements of building attraction that didn’t used to get discussed much they are actually now considered the two most important. Leaders in the industry have long talked about the importance of teasing, role plays, demonstrations of value, push pull, and various other routines. However, if you run your entire interaction with just these you are not maximizing your chance of success. The two elements they emphasize the most now are sub-communications and normal, organic conversation. First, without normal, organic conversation you can come off like a dancing monkey that’s trying too hard to impress her without bring any sense of normalcy. Secondly, and probably most importantly, every aspect of your interaction needs, or should, have the proper sub-communication. They say the majority of how we communicate is through non verbals. Not enhancing your sub-communications leaves significant opportunity on the table.

    At night we headed to the same club as the previous night. While I was certainly ready for an awesome night. Tonight was a little tougher than last night. After learning so much new attraction material, I was attempting to put what I learned to work but it was coming out clunky. Just like any new challenge in life, there are growing pains. I experienced some of those pains tonight as I didn’t get any numbers. I look forward to chatting with the guys tomorrow about what I could have done better.


    Day Four: Sunday, June 26th
    Last day of the bootcamp. It was great to recap the events of last night with not only the other Rockstars, but also with the weekend bootcamp students. Just over the last two nights, I have heard so many stories about people (instructors, bootcamp students, and Rockstars) accomplishing feats they’ve never experienced before; it’s very inspirational. Some guys pulled numbers for the first time. Others made out with girls in the club for the first time. While others had same night lays with girls they met that night. I was most impressed with the students that had never before done any cold approaches. While they were lacking a lot of the learned skill, they brought great energy and a desire to learn. Probably just as importantly, they were willing to fail in order to learn. One of the biggest things I’m learning is that you have to be willing to try things and put yourself out there. In this hobby, you will get rejected more times than you can count. Even the best instructors get blown out frequently. This is a “game” that isn’t about how many times you lose or even what percentage of the time you win. This is a “game” that the only thing that matters is the number of times you win. Try more sets, build your skills, and you’ll succeed. However, the level to which you’ll succeed will depend on a number of factors. While I’d like to drop knowledge here and tell you everything you need to be successful, I’m realizing I still have so much to learn and my current game has many many holes. I look forward to continually pushing myself to see how much I can build my skills over the next six weeks.

    I’m still in shock over the amount and quality of material that was presented to us over the last three days. Each instructor truly cares about giving the best possible experience to each student.

    Tonight I’m taking my first opportunity to relax a bit and catch up on some sleep. I can sense that this is going to be an intense journey and I will need all the energy I can get.


    Day Five: Monday, June 27th
    Day Game!! This is the day I was most excited about when I saw our schedule for the week. I feel like I have been mentally conditioning myself for this day from soooooo long. I bought Soul’s Day Game book last August but hadn’t yet garnered the courage to use the recommended direct approach. I have literally wanted to use direct day game for 10 months… thank god I have instructors to push me. And big thanks to Nick Hoss and Bullet for teaching the topic in such a way that made it seem so simple and natural. It funny how approaching women in the day feels so different. Before I came here I can remember going out, walking the streets and shopping malls, telling myself, “today is the day I will do my first direct approach.” However, every day I tried, I would always hit this imaginary wall. When I first started doing it, I used to feel a ton of anxiety as I felt I was about to approach. Then over time, my anxiety lessened as I focused on controlling my emotions as I “thought” about approaching an attractive girl I saw. However, I was never able to actually approach… at least not directly.

    Unbelievable. One of the best days of my life. I actually texted a couple of my friends today, “I think day game just changed my life.” For any of you that don’t do direct day game, you MUST change. Not only does it get results, but it just makes you feel like a fucking man with courage, confidence, and a desire for beautiful women. Despite today being my first attempt at day game, I approached six or seven very attractive girls and got one number. And the best part is, I was amazed at how relaxed I was throughout the conversations and after getting blown out a few times. Proof that something is only a big deal if you let it become a big deal. However, despite being relaxed, I’m realizing that I need a lot of practice at conducting better conversation in these situations. Women are pretty surprised when you randomly stop them on the street; a confident man should be able to lead an interesting conversation under these circumstances. I love day game.


    Unbelievable. One of the best days of my life. I actually texted a couple of my friends today, “I think day game just changed my life.” For any of you that don’t do direct day game, you MUST change. Not only does it get results, but it just makes you feel like a fucking man with courage, confidence, and a desire for beautiful women. Despite today being my first attempt at day game, I approached six or seven very attractive girls and got one number. And the best part is, I was amazed at how relaxed I was throughout the conversations and after getting blown out a few times. Proof that something is only a big deal if you let it become a big deal. I love day game.


    Day Six: Tuesday, June 28th
    More day game. Similar story to yesterday… I love this stuff. While I didn’t get any phone numbers today, I stopped a few of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen in my life and delivered my opener with confidence. It just feels so damn amazing now that my words and actions are finally in alignment with my thoughts and desires. While I still have a ton to learn about making my daytime conversations as flowing and interesting as possible, I’m very pleased with my progress.

    I’m also starting to notice the major differences between day game and night game. In fact, in some ways it seems completely different. In the day, you have to come in at a controlled, relaxed energy level. At night, coming in at that energy level will make girls bored. Naturally, I think I am a little more relaxed so day game is jiving a little better than night game. In the day, there is a large focus on interesting, intriguing conversation. At night, you need much more attraction spikes. However, the more I learn, I notice that when night game is done right, you end up talking about many of the same topics as you would during the day. The biggest difference is that you have to periodically spike attraction harder during the night to keep the girl’s interest… especially if she’s with a group. However, during the day, lighter teasing can be sufficient if you’re connecting well with the girls. While I certainly have a lot to learn in each area, I’m excited about getting better at both. However, as I slowly start to progress I can see that the skills I build for night and day will almost be night and day different. So nighttime skills are critical to building a well-rounded skill set. I’m excited to try to be as good at both as I can be.


    Day Seven: Wednesday, June 29th
    During the day today, I probably opened another eight girls and got one number. I’m definitely getting better at delivering strong, genuine openers during the day as well as leading smooth conversation. However, I need to continue to do a better of job of not just leading good conversation, but leading to topics I’m passionate about and I can show expertise over. While it’s easy to think about what you’d like to talk about when you’re preparing to go out, naturally leading the conversation to the topics you’re passionate about is tougher. When I’m talking to the girl, the first thing I’m thinking about it how do I keep the conversation fun and interesting – I want to make sure there are no boring lulls that makes her want to say, “well… I guess I’m going this way.” As I get better, I want to be maintaining this natural flow of conversation but mixing in topics that I know a lot about and show who I am. I’ve learned that most of this is about putting your best foot forward during the time you have. It’s not about made up stories and making yourself “look cool”. It’s really much more about actually living an interesting life and being skilled and showing other people the life you live.

    Tonight was awesome. This was the first night all of us have gone out since Saturday. You could just feel the positive energy and the confidence after three days of day game. At any point in the night, you could look around the venue and catch Rockstars in sets all over the place; it was awesome to see. As for myself, I had great fun meeting a variety of people and taking my swing at a number of beautiful women. I got a number from a beautiful Interior Designer from Milan and a great conversation (but got the boyfriend stiff arm) with a sexy Private Equity Fund Manager whose family owns a major resort in Dubai. I have no idea how I could have possibly noticed these things without their insight. Fuck I’m lucky to be here for these six weeks.


    Day Eight: Thursday, June 30th
    Today started out great when I met a cute girl on the street from Long Island during my run to the gym. Despite being completely sweaty, I decided, ‘fuck it, I’m talking to her’. Sure enough, the conversation went great and got her phone number. ANY TIME, ANY WHERE! Did I mention I love day game?!? I’m not sure if I’ll get around to following up with her (because we’re so busy) but I’m still very glad I approached. This is a skill set, like any other, that needs consistent practice. I’ve noticed this will be one of my main challenges – continuing to approach girls even when I’m not sure if I’ll be able to make anything from it. However, after reading my last sentence, I feel like I notice an inherent flaw. I need to truly believe that any interaction, anywhere, anytime, can noticeably change my life for the better. This is the perspective I would like to have. I realize it will take some work to get here but I’m willing to put in the effort.

    In addition to getting her number, we also went shopping tonight and I had a fun conversation with a really cute girl at one of the shops and got her number as well. Man, that girl was cute. I hope I’m able to get her out.

    More about my shopping experience – style makeovers are very hard. I was lucky enough to have Venture and Sterling roll with me to buy some new clothes. What I wasn’t ready for was them completely ripping into my current look. It’s weird, I’ve been turned down more times by women in the last week then almost the entire last year combined but somehow this dig into my style was at least ten times harder to deal with. It sounds ridiculous, but it took me literally 20 minutes to agree to buy a pair of boots they wanted me to get. In the end I just told them to tell me what I should buy and I’ll buy it. Reinventing yourself is not easy. I even acted like a bit of a dick during the process which I regret. I wish I could redo that moment so they knew just how much it meant to me that they were taking the time to help. Sorry for being a pain in the ass fellas; I promise my actions over the next few days will make up for it!


    Day Nine: Friday, July 1st
    Admittedly, I went to bed last night mentally exhausted. The whole makeover process makes you question a lot of your past. Have I been doing this all wrong my entire life? How would my interaction have been different had my style been different sooner? If my wardrobe was so bad, how was I able to have the decent successes I’ve had in the past? It’s funny how being ripped into that hard makes you wonder how I ever had any girl show interest. That being said, I woke up today with a refreshed feeling of excitement.

    Sure enough, on my jog to the gym this morning I saw, and opened, two girls on the street. One had a boyfriend but the other, a beautiful blonde attorney, had just enough time before work to stop for a five minute conversation and give me her number. Yes!! I was pretty amazed after the fact how well it worked. However, I wonder sometimes how well these numbers will stick. In this instance, I texted her later today and I haven’t heard anything back. I’ll probably try her again soon, since she was really attractive, but I need to continue pushing getting better at really hitting deep conversation so that after I leave, she really wants to see me again. When you only have 5 minutes to talk to a girl, as with this busy attorney, you have to make it memorable outside of the sheer fact that you approached her during the day. For the most desired women, I can’t imagine just having balls is enough. You must also have great conversation skills in addition to being able to demonstrate a ton a value.

    Tonight we headed back to the same rooftop bar from last week. I was really excited about tonight because it’s the first weekend night since our bootcamp and my first chance to unleash my new threads! I entered the club with great energy, ready to have some fun. It worked. I had more success with multiple beautiful women tonight than any other night in my life. I got three numbers from women I was really attracted to which is something I’ve never done before. And not only have I seen improvement within myself, but it seems as though the entire group of Rockstars are really kicking ass as well. You could feel the impact our group was having on the bar. So much fun.


    Day Ten: Saturday, July 2nd
    More shopping today. Nothing significant to report from day game. Tonight we through a pre party at one of the Rockstar’s lofts. It was actually a bit low key as I didn’t want to hit on any of the girls that the other guys brought and the girl I invited that said she was coming didn’t make it. Oh well. I’ll re-energize for tomorrow and hopefully meet some more in day game.

    I realize after the party that I should have taken a more proactive approach to making conversation. Even if I wasn’t trying to attract the girls, I could have at least been more active in winging for them and simply having interesting conversation. I have a bad habit of when I don’t start strong, it’s very difficult for me to get going. I imagine most people feel this but I shouldn’t let myself use it as an excuse to have a poor night. Wouldn’t it be awesome to be the type of person who doesn’t let any specific interaction, or lack of interaction, affect their mood. However, like I said before, I’ve definitely been guilty of letting this get to me. Looking forward, I wonder what I can do differently to help prevent this spiral. Maybe I should be more open with some of the other guys and have a shared understand that our jobs are to help boost each other on down days. Or maybe I just need to build a strong enough foundation that no matter what happens I have enough confidence in myself, and I’m enough self entertained that I can find fun in any circumstance. While using others may not be a bad idea, I get the feeling that being self sufficient would certainly be more productive. You won’t always have people to count on to push you, especially when I go back home. If I’m not fully prepared to fend for myself and be my own biggest motivation, I sincerely risk falling back into old bad habits. I’ve worked so hard, and risked so much to fight out of those bad habits and get into this program. The last thing I want to do is take a step backward.

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    Never play a game of pool against Adam. Turns out his father makes pool cues and he has been playing pool since the age of 14. Basically he broke and sunk all the balls off the break our Aussie team did not sink any of our balls. In Australia if you don't sink any of all your balls during a game you are "pants". This means you need to run around the pool table with you pants down. It's great the Americans don't know this rule! This has happened to me once in Australia at my going away party I was wearing boxers at the time and when I ran around the table my Dick was hanging out. I was a bush Elephant running around the pool table.

    The party was pretty laid back and chilled. I went in to wing for Bullet with group of girls he brought to the party. The interaction went a little clunky and Sterling was pushing me and so was Venture. The instructors are getting a little frustrated with my progression. The feedback is that I am like a robot and my touching is not very sensual. The Men to Women ratio was a little too high. After that we spent most of the night talking too ourselves. Nick Hoss arrived on the scene and we decided to go head over to……………… 230 5th. It was late in the night and the bouncer was being a little bit of a Dick and would only let us in if purchase a bottle. It was 230 in the morning defiantly not worth it so we headed off

    One thing I did learn is that I need to approach more Day Game sets to increase the number of people to the Party

    Sunday will be a ripper

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    Friday, July 1 (day 9/46)...wow the difference of one week...incredible strides that all Rockstars have made in a week and thankfully I am one of them because I can feel it 100%...where to begin, after number closing a few girls the day before, I had the chance to work on some text game under the guidance of some masterful instructors...couple things: 1) just getting the numbers and then the positive reinforcement experience of having flirty/playful texts has a huge effect on game -- I’m sure that sounds like I’m some tool who has never had girls before but I mean it in the sense that I’m in the process of a learning a skill and being in the early stages it has great reinforcement value to be successful; and 2) text game is a definite skill and one that I’m still struggling to get the mentality around but thankful to have these instructors helping me...

    Friday became another fashion day and the Rockstars are definitely pushing their boundaries on this front, fun to watch and wish I could find more styles that fit me properly.

    Was texting with the day game girl all day and moved the interactions from playful to hardcore flirting...funny thing happened when I was setting date up with girl I met in fashion store earlier in day, she tells me the place to meet is too far away, ask Nick Hoss for advice on how to respond and he tells me: just sit on it...couldn’t be truer words as 45mins later she replies: k well I guess I can come meet up for little while...when we met up it was on pretty quick, ended up having good time with her, she lived far away so couldn’t get her home but another positive reference point for me...went and met up with Rockstars later at 230 Fifth and we were killing it out there again, every single girl in that club (married/single/non-english speaker/whatever) got approached by multitudes of us, great night!

    One thing worth mentioning was the disappointment the instructors had in us for the previous night...as most of us were tired, only 2 Rockstars went out that night while there were five instructors out - a couple of whom had worked long days already...the point of the story was this: you can essentially do whatever you want on this program but 1) don’t forget the instructors are all doing this for your sake free of charge so respect that; and, 2) you are only going to get what you put in and being that it’s six weeks suck it up and get out there and rest when it’s over...this is an incredible program and we are F’in lucky to be in it...the instructors are absolutely awesome people and we are super thankful for everything they have sacrificed to help us out...Venture is one of the coolest guys I’ve ever met, it’s funny that pickup is the backdrop for this program b/c this guy is in it to make us all happier and more successful people in all areas of our life, he cares so much about our success and you can feel it in every interaction with him...Sterling is a theory genius, it’s funny to say that because his game is all focused on being non-gamey and natural but in reality the only way to get there is to know the theory inside and out and he has it down...Nick Hoss is the biggest jabroni in the league (inside joke but love that dude)...people like Bullet who is quickly becoming the Godfather of PR and Laurent give us all great energy and motivation to push forward, I can’t say enough about those two.

    Saturday, July 2 (day 10/46)...so back at it again after a good night and gearing up for big night at Khan’s Soho loft...we all were instructed to bring 3-5 girls to the party and we stocked up big for it...will admit that I went for too much of the “party” last night and drank more than I should have...it wasn’t because I had any type of anxiety, it was more based on my enjoyment of having a drink but for whatever reason (I don’t usually drink red bull-vodka), I definitely consumed too much...couple of the guys talked with me about it and I’m going to be laying off the sauce for a bit...reason being is that I want to get the most I can out of this experience and at the end of the day I don’t need the stuff and it has been used as a crutch by me before coming on this Rockstar journey so why not prove to myself how needless it is...it’s worth noting that my over indulgence was purely me enjoying myself and not a matter of dealing with approach anxiety like I had done a week earlier..I have so much respect for this program and the sacrifice all involved are making so just a small sacrifice on my part to help make the whole better...the mind works in tricky ways, notably by trying to protect itself from both physical and mental pain with the intent of limiting duress.

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    Sitting at the airport thinking about what’s in store for me over the next 2 months... Lots of nerves, butterflies in my stomach imagining the awkward situations that I will be pushing myself into. I know I need to give it my all and commit to the process to get the results that I desire. The following is my statement of what I want out of Project Rockstar 2011 which was sent to Venture recently;

    “After many failures successes in my life, I am happy with how I am progressing in all areas other than one. This is why I sought out Lovesystems; although I have had reasonable success with women in the past, I always felt like I wasn’t getting the women that I know I truly deserve.

    I see this as the missing piece of the puzzle that is my life; I’ve already realised (through bootcamps/books) how much this can change my life in all areas for the better. Project Rockstar to me is so much more than that. I want this program to help me find within myself that I am capable of so much more than I previously realised.

    I want to smash limiting beliefs and discover internally what is holding me back; and ultimately learn to love myself more.”

    I have been sitting at the airport for quite some time. Unfortunately there have been some huge flight delays due to a volcanic ash cloud. At this point it looks like I will be at least a day or two late for Project Rockstar kickoff. Not very happy about that; makes me feel like I am really starting from behind...


    Day 1 – Thursday - 23/06/11
    I ended up being able to change my flights to get to New York (almost) on time. The total journey ended up taking around 35hrs; I went from Adelaide (my home town) to Sydney, to Taipei, to Osaka, and finally to New York.

    Exhausted and barely rested, I finally arrive in Manhattan and get to the apartment where we are all meeting. The day officially started at 2:00pm; I arrive at around 4:30pm and am greeted by a room full of guys that are to be my family for the next 7 weeks.

    We all introduce ourselves to each other and tell our stories about how we got to this point; I was so impressed by the quality of the rest of the Rockstars. They are all the kind of people I always seek friendship with, but do not meet regularly. It is amazing to see so much talent and life experience in one room; it is an absolute pleasure to be involved in this program.

    Venture then gives his introduction and starts out with a lot of awesome information and his thoughts/views on inner game. He gave us some great information about how we all can easily self-sabotage ourselves if we don’t gain control over our hard wired ‘reptilian’ emotions; Everything that we are going to be learning is just a skill set that anyone can master; we just need to take out the emotion and focus on the process. We can only control the controllables; we never can know exactly what is coming next, but we can apply the math; the things we cannot control, do not matter! Learn to fail, but fail forward; learn from the experience and increase your game as a result. There is no failure, only feedback. Comfort is the death of growth. Venture stressed the importance of not just dabbling in this, but committing ourselves completely to change for the better.

    At night, we went out for dinner and met a number of other instructors/mentors/ac’s. They all wanted to see how we were in-field, so after dinner we did some field work to show them what we have. Unfortunately the venue was a tough one (like a big frat house) but – no excuses! - So we ploughed through and created some good interactions by the end of the night.

    What a great start to the program. I walked away from the first meeting very inspired from the words of Venture, Nick Hoss, and Laurent. The excitement and nervousness is building more and more as I think about our coming days.


    Day 2 – Friday - 24/06/11
    Today we attended the first day of a 3 day bootcamp with Mr.M, and a number of others. I have attended 2 bootcamps in the past, but I was really excited to hear it from some other instructors – there is always something new to learn from everyone’s different styles of training and their thoughts on game.

    Future went through his big 10 rules; 1 Have fun. 2 You will be rejected. 3 Talk to girls. 4 Keep talking. 5 No Judgement. 6 Break your wrist taking notes. 7 Baby steps. 8 Don’t ask permission. 9 Everything is right and going to plan. 10 Boundaries; discover, don’t determine.

    It was a great day to be involved in – seeing some renowned instructors providing their own experiences and teaching styles. My mind is pretty loaded with information by day’s end; definitely need some quiet time to read my notes and digest all of this; and prepare for going out tonight...

    Day 3 – Saturday – 25/06/11
    Second day of 3 day bootcamp. First we de-briefed the previous night. I was relatively happy with how I went the night before; had some great interactions and managed to create a huge amount of attraction with a very attractive girl. In hindsight I didn’t escalate physically enough; which is something that I am not used to and not entirely comfortable with at this point. I also didn’t sexualise the conversation enough, and should have added some statements of intent. I still managed to get her phone number. My worst set would be the first set I opened for the night (which seems to be the case often); it just seemed quite awkward. However, looking back on the interaction I realised that the awkwardness was just cultivated in my head.

    What I want and need to work on judging from last night; opening up sets from the beginning of the night and not over thinking things, unabashed physical escalation, pushing and discovering boundaries.

    Today we are in Khans apartment in Soho for the seminar. He kindly offered it to the group to use which has been fantastic; he has been extremely hospitable and we all really appreciate it. Sterling kicks off the seminar; going into Attraction. He has a very methodical style of teaching and has broken everything down into easily digestible teaching methods. We then worked on trigger words and did some group exercises to get ourselves used to identifying and relating/digging deeper. We then went through mastery topics and how we all need to get a handle on these, and be able to discuss them with women whilst highlighting the emotional highs and lows; taking them on an emotional journey.

    Mr.M and Venture then discussed sexual intent including social touching, intimate social touching etc. Venture has a very impressive style of game, and goes through what he feels are the most prominent aspects of his sexual intent; being completely congruent with what you are saying/doing, being non judgemental toward the women and never assuming anything. Building sexual tension and having an abundance mindset; because the truth is that there are an endless supply of beautiful women on this planet. He also went through the importance of take aways; showing that you are willing to walk away and risk losing the girl is such an attractive quality to women, and goes hand in hand with the abundance mindset. Venture stressed the importance of being primal in our intent, and never being ashamed of our sexual desires toward beautiful women. We went through sexual hoops, role plays, teasing, cold reads, push/pull, and some lines/routines. However, something that has been made very clear is that we will be given a few lines and routines, but we are never going to rely on them, and will soon be able to interact fluidly without any aid of lines and routines.

    Day 4 – Sunday – 26/06/11
    Third and final day of three day bootcamp. Venture discusses mindset and the importance of setting rules for ourselves; making sure that they begin with small achievable goals. For example, his rule is that he has to approach any hot girl that he is attracted to; and although the end goal may be for a number/kiss/lay, that is not the rule; simply open and work from there. This way he is living by his rules and what happens beyond the open is irrelevant. I have had a lot of trouble with this concept in the past; I am generally very results orientated, so if I am not achieving a difficult goal, I find it hard to acknowledge or celebrate what I HAVE achieved and the progress that I HAVE made. I need to stop thinking about the end result so much, and celebrate all of my successes.

    Mr.M went though some phone and text game, along with date theory which was some great stuff. To anyone reading - I definitely recommend getting his phone and text game book if you do not have it already. Sterling then followed on from the previous day; he has some great models that he has developed that really help us understand the ideals.

    Future then went through comfort, noting that comfort is initially the absence of discomfort; followed by making her experience the widest range of emotions (again without discomfort). We were taught how to build solid rapport with people; everyone, not just limited to women we are interested in. When talking with women we need to focus on the why not the facts, the emotional weight; we were taught how to relate and bond over emotional experiences. We learned how to demonstrate sexual non judgement toward women, staying out of the friend zone, and other important comfort strategies like moving the woman, and showing personal vulnerability whilst demonstrating strength. We wrapped up the final day of bootcamp with seduction techniques including many different ways to arouse women through touch, breath, gaze etc. Also the importance of continually escalating and not questioning what a woman is saying, simply agreeing with them.

    This was a sensational bootcamp; the knowledge present in the room was phenomenal. We have been so fortunate to have attended this bootcamp; I have never learned so much in three days! I am very grateful to Mr. M for letting us sit in on his bootcamp, and extremely appreciative of all the other instructors that gave us their time. A very inspiring three days, and an awesome kick-start for the rest of the Rockstar program.

    Day 5 – Monday 27/06/11
    First day of day game with Nick Hoss. This is going to be a really exciting day – I have never done day game before so am very nervous for what this week will bring. Nick begins by going through all of the reasons that will come up in our heads of why not to do what we are about to do. He gives us some great tips for overcoming our own thoughts that hold us back. If our delivery is good, it is instantly attractive to a woman because it is extremely rare that a guy has the confidence to actually approach a woman on the street. The most important things for us to be attractive to women are; appearance, confidence and humour (good emotions), social intelligence, having passion and purpose, pre-selection, and wealth. The more of these that we can demonstrate in our interactions, the more successful they will be.

    End of the day; We just went out for our first day game day today; a very interesting experience. Although I did well, I don’t feel like I achieved what I should have. I feel like I should have ended the day with a lot more solid interactions and number closes (although I did manage a couple) with beautiful women that I would subsequently date. I guess I need to just remember that I will improve as long as I commit to the process. I really feel that I wasn’t as committed as I should have been to the interactions; I will change this immediately.

    Day 6 – Tuesday 28/06/11
    More day game. Today we delve further into the day game interaction theories and go beyond just opening; rather focussing on expanding the conversation and attracting the women that we interact with. We went through the steps of the process form a day game point of view and how it differs vastly from night game; lower tempo, less games/teasing, slower pace attraction spikes, and finding commonalities with the women and expanding on them in conversation (qualify and relate).

    Great day doing day game today. Some great results and one 10+ minute interaction with a really attractive blonde girl which resulted in a solid number close; I hope to meet up with her for a date soon. At the end of the day I am feeling like my mind is starting to expand, my limiting beliefs are shrinking, the possibilities are emerging, I can feel myself confidence increasing. Very excited for tomorrow.

    Day 7 – Wednesday 29/06/11
    Today we continued day game. We went deep into mastery topics and having conversations of value that will show the women that we meet who we are and why they should be attracted to us. We did some exercises between us all to practice qualifying and relating into our mastery topics.

    I had a great day doing day game today, several great interactions and a number closes. In particular I had a couple of sets that went for 10+ minutes, one where a girl was almost begging for my phone number by the end of it. It’s a pretty amazing feeling and builds great reference experiences of what is really possible.


    Thoughts at the end of week one; what an amazing experience this has been and will be. Once I return to ‘normal’ life, it is going to be easy to let myself slip back in to a ‘normal’ routine that will be a sure path to mediocrity. That is a pain that I cannot feel; I absolutely can and will be the person that I dream I want to be – I am walking the path already; I just need to ensure that I am constantly committed. I am beginning to see the possibilities and realise that they are going to soon become my realities. This both excites and scares me. In the past I have been holding back what is possible for me because of what is in my head; as I shift these beliefs I change for the better.

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    Day 1: Have been excited to meet the Rockstars and instructors. Met at Venture's place for introductions and some inner-game. The Rockstars all seem like good guys, which is a relief (though I did not doubt they would be) and other than hearing their different backgrounds and beginning the bonding process, I was most impressed by Venture's story of how he had only started learning game about a year ago and he's gotten this good so fast. He's put a lot of time into it, but its still quite encouraging to know how fast one can improve. To be honest, I was curious to see him in action, because a part of me doubted he could be that good. Didn't take long for him to put those doubts to rest. That very night, we went to Brother Jimmy's (the kind of place I tend to avoid like the plague, as it's totally a college frat scene and just not my type of venue) and while we were seated at the back room to eat some food, I observed Venture immediately start building attraction with the hot waitress. He was teasing her, ignoring her, then holding her hand and sitting her in his lap... it was an impressive display and I was surprised to see how fast he could escalate. I also got to meet the rest of the instructors there, some that I already knew and others I had heard of, such as Mr. M. They were all charismatic and confident.

    I bounced early from Brother Jimmy's... I wasn't feeling it at all, and after a pretty annoying interaction with two girls and then finding I could barely move because of the crowd, I decided this was not for me.

    Day 2: We get to tag along to Mr. M's New York Bootcamp. Took a bunch of notes as several instructors taught different areas of theory, and then prepared to go out to 230 5th, a rooftop bar. Now, we are a bit constrained when it comes to what type of venue we can go to , as we are rolling with a lot of guys. This is not the best venue in the city, and this night was probably the worst I have ever seen it. There was some doctor convention and I felt like I was in a Bollywood movie. I had a difficult time finding a girl I was actually attracted to, but in the end I decided this is more an exercise and better to go through the motions with some average girl, then not to do it at all. So, I started talking to this girl but turned out to have a pretty adventurous/fun personality. I told her she needed to prove she had balls, if she wanted to hang with me, and next thing I know, she is pinching random people's butts and running off, making it look like it was me - hahaha, props to her. She also scaled a wall, until a bouncer told her to stop (good thing, because it is a 50 story drop from the edge). She was quite amusing, but I wasn't that into her still, and that really seemed to help with her chasing me, and we were making out in a hidden area before long. I took her home.

    Day 3: Debrief of the night before and more instruction. Let me just say that the instructors are all awesome and so focused on getting everyone to improve. They all have different styles and different strengths. My favorite so far is probably Future, because the guy is fucking hilarious and extremely quick witted, but they are all really good. Sterling is a natural teacher. His deep knowledge of theory is matched by his ability to teach and also identify what each student is doing wrong. Venture is a beast when it comes to sexual intent/escalation. Mr. M is just an all-round pro.

    We go out again to 230 5th. It's MUCH better this time, with a more diverse and attractive crowd. We get a table in the VIP section, and other than one of the bouncers continually harassing our group (for no good reason) it's all good. I talk to a bunch of girls I quite like, and can already feel myself getting more comfortable with opening. I open a large set, getting friendly with the big guy, and doing shots with them. After that, I tell them I'm going to talk to their friend for a bit, because she is adorable, and they all give me the green light, so I move her and we talk for a while. I get her number and continue talking, till I have to go back to the table, where we are having problems with the bouncer. At this point, another girl I knew from a few weeks ago has arrived at the bar, to go home with me. That's when things got messy and the bouncer not only threw me out of the club (because I got the manager to talk to him and stop messing with us, and he couldn't take it when I told him "I guess we figured out who's in charge, didn't we?") Two of them took me out of a side door, and one choked me while the other punched me in the stomach repeatedly. It was insane... like one of those Vegas Casino movies where they catch someone cheating and beat the shit out of him! I called the police, while in the elevator and could see the bouncer starting to regret what he did. I also managed to head-butt him twice, giving him a bloody lip. That felt pretty good.

    How to turn a bad situation into a good one: I told the police what happened. Then the ambulance came to check on my throat, as I was already losing my voice from the choking. After all of that, the manager took me back up to talk to the owner, who told me he reviewed the situation and that I was completely in the right. The guy got fired, lost his license, and I was reimbursed for my ripped shirt, the bill for the table that night, not to mention we got comped for two nights there the following week. Nice! The girl that came to meet me stayed with me throughout the whole incident and came home with me.

    Day 4: I missed most of this day. I was at the emergence room, trying to get a report from the hospital that proved there was damage to my throat from the assault, in case I needed it later if the club did not live up to their side of the deal reached the night before. I had also completely lost my voice, and couldn't speak.

    Day 5: Day Game theory with Nick Hoss, and then out on the streets practice what we had learned. Nick is a great teacher too... he's a really down to earth and likable guy, and he holds some serious knowledge, which he communicates in a totally natural and friendly manner.

    I've never done any day game before. I have to admit, it seems quite awkward to be stopping complete strangers in the street and trying to get their numbers. I would usually never do this, but since we all promised to hand over the remote to the instructors and do whatever they say, I found myself approaching a hot girl and as soon as I touched her on the arm, she turned around shocked, told me not to touch her and speeded away. Wow... great start. I felt like a real creep. Thanks lady. I approached a few more, and while none were as bad as that first approach, I also wasn't really getting anything good either, till the last few I did, where the girls were actually pleased with the interaction, but had boyfriends or were in a hurry etc.

    Day 6: More day game theory, and then more in-field. I have to take quickly give props to Bullet and Laurent, who are the other coaches that are going to be with us on this journey. Laurent was a Rockstar last year and Bullet is fucking 50 years old and yet still gets amazing results. I saw him open a beautiful girl on the street (easily an 8/9) and he made it look easy. Watching him and Laurent, and listening to their feedback on what I was doing, really helped to calibrate my approach and I was already getting better results, though I still didn't get anything solid on this 2nd day.

    Day 7: More day game, but I made a serious break-through today. I got either a number or e-mail from 4 out of 5 that I approached today, and they were all seriously cute. I think these positive reference points are really going to help with my calibration going forward, and I expect it to be very helpful for night game also. I owe this success to Bullet and Laurent, who (as I mentioned from the day before) really helped with feedback but also doing live demos right in front of us. They are fearless and I can feel myself getting there also. I won't ever forget this day. All the guys went out that night, but I had a date, so I did my own thing with her.

    Day 8: More day game today, but it became apparent that some of the Rockstars could use some help with fashion and style. Venture pointed out that some people just did not look the part the night before. Luckily, this is something I'm good at, and given that I know soho quite well, since I live there, I took the rockstars to some cool shops. By now, everyone is running game at every opportunity, and Zach gets the number of the lady that was helping us at Hugo Boss. We then went to Paul Smith and some other stores. I want to say I'm so proud of Edgar, because he bought some really cool, edgy stuff, on the back of my advice, and he looks like a real rockstar now. I'm actually a bit jealous! Nick also went out of his comfort zone and bought some cool stuff. I'm looking forward to seeing them wear it and find out what kind of feedback they are getting. I went out with the guys to the standard beer garden this time, but most of the guys were tired and didn't make it. The beer garden was not the best place to run game, as I found the crowd rather guarded and hostile. Still, I managed to open a number of sets and stay in for a good length of time.

    Day 9: Friday... Venture and the instructors gave us feedback. Some people got an earful, and I was relieved to avoid that. I still have not written any blogs... if I don't do it by Sunday, I'm going to get in trouble. We did a little more day game and more shopping for some of the Rockstars. I don't want to sound like a broke record, but my level of respect for the instructors keeps soaring to new heights, especially Venture.... the guy is a fucking machine, and I regret any doubts I may have had. He is a model for just what can be achieved with the right kind of focus and practice. Bullet also proves his worth ever time he opens his mouth. We're going out to 230 5th again tonight, but this time we are comped (as a result of last week).

    We get there, and the best table is setup for me and 12 guests. The vibe is amazing, with so many hot girls, and I feel great. I'm immediately in sets and have girls coming back to our table. I look around, and we literally own that place. After day game, I have zero approach anxiety, and everything opens so easily. I see a girl, easily a 9 and perhaps the hottest in the club, and after a brief hesitation I open her direct and get an incredibly friendly response. Unfortunately, she is on her way out, and visiting from Germany and flying out in 2 days, so not worth chasing, but that experience will teach me that hottest girls can also respond positively and I have no need to hesitate just because the girl is a 9 or a 10.

    I took 4 numbers that night. I made out with the cutest little redhead at my table, before her friends dragged her away. I built a lot of attraction and escalated, showing my intent, with everyone I talked to, and I realized that when you start getting good at game, logistics is what can really fuck you up (friends taking away your girl, or them having to leave etc.) We took some girls back to my place for an after-party, and it was a great time. I hooked up with a really hot blonde in the bathroom, and she said she wanted to spend the night, but then her friend intervened and made her go home. I found out later she is living with her boyfriend of 3 years... whoops! The night was a huge success, and I could see that all the rockstars have improved so much. If this is the result for 1 week, I can't imagine where we will be by the end of the program!

    Day 10: Today, we are having a pre-party at my place. Everyone has invited girls that they have met over the last week, and we go and stock up on drinks (champagne, vodka and mixers) to serve later that night. Venture and Sterling give us all props for just how good we have gotten, and everyone is feeling great. The plan is to party for a bit, then take the girls to a high-end club. People start coming around 9, and the girl I met the previous week (that I have been texting with) shows up looking smoking hot. Easily the hottest girl there, till Venture's girl shows up, and then I'd say it would be a mater of opinion. So, I'm pretty excited to be talking to this girl until the other girl I have been texting shows up. Then, 2 more, and I'm also the host... OK, I'm going to need some help. There is an unsung hero amongst us. Alex... he is not an instructor (perhaps too good looking to be one) but his game is tight and he is an incredible wing. Thanks Alex... together with Sterling, these two are unstoppable - I love these guys!

    Some guys are doing better than others. I won't comment here, but follow their blogs for more details. We are still in week 1 (kinda) so there is a lot of time to improve and I have faith in all of my fellow rockstars, that have already improved immensely. Some of us go to SL, a high-end club, and a few end up doing something else, as they don't have the right ratio. The club is full of hot girls, but I'm into my girl and start working on push/pull, takeaways, escalation etc. My opening and attraction is pretty strong now, so these are the areas where I need work. We make out after dancing, and when she leaves, she gives me a big hug. When she leaves, I open a few gils in the club but I'm pretty tired from the week and head home a little after 3am, satisfied with the night.

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    Day 10 (July 2):
    Parrrtay?


    So the plan for the night is to throw a bit of a house party and then roll out to some clubs. I know day game is my weakness at the moment, there's a lot I need to practice and learn. And...fuck, there's too much to do and to little time. I decided to find an extra 3-4 hours to day game by myself this week. It's going better.

    The evening was the low point so far for me...yuck. Wasn't really feeling any of the girls that showed up except for Khan's (sorry buddy! good talk) and the two that had told me they were coming instead tried to get me to come meet up elsewhere. I'm still not entirely sure if its cool for us to leave and what not, but I decided to stay and hoped things would work out. Unfortunately, I ended up not going to the club with Venture , the other instructors, and a few of the guys. Nick Hoss showed up and we tried to go to 230 5th, we had some lovely logistical issues and they told us the only way we were getting in is if we bought a bottle. Ah well, gonna have a lousy night like that every once ina while. The plus is that I was able to go climbing at the gym in the morning which really helped me stay positive throughout the day.

    Day 11 (July 3):
    Elephant Walk


    This will officially be called Rockstar bonding day. We ended up being grilled by instructors and took several hours to talk in the afternoon before heading back to the rooftop. We decided to have goals for each other, and to work on what the instructors perceived as issues we were having as individuals and a group. I think we are starting to feel like a team, like we can hold each other up. I’ve been hesitant to give advice to any of the other rockstars since I was ripped apart for doing so before, but I think I’ll start opening up some when I feel I have a piece of advice that will help one of the other guys or something for them to read.

    The club tonight was pretty dead, overall quite slow so I practiced opening some seated sets and ejecting early. I'm trying to get comfortable having "hot chick" mentality...being willing to just leave a set if I'm bored or see someone I want to approach. I thought I was going to close, but ended up having some logistical issues that hopefully will be sorted out today.

    When I got home I had my 2nd major realization:
    I need to really, really push myself. Be willing to leave any set any time and force myself to talk to the hottest girls, even when they are surrounded by 2 or 3 guys. Fuck it.

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    Day Eleven: Sunday, July 3rd
    Today was a little slow. We received some individual feedback from the instructors and had a fun conversation just amongst the Rockstars. With the Rockstars living in three different parts of town, we’ve noticed it’s been tough really getting to know each other since we’re always on the go. Today was a good step towards becoming a stronger team.

    We went out tonight to the same rooftop venue we’ve been a few times before. Unlike most nights, however, tonight was quite slow. While I opened quite a few girls, I only opened one girl that I was genuinely attracted to. Since that didn’t hook for me, I essentially spent the entire night in conversations with women I was only seeing as friends. However, I’m starting to notice that on nights like this, I need a different attitude. So much of what the instructors are teaching us is about developing the right automatic responses.

    Why is it that I feel sexually attracted to a smaller percentage of girls? Maybe I just need to open my horizons a bit and be a little more adventurous. Or maybe I need to accept my perspective for what it is and be more assertive in going after every hot girl I see. While I’ve done an ok job of approaching every hot girl, I’ve certainly side-stepped plenty. Especially those that were sitting at tables or were out with guys. Especially in social settings like night clubs, I don’t see any reason why I can start approaching more mixed sets and seated sets. If people didn’t want to talk to anyone, why would they come out? And even if that was the case, who cares? I need to hit a point where my state of mind isn’t adversely affected by others.

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    Day 11 (Sunday July 3rd):
    This was an important day, as it got started off with some feedback from the instructors to the Rockstars. I thankfully managed to avoid being told off again, but some of the others were not so lucky, and that was not fun to watch (like when your parents are shouting at your siblings). We were told we are all accountable for each other, so we sat down at a cafe and did some great bonding and discussed how we can all help each other better. We should be even stronger going forward. That night, we went to the same rooftop bar, which was relatively quiet, but the crowd that was there was of quite good quality and I found that I was able to open anything I wanted with great ease, and then stay in set for as long as I wanted. The first I opened was an attractive (though slightly pudgy) blonde and her less attractive (though great personality) friend that was married. Shortly after I started the conversation, which was going great, I saw the most incredibly hot blonde woman. she was easily 6 foot, with hair down to her waist.

    I told the married woman I was talking to that I saw a really cute girl and that I was going to go talk to her. I opened with ease and was soon in a great conversation with her and her also pretty cute friend. The problem with this night was that EVERYONE I met was a tourist and was leaving within the next few days. This girl had a plane to catch at 8am, so after a pretty long conversation, where I got the number of the friend (since she is actually in NY) I ejected and said I'd find them later. A little later, I ran into them again, and reengaged. at this point, Venture swooped in and started gaming the hot one. Now, I might have gotten upset that he went after the one I would have had any interest in, but the fact that a) she was flying at 8am, and b) the fact that I realized I had a lot more to gain by watching Venture, than by going for it myself, allowed me to be completely cool with it, which was smart because I learned a ton from watching Venture immediately escalate. He was holding her hand and getting very physical right in front of me, and I think they made a real connection. They were making out later in the night and her friend, who I had spent a good time talking to by then, was really into me. I took great mental notes and looked forward to implementing what I had learned in the very near future.

    Day 12 (Monday July 4th)
    We are all getting pretty tired now, with 4 late nights in a row and expecting to go out yet again tonight. Eight of us met around noon to watch an eating competition and then had a massive brunch, and then met the others for more day game. By this point, I have no problems approaching any girl I deem worthy. On the way to meet the others for day game, I see a beautiful girl with striking eyes pass by and immediately turn around to go talk to her. I lightly touch her arm to stop her and tell her that I saw her walk by (she had seen me also) and that she had such a positive energy about her, and the most beautiful eyes, that I had to come meet her. She was extremely receptive and after a brief chat, she gave me her number and said she would meet me out later that night. Nice! Proceeded to do some more day game, where I got another number, then decided to go get some rest before going out.

    We watched the fireworks from the usual rooftop bar, which was really great tonight... full of talent. I put what I learned from Venture the night before to good use, going after a super hot girl and bringing her and her friend back to our table by being very assertive and taking her by the hand. There was another guy there, who had already been hitting on her. He was 6 foot 2 and quite handsome, so I would have to run some tight game to beat him. Luckily, my fellow rockstars and instructors winged me perfectly and made it impossible for him to get near the girl, while I did my thing. Sterling was also gaming her friend, who was also very cute, and thus helping me. I got her number, made sure she had saved my name, and continued to physically escalate. At some point, the girls said they were leaving, so I will have to follow-up later. I had a lot more positive interactions that night, but mostly with girls I wasn't that into, so once I felt like I had attraction and had physically escalated to the point I felt comfortable I could get further if I wanted to, I tended to eject, as I was expecting my girl from day game to arrive later. I helped the others by winging, and opening sets, just having a good time, and eventually my girl arrived with her friend. I took them both to my place and some crazy stuff happened, that I'm not going to go into.

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    Strike…………………………..Feedback from the instructors is to open more. I have been placed on a rule to open 2 sets within 10 minutes of being in the venue. I thought I had been opening fairly consistently great to get the feedback. We got fairly drilled by the instructors

    We had our first meeting with only the Rock Stars and we discussed ways to help improve the other skills and help with each other. It is the first time we have sat down and discussed our issues as a group.

    Jake and I decided to go for on last trip around the club prior to heading home. We met a group by the pink elephant had a chat and I moved one of them downstairs. Adam helped and played interference for a guy who was orbiting the group. Thanks Adam It was on I kiss her and we made out for a while on the lounges downstairs. Her friends where shit faced……. drunk as a 100 soldiers and made it impossible for her to leave her friends since she was acting mum for the night.

    Her two drunk friends where attractive Jake had a crack at the Blonde girl for awhile but they where really had to talk to. If they saw something shiny is distracted them very hard to maintain a normal conversation.

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    Day 12 (July 4):
    Red, White, and Redcoat


    Today is the day I finally felt everything starting to click for me. We switched apartments and I'm now living with Zach and Venture . Had a fantastic brunch out with the guys and was just vibing and in a great mood all morning. The afternoon was just downright fun, was on foot patrol with Nick Hoss and felt comfortable talking to literally anyone. We also had the pleasure of witnessing a man (most likely on pcp) either doing a rain dance or the hokey pokey in the middle of Broadway...pretty freaking epic. Fourth of July might just be my favorite holiday.

    We went out to watch the fireworks as a guest of the owner at 230 5th...they were fucking amazing! NYC definitely does fireworks on the Fourth right. I also had the pleasure of introducing Venture to everyone as a British Spy. Freaking red coat! Great night again, I talked to a lot of women who were hanging around our table and ultimately ended up winging for Adam for several hours with this fun Russian psychologist. Also met 2 members of the UN (diplomats) who happened to be up on the deck. Fantastic times!

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    Sunday, July 3 (day 11/46)...as explained briefly in my previous posting, the Rockstars all had a sitdown with the instructors to discuss some issues holding back the progress of the group...ultimately there are some accountability issues within where we are not pushing ourselves and hence the group as far as we need to in order to achieve the success that they know is possible...two things happened as a result: first there were strikes given to four of the Rockstars including yours truly (three and you’re out of the program)...and two the Rockstars decided to go have an internal discussion to figure out how to fix these problems...

    This internal discussion was the first we had as a group and definitely one I see as a turning point going forward...the instructors identified some issues with Rockstar Adam (amongst issues with all of us) that we all bonded over...it was one of those times where we were all clear about our backgrounds and beliefs, which is something that both brings us together while showing how different we are...some of us have had more liberal upbringings than others and that translates to the ways we see game and ultimately the world...in that respect, we are all lucky to have the opportunity to get to know each other and share this crazy experience..all in all, there was a little bit of a bashing received by the Rockstars but in the end it was used as an opportunity for growth and we collectively are determined to help everyone become the best they can...Sunday night we headed back to 230 Fifth (our de-facto home away from home) and got back at it...I met a cute girl and ended up leaving with her shortly after which ended up being a good thing because my mind was hammered in from the long day and needed some female company...I’m not going to exaggerate and make this girl into more than she was but one thing that was comforting was my ability to close this girl so quickly...I’m going to use this as a building block to move my game forward and push myself into tougher sets knowing that is the only way to improve.

    Monday, July 4 (day 12/46)...with five weeks remaining, it is fascinating to see the growth between all of the guys’ game...the confidence that the group exudes is a testament to the strength of our instructors and the time they put into making us better people...after getting together to watch Kobayashi and the hotdog eating contest we had a massive brunch (thanks to Khan’s ordering skills) and headed into some day game...on a somewhat slower day than usual I didn’t have much in terms of results but got involved in a great set that Adam had opened with a couple fun girls..Adam hooked these girls hard and it was fun to be a part of the set.

    Back to 230 5th for the fireworks and we had a blast! With the music blaring and a great view of the fireworks, the ambiance was set for the night and the Rockstar crew took over the joint again that night...on the nights that we are on as a group, EVERYONE in the place knows who we are...our table becomes the focal point of attention and girls are coming over to talk to us and everyone else stares -- ...I had a great interaction with a Russian girl I met and physically escalated it to the point where I’d think that I’d usually get blown out but the results were staggering as she had her friend stay later into the night and we hit it off, to be continued another time..with just about everyone in the crew hooking up, I finally met up with a girl I had met the second day of day game and been playing some awesome text game (big thanks to my boy Laurent for the help)...we had a good time and I think she’s a really fun girl...it’s funny because there will always be people who read these words and have their own views about what is “right” or “wrong” whether because of the way it happens or objectifying people but at the end of the day I make that girl very happy and she does the same to me, without the help of the others here I never would have met her...the fact that she’s moving a few thousand miles away at the end of the week? an opportunity to meet someone as cool or better again!

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    Day Twelve: Monday, July 4th
    After a great night’s sleep, I woke up feeling fantastic today. It’s amazing how much of a difference that can make. The day started off fun by meeting up with the guys to watch Kobiashi eat 69 hot dogs in 10 minutes; dude gained 18 pounds in 10 minutes!

    After the hot dog competition, eight of us went to eat lunch at a Moroccan restaurant. We spend so much time doing and talking about game that it’s really relaxing when we all spend time talking about the rest of life.

    After lunch a few of us went to Union Square to practice day game. Strangely, there were very few attractive women out today but I tried to make the most of what I saw. I approached four girls today and got one number. I’ve noticed as I slowly get better at this, I find myself getting pickier. Not only have I become more selective based on their attractiveness, but I’m also getting more selective on the types of personalities I like. I think the personality thing is a great progression, but I’m not sure about the stricter physical filtering. First, stricter physical filtering means I don’t get to practice as much. Secondly, filtering too much may prevent me from meeting some really interesting people that I really would want to meet.

    While today was interesting, what happened tonight was awesome. The instructors have been pushing hard with me lately about improving my sexual intent through sub-communications and touching. This means, when I meet a girl I really like, I need to do a better job of connecting with her on a deeper level that makes her feel that our interaction is much more than just an interesting conversation. I’m excited to say that tonight I made huge progress in this area. Near the beginning of the night I walked by two tall, sexy blondes and instinctively opened them with a direct opener. From the very first moment I connected with her through periods of deep eye contact, the tone & pace of conversation, and my progressively more romantic touching.

    All these elements in unison is what the instructors have been trying to instill upon me; it was the sum of these elements that made it clear that our interaction was about much more than just interesting conversation. By the end of the night, I had a fantastic time learning about her interesting life, sharing deep personal stories, and sharing a few passionate make-outs. This was certainly the most intense, passionate night I’ve ever had with a girl I just met (despite having other same night lays before and this night didn’t even end in sex). Getting better at truly sweeping a high-quality woman (not just talking about her looks) off her feet makes the whole interaction so intense. Neither of us was drunk, we shared an awesome connection, and had some great fun along the way. I’m so lucky to be here learning all these amazing things.

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    Day 12 Mon

    It was a late night getting to bed at 4:00 am in the morning. Feeling a little bit fatigued however the best thing about day game is that it combines exercise with talking to beautiful women. I opened a really cute girl good talk I had my sunglasses on I realized and I removed them. Day game was starting to make sense we all opened a couple. It was a great experience to be in New York on the 4th of July. I did see a man eat 69 hotdogs in 10 minutes. Just turns out that he really likes them...

    We went to a really amazing Turkish restaurant with all the boys. Khan really knows his food and knows how to order. One of the culinary highlights of the trip. It was an absolute blast. I feel that we are really syncing well as a group we are all starting to get a roll on

    We went back to 230 5th for the nights festivities, it was fairly full Adam and I where speaking to a group of three when the fire works started. A little bit of a state break. I should of rang the mayor and asked to delay the fire works by 10 minutes....

    Fireworks…. Fourth of July…….. Roof Top bar with really cool people. What a night one of them special moments on the trip

    I opened a group with one dancing on a chair. I ended up moving her to our table and we had a pretty good chat she was a cutie a nice white dress and a real pretty face. She worked as a fashion designer for one of larger companies in New York had also done a little bit of modeling having her face on a billboard for Dove.

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    Day Thirteen: Tuesday, July 5th
    With such a fun experience last night, I woke up today feeling incredibly relaxed. However, one of the crazy things about Project Rockstar is there is no time to bask in the glory of our improvements; every day is an action-packed personal challenge. So on that note, it was back to our headquarters for more instruction and day game.

    While approaching girls on the street today I noticed that my ability to get attractive girls to stop and chat is getting better. I had a couple really good hooks today (I define a hook as stopping a girl and getting attraction from her) with two beautiful girls. Unfortunately both of them had boyfriends but I could just feel a bit of magnetism that makes you want to do more. I also met a beautiful girl that only had one minute to talk since she was rushing to work; I stayed relaxed, made her laugh a couple times, and got her Facebook info. For some reason she didn’t want to give her phone number but she did accept my Facebook request and we’re swapping messages; it will be interesting to see if this goes anywhere.

    Tonight we went to a beer garden in The Meatpacking District. While I got one number from a cute blonde girl, I’m most proud that I took a crack at one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen. I went balls-out direct and kept plowing trying to get enough attraction to hook. However, as I was talking to her, I wasn’t able to come up with something funny enough to get her to stay. I need to have the right body language and strong sub-communications to show girls, outside of my words, that I’m completely comfortable around them and they should feel the same. I need to give the “vibe” that I date girls like her all the time. Getting my sub-communications better would be a good step towards this.

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    Day 8 – Thursday 30/06/11
    Last night we all went to the standard beer garden. I had a great time opening and hooking a lot of sets. I did really well with a very attractive blonde girl so was quite please with my success for the night.

    Today Venture went through his mindset that he has in regard to game and how it flows through and helps all aspects. Number one; genuine love for women; everything else flows from this. Our job as a man is to take control of the situation; Venture sees the woman as a real girl, not her persona (e.g. She goes to visit her mother, has teddy bears etc); the way he explained it was great and made a lot of sense. Another very important and interesting point was to act on raw emotions/passion and be unapologetic for his desires as a man.

    We then worked on our set pieces that we can bring into every conversation to spark interest and add value, ultimately getting the woman interested. We also did some he said/she said exercises with each other. We try to do this whenever we can, to practice our creativity and responses.

    Day 9 – Friday 01/07/11
    Today we de-briefed the week. We talked through anyone’s sticking points and celebrated our successes. We have all seen some vast improvements over the past week. I am happy to see what everyone has achieved so far, although I still feel that I should be doing more and have the capacity and ability to be doing a lot better than I have been.

    We had a short day today and went home planning to go to 230 5th again tonight. The night was good; again I have had many great sets, and have been constantly increasing my physical escalation throughout my interactions (which has previously been a sticking point).

    Day 10 – Saturday 02/07/11
    Recap of previous night; instructors confirm that they are impressed with how much everyone’s skill is increasing; worlds apart from a week ago! The instructors make an important point that now we are getting a lot better, we will start to step on each other’s toes in-field unless we work out any issues between ourselves when they arise.

    We are planning to have a party at Kahn’s apartment tonight so we all go crazy texting/contacting all of the girls that we have met to invite them along this evening.

    Venture goes through touch and sexualisation; he notes that his hands never leave the woman’s body during a set, only here and there for a few seconds to spike emotions. The instructors throughout, have always been teaching us to flow through natural conversations and not rely on routines etc. We just need to find the opportunities to, relate, sexualise, etc, and follow them; throughout the process however, there should be strong sub communications to convey the real intent of the interaction, no matter what is being discussed.

    Tonight we are having the party mentioned earlier and then going out afterwards. Unfortunately we do not have as many people turn up to the party as we would have hoped, but still manage to have a good time. We go to a nightclub (Simyone Lounge) after the party with the girls that we are with. It was a great night and I learned a lot about pushing boundaries and physical escalation; pushing myself outside of my comfort zone, doing a lot more that I would have done in the past.

    Day 11 – Sunday 3/7/11
    First we de brief the previous night. This was a tough grilling by the instructors about a lot of things that we haven’t been doing which really kicks our asses back into gear. We are here to learn, not to have fun (although we should still have fun, this is not a holiday). This goes on for quite some time and leaves all of the Rockstars feeling pretty down...

    The Rockstars go to a local cafe to have a discussion about what just happened and how we are going to move forward. It was a great idea to do this; we had a very productive session talking through each other’s sticking points and goals moving forward. I was really inspired by the in depth discussion and the knowledge of everybody in the team. Well done guys.

    We went to 230 5th again tonight, it was a slow night, but we still managed to have most of the girls in the venue captivated by our group; many of them came to our table, and rarely did anyone get past without having an interaction from someone on the table.

    Day 12 – Monday 4/7/11
    July 4th! Big party today, you guessed it; at 230 5th! We changed apartments today so that we could get some time living with others in the group and see a different part of town. I moved from the Gramercy park location, into an apartment in the Upper East Side. It is a very nice apartment but the first impressions left something to be desired; we have to walk up 4 flights of very steep stairs to get to the apartment. Once we hauled all of our possessions up the stairs it wasn’t so bad.

    The atmosphere at the club this evening was amazing! Hundreds of people gathered on the rooftop to watch the fireworks in the distance. It was a surreal moment for me; from the other side of the world, celebrating Independence Day with a lot of Yankees on a rooftop, surrounded by a group of amazing people that have been my family for the past 12 days, with a huge fireworks show in the distance... Very emotional and inspiring for me. We all had a fantastic night; it really seemed like everyone was relaxed and just focussing on having fun; I think for this reason, we all seemed to do even better with all of our interactions because we were less focussed on the process and just had free-flowing conversations. An awesome night had by all I believe.

    Day 13 – Tuesday 5/7/11
    Doug Zytko came in as a mentor today to begin teaching us about leadership, motivation, and our current social landscape. He is a PhD student at New Jersey Institute of Technology, majoring in Information Systems.

    We began with an intro from Doug which was very interesting about how he has overcome adversity in his past and turned it around. We then went into discussing the first 3 personal weaknesses that came into our heads. My thoughts were as follows; always trying to fit too much into my schedule and feel bad if I am not being productive, often lack self confidence and self belief and let the detrimental voice in my head guide me, and my limiting beliefs around my home city and how I let myself slip into the ‘comfortable’ life.

    We then wrote about our strengths and strengths of the person to our left. This activity helped us learn a lot about ourselves and each other. My strengths I wrote were my intelligence and ambition. My pier on my right listed my most obvious strength as my determination to succeed by taking risks; which was very fitting and made me feel great to know that others see that in me. We also went through sticking points and why many of us are capable of so much, yet only take action when we feel it has to be taken. Also the fear of success that many of us experience and how a lot of it comes down to being comfortable where we are, and being scared of having to maintain the same level of success ongoing.

    Tonight we went to the standard beer garden again, it was a little quiet tonight, but a few of the guys seemed to do really well. I barely slept the previous night due to many factors and a bit of ‘drama’ (which I won’t go into); it really felt like my head wasn’t working due to the exhaustion. I was having trouble conversing with the other Rockstars, let alone with women. I still pushed myself into a number of sets for the practice; a couple went okay, but none are even worth noting here. It was a little disappointing, but I am not surprised at the results of the night given how I was feeling during the day. Home at around 1:00am for some much needed rest.

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    As many of the Rockstars have alluded to in their posts, July 4th was special. Seeing our table literally own the club was amazing. The team is starting to come together as a cohesive group, and because of it, the amount of positive energy coming out during out nights is pretty amazing to see.

    My boundaries of what I'm thinking are possible are being stretched by 1.) seeing these guys improve so quickly in such a short period of time, and 2.) seeing these guys pull off some seriously gangster shit.

    Keep up the good work guys. We're not even 1/3 done.

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    This is amazing how quickly the rockstars are learning, and how well they seem to be doing! Keep it up guys! I hope to be a part of this next year, good luck and keep on going!

    - Grimbo

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    Day Fourteen: Wednesday, July 6th
    Today was one of the more relaxing days. We met at our headquarters and had some interesting discussion amongst the team. It’s exciting to see everyone staring to come together. The more we get to know each other, and the more we each continue to make progress, the more momentum we seem to gain as a group. With almost five weeks left on the program, I can’t wait to see where we go from here.

    Tonight I set up a date with the Russian girl from Monday. We had a great time but she had to work at 8am the next morning and she decided to leave around 12:30am. We met at my place and I had plans to take her to a live jazz bar. However, after she showed up she mentioned that she hadn’t yet eaten. So we also grabbed food at the bar. This threw me off a bit because I had originally planned to start strong with more physical escalation but doing this while eating seems quite a bit more difficult than when you’re just drinking. Either way, once the food was finally done, and we were just drinking, things stared to pick back up. However, the pace of this just wasn’t fast enough. As I mentioned, it got pretty late and I don’t know if I could have gotten her back. Admittedly, I didn’t try that hard to get her back. I made one half-assed effort. And when she shut that down I didn’t try again. In a way I sort of felt bad for her that she had to work so early. However, in retrospect, I wish I wouldn’t have been so caught up on that and instead focused on the fun moments we were having. We were having a great time and there was clearly a fair amount of chemistry… enough chemistry that had we been in a location where sex could more realistically happen, it probably would have. However, I’m still pleased with parts of the night and I’ll try to build on this experience the next time I see her.

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    Feeling great on the morning after having 8 hours sleep and going to the gym. The exercise is really helping me to maintain focus and have higher energy during the day. I have been mainly focusing on Cardio work at the gym and have dropped a cloth size both with pants and shirts.

    We had the first mentor come through Doug and we discussed limiting beliefs and fears. Then it was onto Day Game .............. I and all the other Rockstars have got the opening down pat. We are all able to open / stop and talk to any women. It is amazing once you do it a couple of times how easy it actually is.

    I opened a seated Red Head and a Brunette girl in the middle of the Standard. Weird shit………… they where both Aussies…… I try not to talk to other Aussies when I travel. I think it is because I can talk to an Aussie girl whenever I want at home. The Brunette girl works in the HR department of the same company I had resigned from one month earlier. Who would of thought middle on New York and meet someone from Mt ISA. We took a photo so that she could show a couple of people at work what Random guy she ran into. Wow the company I used to work for has sent someone to New York to recruit me. One of them was married and the other had a boyfriend. It was fun discussion.

    Need to push it more. I feel like I am reaching a flat point of development I am thinking too much and not going with the flow. I have absorbed a shit load of information but will push through.

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    Tuesday, July 5 (day 13/46)...woke up in Hell’s Kitchen apartment and went for a nice 6mi jog on the Hudson River, after living in NYC for past 5yrs always on east side, it was my first chance to run along the west and was very enjoyable...after meeting one of our mentors the previous day we had an interesting discussion/lecture on limiting beliefs and meeting goals...while the mentor was younger than everyone else in the group, I have to say I was impressed by his speaking on many levels and got quite a bit out of the discussion...to go a little bit further into it we all wrote out on notecards some of our biggest perceived flaws, then after discussing amongst the group, our mentor told us some of the stories of his life about the tribulations he had endured which were pretty inspiring...

    Then back at day game with my boy Laurent...as we hit the street we said the recent day game mantra: the first one always hurts...then I went and hooked the first girl who went by and got her number: what was great about this encounter was two things to me >> 1) I botched my words, got confused about what I wanted to say AND she still not only stayed but engaged me...and 2) when I got back to the boys for quick high five/debrief I got props from Edgar and Laurent on how tight my body language has gotten...that was definitely the highlight of the day...

    we all metup again at the Standard Biergarten later in the night. I was quickly sent into a set with a couple unhappy (to say the least) looking girls...although I never got attraction (well maybe from one) I was able to hook and gain rapport over the course of conversation and even had these chicks laughing after few mins >> then in the words of Venture, I got up, said: “good talk, call me” and was on my way, ha! Few more interesting sets, Sterling told me that he saw my subcommunication was off (and for those of you who have seen his presentation on Attraction you will know this is the second level of the pyramid so if your base is off, well then ya got some work to do), so that is my current focus.

    Wednesday, July 6 (day 14/46)...good AM gym session, been a few days since lifting so was nice to get back and hit the weights...again with same mentor from previous day and another worthwhile talk...during day game today there was definitely some tired people out there and you could see it in their motivation to get into sets...considering we are just two weeks in, you can see the psychological toll of not only being out day and night everyday but also of processing all the information we are taking in both during lecture and out

    so I had a date setup with the girl who had met me out the other night and then she throws curveball that she’s bringing a friend >> WTF!?!? well I misplayed this one, obviously I wasn’t going to go into this solo so I brought my boy Jake who I will get to -- but in reality the right move was to set a boundary (AS A MAN) and say this night is about me and you, if you want to be with your friends then I’ll see you another night...so Jake and I meet up with these two girls..after 1.5hrs or so we go for venue change and halfway there some story comes up that one of their friends is upset, blah blah blah and they leave with intention of coming to meet back up...knowing that’s not going to happen we decide to go hit up a local club where we quickly head right in...little clunky at first but we spark some good attraction and bounce these three girls over to another venue...all in all there were some logistical roadblocks and nothing much came of it.

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    Jake's Rockstar Journal - Entry 3

    Day 14 – Wednesday 06/07/11

    Today we hit the gym early. Edgar and I jogged to the gym from our new location which was great to get us going, but the use of my energy meant that my weight routine suffered a little. Still a great workout though.

    We had a relatively short day today. Doug went through social technology and creating impressions online. We then had a talk from Venture about creating rules to live by that will create our reality. I am still to write my rules, but will post them once I have.

    One of the other Rockstars and I went on a double date tonight. It was going really well, with both of us doing a great job of banter between the group. Unfortunately the girl’s roommate called as we were bouncing to another bar, and they had to leave to see her. So we decided to go to another bar and see what we could strike up. We met a nice group and began talking to them; it seemed a bit tough for around 5 minutes, but then I recognised that the set hooked and we were quite welcome within the group. We then bounced to another night club for a while; they were leaving in the morning aside from one of them. Zach got her number before we left so that we could invite her to our party next weekend.

    Day 15 – Thursday 07/07/11

    Today we had Big Business come in to teach his seminar on humour/comedy/improvisation. We all had a great day; there really was some awesome information and techniques to get our minds moving and thinking about how to be comedic/witty in any situation.

    Big Business went through his 7 themes to focus on; 1. Creating unique experiences, 2. Being Challenging, 3. Controlling emotional states, 4. Setting protector frame, 5. Social calibration, 6. Using the expectation, and 7. Having fun. He then went through his tools for humour/improve; 1. Heightening, 2. Yes, And, 3. Ridiculous statements, 4. Role Plays, 5. Call backs, 6. Finding the weird thing. One of the best pieces of information that I got form the day was; Never say in a paragraph what you can say in a sentence, never say in a sentence what you can say in a word, and never say in a word what you can say with a look. We went through different types of disqualification in depth, storytelling, phone and text game, pattern building, games, omg moments, qualification questions, and common humour mistakes. I realise a lot of this won’t make sense to many of you reading, there is no way I could explain it all unfortunately; I suggest getting as much information on Big Businesses techniques as you can get your hands on, because it really is great stuff, and will go a long way.

    It was a great day for all of us in terms of Big Business’ seminar, and we and the day by going to get dinner together at a nice place nearby. We have a night off tonight which is needed by many of us. I am currently catching up on work/emails etc. It feels good to be catching up with external requirements; it allows me to focus more on what we are doing. After all, it is only 6.5 weeks to change our lives; surely worth the dedication.

    I am now (tonight) going to focus on creating my rules, and summarising the experience so far to myself.

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    Day Fifteen: Wednesday, July 7th
    Instead of writing the sum of today’s events and progress, I thought I’d take a different approach. I came on this Project Rockstar journey with the intention of significantly changing my life. Now that I’ve been in New York City for two weeks, I see an opportunity to do just that. Our lead instructor, Venture, has been encouraging us to set simple “Rules to Live By”. These rules can relate to any aspect of our lives but they must be objectives that are realistic and do not depend on other people. The reason that it’s taken me so long to come up with my rules is I want them to truly, deeply mean something to me. I want them to inspire and drive me to better myself in ways that will make the largest impact on my life and the lives of others.

    After much thought, I’ve settled on the following two rules that will be in effect for at least the next week:

    Rule One: I will approach every girl that I’m attracted to. The only 5 exceptions are:
    - She’s with what clearly looks like her boyfriend
    - She’s on her cell phone
    - It would be too physically dangerous to get to her
    - I’m with a girl I’m talking to
    - One of my friends is already trying to talk to her

    Rule Two: In every one of these interactions, where I have at least 30 seconds, one of the following three things WILL happen:
    - Get at least a phone number
    - Genuinely decide that her and I wouldn’t be a good fit
    - Get turned down by her

    The most important thing about these rules is that I DO NOT CARE ABOUT THE RESULTS. My objective here is to build a habit of approaching any amazing woman, anywhere. I believe that most men’s biggest sticking point is that they simply do not practice enough. I’m lucky to be in a position where nothing is of higher priority in the next four weeks than meeting women. I will fix this sticking point. I will address my fear of rejection by boldly staring it in the face. Let my life’s greatest challenge to date begin.

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    Day 10 (Sat)
    I just had my second SNL of Project Rockstar and I closed it within an hour and a half of meeting the girl I met her at the party that we threw at Khan’s place. She was a cute blonde girl from Texas. Within the first 30 minutes of being with her, she told me about her wanting to have sex with her fellow student in her musical theatre class. I laid down sexual intent really early with her, and kept escalating until we were making out heavily on the couch. The one thing that was pointed out to me by Sterling from the previous night was that I didn't have enough sense of intimacy. So when I talked to her tonight, I kept picturing her as a sweet, vulnerable little girl (which she was) that I wanted to cuddle into my arms, and that led to me being more dominant in set, and that led to a SNL with her (which is exactly what Venture was talking about when he was talking about a love for women that helps in his dominance). It certainly didn't hurt that she turned out to be a very sexually open woman. After being set with her for over an hour, and sexualizing the conversation I could tell that she was ready, and so we took a taxi to my apartment.

    Huge Aha moments from tonight:
    - introducing a sense of intimacy and closeness to my game - viewing her not as a target for the night, but as a sweet, vulnerable little girl that I wanted to take care of (which results in dominance in set)
    - sexualization throughout (which I knew in theory, but really hadn't put into practice completely until then). I started it by saying how cute she was and then pull her in close. And then later I would say how sexy she was, and then do a huge takeaway, and then pull her in even closer.
    - an inner belief that I do not judge a girl if she sleeps with me on the first night. I know for a fact that they can be amazing girls, while still sleeping with me on the first night.

    Day 11 (Sun)
    We were ripped apart by the instructors today, and while I didn’t get much flak, we are all part of a team. And any criticism anyone gets is on all of us. It is up to us to push and motivate, and look out for each other.

    We went back to 230 Fifth again, it was a fairly quiet night, so I didn’t end up approaching as many as I would have wanted, but I did wing a decent amount for the guys, and my longest set winging was for Bullet, which he later complimented me on. Through this experience, I realized one thing about winging, and that is I had to be more conservative than I normally would. If I am not attracted to her, then everything I do is basically verbal. And if I am attracted to her, then I can physically escalate, but never push the boundaries too far as to run the risk of blowing up the set for my buddy.

    At around 1.30am, I got a text message from the Texas girl that I hooked up with the night before. She had wanted me to go help her hit on another girl (my girl was bi-sexual!) that she knew, a cute brunette from Boston. This would be my first opportunity to try out my newfound skills in setting up a threesome!

    I jumped into a taxi and met up with them at a local bar on the west side. I kissed Texas and immediately sat in between them. I turned to my girl, and told her, I’m going to start hitting on your friend now…and she started nodding. I had my arms around both girls the entire time, and when Texas left to go smoke a cigarette, I started heavily flirting with Boston. Within minutes, we were kissing and that is when I thought that I had a serious chance at this.

    After one drink at this bar, I suggested that we bounce to a lounge close to my apartment. While we were in the backseat of the taxi, I was sitting on one-side, Texas was on the other side, and Boston was sitting in the middle. Within minutes of being in the taxi, I was making out with Boston, and pretty soon had her tube top down. Now I was thinking this was going to happen. I told the taxi driver to go to my place instead of the lounge, I figured that since Boston was already in such a sexual stage, there was no reason to wait any longer. However, once we got to the front steps of the building, Boston didn’t want to go in, and then Texas didn’t want to go in either. So instead, we went to the nearby lounge, and I was hoping that another one or two rounds of alcohol might help things. However, once we got there, Boston started talking to other people at the bar and left me and Texas alone. I think Boston got freaked out about the threesome (she had never been with a girl before), and took the opportunity to talk to other people at the lounge.

    I ended the night with Texas again, but the threesome was not to be.

    This was my first time trying to set up a threesome. While it didn’t work out, it was fun and was a great experience!

    Day 12 (Mon – 4th of July)
    4th of July party! Tonight was a blast! We had a table at 230 Fifth and there were lots of beautiful women there. The entire team was on fire, at one point, I looked around, and every guy had a beautiful woman next to him. Social proof at its best! My game has improved significantly. I still give off a little too much of the nice guy/friend vibe, but I'm going to keep working on . I had a few good sets today, including this really cute girl who was at the club because some guy invited her and her girlfriend there and paid for a table (poor guy). I flirted with her as she was heading back to her table. She was having so much fun with me that she was pushing me to take down her number and call her.

    I spent the rest of the night winging for my boys. I winged for Jake. And then left the club to wing for Nick Hoss. He was with a girl that was into him. We tried bouncing them to Spitzers, but it was already closed at that time (around 4am), so we all went over to Khan’s place. Once we got there, I saw that Khan was with two girls. I tried helping him out a little. By the time I left, it was already 5am and I was ready for bed…

    Day 13 (Tue)
    We were all exhausted today after last night’s party.

    I did open up a cute girl on the subway on the way home. Although I ran terrible game (I was exhausted and ready to take a nap), and I didn’t think she would give me her number, I went ahead and asked for it anyway. And she gave it to me! Goes to show that it is always worth trying.

    After a nap, we went back to the Beer Garden, it was a fairly quiet night, so there were more people sitting down. I hit it off with my girl, and pushed it as far as I could the rest of the night. I was able to build up attraction but because she was a 21 year old nursing student, I felt that I had a difficult time finding things to talk to her about. That basically ended my night…and I was ready to go to bed.

    Day 14 (Wed)
    Day…I was on day-game fire today. On my way to Khan’s place, I had three numbers, including a Russian model that I met in the subway! The first was an accountant that I saw on the street in midtown. I approached her and told her how beautiful I thought she looked. We engaged in a short conversation about what she did and what I was doing in NYC. She had to run, but said she would be interested in meeting me for coffee sometime and gave me her business card.

    The second day-game set the Russian model that I saw on the platform of the subway station at Times Square. She was a tall brunette. So was looking kinda bored, so I went in, and she instantly stood up more and smiled. We chatted about what she did in NYC (model part time, attending fashion school), and I threw in about my travels and that I was in NYC with friends from all around the world. She didn’t show very strong interest, but I kept at it and asked her for her number before I got off the train. She was hesitant to give her number to me at the beginning, but I kept pushing and managed to number close her. I knew this was a long fuse, but I thought I would just possibly invite her out to a party at some point.

    The third set was a cute blonde German girl who was visiting NYC for a few days. I opened her almost immediately after I got off the train at Union Square as I was waiting for my next train. I told her how much I loved her sense of style, and that opened up the conversation. This was a girl that I felt I hooked harder because of our shared experiences for travel and because of her strong sense of adventure. She didn’t have a US cellphone, but she did give me her email address, and she sent herself an email from my phone just to make sure that she had my email as well.


    Night…I wish my night game was better. We went back to the Beer Garden again tonight, and I struggled.

    Day 15 (Thur)
    Today we had Big Business (a professional standup comedian ) come in to teach us about incorporating humor into our pick-up. Wow! He just introduced a whole other set of skills that can improve our game tremendously. I especially liked the concept of heightening, which can be easy to incorporate into sets once you know how to do it. One of my big issues is that for some women (especially younger women), I have a difficult time building attraction strong enough early. And I think humor is going to help me out significantly with this. It was a lot of information, and I will have to work to incorporate what I've just learned into my routine and conversation pieces, but once I can do that, I’m sure my game will move up to the next level.

    I thought that we could get more instruction about our stand-up performance for next week, but we didn’t really get anything. He basically told us that we were going to suck, but it is going to be fun and a great experience!

    In the evening, Adam and I got together for coffee, we got together initially to talk about setting rules. He has created this rule that he thought was useful. I thought it was too detailed and complicated, rules to me should be simple. We talked about a lot of other things too, like what I've learned throughout my travels, and what was going through my mind when I left my job. I closed out the evening by approaching a girl sitting next to us, who had just moved to NYC to work in ecology. Engaging her in conversation and getting her number was so easy, it was like I knew she would give it to me 30 seconds into the conversation. The confidence that I had to go talk to her, and then to pull up a chair to sit next to her was attraction enough, and I knew my stories about travel would hook her in. All this in just 2 weeks! Can't wait to see where my game will take me over the next 4.5 weeks...I now that by the end of Project Rockstar, I will have the ability to date some incredible women!

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    Day 13 (July 5):
    The Day After Tomorrow


    Interesting day overall, we had some strong teambuilding activities with the group talking about how we turn perceived weakness into strengths. It was with our first business mentor and I believe will be good for my thought processes. I'm starting to really get into the flow at the gym, I want to keep this routine up. I'm just about in the best shape of my life.

    Im having a lot of personal growth, finding some inner conflicts in terms of this program and my life back home. Time for some meditation

    Tonight we went out to the beer garden at the standard and I really enjoyed myself. Ended up talking to a professional musician who was about to leave on tour. She was literally badass, one of those people you meet and they have some kind of crazy energy about them.

    I'm going to be out of town for a wedding I'm in this weekend. It'll be great to have some time to review my notes and digest things. I'll be back Sunday evening and ready to rumble next week!

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    Day 14 WED

    The mentor Doug gave a small seminar about Leadership and social technology. The social technology section gave some great tips to manage the way you are perceived online.

    Back to the Standard for some more fun.

    I felt intimated by the first set. A tall blonde lady greater than 6 foot. Edgar was with me and he told me to go open her. My initial reaction was no I can’t. I was internally thinking that she would not be interested. I realized that this was a limiting belief and new I had to open this set.

    The interaction went well had some fun. I told her that she didn’t look like a New Yorker she had more of a country vibe to her. She asked why, I said you look like the type of person that has a tattoo of Garth Brooks on you ass. She said " I don't know if I want to hug you or slap you". I opted for the hug, which ended up being half hug half headlock. I found out that she used to be a professional beach volleyball player. I related this to the famous Australian player Nicole Sanderson and the Cooke lady. The conversation drew dead and I didn’t even try to escalate on her.

    Bullet watched me in set and showed me not to follow women when that pull away. Need to open up and pull back. It is an indicator of neediness when you keep engaging and move forward. Great tip.

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    Day 13, Tuesday July 5th:
    This was the most relaxed day so far, which is good because I think we all needed a bit of a rest after so many late nights. We had a mentor (Doug) come in and talk to us about turning perceived weaknesses into strengths, and then we did some light day game. One thing I want to convey is that throughout this whole time, the guys are just hanging out and bonding, having a great time together. Everyone is supportive of each other and there is no mean spirited competitiveness, which is pretty rare, I think. Everyone celebrates the victories of the other members and tries to use it as a springboard to propel them further, instead of trying to drag them down. I'd imagine that if a stranger to the attraction forums, especially a girl, might read these blogs and be appalled, but the reality is that this is a really good group of guys that all want to give back something positive to the world,, trying to get better with women. If there is a guy out there that doesn't think it's important to be good with women, I'd be interested to meet him.

    Some people went out to the standard, while others had a date and got to do their own thing. I was seeing the girl from the previous day again, and we had a really pleasant time getting to know each other. I actually really like this girl. She is smart, beautiful, well traveled and extremely chill. I try not to get physical with her, as I perceive this will work better for me in the long-run, due to her conservative background. I think it was the right call and she wants to see e again the next day. Good times.

    Day 14,Wednesday July 6th:
    A little more from Doug today, followed by more hanging out and discussing how to get better amongst ourselves. Venture takes the lead and asks us all to say what we admire most about the guy to their left, which is a great team-building exercise. We do a little bit of day game, and then similar to the day before, some go on dates and some go out. I'm meeting the same girl again, and we go out to 1Oak together, where I will also meet Venture and Nick Hoss. I'm getting a long great with my girl, which is great, but also restricts me from the awesome crowd at the club. Nice problem to have, I guess. We bounce around 2am and go to another club, Travertine, and then she comes back to my place and spends the night (no hanky panky though). She wants to hang out the next day also... this is going to be tough, as I already have 2 dates set up tomorrow.

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    Day Sixteen: Friday, July 8th
    Day one of the new rules. I wish I could say it was everything I hoped it’d be but I’d be lying. Despite entering the day with a great attitude, I struggled a bit pulling the trigger. I kept seeing decent looking women and debating whether they were hot enough to approach. After going through this exercise during the day it carried forward into the night a little as well.

    However, when I was talking with the instructors about this they had some fantastic advice. Both Venture and Sterling made some great points about how I can’t think too far ahead about how physically attracted I am to a girl before I talk with her. You never know what type of personality you’re going to find in a girl until you talk to her. This is not all about just hooking up with hot women. While I’ve almost always carried myself like this during the day, this was a new perspective at night. I’ve always felt that I couldn’t really get to know a girl at night so why trying. However, after watching the instructors in action at night clubs, I know that this was a limiting belief. The instructors routinely get into meaningful conversations with attractive women at clubs. If they can do, so can I.

    Tonight the group split into two groups. One group went to a place in the Meatpacking District. Our group went to a new club in midtown. The night started at a rooftop party. I started well by having good conversation with a few different girls. The first set was seated and there was one extra seat. One sign that I’ve come a long way is I simply walked over, opened the group, and sat down. It’s amazing how welcoming people can be when you talk to them warmly, with confidence, and the proper energy level. After sitting down I had enough momentum that I had two cute girls, one on each side of me, practically fighting for my attention. From there we left for the club. The club didn’t have too many hot women and it was super loud… a tough combination. For most of the night I was pretty in my head but I did push myself into several sets. However, I just wasn’t getting any strong attraction. With such loud music, conversation was really choppy and I continually failed to connect. I really need to push myself in environments like these that make me the most uncomfortable. My plan for tomorrow night is to really focus on my energy, body language, early touching. This is an area I really need to improve on.

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    Thursday, July 7 (day 15/46)...only had time for quick run in the AM because we had the honor of taking Big Business’ Comedy seminar today...after attending his show the week before I had high hopes and boy did he deliver on all accounts...having now had the opportunity to meet nearly a dozen instructors and AC’s in LS, it is incredible to see the versatility and uniqueness of each of these guys...Big Business certainly takes it to a whole nother level...with his background as a comedian, the guy is naturally HILARIOUS which makes him awesome to be around because he cracks you up but his true genius is in his ability to teach others...this seminar brought out so many new ideas to game that I’ve never been introduced to in the past...first he explained some of the different types of humor that are applicable to game

    note the importance of the applicable to game element because a big mistake alot of guys do is allow themselves to be made into the clown..what I really liked about Big Business’ seminar was that next we went over the tools for implementing these humor devices -- and when I say tools, we downright went out over the process for using these as he explained them and then through exercises, this was extremely helpful...later another thing we went over was Big Business’ tools for when you have nothing to say...it was kind of funny because he asked us: do you guys ever run out of things to say? it sounded like he expected us to say “no” since we’ve been in Rockstar training for a couple weeks, but everyone resoundingly agreed that we have issues, and he had seven great ways to gain time and respond so that conversations continue going on...personally I’d recommend this seminar to anyone interested just to hear Big Business speak because the guy is absolutely hilarious but he teaches so much more that you cannot find anywhere else, seriously if you get the chance, go!

    Now in terms of the rest of the day, we had an optional out night (our first optional one) and I decided to go out as most of the instructors were going out and with most of the Rockstars using the night to rest up, I thought it’d be a good chance to get some personalized attention, well, that didn’t quite happen...we went to the Standard Beergarden again and it was hopping on a Thursday night, unfortunately that meant a 20-30mins line and that I was the first one there...as I went in on low momentum and got blown out of my first three sets I lost a ton of confidence and decided to leave as nobody was in yet...it’s tough to explain all of the emotions that ran through my mind as I walked home: depressed, angry, confused, lost, definitely lost...funny because I just didn’t trust my game and didn’t have confidence in where to take it and in reality it wasn’t the three sets that blew me out, it was myself who blew me out...

    I walked home trying to think about it (and take my time as Venture thought he had a night home alone with his girl so wanted to give him some space) and the thing that kept sticking out to me was that I am NOT having fun...well not in the sense that I wasn’t at the moment and that was all that counted, Laurent had warned me about these times (I can’t overstate the importance of having a Rockstar grad along for the ride) and I knew that the only way this would work is to have FUN...so although I didn’t have fun that night and was severely disappointed in myself, I promised myself I would work with that as my guiding principal going forward...also worth noting is the disappointment I feel in letting the instructors down: these guys are working for FREE so we all know the way to thank them is by being successful, so letting these guys down really hurts, I promise myself I will use this as a learning experience to grow and be a better person.

    Friday, July 8 (day 16/46)...so I woke up still a little down from the night before, it’s strange to explain to someone who hasn’t experienced this but we live and breathe game: we study game, we do game, we talk game, we sleep game; it’s just what we do...I wish it was one smooth upward curve this learning experience but there are setbacks and when your current existence is judged by it, then it wounds the psyche when you deal with these, especially if you allow the outcomes with women to affect you...back to Friday, hit the gym and got a good workout in to get us started...then we had an AWESOME mentor come in for the day..it was really applicable to things I’m looking to do as this guy has experience with some of the biggest startups to come out of Silicon Valley and his knowledge is vast to say the least, we were all in awe listening to him and we couldn’t have asked for more out of him, great dude...then came the harder part of the day as we sat

    down with the instructors to have a 2wk review: the big thing that came out was what we called the “second week blues”...it’s true that basically everyone had huge gains the first week and the second week the growth had definitely slowed from these exponential levels which stalled us as well as the toll of going out everynight...my personal response when the instructors asked what I thought was hindering my growth was my inability to maintain or hit “state” on a consistent basis...the instructors all agreed that I was pursuing an unsustainable target as “state” first of all really doesn’t exist and often times you don’t go out with it and have to find it, so not having it isn’t something you can expect...

    Sterling then gave us four rules to help us stop “thinking” as I recall they were: 1) trust your game (something I had struggled with the previous day); 2) FEEL the attraction (i.e. love the girl, feel it, don’t fake it); 3) feel the ATTRACTION (i.e. know when you’ve gotten attraction and don’t overdo it just for the sake of attraction, normal/organic conversation is not only ok but normal); and, 4) focus on your subcommunications...I chose to write those out because when you can focus on those four things, you don’t worry...I have to say this talk was very helpful to get me in the right mindset...

    One other part of our afternoon session was me hitting on Venture: to say it was awkward would be a gross, understatement but through it, he was able to give me a ton of insight...at the top of the list was: stop thinking, stop trying to do routines and be contrived because it comes off that way very quickly..this guy is a subcommunication expert, a part of his game this is highly underappreciated...as an SNL maestro, most misinterpret his actions as incredible dominant when in reality there are only undertones of dominance which is really driven by intense sensuality and his love for women...I have to say before we went out I was processing a ton of info but thanks to Venture I was able to settle it down and pull it together and have a great night...

    we hit 3 different venues in meatpacking and I opened every single hot girl in all three spots, I was able to spark some serious attraction but most importantly I was having fun which allowed me to steer the conversations in the directions that I wanted them to go...I have such a long ways to go but these nights go such a long way towards my growth because they make me WANT to grow which is most important to getting there...special thanks to all the instructors especially Venture, Sterling, Trigger, Joe and my main jambroni Nick Hoss for making it a successful day.

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    Day 15 Thu

    Looking forward to the Comedy and Improvisation seminar from Big Business. My energy levels during the day have been great I put it down to only drinking 2-3 drinks per night, exercising in the morning and approaching women from waking up to sleeping. I have been sticking very close to the exercise requirment’s with two of my new life rules of exercising four times a week and eating limited amounts of refined sugar and white carbohydrates.

    Improv and Comedy Seminar was awesome…… Big Business is one funny guy. Even though I had read a lot of improv and comedy material before this seminar had some really great exercises and techniques. And since I am a little bit of a smart arse they resonated quite well with me. There was at least 12 techniques to insert humour I really like Yes and, however the Heightening technique is a hell of a lot of fun. The disqualifications techniques are really good and I have started to use these straight away. I was having difficulty with congruent sexualisation but it is soooo much easier to fly under the radar and be playful with humor. One thing also taught that I want to try is to create unique experiences. This seems to be very powerful for call back and rapport building.

    Venture gave us the night off to do something normal. I don't know what normal is anymore. I am defining a new reality for myself. Soooo….. I ended up at the standard bar again. Had a really great night talked to a couple of sets but most of all I had a fun night. I just went with the flow made stuff on the fly and was not concerned about the outcome of the interaction. I had some feedback from Trigger that I need to relax and not feel so rigid, physically relax. I cannot pass up the opportunity go out with so many instructors.

    I had one main set for the night with an accountant from Scotland. She was a pretty cool girl and locked me in my buying me a drink. I lent in she pulled back and said we need to get another drink. I sort of fucked up the interaction by being stubborn and not giving in to her demands to go to the bar and get another drink. Never get in the way of a Scot and alcohol.

    Later on that night Number closed a Blond Jersey girl

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    Day 17 of 46: Friday, July 9th
    I had a lot of fun during day game today. Not only did I get a few numbers, but I also approached a lot of girls in a lot of interesting situations. I opened groups as large as 5. I opened hot girls that had guys with them. I really went for it today and it felt great. My favorite instance was a Hispanic girl with short ripped jeans and a yellow tank top. She had an absolutely smoking body. I saw her buying a necklace at one of the street vendors and I knew I HAD to talk to her. It kinda sucked though because I actually had to wait for about 5 minutes for her to finish buying and start walking. However, without hesitation I opened her and proceeded to have a really good 10 minute conversation. Not only did I get her number, but we also starting making plans for going out tonight as well. She said she had a friend in town and was looking to have some fun tonight. Money!

    Tonight we went to our Favorite spot, 230 Fifth, and had another good night. I started out on fire, opening every set in sight and getting almost all of them really into the conversation. I pulled two numbers really early in the night but I didn’t want to spend my whole night with them since I feel like I still have so much practice to do. My favorite of the night, however, was one where I didn’t get a phone number. Venture told me to approach and I dove straight in. The great part about this is how much improvement I showed over the previous night.

    The previous night my attraction sucked and I just wasn’t thinking up fun things to talk about. Tonight, however, I actually had a couple solid moments with this group and it was all a result of a couple hours of practice that Matt and I put in on He Said / She Said. For those of you that aren't familiar, He Said / She Said, is where you pair up with a friend and you actually write down an opener, then your friend responds as the girl, then you respond to her and so on. This has proven to be a fantastic practice exercise, especially for the first 5 minutes of the conversation. When you’re actually in the moment in the club, you can’t be consciously thinking about what to say next; what you say needs to instinctively pop up. Thanks instructor team for pushing us so hard to practice these!

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    Day 16 Fri

    One of the aspects of Project Rockstar that is sometimes overlooked is the Business Mentoring. It is not all Day Game, Night Game and Text Game……. Maybe 85% . Today’s topic was Tech Company startups delivered from a guy who had worked with Google and Amazon and who current consults to budding entrepreneurs and assists with Tech Company startups.

    It never fails to impress the in-depth understanding and learning opportunities when you have an industry expert lecture. What was covered in the four hours I would not be able to research and find out within 4 months. I definitely have some ideas that I will be progressing through the model and methods shown.

    675………. They where playing some good music when we walked in - Smashing Pumpkins, this automatically put me in a high state. When you first walk down the stairs of the bar it looks like an old medieval wine cellar I was half expecting to see some vampires hanging from the walls had a sort of gothic look. We had split into two groups tonight we had a good crew and was looking forward to working with Venture, Joe, Sterling, Trigger and Nick Hoss. I had been working on some techniques from Big Businesses workshop I wanted to Implement so in the first set I went for it.

    Me: Hey you’re cute I hope you interesting
    Her: Thanks where are your from
    Me: Alabama
    Her: Hmm Ok
    Me: (Look at her like she is a retard)..... Australia
    Her: Smile, What are you doing in New York
    Me: I am working on a Australian film project
    Her: Ok that sound cool
    Me: The film is called Crocodile Dundee 10
    Her: Ok
    (Not sure she is getting the joke)
    Me: Yeah I have one of the lead roles
    Her: What are you playing
    Me: I get to play the albino, aboriginal crocodile
    Her: Wow that sounds cool
    (Hmm Ok)
    Me: I recently did a project management course and there is a two question personality test. From these two questions you can narrow down the profession of a person.
    Her: Ok sounds like fun.
    From the interaction I find out she is a Lawyer, prefers to help people, however really wanted to be a fashion designer. In between jobs, I related since I left my job
    Me: I going to make you my girlfriend for the next 5 minutes
    (Went on for another couple of minutes)

    Went to wing for Zac, it was fun half way through he changed girls since I am his wing I ran with it. Smooth move the girl he was talking to had a boyfriend of four years. We had a fun conversation and I started to escalate. Didn’t realize the boyfriend was in the club…. He walked up a little concerned… we where just having fun.

    Winged for Zac again with two cute girls at the bar. It started to hook going really well until………………………… Cockblock Man appeared from nowhere subconsciously projecting his motto…….” If I’m not getting laid then nooo one is ha…..ha……haaaa”

    To the Standard one really fun set with a 5th Grade Teacher and her friend "misses Know it all" (she was pretty smart). Actually these two still owe me a hundred dollars which they lost in a bet. She was crazy for times tables.

    Opened a couple of more sets through the night. Feedback from Sterling was to have more feeling when talking to girls and escalating. Currently going through the steps. I need to loosen up more.

    Sterling did pull off a gangster move when we went back to 675. A cute girl was locked in standing up 2 down in the middle of the table. There was no way to physically move past to talk to her. So he walks to the middle of the table… Puts his arm out to her and motions her to come forward, grabs her hand and pulls her out of the table. Nice work great effort to show that no girl is unattainable.

    It really frustrates when I cannot immediately implement the instructors suggestions / guidance.

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    Day 18 of 46: Sunday, July 10th
    After a busy couple days, today was a bit slower. It’s strange how after a day like yesterday where I approached almost every attractive girl I saw (probably at least 20-30 approaches) I can have a day like today where approached less than 5. First I didn’t see as many cute girls, but second, today it felt like we were always doing something else and I used the excuse that “we are too busy to talk to her right now.” I realize that’s absolute garbage but somehow in the moment it seems like the right answer. I have to constantly remind myself that I’m here to improve my skills with women. Therefore, meeting women must always be the priority. I look forward to doing much better in the number of women I approach today.

    Today, my feedback from Venture and Sterling was that I need to make a deeper non-verbal connection with the women I meet, especially the very attractive ones that I desire. While I am doing significantly more touching when I first meet a girl than I used to, they’re helping me realize that not only do I need to do more, but I also need to do it in a softer, more fluid way. It was actually quite humorous how we were practicing this. We were in Central Park with about 9 guys and 1 girl (an attractive girl Venture brought out) all standing in a small circle. Then one of us would go in the middle and practice physically escalating, usually on one of the instructors. The people around us must have been staring and wondering WTF. Haha, luckily by the time it was my turn Venture let me practice it on the girl he brought which relieved most of the weirdness. However, the fact that I still have a lot of improvement needed in this area, it still made for some awkwardness doing this in front of the group.

    Tonight I had a second date with the Russian girl I met on July 4th. I agreed to head to her neck of the woods (Brooklyn) to hang out. Her roommate was out of town so I assumed we would spend some time at her place. However, when she picked me up from the train stop she had other plans. She took me to a pier on the water where we walked around for a while holding hands and telling stories. Then we went to a romantic little Russian restaurant (her favorite) where I got to eat Octopus for the first time. But more importantly than what we did, I feel like we also really started connecting on a deeper level. After a few spirited make outs that I had to force myself to stop, she had to drop me back off at the train station because she had already setup a party with her girlfriends for later that night and she had to go home and get ready. While I was pretty disappointed that we couldn’t take things further (I think it was pretty clear we both wanted to by the time I had to leave) I enjoyed the night none-the-less. However, I will not make this mistake again the next time I see her. I’m going to make sure that the next time she comes over she’s prepared to stay, and doesn’t have work the next day, so we don’t have to continue to cut things short.

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    How Rockstar played a part in me becoming an instructor with LS

    Nowadays, most of our instructors are recruited out of boot camp or Project Rockstar. They are bang-up guys who can help out current instructors and who are willing to volunteer A LOT of their time in the process. I had to take the longgg route to becoming an instructor, and if it wasn’t for Project Rockstar, I likely wouldn’t have become one.

    I took a boot camp nearly three years ago with Tenmagnet. Watching the guy do demos was great and I somehow correlated that if I could get to the skill level of an instructor, I would be a true ladies’ man, or something along those lines. This wasn’t exactly the smartest belief, nor is it true, but hey, “beliefs don’t have to be true to be effective.”

    I went out, mostly by myself, for eight months before another college summer would hit. I’d seen success and was scared to lose the skills I’d amassed, so I moved to the city where I could continue to go out. There I met quite the cornucopia of guys who were into this stuff, most being awful at it. I was actually quite shocked at where I fit into the hierarchy. I ended up being the room mate of a guy who ran a local little company, learned a ton from him and tagged along when he taught. We went out six nights per week like the Rockstars are now, except during the day I’d run a chainsaw in a lumber yard, crashing every lunch break after running on only four hours of sleep per night. I had no life at this point between the bars and cutting laminated beams, but it was necessary.

    I also was pulling my hair out trying to get good at this stuff. Actually, that’s inaccurate. I was pulling my hair out trying to get GREAT at this stuff (and I still am). Getting good/being average isn’t that hard. During this summer, I applied to Project Rockstar for the first time and didn’t hear back from Mr. M. Looking back at my application, I had little to offer. “Hi, I’m in college. I used to be an athlete. I’m too young to be of value but this is my best shot.”

    After that summer, I saw that becoming an instructor was really not hard, but becoming a Love Systems instructor was VERY hard. That’s why there are tons of little companies running around—it’s very hard to get on with LS because are tops in this industry.

    I went back to school, kept improving and took a 1 on 1 the following spring. The 1 on 1 really got me started in day game and also took my night game to a new level. I also met my wingman and very good friend, Leonhart, around this time. He had just taken a day game workshop and Jeremy Soul had asked him to come back and help on the next one. In the meantime, I moved to a different city for summer, buddied up with an instructor from another local company at night and learned a lot of "natural" stuff. I also went out five days per week for three each day by myself learning to day game from a few articles I'd read online. I had also applied for Project Rockstar again but very late. This time, however, I had a very solid application.

    I knew Jeremy would be looking over the applications, so I checked out his blog and the books he was reading at the time. I also studied up a few of his articles in the Lounge and read over the previous Rockstars’ journals to see what kind of guys they were. In turn, the application I concocted was not only true but also framed specifically for Jeremy. Within a couple of days of it, Jeremy got back to me and said I would have been a great candidate if I had gotten it in a week earlier.

    Getting back to Leonhart… Interestingly, Jeremy had asked Leonhart to come help out on his next day game workshop, so Leonhart and I, now the most bosom of buddies, meticulously planned a way to suggest I help out on the workshop. Long story short, the tipping point in Jeremy letting me come along was that he remembered me from my Project Rockstar application. I knew that it was my shot and I truly believed I was ready for it after going out for years with guys better than me.

    In the end, the workshop went exceedingly well, I got asked back to volunteer again, and a year later, I became an instructor on Project Rockstar this year.

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    Weekend of July 6 - 10:
    Wedding Bells Are Ringing


    I'm now back in Rockstar land and wanted to write up a blog post to summarize my weekend away. I had the bittersweet pleasure of leaving the guys for the weekend to attend one of my best friend's weddings. I was in the wedding, so arrived Thursday to catch up with the groom as we were sharing a room together until the big day. I was reminded about man's motivation to find a passionate lover over the weekend, as I saw many highs and lows from a variety of different marriages. My friend is marrying and amazing woman, and I know the two of them will be incredibly happy together. I also witnessed a few of the very unhappy marriages amongst my friends and knew that the guys there had settled and while they may not directly regret the decision to get married, I know how happy they used to be. It reminded me that when I want to get married, I want it to be with someone who motivates me to be a happier, better person - I want a better half.

    So the wedding itself and the weekend as a whole was an absolute blast. I was worried to see how these past two weeks would change my interactions and honestly, I acted as the man I want to be in life. It was fucking incredible. I was confident talking to people who had intimidated me in the past, I went and danced with everyone I wanted to and had several friends remarking at how impressed they were with me. By the end of the night, the mother of the groom was trying to get me to propose to her daughter and started referring to me as her son-in-law, it was pretty hilarious. Overall, the wedding was incredibly eye opening and it reminded me about why I am doing this program. As a side note, I think I found some great business contacts through a few of the dads there - again, another group I wouldve been intimidated talking to in the past, but felt completely at ease mingling with now.

    So Sunday night I flew back to New York. On Wednesday and Thursday I spent some time with a woman I really like back in CO, but obviously being part of this program puts some distance between us. On the plane Sunday I talked to the mother sitting next to me about relationships for about an hour and it was wonderful to hear a down to earth perspective from someone in their mid 50s. I landed pretty late and wanted to get up early for some gym time...of course my bed was sheetless (thanks Zach) and I need to get used to city life again.

    On tap this week: Comedy Show, Sky Diving, and the Jersey Shore. Yahhhoooo.

    Edit: If anyone can help me with some jokes for the standup night that would be great. I definitely could use some help if anyone here is solid and can give me a few pointers. I have a bit of a quick guide to go from, but no idea what I'm doing

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    Day 15,Thursday July 7th:
    This was an incredible day. The day got started with an amazing seminar by Big Business on comedy/humor, and how it can best be used in game. This was one of the most impressive and useful things I've heard so far, though implementing it will take some work and practice. I seriously recommend it to anyone that ever gets a chance to hear it, as it is very well thought out and comprehensive. Once that was over, we had another day where those with dates would do their own thing, and I had 3 lined up... First, I had the same girl from the last few days come meet me at my place at 6. I told her I had to be somewhere at 9 (when the other girl - the one from the party last Saturday - was coming over for dinner). Finally, I had told another girl that I would come out and meet her much later, once my dinner was over. This last girl is actually a girl I had met a little before Rockstar, but given my very busy schedule I had been struggling to find time for her and was in danger of her getting upset that I was not making enough effort.

    So, as much as it was going to be a complete cluster-fuck, not to mention that lining up 3 dates back to back seems greedy and immoral, I had little choice. By now, everyone is trying to manage several girls via text, facebook, or any other facet of communication. Although this is a good problem to have, it can get pretty tough when you remember something a girl told you but think it was a different girl and mention it to her. I made this mistake with the first girl, asking her about the dog that she had shown me pictures of. She looked at me puzzled, with a pinch of suspicion, as she told me she doesn't have a dog - whoops! Surprisingly though, I think girls will often let that slide, if it is the beginning of meeting a guy. It can even work in your favor, as it makes it seem you had other options before she came along. This girl likes me, and I think she's cool also. She is of Indian origin and has the most beautiful face and eyes, and this coming from someone that doesn't usually like Indian girls.

    We are making out passionately and sharing intense looks, but she doesn't want to go all the way and I don't want to push her, as I know what a conservative background she has. I invite her out to the Hamptons for the weekend, and she says maybe. I leave my place with her, tell her I'm going in the opposite direction and then once I'm sure she has gone, I circle back home and order food for the second girl. She is a bit late, but we have a pretty fun 2 hours, where the making out gets a lot more physical than before. I pull away occasionally, when we are making out, and she comes after me, allowing me to then position myself in a more sexual way as she does so. Before long, she is mounting me and grinding, but that is as far as she will go, slightly surprised at herself for going even that far. She leaves around 12:30 and I go out to meet the final girl, who comes home with me and we have a wild night. She is definitely a lot more wild than usual, as a result of me leading her in that direction; yet another example of a girl being willing to go beyond where one would initially think. Don't define boundaries... discover them.

    Day 16,Friday July 8th:
    Nelson, one of the mentors, gave us an incredibly well thought out presentation on start-ups today. They guy really knew what he was talking about and gave us all some great advice on how to be successful. It went on really late and around 8pm we separated into 2 groups for some night game. I went to bar 675, though I was a bit late, having had to put out a fire with a girl first. I actually made friends with a group of Asian girls and guys while waiting in the line outside. There was one that I had me eye on, as she was really cute. By the time I was in the bar, I was having very positive interactions with the whole group and when I bumped into them later in the bar, they stopped me and I was able to talk to my target for a while. Unfortunately, she had a boyfriend. The bar was darker and more crowded than usual, with a lot more dudes than girls.

    This bar is usually pretty good to pick up chicks, but I was finding the women a lot less friendly than usual. I opened a number of girls that clearly didn't want to be opened, but I pushed ahead and was able to win over a good number of them with humor and good conversation. I'm trying to emulate what I've seen works incredibly well for Venture. It's surprising how easily a girl will let you touch her and hold her hand. It may not necessarily go anywhere, but if it is going to go anywhere at all, it is surely more likely to happen and will happen much faster if you're holding her hand and getting physical early on. I wouldn't say it was the most productive night out, but I did make some good mental notes. I went home around 2:30am, as I had to be up early to go t the Hamptons in the morning. I would be missing 2 days of PR, as a very close friend was celebrating his 30th, but I was bringing my girl from day game as a guest.

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    Yankee (Zach) Blog

    Saturday, July 9 (day 17/46)...there’s a whole bunch of people in town this weekend which makes everything all the more fun...met a Rockstar from last year -- Colin -- who has come along for the end of the NY leg and he’s a cool guy to get to know...with Colin and some of the other guys around, we headed out for some day game in Soho...it was a beautiful day and I had a bit of an awakening: 1) I’m hooking nearly every set I go into (well, not entirely true but will explain in a bit); and, 2) my master topics need ALOT of work because I’m not very smooth after the opening...I was able to probably hook about 10 girls walking down the street, the funny thing is that all of us have improved to a point where we’ve become picky and the girls we would have happily approached a week or two ago are now the ones we chuckle at when they walk by...

    At night we were back to 230 fifth rolling deep with 20 or so of the LS crew and we took over that place again...just because I think it’s worth mentioning, that place is a pickup overload, there must have been three other separate bootcamps going on (most laughable was the Asian one with all the guys wearing matching suits)...it was a strange night because I felt the same thing going on at night that I had during the day, I was consistently hooking sets -- mind you two weeks ago I was terrified to go upto these people and getting blown out over and over -- so that is a huge stepping stone but my mastery topics need some serious work...I was starting to tire and knew I had issues to work on but when I went to tell Jake I was heading out, he told me to just stick it out and give it some time -- I had planned on still sneaking out at some point but with all these guys around you just run into one of them all over the place and they do a great job pumping you up -- have to give big shoutout to J Intrigue as that guy is absolutely hilarious but also a master at pumping state...so toward the end of the night I see a two set at the bar and feel it calling my name...at this point I’m working almost entirely on direct opening because it just seems to reap the strongest gains

    So these girls are at the bar and I hook them pretty quickly and am having some fun with them but start running into the same problem from day game that conversing with two girls takes some skill in that you have to focus on organic convo with both while still sparking attraction in the one you like...well thankfully my boy Laurent came over shortly and started winging me and we had the girls back to back instantly then into some good isolation...while my girl was trying her best not to make out with me, it was clear that she wanted to come home with me at the end of the night but with her and her friend living an hour away and their car being outside (and the friend having a boyfriend she had to go see, even though she was making out with my boy), logistics made things difficult to close, F’in logistics...couple of points worth noting: don’t ever give up and keep on plowing even when you hit the ropes.

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    Rockstar Rogue: Matt

    Day 17 Sat

    230 5th…………….. The bouncer on the front door informed me that my jeans where too ripped and that I needed to have a collared shirt. So…….back to the Gracmery to get changed I need to get some new jeans my old ones are starting to get a little loose. I opened a couple of girls in the line to 230 5th and then the first set I opened in the Club was three Irish girls tall and very sexy. The set hooked and we had some fun with the interaction however it sort of stalled and left the set to be able to open again further in the night.

    Found a three set with more Irish ladies and a girl from Germany. They leader of the group a blonde had really good style and a body for sin. I hung with them for while.

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    yeah Zach! we sleep w stuffed animals its cool bro

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    Day 18 Sun

    Time Square photo Shoot………….. We met at the Australian institution “Billabong” unfortunately not all the Rockstars where there. Some Irish ladies must of overheard Bullet myself and Jake talk, she approached us and asked if we where a boy band from Australia. Jake pipped up “ Yeah where called the Dingoes. We filmed a Piggy back ride and then 5 of us swamping two girls walking with us doing some day game they did not seem to concerned about Bullet and his camera.

    Central Park……… The second time I have been in Central Park since arriving in NYC Collin took us through the Standup Comedy notes from the Previous year and then Zac invited over a guy with a sign “$2 for a Joke” this guys jokes where really bad. Most laughs where derived from embarrassment on how shit his jokes were. Zac had the funniest Joke

    2 Dollar unfunny joke man : What does a blind seeing cow say?
    Zac: Mooooveee Over

    We had the previous nights debrief in the middle of the park. Sterling showed me how they want us to physically escalate on women. It was a little uncomfortable and then he had me do the same on him. There are some subtle things that I am missing and need to iron out over the next week.

    Frying Pan……….. It was really relaxing sitting on a barge/boat, it had been nearly 3 weeks since I had seen any water. We had a really chilled night reviewed the week that was. The top section had a great view of Manhattan and Jersey. It felt like one of the first times I have relaxed since arriving in New York.

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    Day 19 of 46: Monday, July 11th
    Today we started spending time preparing for our standup comedy routine on Wednesday night. Like most of the guys on the team, I’ve never done standup comedy before (Matt has been doing standup as a hobby for a few years). The idea of putting together 3 minutes of funny material sounds easy but when you start to write you realize it’s actually pretty tough. I have no idea whether what I’m writing will be funny, but at least I know I’ll have fun performing it. However, with such an interesting, fun group of guys, I’m sure at least one or two of us will have some hilarious material.

    I slacked again a bit during day game. While I made a couple approaches, I still failed to approach a number of attractive women. It’s interesting what approaching or not approaching does to my confidence. When I do approach, and even when it fails miserably, I feel a boost in confidence. However, when I fail to approach, and come up with some excuse as to why I didn’t, I can FEEL my sense of self-worth diminish. It’s amazing how quickly my mood is affected by whether I approach or not. I really need to embrace the reality that I control my own happiness and more consistently approach the girls I’m interested in.

    Tonight we went to the Biergarten again for night game. I started a little slow but my pace picked up a bit as I sat down at two different tables and had good conversation. However, I have to admit that our goal tonight was very clear that we were to have more than just conversation. We’ve been tasked with really testing the boundaries of physical escalation. I did a fairly poor job of that on the first table of girls I talked to but did much better with the second table of girls and got a number in the process. After that I walked back to where the instructors were standing and started winging for Edgar. He was talking to a cute tall blonde and I took her friend. While her friend was interesting, I had no physical interest in her.

    However, as I settled into normal conversation the instructors pulled me aside and reminded me that we are not here to just have conversations with girls. So they asked me to go back into conversation with her but try to escalate. I’ll admit, it’s difficult to practice these techniques on women you aren’t attracted to. However, I agree that it’s the fastest way to build the right physical habits so that when you do meet a girl you really like, it’ll be completely smooth. So I went back in and did my best to escalate. However, this girl was really strange and every time I got a little closer she would take a step back. We literally covered more than 15 feet of ground while I was trying to physically escalate. It was really weirding me out; I was wondering if she just wasn't into me but I also got the feeling that she was just a strange girl. So I decided to try to get her number anyway and she gave it to me. WTF? While she wouldn’t let me stand close to her, she was cool giving me her number? And she’s already sent me a couple text messages. Some people are just strange I guess. But who am I kidding, most people probably think I’m pretty strange. I guess encounters like these are what make the world interesting and unpredictable.

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    Project Rogue: Matt

    Day 19 Mon

    Fitness aspect of the program is going well and I expect to max out the cross trainer by the end of the week. Last week I lost 2lb. The diet and exercise is helping so is 2 hours a Day Game every day.


    Pretty relaxed day everyone was working on their comedy routines. I needed to make a few slight adjustments for some of my jokes to suit the American audience.

    The Standard…………….. Back again for some more Bier Garden action, being a Monday is was not as busy as normal.

    Venture came in and started to talk to the Blonde. She opened up a bit more. The questions Venture asked where simple and relative to the conversation however the way he delivered hooked her pretty hard. All Venture did was to put his hand out…….easy as that I feel like a retard.

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    Day 19, (July 11):
    Back to the Future


    Interesting day rejoining the Rockstars back in NYC. Zach rehashed what I'd missed over the past few days and it sounded like I really missed some quality info. Ah well, the instructors have really done a stellar job of bringing in quality mentor's for us to work with.

    We went back to Khan's for our daily chat and I caught up with the guys. Bullet gave me an update on what they expect from our blogs and I'm going to have to go back through and see about adding in a bit of additional material here and there. I think I've done a pretty good job based on their expectations so far, but I can definitely tell some more stories.

    I cranked through some material for our standup routine we'll be performing on Wednesday. I'm gonna focus on facebook/google+, gay marriage being legal here, annnd my parents texting. We'll see how it goes, I'll put up a few highlights on here.

    Since fashion was one of the two things I was ripped apart the most for, I've been trying to work on putting together a hipper wardrobe. I feel like I now own more V-neck shirts than I ever expected to..sexy. However, I haven't had a good pair of shoes yet for going out to the clubs. I picked up some boots that are okay depending on the venue, but I wanted to get a slick pair of high-tops (thanks Sterling). I went last week to this place called Jump and they literally had nothing in my size. Going back this week I found a badass pair that were not only in my size, but on sale - they are black with a snakescale type pattern. Sweeeeet.

    After my final bit of shopping we moved apartments again, I'm back living with Matt and am now with Nick Hoss. This is the first time I have a room with both a closet w/ hangars and a dresser. I literally feel lucky.

    Back to the Standard Hotel tonight and I get a message from Nick Hoss letting us know it's pretty dead. When Matt and I arrive its pretty much all just people sitting down, but Matt still has his 10 minute rule (open 2 sets in the first 10 mins) so he goes to work

    Everyone seems to be having a lot of fun there, so he goes in to open and I grab a water. I can tell it's hooked so I join the set and we begin to banter back and forth. The group is having a birthday party and are all cracking jokes so we join in. Some really fun conversation ensues about alcohol, rugby, and NYC. There's a girl we'll call fashionista, and her and I definitely hit it off. She had to leave shortly after to be at work early.

    I hopped into the bathroom and opened a few girls who were taking photos in the booth downstairs. Had some fun banter with them but I really needed to pee...thank you Bier!

    To end the night I hung out with Matt and Khan in a set and then met former Rockstar, Collin, and then Venture broke down some of his new way of explaining game theory. It is brilliant, Sterling and Venture spent some time working on how to teach it and I can't wait to learn more. Hopefully it will end up in bootcamps before too long.

    Off to bed, tomorrow we get to hang w/ my boy, Fader, and I'm looking forward to catching up with his crazy ass!

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    Sunday, July 10 (Day 18/46)...off to Times Square with the Rockstars to do some shooting with Bullet for the documentary...had some funny little shots, was unfortunate that Nick and Khan were out of town for it as they had other engagements for the day but the five of us had a good time with a funny little interaction with a couple girls for a shot as well as being approached by some middle age Irish women wondering if we were the “Australian boy band”...then off to Central Park where Colin gave us a seminar on stand-up comedy based on how they did it for Rockstar last year...we’re all starting to get a bit nervous about this stand up routine: kinda funny because I think in alot of ways this part of the experience validates to alot of people -- friends, family, etc -- of what exactly Rockstar is about...so none of us want to blow this thing, but it sure ain’t easy and at the moment I’ve got nada...taking a somewhat laid back night, we headed off to the Frying Pan -- a cool barge on the Hudson River with great food and drinks -- I had been texting with the girl I had met the previous night and she came and met up with me..

    She lives in an outer borough of NYC so she quickly told me that there was going to be no way she was coming home with me...well as my buddy Laurent says: if you make it weird, then it’s weird (I actually don’t remember the exact words but know it sounded poetic when it came out of his mouth)...so we hang at Frying Pan till just after 8pm and then have her “drop me off at home,” well on the way, we decide we should go for “just one drink” which was exactly what we needed...when she came to meet up it was a friendly scene with a bunch of the guys and not really a place where I could push the escalation which was what I was going for at the drink spot (that happened to be a block from my apartment)...with just the two of us alone, things quickly escalated but I was sure to not give too much sexually as I wanted to build tension...after a drink, she was still intent on going home but somehow by the time she got back to her car realized that home was not where she wanted to go...she ended up back at my apt

    Monday, July 11 (Day 19/46)...waking up feeling good after another positive reference experience...spent most of the day working on our stand-up routines, well in terms of work I guess the more accurate word would be worrying/procrastinating...we all headed out to the Standard Biergarten (our second home after 230 Fifth) and unfortunately it was just a slow night there...

    Nick Hoss offered to take a few of us down to the Lower East Side to try out a few places over there...we checked out a few spots that were equally slow but did give us a bit of a different perspective from some of the higher end venues we have been visiting...one interesting tidbit was I ran into a guy I took a bootcamp with years ago that I hadn’t seen since -- he hadn’t impressed me much the first time we met but I could tell his game had become much tighter over the past three years and being a young guy like he is probably has some good potential...

    we ended up at a live band karaoke spot and got into a couple sets but there wasn’t anything really of note going on...ending up heading home to my new apartment on the Upper East Side having made our third and final move while in NYC (so that everyone gets a rotation in with the instructors), excited to be living with Edgar >> I think there is pretty wide recognition of the quality of his game as a Rockstar and I’m looking forward to the opportunity to delve into more about the ways he looks and thinks about things.

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    Day 16 – Friday 08/07/11
    Nelson Cheng came in to mentor today on the topic of start-ups. He has a wealth of experience working with Google and Amazon, and currently consults to a number of start-ups. Main topics included Idea generation, knowing a great idea, start-up vs. career, common characteristics of a good start-up. Start-up incubators, hiring and firing, focusing on particular metrics/one number, finding a beachhead, and many others.

    It was a great couple of hours; we all learned a phenomenal amount. Everyone really seemed captivated by everything that Nelson had to say; including myself. It really got everyone’s brain moving and coming up with idea for moving forward. The seminar wasn’t only relative to start ups, but also to existing businesses and developing them to the next stage. For me running existing businesses, it was still very motivating; it really made me think about a number of the factors in my business that I have been neglecting in recent months, and also helped me to develop many ideas that I will be able to implement. One of the best tips of the day, although something quite obvious, was the idea of focussing on one number of the business financials and focussing on developing it to where I want it to go.

    Along with getting my mind thinking about how to improve my existing business, it also got me thinking about how I could bring some of my past ideas to fruition. Often people’s ideas go no-where, however good they may be; people often lack a certain skill or the knowledge to make an idea happen and let those particular pieces of the puzzle be the sticking point that stops the idea going any further than a concept. Nelson went through a number of strategies to attract the people that you need to become involved in the project; both for monetary gains and otherwise (i.e. equity). The most important point that came of this seminar in my opinion; push forward with good ideas; it is not necessary to have everything perfect from an ideas inception, solve problems as they become problems, and never let a knowledge of what you don’t know get in the way of proceeding with a start up you believe in. We all thanks Nelson immensely for a great seminar.

    We are now done for the day, and it has been raining heavily outside which ruins our plans of going to a rooftop bar tonight. We are about to work out what we are going to do for the night.

    Before going out, we had some group feedback and discussion from Venture and Sterling. This was a very valuable 30 minutes for me; Sterling summarised the exponential growth that we had in the first week, and how the slowdown that we have all felt in our improvement is to be expected; week 2 blues. We need to keep summarising and referring to our magic moments; always focussing on these achievements to remind us how much we have achieved so far.

    Tonight we went to a party being held by a friend of Edgars (one of the other Rockstars); it was in a nice apartment block on the rooftop. We all had a few drinks and warmed up by opening a lot of sets and doing as much as we could whilst at the party. Everyone from the party then went to a place called Bar Basque. We all had some great sets tonight, and there was rarely a moment when one of us wasn’t in set with multiple women. One of the had a really cute Asian girl in it, after talking with them for a while, it was clear that there was great attraction between us. She was a fun girl, but obviously a bit timid and shy. I thought to myself that I want to push this as much as I could and discover new boundaries; so I began to escalate heavily, separated her from her friend, and took her down to the back of the club where we sat on a couch.

    We were making out on the couch for about 10 minutes, chatting in between. I was really enjoying myself and wanted to see what I could get away with, so I pulled her legs up over mine so that she was sitting sideways. A light bulb suddenly went off in my head! I am going for a bathroom pull. I got up and told her I am going to the bathroom; but grabbed her hand and took her with me. I think that she thought I was going to get her to wait outside, but I pulled her inside with me. It was a strange feeling for me, when getting close to the door I was almost expecting her to stop... But she came straight through the door with me and I proceeded to lock us in the first vacant cubicle. I showed my genuine interest in her and after around 20 minutes of this I had smashed one of my limiting beliefs!

    Day 17 – Saturday 09/07/11
    Today we all just worked through our blogs and had some talks with the instructors. We then went out to do some day game.

    For some reason, I have been feeling like shit all day; I think my mind and body hate me at this point. I have been feeling edgy and grumpy all day which has translated into everything that I have been doing. I have no desire to open, and certainly no desire to have a conversation following; infact, I don’t even want to have a conversation with anyone! I feel like going home and forgetting about all of this; I am on edge today. I know in my mind that I really want to be here and am really enjoying the high points of Project Rockstar, but am finding it impossible to get out of my current state, which brings me down even more!

    When we went out to do day game, I forced myself into a few sets, none of which went very well at all. I think this is because my disinterest has been flowing through into my conversation. I am disappointed with myself today, I know I can do so much better but feel like I am in a hole that I cannot get out of. Earlier on I had some great successes in day game but now seem to lack any desire to do it at all. The flake rate for day game has been huge; I am not used to doing something with such a low conversion rate. If this were a business, I would have closed it down a long time ago! I really want to do much better than this and know I can, but I have failed myself today which makes me feel terrible, it feels like I am at the end of my tether and I don’t know how to bring myself back up.

    Tonight we went to 230 5th; our favourite watering hole. It was a tough night tonight, I really didn’t feel like it at all; the exact same feeling that I have had all day. I really wasn’t invested in any of the interactions; didn’t feel any connection or desire to talk to ANYONE! I even isolated a girl and made out with her for around 20 minutes; but even then I just wasn’t into it at all, so I didn’t push for anything more. Not long after this the club closed and I went straight back to my apartment. The definite highlight of the night goes to Venture, Sterling, and the AC Trigger; they convinced 2 girls to have group sex in the stairwell. These girls were absolutely ready for it; they had done a great job getting them to that point. Unfortunately for the girls Venture and Sterling didn’t go through with it.

    Day 18 – Sunday 10/07/11

    We had a relaxing day in the park today. On Wednesday night we have all booked in for a 5 minute set in a comedy club, and today Collin (Previous Rockstar) kindly offered his time to go through some comedy writing techniques that he learned last year. It was awesome; he even had his notes from last year and provided us all with a copy. It was a great day in terms of the weather, so sitting in the park on the grass was quite relaxing and the perfect spot to go through our ‘comedy crash course’. We all thank Collin immensely for doing this – it has been a great help. Fingers crossed for us on Wednesday everyone!

    After this, Venture and Sterling gave each of us some feedback and we all practiced physical escalation on eachother. It was a great learning experience, but wow was it weird hitting on other guys in front of hundreds of park goers! Many people were giving us some really weird looks; but we all laughed it off (it was actually quite entertaining seeing everyone captivated by what on earth we were doing). Venture brought along a gorgeous young lady to help us out, I think this made everyone slightly more comfortable that there was in fact a female in this big group...

    When we were done in the park we went to the frying pan which is a big old barge on the Hudson River which has been extended to include multiple decks, galley bathrooms, huge kitchen and several bars. I was amazed when we arrived, it was such a cool place; people sitting around in the sun in all sorts of different spots on this ship, eating great food, drinking cold beer and having a great time. We ordered some food, beers, and sangria and sat around chatting with eachother, and opening sets nearby. We took in the amazing view of Manhattan in the background and for the first time in 2 weeks I felt really relaxed. A couple of girls that I met the night before ended up coming to join us later in the night; they were both really attractive but I wasn’t sure which one I was going for (and still don’t know). Trigger and I ended up in the girl’s hotel room, but there was only one bed and we were all lying on it. Trigger and I were messaging each other (even though we were sitting on the bed, we didn’t want to verbalise it!) trying to work out how we were going to progress this. Trigger needed to work the next day so we both decided to leave. The same girls are still messaging me and want to come out again tomorrow night.

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    Awesome reporting here you guys! Oh, and Nick, I just love how this really fits you well!

    Btw, will you guys have the comedy acts up online somewhere for us to see?

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    Day 20 of 46: Tuesday, July 12th
    It’s funny how the longer we’re here, the more each day starts to blend together.

    Today was a good day but the thing I wish I was doing a better job of is initiating more day game. I’ve become a little lackadaisical at approaching during the day. It’s partly due to the success I’ve had day gaming attractive girls and partly due to us not going out in the past couple days with the explicit intent to day game. As a result, I’m just not seeing as many of the really hot girls that I want to practice approaching. And with less repetitions creates that approach wall that makes it tougher to initiate. At least I’ve been opening a couple hot girls a day just to keep up the habit.

    Today’s lecture was awesome. Fader, who lives in New York, came in and spoke for a few hours on both inner game. For those of you who don’t know much about Fader, his style is hilarious. He’s very high energy but is also very grounded with some great perspectives on introspection and inner game as a whole.

    Again we went out to The Standard Biergarten to have some fun before heading to the strip clubs with Fader. It’s weird, I still have a bit of approach anxiety at night but once I just say “fuck it” and throw myself in I’m usually good to go. I also learned tonight that even if what you say kind of stumbles a bit at the beginning of the conversation, you can recover as long as you maintain confident body language and act as if, and I quote Future, “Everything is going according to plan”. This happened on my first set, where I opened the girls and was a bit clunky with my words but held confident body language. Then I also got some help from a wing so I could isolate my girl.

    From there I found my groove, her and I had a few good laughs, she happily held my hand as we daydreamed about being boyfriend and girlfriend, and I got her number before her and her friends had to leave. While I could have always been smoother, I’m definitely improving. I also had another set I enjoyed. I was standing with Matt and we were looking for a set to open. We saw two cute Asian girls sitting at a table near the entrance. I walked over, confidently started the conversation and immediately started getting a good response. I sat down and a couple minutes later, after I’d hooked the set, Matt came in and did a great job winging for the next 20 minutes that we were talking to the girls. This one actually took a little work since when I first sat down she had her purse on the chair between us. After building up enough interesting conversation, I picked up her purse and handed it to her so I could sit next to her. It almost caused a state break but I just kept going with my conversation and it was all good. From here I increased the touching quite a bit before getting her phone number before we had to leave.

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    Tuesday, July 12 (20/46)...so back at the comedy routines today, I can understand why some people might think it’s crazy to be spending so much time working on a routine but while undertaking it, it’s a monstrous task...the funny thing is the correlations with game: the reason you put so much time into it is that you don’t want to be rejected (i.e. people not laughing at/with you)...to be honest I didn’t get much done today on my routine, I’m a big ruminator so I think and then overthink the ways to approach it before actually putting something together.

    Later in the evening we had the pleasure of Fader coming in. This guy is absolutely awesome. He began with a talk on Inner Game which was definitely a great way to start. We’ve spoken about Inner Game a few times and you definitely can’t get enough of it: it’s just such an important part of developing game. Fader believes the three most important determinants of success in game (and I think setting a course for a happy life) are: inner game, outer game and lifestyle >> I’m not sure the order of the latter two, but definitely inner game is the foundation for all else. He definitely teaches it in this respect also: to break it down to the simplest form he teaches you to identify and then correct all these issues.

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    Day 20

    Most of the day was used for preparation of the comedy routine for Wednesday. I am lucky in the sense that I already have 5 minutes of good material, which I just need to make modifications to suit the American audience.

    I finally got my hair cut. Jeffery done an awesome job. I realized something that hair cuts cost a little bit more in NYC than downtown Townsville. The new do cut a few years of my perceived age with most of the girls thinking I was 24-28 years old (wow you're a mind reader)

    Standard…………..Beautiful Tall blonde with shorter brunette friend. I opened with you are gorgeous and Nick Hoss came into wing with me. I started to escalate on her and ended up holding her hand, where she looked down lifted her hand and cheekily smiled and let go of my hand. Ping Pong table called and she left to play.

    A girl who had facial features of Angelina Jollie. Escalated on her and she was like you are fairly touchy feelly. I’m like I have never realized maybe all of us Aussies are like that.

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    Day 21

    Slow day after the strip club adventure worked on the Comedy routine for the remainder of the day. I still get nervous prior to the performance. I had met a girl on Day game 2 weeks prior and have been texting it did draw dead and then I invited her to the comedy show and it was back on

    O’Hanolan’s …………. It was time for the open mic. I went out the back and had a chat with Hector the MC for the night who was a large man full of beans and character. I walked back out to the bar and there and there was Patricia standing at the bar. I had to have a double look at her she looked a lot more stunning than I remember from the street. It was one the Magic Moments of the trip to get someone you meet during day game out for the night.

    Everyone went really well with the comedy routines. Zac’s was surprisingly good I really liked his stage presence jokes and delivery. Everyone of the RockStars out shone the locals it was amazing. Everyone now realizes how much of a rush it is to perform, the rush continues for at least 10 minutes...

    13th Step. Really good for a Tuesday night the bouncer nearly did not let me in but I ignored his questions gave him my ID and walked in. Two Irish girls very responsive and a lot of fun they did have a barney in the middle of the conversation with each other. Very strange..... the Irish chicks where getting very drunk. Darwin ended up with there camera and with permission took a few boob shots of the girl I was talking to… Great move… They where hooked….. I moved too slow and we should of bounced the girls somewhere else. As the place got slower and more girls left our girls become a hot commodity with numerous guys having a crack.. Darwin showed me a great method of getting rid of guys…. Walk up be super nice and ask a lot of questions great demonstration. They offered to buy us a drink and ended up at the bar with the bar tender who was pouring they free shots….. We lost them

    Back at the apartment 4:30 Sleeping……. I little bit on noise Nick Hoss arrives home with a couple of girls. Lying in my bed half asleep and next thing I know there is a girl lying next to me and Nick saying… This is Matt he is from Australia….. I’m like hey how are you. Lucky I was wearing clothes….. I normally sleep nude that would have been an interesting interaction……. Hey this is Matt he is from Australia and he likes to sleep naked…… Funny shit….

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    Day 19 (July 12):
    The Fader Show

    Back into the action with the fellas. I was excited about seeing my boy Fader today - I really enjoy his lecture style and we've had a blast hanging out. I dropped some clothes off at the tailor, went to the gym, then off to hang out with the boys and work on our standup routines. We are gonna be live tomorrow, and I want to do a good job. I personally enjoy public speaking a lot, but being funny on command....I guess we'll see!

    Fader's two speeches were great, his inner game talk was unbelievable. I definitely find inner game being the biggest piece of the puzzle for me to work out, and I could hear how furiously the guys were taking notes. If you have a chance to hear Fader give a talk, do it!

    I've started to realize I either get into chatty/gaming mode where I love meeting and talking to people, or into student mode, where I get very analytical and study interactions. I want to learn to merge the two, but it hasn't happened quite yet. The rest of the night I learned an incredible amount from Darwin and Fader throughout the night. Venture gave me some info on his text message theory which is an area I've been trying to work on. Ultimately, I only ended up talking to one other set at the first club, but was able to hang out with the other rockstars in set.

    Wonderful night, everytime I feel like I've learned a bit more, we get some new knowledge and it opens my eyes up to how much more there is for me to learn.

    Day 20 (July 13):
    Standin On Up!

    The big day has finally arrived. Time to make people laugh or get my ass boo'd off the stage. At the very least I figure I'll make everyone awkward enough to laugh...I decided to use a bit of shock value as my humor technique. The Rockstars have really bonded, we are all at a point of mutual respect. The girl I'd been talking to at home as made it pretty clear that she wants very little to do with me anymore, so I feel like I have less to balance and less on my mind as we take the stage.

    Holy shit we kicked ass! There were probably close to 40 people in the room, and the Rockstars were easily the most hilarious! I was so impressed, literally everyone got a ton of laughs out of the room. Zach fucking kicked ass though. I was literally in pain by the end of his set, the guy's awkward energy on stage was perfect for comedy and he had everyone rolling. Great job bro!

    After we were all done and we'd watched several other acts we wandered across the street to Artichoke pizza for a quick celebration and a break from the Rockstar Diet. Outside, Zach and I saw one of the most fucked up maybe homeless, maybe just drugged up, people ever. He kept wanting to talk to us and by talk I mean scream, pretend he was shooting us with his finger pistols, cackle at him self, piss his pants, and yell obscenities at the two of us. Everyone on the block was staring, it really showed me what happens when you have Zero AA.

    Edgar invited myself and Laurent out to meet up with some of his friends at a club in Chelsea, so I went home to shower and met up with him in line there. I had some immediate attraction from an Irish girl and her friend, and spent a good deal of the night with them. Both Edgar and Laurent tried to wing for me, but her friend got WAY too drunk and was all over the place. It went from being really fun, to not in about 5 minutes. Meanwhile, I was taking pictures of a few girls for them and one decided I was a stripper pole and she had to show off to her friends. I can't remember the last time a girl came on to me that strongly. Must be how a beautiful woman feels when a guy just hollers at her for no reason or throws gifts/flowers towards her. Not deserving.

    Ultimately the night went well, winged for Edgar a bit and danced some. I am just not great at loud/clubby bars - I can't hear well and even if I'm dancing (and I like dancing) I feel a bit awkward inside because I'm not able to talk. This is something I need to learn to be okay with.

    Cheerio

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    Can I get a picture of these boots? Ha ha.
    Excellent work man. I'm looking forward to reading about your experience and then hearing all the stories when you get back to Denver.
    To thine own self be true

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    It has been a great read so far, keep it up!
    Amazing to see the progress you guys have made.

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    Day 21 of 46: Wednesday, July 13th
    Today will be a day I remember for the rest of my life regardless of how it turns out. For the first time ever, I’ll be performing a standup comedy routine (as are all the other guys). The most difficult part is we’re doing this with very little preparation which will really test our resolve and composure under pressure. I’m really excited about the challenge but admittedly a little nervous! About three hours before we had to leave, I decided to significantly change the routine I had planned. I changed it because once I had the chance to actually say my routine out loud, I realized it really wasn’t very funny. So with a little advice from my roommate Jake, I made a few tweaks.

    At the comedy club: Just showing up at the comedy club and seeing all the guys was a bit of a rush. Everyone had that look on their face saying, “I have no idea what is going to happen but let’s go for it.” In addition to our group of probably 12 people (students plus instructors), there were maybe another 15 other patrons and performers. For a little grounding, Wednesday nights at this club is open mic night. Not only were we performing, but maybe 10 other locals had also put themselves on the list. First up from our group was Matt. Given that he’s been doing standup as a hobby for four years in Australia, everyone had pretty high expectations. To add to the pressure, Matt also brought a really attractive, tall blonde girl to watch that he met during day game – that’s balls! It sounds strange, but I was actually nervous for Matt.

    It turns out my nervousness was completely unfounded as Matt not only was very funny, but he owned the stage. I was really impressed with how comfortable he looked up there, the control he had over his tempo, and how he interacted with the audience. Well done Matt! After Matt went, the bar was set pretty high. One by one, the rest of the group went on stage to perform their routines. And amazingly, everyone did surprisingly well! I guess that’s what you get when you take such a courageous group of intelligent guys and put a challenge in front of them as crazy as performing standup comedy on very little preparation. As for me, I was actually quite surprised with how I did as well. While I won’t be taking on standup as a new profession any time soon, I definitely had a couple good moments on stage and will forever be thankful that I had such a great group of guys, and instructors, to push me to take on this new challenge. Sometimes peer pressure can be a great thing.

    Day 22 of 46: Thursday, July 14th
    Another day of awesomeness on the schedule. Today I have two things planned that I’m really excited about. First the entire group is going skydiving! Then I have a date with the Russian girl I’ve been out with twice before. I’m excited about the skydiving since it’s something I’ve wanted to do for a long time but never pushed myself to actually go through with; this is another example of how awesome peer pressure can be. And I’m excited about my date, because the last time her and I went out, I didn’t do a good job of leading the interaction. I’m also excited to use more of the sexual intent elements and increased magnetic connection that Venture and Sterling have been working so hard to teach. I know that I haven’t been picking up these elements as fast as some of the other guys but I truly want to get better. I see tonight’s date as a chance to make that happen.

    Skydiving! It was quite the adventure as we all met up at Khan’s apartment in Soho around 11am to jump in the van Laurent rented. And for the record, Laurent is an amazing guy. I imagine it was a pretty thankless job setting up this entire skydiving adventure, handling all the logistics, and fronting all the cash. Thanks Laurent! As for the diving, it’s interesting to see how different people react to the idea of jumping out of a plane. Some people were visibly nervous while others seem to take it in more in stride. I thought it was an interesting comparison, at least in my own head, to compare the fear of skydiving to the fear of approaching an attractive woman at the bar. Fast forward to after my jump; I realized that I’m significantly more nervous about approaching a woman in a bar than jumping from a plane. Which begs an important question, why? Some people are terrified of jumping from a plane, but for some reason I was excited and felt completely safe.

    However, I can see an attractive girl at a bar with her friends and I feel genuine nervousness… almost as if I’m in real physical danger. While our brains are far too complicated for me to ever figure out the end-all answer to such a difficult question, I have come to one conclusion: I care way to much about what each individual person I meet thinks of me. I let my emotional state be far too affected by each interaction I engage in. While I’m not in this less productive place every day, there are far too many days where I am. I think one of my biggest goals of Project Rockstar should be to become less concerned about each interaction and more concerned about who I am as a person. If I know my intentions are good, and I follow my instincts, I shouldn’t worry about how each person I meet responds. Because I’ve been this way my entire life (and I’m sure lots of people reading this feel similarly), this is going to be very difficult. But I’m in the best environment a person could ask for to change such a core element of my past personality. I look forward to this challenge.

    As for my date tonight, I had a great time. We met at my place, went out to eat, and saw a live jazz/funk band play before coming back to my apartment. I feel like I did a good job of maintaining sub-communications that implicitly stated that she could feel completely comfortable with me in every way. Once we got back to my place, it was on.

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    Day 23 of 46: Friday, July 16th
    After two consecutive awesome days, I woke up this morning feeling great. Today was the final New York debrief before heading to Stockholm on Monday. Coming into today, I feel like I’ve accomplished some outstanding things. First, I’m really taking a liking to day game and I feel like my ability to stop an attractive woman on the street, have a meaningful interaction with her, and get her phone number is getting much better. This alone, I feel, will change my dating life. Second, while my night game still needs a ton of improvement, I feel like I’ve come a long way. Before Project Rockstar, I would go to loud, night venues and almost never leave with numbers of girls I was attracted to. In the past three weeks, I’ve gone from not even being able to generate attraction with girls to fairly regularly getting phone numbers. As a result of this progress, relative to where I started, I went into today’s final NYC debrief feeling reasonably satisfied with progress to date and excited about pushing myself further.

    What came next, however, was nothing short of shocking and painful. It took the successes I felt I had earned and turned them on their head. While I have been getting a lot of phone numbers, the instructors feel that I’m not setting my sights high enough, nor am I pushing the envelope enough with physical escalation. And most importantly, I can see that the instructors are also frustrated with how I process and act on their advice. I’ve never really been the type of person to receive feedback and just say “Yes”. Usually I’ll either try to relate to where they’re coming from and state why I feel differently, or I’ll try to relate and give examples of where I’ve been trying to include that advice into my life.

    However, I’ve always sucked at being the guy that just says “Yes” and instantly applies the new advice. As a result, I’m realizing that this tendency is also preventing me from soaking in their advice as quickly as I otherwise could. I spend too much time analyzing what they’re telling me I need to do; it’s not only slowing my progress, but it’s also frustrating the instructors who have been so generous with their time. I can see that these guys care about my progress (I can tell that both Venture and Sterling have spent significant time trying to help me specifically) and I really, truly do want to show them that I’m listening. The hard part is changing, overnight, how I fundamentally process feedback.

    While simply receiving this feedback alone would have probably been enough to make me deeply question my entire approach to receiving and acting on criticism, that wasn’t all. The instructors also raised the bar another notch by saying that if I didn’t change, and change very soon, I would be kicked off the program. My heart absolutely sank when I heard that. Even sitting here writing that makes me have to pause for a moment and take a few deep breaths. After everything I gave up to be here and after all the improvements and realizations I’ve made since I arrived in New York City, it’s quite humbling to know that I’m one strike away from being sent home.

    I guess sometimes it takes a moment as intense as this to know that something must change. I’m realizing that an old part of me must die so that the new and improved version of me can live. I cannot continue to sabotage myself and my relationships with the instructors who are trying to help me. My ego MUST die. This isn’t the first time in my life my ego has stunted my progress, but this is certainly the most intense time that it’s been an issue. I want to stay on Project Rockstar. I want to learn this skill set so I can help others in the future. I want to live a life where my ego doesn’t attack important relationships that I have with people I care about. The question is, how do I change this, and change it literally overnight?

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    Wednesday, July 13 (day 21/46)...so comedy day finally arrives and surprise, surprise I haven’t written any material yet...Edgar and I bunkered down in our apartment -- taking down copious amounts of caffeine like the old days in college -- and started putting together our sets...after hours and hours of ruminating on how to go with the routine, I finally got something together >> then I sent it out to a few friends and did it for Edgar once...to say it didn’t hit as well as I expected would be a massive understatement...back to work trying to get things together, which was a fun part of the creative process, would think of fun more on an operative level than a practical level...at this point I shredded a few routines and decided to go on a more improv type level...off to the venue we go..

    Considering what I had been prepared for in terms of an open-mic, there was a sizable turnout of approx 40people, half our group and half rando’s...after a few people went, the first one up from our group was Matt who killed it, guy has some experience with standup and it showed, he had us on the floor...after a few other Rockstars went it was my turn...as I had waited my nerves definitely began to churn a bit: strange feeling somewhat comparable to the test you’re ready to take but just want to get on with it...well when I stepped up there, I tried to use some of the things we have talked about over the past few weeks (e.g. slowing down the interaction, eye contact, good tonality, etc.) to best connect with the audience...I have to say overall it was an incredible experience: I got more laughs than I could have hoped for (imagine Bullet will post the vid’s in the future) but even better than that was the high I got while up there >>

    towards the end I was just about out of material and I said something like: “I don’t have much more to say but I’m just going to stand here for a second.” That actually got the host’s attention to tell me to get off the f’in stage, ha! why I think this exercise is part of Project Rockstar: in your head you make it into something so much bigger than it is, I think all the Rockstars blew away the guys who do this stand-up every week, and at the end it was awesome how gratifying it is to be onstage and make others laugh >> very similar to the progression from approach anxiety to getting to a point of taking a girl home. This was one of the most enjoyable experiences I have had (could go as far as in my life) and I think I will try to do some more of it in the future.

    We then went out for a group dinner as a quasi-celebration...this was a big night for me as I was riding a high...I proceeded to email a girl sitting in the restaurant on my way to the bathroom...then we went low-key and went out to some divey bars in the East Village which was a little changeup from the majority of our nights out... it was early on a Wednesday night so would have been hard to push much harder as they were just grabbing a few bites and drinks...off to the next bar with Jake as the other guys were deep in a set and we’d exhausted the bar...at the next bar it was a bit more crowded with good amount of cute girls

    This is definitely the most rewarding day of Rockstar so far for me....first from the comedy routine which I wouldn’t say I was as much nervous about as just unsure of how it would go only to find out that it was a hugely positive and enjoyable thing to do...then riding that high to finally meeting, connecting, making out with and enjoying the cutest girl by far I have so far on this trip..I’m just trying to capture these moments so I can use them for my development going forward.

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    Day 22 (July 14):
    Cloudwalking


    Today is skydiving day. Shit. I have that weird mix of nerves and excitement – I’ve been really looking forward to this, I love rollercoasters and motion based sports. But, with all that I’ve learned about myself these past few weeks I’m not quite ready to become a splat on the sidewalk somewhere on Long Island. Stand up was a challenge of skills and nerves, I enjoy talking in front of people and have had the opportunity to really push myself. For skydiving it’s outside of my control entirely.

    First we initial 4 pages of warnings about death. Then we watch the cheesiest video with a dude sporting a two foot beard warning us that we can die. Then we repeat the words “we know we could die…” while on video camera and sign the document for the third time. Hmmm…safety first!

    My guide is from CO as well, he’s done over 11,000 jumps. Definitely makes me feel a bit better, Matt and myself volunteered to go first so we roll into our little ass plane with our two instructors and begin the ascent. By the time we are about 6,000 feet up I begin to meditate knowing that there’s no way to go but down…☺
    I want to try to describe how it felt to me, since I’m sure the experience was different for everyone. At first, during the tumble out and the free fall it was just a total disconnect between my head and my body. My brain was trying to freak out, but the peaceful feeling my body was maintaining overruled all thoughts. My head just emptied out and I was able to view the world and myself slowly coasting down like an out of body experience. The scenery was beautiful, and when the chute deployed and I was able to control our descent, the spirals, and lifting back up to coast on the wind, I felt a couple of tears stream by. Fucking brilliant – there was a full emptiness inside, and a wonderful one, maybe the word I’m looking for is Sublime.

    The day was wonderful, I went out on that high for a date later, but I wasn’t even really there and I think it came through. Had a few drinks and I ended up making it an early night to reflect on what had transpired.

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    Rockstar Rogue: Matt

    Day 22 Fri

    Long way to long island………. Sky Diving, I was half excited / half terrified, however that changed to 100% terrified when we got to the demountable admin building and watched the safety video hosted by what looked like the lead singer from ZZ Top. It was possibly the worst safety / intro video I have ever seen. The gist of the whole video was stuff sometimes fails and people die. My sky diving buddie was Nick and we volunteered to go first.

    There was not too much instruction prior to jumping in the plane…. Put the harness on jump in the plane and I will tell you what to do later.. Hmm Ok. Maybe the less I know the better. It was a 20 minute flight to the drop off point and it starts to hit me that I am about to jump out of plane with some giant gorilla strapped to my back. The door opens and Nicks…….gone jumped….. One foot out looking down to the long island wind blasting my face then Jump……………. Free fall. There are no words that describe the feeling of gravity accelerating you towards the earth. It was one of the most amazing experiences of my life I will do it again. After the parachute opened the sky dive gorilla was a little concerned since the wind had changed and we where caught in an up draft and we where doing circles over the high way below. The landing was terrible I ate about 2 tonnes of dirt. I was on a high for the remainder of the day…. Total exhilaration

    Standard……………Prior to approaching I remind myself of jumping out of a plane at 10000ft which is a touch scarier than talking to girls.

    Day 23

    Venture and Sterling gave us all feedback on the halfway point and the completion of the New York leg. They split the feedback into two groups,
    1. The guys who if they left the program would not make permanent changes
    2. They guys who where killing it

    I was in the first group and was the first to receive feedback from Venture and Sterling. They guys indicated that I have come along way however still have a far way to go. The main feedback is that I need to push myself harder, I am looking forward to getting to the next section of the trip and work with the instructors to improve. I need to make clear goals and hold myself accountable for them and let the instructors know what I need assistance with. The big things for me over the next three weeks will be sexual intent. For the next few nights we have been instructed just to have fun and that’s all…. Giddy Up

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    Day 24 of 46: Saturday, July 16th
    Yesterday was rough. There was a lot going through my mind that I knew I needed to come to peace with. While I’m sure I don’t have all the answers yet, I feel pretty good about where my head’s at this morning. I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to change how I receive feedback. When someone gives me constructive feedback, I will do a much better job of saying “ok” and not debating or adding additional information. It’s important to me that everyone that’s here helping me knows I care about what they have to say and that I’ll do my best to implement it.

    I’m excited about tonight because it’s our final party before we hop the plane to Sweden. With an entire house full of guys skilled to different degrees, I expect nothing less than a very interesting night.

    The party: A night to remember, for sure. Despite inviting three girls that said they were coming, only one actually showed up. That’s the bad news. The good news, however, was that the girl I most wanted is the one that showed; a beautiful Latin girl (Venezuelan) with an absolutely stunning body. This is exactly the type of girl that made we want to improve my skills with women in the first place. I met her during the day about a week ago just outside Khan’s loft in Soho. Going back to that day, this was a girl I saw buying a necklace from a street-side vendor. The guys I was with were trying to go somewhere but I told them I had to talk to that girl. I walked down the street a little ways, waited for her to finish shopping, then walked by her the opposite direction before approaching. I know it sounds so ridiculous to take such measures but when you see a girl like this (she’s exactly my type) you might as well do what you think gives you the greatest chance of success.

    Luck was on my side in this case as I had a great conversation with her and ended up number closing. However, I learned that she had a boyfriend but she seemed fairly open to seeing me again. Usually I would just leave girls with boyfriends alone but I had to pursue in this case… had to. Back to the party, she came with a friend and drove her car rather than take the train (she lives in Brooklyn). Before she showed up I was doing pretty well with two different girls; this was helpful to both get me warmed up. When my girl showed up I immediately made sure to initiate more intimate types of touching like putting my arm over her, holding hands, putting my hand on her leg, etc., and generally leading her around the party. As the night progressed, and we started building deeper comfort, I felt like I was far enough to kiss her. So I walked her onto the balcony where we were by ourselves and went for the kiss during a high-point in our conversation.

    She turned her head away but didn’t physically move. Since this isn’t the first time a girl’s rejected my initial attempt to kiss them, I just kept on trucking. A few minutes later I tried again. Again she turned away but this time explained that she has a boyfriend that she lives with and she can’t be kissing other guys. However, the strange thing was she would still happily stand next to me holding hands and talking. Either way, who cares – I decided I was going to go for it anyway. For the rest of the night, I tried alternating between interesting conversation, playful teasing, and physical escalation. However, regardless of what I tried I was unable to make out with her and unable to isolate her. One time I even pulled her into the bathroom and tried to escalate.

    I could tell she was interested but she was continually thwarting my advances. I even said, “I can tell that you want to fuck. I’d challenge you to tell me I’m wrong.” And she responded, “I can’t because I’d be lying.” It also didn’t help that her boyfriend was continually texting her near the end of the night. Long story short, despite trying everything I could think of at the time, I wasn’t able to get any further than what I already mentioned before she went home. While I felt awesome because it was a fun night with a really hot girl, I also felt like I dropped the ball. Why did this girl come all the way out here to party if she wasn’t open to the possibility of more? I’m sure I couldn’t have done better in a number of areas. I’ll need to chat with the instructors to learn what I should have done differently.

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    Thursday, July 14 (Day 22/46)...riding the high from last night we were off to go skydiving early in the AM...skydiving is something I’ve wanted to do for a long time, I was supposed to do it seven years ago in Interlaken but the weather gods decided they weren’t going to allow that so I had been ready to do it for quite some time...for whatever reason, I always thought I’d be nervous jumping out of an airplane but somehow that wasn’t the case...in the first plane up with Bullet -- and by plane we’re talking a tiny Cessna that can barely fit five people in it -- we made our way up, this part of the process is one of those that I hadn’t accounted for because it is about twenty minutes up which gives you plenty of time to remember that you are jumping out of a perfectly good airplane...around 7,000ft up the pilot told us we had three minutes before jumping and my nerves picked up at that point but the thought in my mind was simple: I know on a probability level that death is unlikely so why am I worried? well the brain and mind try to protect the body from any kind of pain (physical or mental) so it wants you to be scared but I quickly embraced the feeling and when we jumped a couple minutes later it was one of the most thrilling few minutes of my life...the reason I tell the story above is just that there are similarities between social interactions and skydiving in the way that the mind works and seeing the power of being able to control my mind is one of the biggest intangibles I can point to as part of my development during this program...one line that continually comes to mind is from Venture’s first seminar on inner game: “if you can’t do it, then you MUST do it”...truer words are rarely spoken.

    Riding the high from the day we went out to the biergarten...I was a bit fatigued but thankfully AC Darwin pushed me and we got strong attraction really quickly, however, even though he gave me the cuter girl, I wasn’t all that attracted to her...in the spirit of a “warmup” although it was getting late, we plowed through and had these girls ready for a venue change...as we went to move, a girl I had met two weeks earlier and been texting with since but hadn’t been able to meet up with showed up (which was slightly unexpected since she had flaked a few times prior) and I had to eject and went to her...she had “forgotten” her ID and I told her I could still get us into a bar, which I realized was a longshot at best, however we moved around a few times before deciding it was best to go back to my apartment and have a glass of wine...it was interesting because I hadn’t spent more than 30minutes with her the first time we met and most of our interactions had been through text -- another shoutout to Laurent for plenty of help along the way -- but we had a fairly strong connection for lack of really knowing one another...back at my place she was resistant for a while to any kind of contact but the moment she took down her shield, it was on...

    Friday, July 15 (Day 23/46)...wow, halfway mark, I can’t really put into words the value of this experience so far, it is just powerful on a level that I didn’t know was possible...

    The debriefs have been intense, during one of which I was called out (rightfully so) for my over imbibing in alcohol at the first party and for some obvious issues with my game that I needed to address sooner than later because they were hindering my development on serious level...so everytime we’ve gone into these all the Rockstars tense up a bit, making it a bit more stressful this time was that there were nearly ten other people around who had come in for the final weekend...as it worked out the instructors were really complimentary for the most part and praised our growth which brought goose bumps to me -- sounds like a chick but the truth because the words were true and there was a real level of mutual respect felt at that moment...Rockstar Adam was called out for some things going in with his development that I’ll leave for him to share but the thing that stuck out to me was the way the other Rockstars bonded together in saying that his issues are our issues and we plan on making his progress as important as our progress going forward...with the instructions: to go out and have fun this weekend, we all did as we headed to 230 Fifth for our final time.

    Saturday, July 16 (Day 24/46)...the day of our final party has arrived...for the past three weeks we have been preparing for this night by getting as many numbers as possible and trying to invite a ton of girls to Rockstar Khan’s sick Soho loft...after a late night, we all met up for a farewell dinner at a spot in the East Village I’d never been to that had some great latin fusion food...it was great to have all these people there to share this last night -- can’t say enough about the guys who have contributed to this program: J Intrigue, Dutch, Darwin, Colin, Laurent, Trigger...guys that are getting no compensation and have paid their way to come help us develop as people, it’s just awesome to have people like that around...ton of instructors worth mentioning too: Sterling, Nick Hoss, Big Business, Future, Fader and of course the biggest thanks to Venture >> these guys all have some huge karma coming their way in the future.

    So party time and everyone is rearing to go...Nick Hoss pulls in the first group of nearly ten cute girls who show up and from there the place just keeps filling up and up...by the end of the night, I’d say over sixty people came through, with nearly two thirds being girls...I personally had close to eight people flake on me which can be attributed to many things but one place I struggled was a few misplaced texts that could have been more poignant to land at least one of them...on the good side, two of my girls did come and I ended up going home with my girl...she’s a cute girl with just the type of body I like and fun personality...I had let Rockstar Nick send a highly sexualized text earlier in the night, kind of as a joke and it was awesome to see how effective it had been...

    Sunday, July 16 (Day 25/46)...back to Times Square with Bullet to do some more filming for the documentary, have to admit, this is kind of brutal after a long night but we made the best of it...nobody asked us this time if we were with the “Australian boy band” but we got enough looks to indicate that’s what they were thinking...headed over to the Frying Pan for some afternoon revelry and that’s what we got...the Frying Pan is an interesting place as it’s an old fire rescue ship that is docked as a barge on the Hudson river with a ton of tables ...after borrowing a phone charger from Bullet’s cute girl for the day, I found a place to plug it in and quickly made the girl sitting next to it my secretary: this led to some fun roleplay each time I went over to check it and when she had to leave she came over to me

    Went to a bar later with a few of the Rockstars and Darwin...was nice to not take things too seriously and go out and have some fun with sets..sometimes on this trip game can feel like work and lose the fun so it was nice this weekend to have the opportunity to have fun with it and not take things too seriously..this program is powerful which was apparent by the number of people who came to NY and now are trying to find a way to get to Stockholm to come hang for the rest of the project...

    Monday, July 17 (Day 26/46)...moving day and we are ready to go...got some last minute shopping in before heading out...everyone had a ton of fun over the weekend -- too much? potentially, but there is real excitement and anticipation for a venue change to Stockholm...from a personal perspective, the NYC part of the trip has been one of the quickest, most condensed periods of growth in my life...I figured I’d list a few of my highlights from the first few weeks...first moment I remember vividly was number closing a cute girl on the first day of day game after going in wondering how on earth I was going to be able to do it, yes, it was definitely clunky but it gave me a big boost...there were three other numbers in day game that really stuck out: one of which was an Aussie girl that we hit a level of attraction that showed me when things were done right how powerful it all is...the girl I pulled the night of the final party was interesting because I met her after I had decided to leave the club but was convinced by Rockstar Jake to stick around even though I was exhausted and finally hit one on the final set of the night...remember the sexual escalation with a cute, Russian girl on 4th of july that I pulled later on where I thought I had gone too far and blown myself out only to find out I had turned her on so much she had to run away from me...the girl from after the comedy club is one of my favorite interactions from the trip: I will remember kissing her for a long time, it was a spark that I was able to light in such a short time frame >>

    With that in mind, it’s worth noting some of my goals for the Stockholm portion...I am definitely not approaching enough 9’s and 10’s...this is a result of some inner game issues that I haven’t addressed properly...I need to strengthen all of my mastery topics..one thing that sticks out to me that I’ve heard a few times (recently from Trigger): if you want to get a 10, then you have to be a 10...I am confident in who I am and what I’ve done with my life but we all have things we need to fix, I want to continue to fix the flaws, both inside and out, so that I can be the 10...one way to accomplish this is going to be through an exercise J Intrigue taught me about writing down all your limiting beliefs and then addressing them regularly to know what they are, why you think that and then correcting yourself when they are proven wrong.

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    Day 25 of 46: Sunday, July 17th
    Now that I’ve had a chance to chat with Venture and others in detail about last night’s events (making good physical progress with the hot Latin girl with a boyfriend but no make-out) I’ve noticed several things I can do much better next time.

    Areas for Improvement:
    An example of this could be when the conversation is going well, I can pull her in firmly by her hips to where her whole body is pressed against mine and say something like, “wow, you are sexy… I really want you right now”. Of course how this is said is more important than the actual words. So in my understanding of how this should be said, it should be done with strong eye contact (focused on her left eye) but you can also triangle gaze (stare at her eyes then down to her lips) and bite your lip a little to further show what you’re thinking about. It’s also critical that the actual words are said with thick sexual intent. Then when you push her away you should use body language as if you’re struggling to not jump her bones right then and you need to tone it back a bit. It’s when you push away that you want to break eye contact and resume a more normal conversation. While I still don’t really have this down yet, I think that’s one example of a more sexual push/pull that will drive women to be more sexually aggressive back. Since this is a very new area for me, this is my current understanding that I hope is directionally correct.

    Secondly, I should have made the conversation significantly more sexual. While we talked a little bit about sex, I missed a huge opportunity here. Then as the conversation became more intense, I could have better mixed in the sexual push/pull I talked about earlier and I believe I would have created MUCH more sexual tension and desire from her.

    Another fun thing we did today was go shopping. Nick and Edgar were awesome enough to cruise a few stores with me and help me pick out several new things that not only have an edge, but also better fit the identity I’d like to create. In fact, identity is an interesting topic to cover. What should my identity be? I’ve found this to be a very difficult question for me to answer. As my game is in constant evolution, I wonder if it’s still too early for me to pick an identity. However, for the sake of interesting conversation, I think I’ve come up with a few ideas. Ultimately I’d like to be a guy that amazing women see as fun, successful, intriguing (deep thinker), genuinely caring, and shamelessly sexual. If I could present myself in a way that strongly and consistently shows these five qualities I’d be ecstatic.

    Day 26 of 46: Monday, July 18th
    Today is a big day that I know everyone is really excited about; today we travel to the land of beautiful blonde women! Stockholm, Sweden, here we come!! I couldn’t be more excited. It will be awesome to see how everyone’s game will progress in such a different environment. This will be my first experience with game on foreign soil.

    Edgar has been helping me a ton on digging to the root of some of my weaknesses. Over the past two days we’ve really drilled into a few areas and came to a conclusion that I also need to think more about my boundaries. I have a tendency to give people, including women, a really long leash. This becomes a problem when women test my boundaries and they find out how relaxed they are. This stems from me being a socially easy-going person that doesn’t like to tell other people “no” in social settings. I need to be more clear about what I like, and what I won’t stand for; women need to know that I’m the type of guy that stands up for what I believe in.

    I also thought quite a bit about my own personal concept of sexuality. I’ve noticed I’ve been a bit sexually hesitant and it’s hurting me with the hottest girls who expect an unflappably confident guy who makes them feel 100% comfortable in any situation. I need to create a much stronger sexual frame that withstands anything a beautiful woman can possibly throw at me. For example, a girl will often give a surprised look when you first say something sexual. A man needs a strong enough frame that he can take this in stride and, through words and body language, show her that sex is the most natural things in the world. Venture puts this in a fun way; when a girl does something that indicates she’s uncomfortable talking sexually, he “looks at her like she’s retarded for thinking sex isn’t the most natural thing in the world”. Venture has such an incredibly strong sexual frame, he can often make the most conservative of girls feel sexually free enough to talk about their desires in a way they never have before… even to boyfriends. It’s a really sight to see how strong his sexual frame is. As a result, women he’s with have no question whether he’ll be able to make them 100% comfortable sexually. I need more of this!

    One awesome moment I’d also like to share today is something I saw one of the other Rockstars do. It happened as Nick, Edgar, and I were buying some duty-free alcohol right before boarding our flight to Stockholm. As we were just chatting, an attractive girl with her mom walked behind us in line. In typical ninja Edgar fashion, In less than five minutes of conversation they talked about their adventure in New York, where they’re from, what Edgar’s been up to in New York, what he does for work, and more. Edgar did a really good job of keeping the conversation fun and interesting.

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    Day 16-17, Saturday & Sunday July 9th & 10th:
    I’m away from the group this Saturday and Sunday, as I have a pre-planned trip to my friend’s house in the Hamptons for the weekend, where we will celebrate his birthday with a close group of friends. I’m glad to see my old friends, though I’m also sad to miss a weekend of Rockstar, wondering what the guys are getting up to.

    Luckily, I’m taking my day game girl with me, which I think is a huge step for her to make, after having known me less than a week. We have hung out almost every day since we met on Monday and now she is spending the weekend with me.

    Over the last few days, I have started building a sense of belonging and destiny. I start to truly appreciate just how powerful a day game approach can be, when done right, as it allows you to make a connection in a way that seems like the stars aligned and some deep and irresistible chemistry drew you together to start talking to this stranger on the street. I like this girl more and more as I get to know her. I tell myself to focus on the big picture, and the fact that I met a really cool girl that I could actually see myself with so soon into the 6 week program raises the question of what else might come my way, now that I’m opening myself up to such opportunities.

    Some of my friends want to take some mushrooms, and the girl is into it, so I take some too, and we have an intense experience, walking out in the grass, with the trees looming above us in the sun. By the time we are ready to sleep, our bond is deep.

    Day 20, Monday, July 11th:
    I’m back with the Rockstars, and I can sense the pace has slowed down somewhat. People are less enthusiastic about going out and doing day game approaches. I think this is due to several reasons. The main one is that we have to do 5 minutes of stand-up comedy at an open mic on Wednesday, and we need some time to write our material for that. 5 minutes sounds like not much time, but it is actually very long to be up on stage, trying to elicit laughs.

    The other reason is fatigue. The rigorous schedule of going out and staying up late night after night is wearing people down. Personally, I am completely exhausted, though the mushrooms have something to do with that. Finally, I have a number of text messages and facebook threads going at the same time with several women at the same time, and having such an abundance of women really kills your motivation to go and add more to the list.

    We all work on our comedy material for the majority of the day, and then we go out the Standard Beer Garden again. It is Monday and rather quiet, so there is a real limit to the number of sets out there. I shoot the shit with the guys for a bit, and right about then I hear one of two girls behind me say “lets get our shit on,” so I turn around her and tease her about it, as if she is scoping the field, looking for men to hunt. Her friend is actually pretty cute, so I stay in set, and Edgar comes over to wing for a while. Then, they have a guy friend, who I befriend. He turns out to be pretty chill and after a while, I leave them on friendly terms, saying I will run into them later if they stick around.

    I convince them to come back to my place to drink some more and to smoke some weed. They agree, so I take these two girls and guy to my place. They are captivated by my pet kitten, and grab the hand of the girl I like. We interlock fingers and start doing the hand dance, and then I start making out with her, all while the other two are on the other side of the same couch. This is a huge eye opener for me, because in the past, I would never have escalated like that while her friends were in the room, and so close, but I think she likes that I have balls and am not ashamed of taking what I want, resulting in her being quite responsive. She is to catch a train to DC the next day, but I convince her to come back into the city next weekend for our big party, and I feel pretty good about my chances if I see her again.

    Day 21, Tuesday, July 12th:
    We all do more preparation for the stand-up for the first part of the day. Bullet tells us he expects more from our blogs, telling us he wants about 400 words minimum per day. He says mine are pretty good, which is nice, but then tells us he wants us to rewrite the previous blogs as per the new instructions. What a pain in the ass! Luckily, he gives us till next Monday to get these done, which is a bit of a relief. If you’re reading this, go back and read the old blogs… they should be updated and even more interesting now.

    Fader drops in to teach us his inner game seminar. To be honest, I wish we could have had more of Fader, as this guy, like most of the instructors, has his own style. I particularly enjoy him, because this is a guy that not only loves to teach, but he also reads about 4 books a month, thus having really intelligent things to say. Being an academic, I really appreciate this. Your game can improve in many ways, but if you want to get truly amazing, you have to also be an interesting and compelling person, and the best way to be such a person is through rich experiences, good humor and reading a lot.

    Fader’s inner game stuff is broken down extremely well, and I wish he didn’t have to rush through it.

    Day 22, Wednesday, July 13th:
    Today is the day we get up on stage, in front of a bunch of strangers, and try to make them laugh for 5 minutes. We are supposed to meet at the venue at 6pm, and have till then to prepare on our own. I invited the girl from the party two Saturday back, who I had also had one date with. She was enthusiastic about coming, which is good because I feel like she is almost ready to go all the way.

    The comedy gets underway, and I watch my fellow Rockstars get up there and give their best. I’m actually rather impressed, as I thought they were all better than most of the other guys that got up there, some of whom were people who did this regularly. I thought Zack was surprisingly funny but everyone had something that I liked. My date arrived half way through, looking smoking hot, and sat down beside me.

    When it was my turn, I got up there and some really good things happened, as I was able to deliver a totally new opening, that I had come up with while waiting, which worked really well, and the ending that I had not quite figured out came out well also. However, all the stuff I had spent time thinking about, such my presentation, where I would take my time, use pauses and funny facial expressions to really get into the stories, and be extremely confident went straight out of the window. I was extremely nervous up there, and found myself rushing through the material and pacing around. Luckily, I got quite a few laughs anyway and it felt fantastic as soon as I was done, but it was a really valuable learning experience and I made some great mental notes for when I would do this again in the future.

    My date loved it, and I took her to dinner from the venue. I then took her home and it was clear that it was on.

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    Day 23, Thursday, July 14th:
    Today we go skydiving. Laurent has organized everything, including the van to take us there. Future, and other approach coaches, come with us making it a big jolly van of adventurers. There was great banter all the way to the drop zone, and throughout the day, making the whole process very enjoyable, which is good because the skydiving itself is quite short.

    I’ve done this before, so I wasn’t very nervous, but after signing away all my legal rights in case of accident, and seeing the tiny plane, that barely fits 5 people and is easily the smallest aircraft I have ever been into, I started to question the safety of what I was doing. However, once you’re up there and strapped to the jumpmaster, you don’t really have a choice and the jump itself is a welcome rush. Future was my jump partner, which is good because he is an incredibly funny persona and makes most situations more enjoyable.

    Once the jump was over, what struck me was that the impact of the skydiving on my body chemistry paled in comparison to what happened during the standup comedy. It’s incredible that getting up in front of 40 people with prepared material is somehow scarier than jumping out of a plane! This reaffirmed my desire to keep doing standup in the future, till I became comfortable with it and felt completely in control of my body.

    We had left the city at 11am and I got back home at 8pm. I was meeting a girl and I spent the remainder of the night with her. This was one of the girls I had met a few weeks before Rockstar had begun, and not only did I enjoy spending time with her, but I also needed to, in order to keep the relationship alive, as I was constantly avoiding her due to our very busy schedule. She had bought me a really cool present; antique opium pipe that extended and shrunk, with awesome patterns and carvings on the side. I would have to get her something in return.

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    Day 24 Sat

    Waked up and returned home to the Gramercy Apartment, people look at you strange when you are in full going out clothes in the middle of the day. I relaxed for the remainder of the afternoon as the Soho Party was upon us. We all went out to dinner to an amazing restaurant with everyone who had helped us over the three weeks. It was a great atmosphere and we where all getting pumped for the party.

    Party Time……………. All the girls I had met and invited had flaked….Lucky Nick Hoss managed to get a group of 10 girls to arrive to the party to start things off. There would have been over 50 people through the doors with at least 2/3rds being women. Male to Female ratio was good. I meet a cute girl from the group the Nick Hoss invited, I did try to isolate to the bathroom but she was not in for that. She left with her friends and then I proceeded to go to the kitchen to get a drink.

    I was approached by one of the Blonde girls still at the party and she started to ask me some questions about my interests and hobbies. She must of found that information from one of the other Rockstars…… Thanks Boys. We had a little bit of a chat and then things got quite sexual. All the other guys where motioning….. “go home with this girl get her out of here”, her other two friends where still at the party and she said she was going home with them. So I indicated that we should go outside and around the corner of the hallway. She was concerned that her friend might walk around the corner.

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    Tuesday, July 18 (day 27/46)...first day in Stockholm...most of us didn’t get much sleep on the flight over...had a little bit of a disappointment on the flight as I was seated in a 3seater with an Asian girl and sparked some serious attraction but didn’t push to the proper level (by not taking advantage of the empty middle seat between us) so ended up with nothing more than a few laughs...when we got to the hotel we realized how much Venture hooked us up as we got upgraded four floors to the top two floors of the hotel with sick views of the lake outside as well as awesome bathrooms with showerheads just begging to be used for things other than showers..

    After resting up for a few hours, we headed out to our first night on the town at Soap Bar...this was definitely a new environment for alot of people: it is both loud and tightly confined...the type of place actually that in the past I would have hated and gotten out of immediately >> well what a difference three weeks makes because I had a blast there... everything hooked really quickly...I escalated to a pretty sexual level quickly but decided I wanted to check out more of the venue, and particularly the US vacationers before settling so went on my way...

    over the next two hours, I went into approx. 10 and was hooking about 80% of the time...because of the volume of the music and tightness of space it became difficult to maintain conversation for extended periods so I found blowouts coming the longer I stayed in set...as most people were tired, we headed home after a few hours but I saw it as a reasonably successful night as I went right into just about every set out there and had relative success with a new race of people who I have been warned do not act in the same manner as the Americans

    On the way home Venture was explaining that the way to succeed in that type of environment, particularly in Sweden, is to go into sets and quickly hit some attraction then leave on a spike and try to meetup again later in the evening...this is because, as I found out, the longer you stay the more stimuli that these women experience and need to move on so you cannot expect to monopolize their time in this environment for the entire evening and because leaving on a strong note gives you more value later as well as the opportunity for social proof...

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    Day 28 of 46: Wednesday, July 20th
    As fun as day game was in New York, I’m getting a sense that Sweden may just top that. Not only are there tons of attractive women out here, but they are also extremely friendly. And to top it off, most are pretty excited to meet Americans. All of these elements provide for a daytime playground of epic possibilities. Over the course of 2 or 3 hours, I approached 7 girls. While some of the conversations weren't as deep as I would have liked and will probably flake, one of them hooked pretty hard and she said she’d be in town for a few hours and would be interested in drinks… tonight! So she came to meet us (Edgar winged for me… he is awesome) at the hotel at 7:30 and brought her friend. Since they had to leave to catch a train at 9pm, Edgar and I both went to work quickly. Edgar did a great job of isolating his girl so we could both get more privacy. Throughout our conversation, I was able to escalate reasonably far physically (holding hands, holding arm around her, putting hand on her inner thigh without her fidgeting, etc.) I tried for the kiss at one point and she didn’t go for it.

    However, her reaction was more of a “not yet” so I just kept on going with the conversation. The area that I think would have made things smoother is if I could have gotten the conversation more sexual. Every time I eased the conversation towards a more sexual context she would get a little uncomfortable. One time she even mentioned that in her culture (she’s not a native Swede) they don’t have sex until they get married. Admittedly, this surprised me a bit. This, combined with how uncomfortable she was talking about sex made me wonder if she’s still a virgin. Next time I see her I need a plan for this. She’s a really sweet girl so I want to treat her right, but maybe she just needs the right guy to make her feel comfortable, safe, and relaxed. We’ll see.

    It’s becoming apparent that to reach my potential I am going to need much more energy at night. While I started with good energy for about the first 90 minutes, I really started to fizzle after that and struggled near the end. It’s amazing how much of a difference it makes when you start to feel tired. At the beginning of the night virtually everything was opening well. Then after my energy dipped I had a small handful that didn’t open well at all. Looking back, I’m sure that I broke the cardinal rule of coming in at the same energy level or a little higher. In comparison, some of the other Rockstars are like human balls of fire that can bounce around from set to set without skipping a beat. I have to admit, I’m a bit amazed by this (one good example is Nick… that guy can move and talk forever… never met anyone quite like that). Growing up, nearly all of my friends were the type to stand on the wall and just hang out at bars and clubs. We would almost never talk to anyone. Now, it’s like a complete 180 to where some of these guys talk to virtually EVERYONE. It’s amazing. While I’ve come quite a ways relative to where I was, I must raise my energy level even further to keep up. Night game is a very different animal than day game and I need to approach it with the same fervor.

    On the bright side, I did have one very positive set tonight. It was a cute blonde girl who’s in town until Sunday. We hit it off well and I was being proactive with the physical escalation from the start. Within a couple minute we were holding hands and I was putting my hand on her hips and other playful touching. After about 20-30 minutes of talking to her I started getting the sense that I should try to kiss her. As I was looking for a decent opportunity to go for it, she got a phone call and had to step out. I said, “yeah, go ahead” and figured I’d see her again later. Unfortunately, she never came back. Oh well. I got some good practice physically escalating and I realized after the fact (Laurent had some great feedback). I needed to create more sexual tension.

    In summary of tonight’s events, while there were a couple good moments where I was doing things I wasn’t just a few days ago, I need to bring more overall energy so I can practice with more sets. Maybe I need to make my goal for tomorrow night to simply try to stay in that high energy state as long as possible and be much more talkative and touchy-feely. I also noticed that my more wordy openers are just not working that well in loud club environments. I’m going to try much simpler direct openers and see how they go. I think this should help me focus more on getting my non-verbals better such as a more seductive eye contact, comfortable body language, and responsive physical escalation.

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    Day 25 Sunday Rancho Relaxo

    Relaxation……………… We completed another photo/film shoot around Time’s square with Bullet. Everyone was slightly hungover but there was still a little enthusiasm. It took what I thought for ages to get the Frying Pan, sometimes where are like old bitches when it come to being punctual for activities it is a little bit annoying because I always plan to be early. It was great to relax at the Frying Pan with the boys and of course one of Bullets dates, very rarely see him without one. Something about the place leads you to drink Sangria by the pitcher before too long it was time to move.

    The formidable four (Zach, Edgar the Ninja, Darwin and myself) were together again under the leadership of the slightly drunk Zach attack. We jumped a cab and we ended up at a dive bar somewhere on 50th street, not once did Zach tell us where we were going I was a little concerned but we started to have a fair bit of fun. The bar consisted mainly of students and a guy who took Beer Pong way to seriously, to the point where if he acted like that around a pool table in Australia he would of got his lights punched out.

    Zach was on fire he opened every girl in the bar with 10 minutes there may have been a little booze involved but we where having fun. I spoke to a blonde girl at the bar with what may have been her boyfriend. Spoke about hip hop the dougie and then she offered to show me some ass grinding on my crouch very polite thing to do for a tourist. We opened a couple more however there was this blonde German girl at the bar with some random guy so………..I started to have a chat she turned in her chair and started to face me. Darwin saw the shift and come into run distraction on the male friend…..Thanks Darwin…..we got speaking a bit more about scuba diving and then I asked her what would your friend think if I kissed you right now………….. Nothing just kiss me on the cheek…..Well I didn’t for the cheek she pulled away I realized this was not going anywhere too fast so Darwin and I decided to head home. I hope Darwin makes it to Stockholm.

    I was feeling a little hungry so I went to Dunkin Doughnuts for a 3:00am highly nutritional meal. Too my shock when I arrived the manager was throwing all the doughnuts out. I said “What are you doing that’s crazy” He said “Do you want some?” I ended up with a big bag of Jam doughnuts for free. I arrived home to the apartment to see no other than Nick Hoss on the couch talking with another Texas girl. He needs a new nickname Nick Hoss “Texas ranger”. We spoke for a while about religion and monasteries and then I went to bed.

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    Day 26 Mon and Day 27 Tue

    Farewell New York, Hello Stockholm

    Felt very seedy on Monday it had been a massive weekend and I consumed a lot more alcohol then I normally do. Nick F helped me with some new threads in G Star Raw as we where all doing one last shopping trip prior to heading to Sweden. We all have our own fashion styles now…… we are rocking it. The worst thing that could ever happen 4 hours prior to an international flight is to realize that you don’t know where you passport is. Venture had everyone concerned for about an hour until Khan found it in folder.

    The flight to Stockholm started with a bang…….. That was some serious turbulence straight after take off. Possibly the worst I have every experienced on a Jet liner. Memories from another time I had feared for my life on a plane crept back into my mind.

    I was returning to Townsville on a 20 seat plane called a Metro, slender cigar shaped plane which during summer had serious weight restrictions. Thus requiring everyone to weigh themselves and luggage prior to getting aboard. Right at the end of the flight we flew over the ranges near Townsville and the plane started to vibrate and move up and down like a yoyo being controlled by a retarded kid having an epileptic fit. My knuckles turned white gripping the seat in front of me, I looked over the person next to me…….. he also was shitting his pants with the terrified look of potential death. I thought to myself I hope this is not the last person I see…….. he is one ugly bastard. The turbulence continued for about 2 minutes the flight smoothed out and we landed safely. Once on the ground one of the guys right behind the pilot asked” What the fuck! happened back there”. The pilot looked around gesturing his arms up and down with cheeky look on his face ” I don’t know I was just moving my hands up and down”

    Looking out the window Venture pointed out a lightning storm raging to the right of the plane….if I was a pilot I would avoid that, especially after take off when all the wings are full of fuel. That put me on edge for the remainder of the flight.

    Stockholm……. we are all tired but everyone is very excited. I could sense all of us looking out the bus window to see how hot the Stockholm girls where. There is a fair bit of anticipation in the camp. After a few hours rest....... then to the soap bar, the club is small and packs up really quick, very high energy with some very good-looking women. I was finding it hard to hook sets, I still need some more energy and I did not have enough research on Swedish stereo types to tease well. I do find it hard to game in high energy, loud environments one thing I do need to get better at. I did feel that I was at the starting point again with these girls and was similar to the first couple of nights out in New York. It did feel like the other Rockstars were feeling the same way. At the end of the night Venture indicated to do short sets increase state and leave and catch up with them later.

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    Day 26: July 18
    Up Up and Away

    So we were able to spend a last half a day in NYC for some final shopping and packing. Thankfully, I'm about all shopped out, but I warned the other guys how expensive Stockholm will be...I don't know how fully I was believed. Oh well.

    I was relieved that I could fit everything in the bags I'd brought and even had a bit of spare room afterwards. I had maybe my best meal of the day in NYC at a dosa place in SoHo, yum. When we got to the airport we were instructed (told we'd get a strike if we didn't...) to buy alcohol. In the checkout line a really attractive woman and her mother stood behind Edgar who was last in line. Being the wildly social people that we are, he opened with something like, "I'd like to congratulate you for having such a gorgeous daughter." Laughter ensued, and Adam and myself waited for him to finish chatting outside of the duty free.

    When he walked out, with quite a smile on his face, I asked he'd facebooked the girl. He looked at me blankly for about half a second then walked back into the store to get her facebook contact info. I strongly believe that the value of cold approach is more in the connections you build for the long term than anything like dates or hookups. He now has a potential friend in London/Dubai (depending on when he's around) and she seemed quite high status. The doors these types of approaches can open are massive.

    Feeling the social bug, Edgar approached two twins who were standing in line for check in behind us. When we boarded the plane it turned out that they were in the row across from myself and Adam, so Edgar came and took the aisle seat. I tried to sleep as much as I could, since I've been starting to get a little sick. I remember waking at one point and seeing Edgar in the middle and a girl on either side of him. Well done, sir! Double Mile High Club? Does that even exist or are the bathrooms too small? Ahhh, logistics :P

    On the plane, we managed to get a little shut eye, transfer in Iceland - yes opening your duty free bag and drinking half the vodka will get it thrown out - and showed up in Stockholm on Tuesday at around noon.

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    Day 27: July 19
    Ich Bin Ein Stockholmer

    Yeah, I know the title makes little sense. I think jet lag jump kicked me in the throat. Feeling a bit sick still and hungry and grumpy. Bleh. I took a walk around the city to begin the process of getting my iPhone unlocked and acquiring a local number. Jesus, really difficult. I did manage to go grocery shopping to save some $$ and of course the guy behind the counter didn't tell me you had to buy bags. So I tried using the free ones and looked like a total jackass. Ah well, social pressure ain't got shit on me no more!

    I grabbed a quick 4 hour nap, and we all went out for dinner around 11, only to discover that not much is open for dinner at 11 on a Tuesday night...other than Friday's...sweet. We ended up having some good Rockstar time and rolled into Soap Bar around 12:30 maybe? Holy shit this place is loud and crowded, it reminded me of being back in college. I had a terrible time getting into state all night. Talked with Venture and Nick Hoss about this some. I think feeling sick, being bumped by large dudes every thirty seconds, and literally finding out that I do in fact have a bit of claustrophobia is not the best welcome to Stockholm. I definitely did not feel good.

    I opened a few sets as I was able to navigate, but I couldn't hear anything the girls were saying. I've played drums for a long time and my hearing in loud areas sucks. Feeling a bit discouraged I headed home with Jake, and opened a girl walking her bike with her friend on the way. Again, it didn't hook. I think I'm still struggling a bit internally with the nonexistant language barrier I mentally believe should be there.

    I'm also feeling low energy and in a place like Soap you definitely need to be bouncing around and feeling the flow. Hopefully I can get a phone tomorrow and cure some of my woes. I have a few friends here I'd like to get into contact with and my world plan from ATT is insanely expensive.

    We discovered a really loud club about a block from the hotel called F12, I think it might be a good place so we'll have to check it out in the upcoming days. I remember thinking how quiet and dark it was when I went to sleep at 2:30, and woke up to my clock reading 14:16....wtf! I slept for 12 hours!

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    Day 29 of 46: Thursday, July 21th
    Today Nick Hoss took us out again for day game. Today I think I approached 6 but no numbers. Sometimes you hit bad streaks during the day when a high percentage of girls have boyfriends or are married (I never notice the ring when a girl with looks to kill struts by... I'm human after all). The most fun interaction was one in which I ran across the street to talk to a beautiful girl at the bus stop. Of course I tried to get her number but I think it came off as too rushed and she declined. When I went back to Nick Hoss to get some advice he had an interesting perspective.

    Tonight was an absolute train wreck and a breakthrough at the same time. This was the definition of a tale of two nights wrapped into one. The first 90 minutes was the absolute worst night of the entire trip. I had approach anxiety like I haven’t had the entire trip. WHAT THE FUCK!! We’ve been doing this practically every night for weeks and now my anxiety shoots through the roof?!? I felt like an idiot. I could see girls I wanted to talk to but I literally couldn’t think of anything fun to say. I even had a couple of the guys telling me I had a “deer in the headlights” look. The feeling was so intense that I almost started wondering what the fuck am I doing here. As my mood sank, I wondered to myself, “maybe I should just stick to day game”. It was at that point (and also after a great talk with my man Laurent who is a fantastic motivator) that I actually realized this is a critical moment in my life. If I pussy out now, I will pussy out at loud night clubs for the rest of my life.

    Just because I’ve had almost no success in the past at venues like these doesn’t mean I can’t have success in the future. I actually thought back to two things Venture talked about on the first day. 1) This is just a skill set; if others can do it, so can I. 2) You must be self-entertaining. I know I’ve mentioned that second one a few times in other blog posts but I genuinely think it FINALLY clicked tonight when my back was against the wall. The more feedback I’ve been getting, and the more I’ve wanted to implement it, the more I’ve hesitated to trust my instincts. And being tentative is the absolute WORST thing you can do in a super loud venue where body language and sub-communications are paramount. I feel like attractive girls can immediately see if a guy is scared or nervous. I’ve been playing scared the last couple weeks in loud night venues. Fuck that. No more.

    What finally turned it around for me was when I said to myself, “I don’t give a fuck what happens. I’m going to go back in there, talk to every even remotely attractive girl I see and have fun. If I feel like dancing, I’ll dance. If I feel like teasing a girl about something completely silly, I’ll tease her. I honestly don’t care. I know we’re learning all this new information, but I’m fucking myself by over thinking it. I’m going to make mistakes but I trust my instincts. Fuck it.” Then an amazing thing happened. When I completely let go of my fears and the pressure of “Do good or you’ll get kicked out”, I was almost instantly in state and saying and doing many of the things we’ve been studying. During these last 90 minutes that we were at the club, I’ve never thought less about all of our instruction but I actually acted on more of it than any other night at a super loud venue. I let my subconscious mind take over and it felt amazing. To some of the other Rockstars and instructors they may not see the moral victory in this that I do, but I know the incredible depths of my historical anxiety and hatred for super loud clubs. Tonight was the first truly great breakthrough for me in these venues.

    Tonight's magic moment: In loud venues, trust your subconscious mind over ALL else. Outside of the venue you should certainly think deeply about what you want to improve on and go over it as many times as you can beforehand. However, once you get to the club, throw away EVERY SINGLE analytical thought in your mind. These thoughts are like terrorists in your brain that absolutely crush your creative energy. Trust your instincts, play like a champion, and worry about what happened in the morning.

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    Day 19 – Monday 11/07/11
    Today we were all beginning to write our comedy routines. It seems like we don’t have much time to prepare given that we are going to be presenting to the audience on Wednesday!

    I already had something in mind that happened to me recently that I would use in my comedy routine; a crazy NYC cab driver that told us a bunch of really disgusting stories. I then thought about the last time I could remember that I was laughing uncontrollably; and wrote some notes about this, then created a short joke to hook the audience at the beginning of my set. The routines should be up on the blog in the near future so keep an eye out! At this point I am beginning to get a little stressed about whether or not I am going to be ready on time for the show; and if I am going to be able to remember all of my jokes.

    Tonight we went to the standard beer garden again; unfortunately it was really quiet. I got a beer with some of the other guys and had a short chat, then opened a set at a table (from what I could see they were the only attractive girls in the bar). We talked for about 5 minutes and a couple of the other guys came in to join the set and sat down. I really wasn’t feeling good tonight; confidence was at a low, energy completely lacking, and generally uninterested in being there. I forced myself to open a couple more sets, and was introduced to a gorgeous girl by Nick Hoss (who then proceeded to leave the set); the set went very well but I soon found out that she was going to be leaving the city to go back to Canada in another day. This put me off going any further; in hindsight I should have just pushed this one because I was generally attracted to the girl, but my internal thoughts and mood were stopping me; I really need to learn how to control my state because it can really hold me back. I know I am the only one that can change it.

    A few of us decided to try some other bars. We walked around for a couple of hours bar hopping, but never had any luck finding somewhere suitable. We ended up at a live band karaoke venue which was awesome! It was really busy and extremely loud which made any interactions difficult, but it was still a fun end to the night.

    Day 20 – Tuesday 12/07/11
    Today we had Fader come in to talk about inner game. Inner game is something that is a constant issue for me so I got a lot out of this section of the seminar. Outer game flows naturally from good inner game, everything that we have learned up to this point has shown us that we cannot hide behind lines and routines; we must develop our inner game in order to become a truly interesting person that people gravitate toward. I need to be honest with myself by acknowledging the areas in which I need to make changes, and taking the steps toward doing so. A great point that Fader made which I really liked was as follows; you cannot be sincere to yourself when you lie to yourself by rationalising. I think that this is something that I often do which is self sabotaging. Some part of me must die consistently so that I can evolve into a better person; holding onto the old me is holding me back from becoming my ideal me.

    We all ended the night in the early AM after getting some food together at a restaurant. It was quite an eye opening experience; it would have been great to do the same thing another night as it didn’t feel like we got enough practice in tonight. I must thank Fader for his time today; we really enjoyed the seminar and the in field, and as mentioned above I especially enjoyed the first half of the seminar on inner game.

    Day 21 – Wednesday 13/07/11
    Today is the day we have all been nervous about for quite some time; tonight we must stand in front of an audience and deliver our hand made comedy routines! We all spent the day preparing and finishing off our routines. What a stressful day it was; first in the final preparation of my routine, and then running it over and over in my head until I was satisfied with it. The truth is, I don’t think any amount of preparation would have satisfied me.

    Once the time came in the evening, we all met at the club where we would be performing. Bullet took some footage of us explaining how we felt about our routines, our nerves, etc. We had a bit of time before we would have to be on stage so many of us grabbed a drink and refined our routines together at the bar; ensure that we worked on calming each other’s nerves.

    Everyone proceeded to sit down to watch the acts. It was a smaller room than expected, but still housed around 40 people in a dark, intimate setting. A big memorable character named Hector was the emcee, he clearly had a lot of experience in both hosting comedy and performing; he did a great job introducing the acts and improvising some jokes along the way. There were a few acts before any of us went up on stage; most of them gave us a few laughs, but there were some that were pretty terrible... My time finally came; I was extremely nervous when my name was called and I made my way onto the stage. The lights pointing toward the stage were so bright that I could hardly see the crowd. My heart was racing and I felt the need to move around on the spot and speak really quickly; but I took a deep breath and slowed myself down before picking up the mic. Throughout my act I got a lot of good laughs and was pretty happy with how I was going. I felt the little voice in my head seeking validation from the audience, but I was quick to squash it and just continue my routine as planned.

    After I was done, I felt great; it was a really rewarding experience. My routine definitely went well which was very pleasing, infact all of the Rockstars did a great job. Our group definitely provided some of the highlights of the night with most of us standing out from the other acts which were average at best. What an amazing experience this has been; if it weren’t for Rockstar, there is no way in the world that I would have chosen to do this off my own back, but I am really glad that I did it.

    After all of the comedy sets, we went out for dinner together and discussed our big wins and their emotional effects. It was great to sit down with everybody and see how good we were all feeling after this thing that we had been dreading for some time was finally over. After dinner we went to a couple of bars in the area and celebrated our comedic successes. I opened a lot of sets tonight which was pleasing, and also got the phone number of a very attractive girl (this is become a regular occurrence!). I realised that I need to work on extending interactions by mining for more conversation opportunities; something I will work on. This was a great night out with the guys; topping off a very satisfying day.

    Day 22 – Thursday 14/07/11
    Right now there are 13 of us in a van on our way to Long Island to hurl ourselves out of an airplane! Thanks to Laurent for arranging the vehicle and the skydiving for us all – what a great idea. He and the other Rockstars did the same things last year and if you watch the videos it looks like an amazing experience; what a way to venture outside our comfort zone! This is going to be my first skydiving experience. I am really nervous and scared at the same time, it’s a strange feeling. Funnily enough though, my nerves are not as bad as they were before the comedy set last night.

    Once we got to the airfield we were briefed by the staff and had to watch a quick video by the equipment manufacturers explaining that the equipment, whilst manufactured to a top standard, is not guaranteed not to fail... hrm... great start huh? Nerves are building at this point as we are requested to potentially sign our life away with an indemnity waiver; signing of which was verbalised by us and recorded on camera by the staff. I realise why they do this but man was it scary!

    Colin (one of last years Rockstars) and I jammed into this tiny plane with our tandem close behind us for the 18 minute ride before the jump. The plane looked and sounded like it was about to fall apart! This was potentially the scariest part of the whole experience; at least we have parachutes should the plane fall out of the sky! The view from the flight was breathtaking; we spent most of the time travelling along the Hamptons whilst climbing to the appropriate altitude. At this point it was rather relaxing, no thoughts about the actual jump, just enjoying the view. The nerves really hit when the pilot gave us the indication that there was 3 minutes until the jump! All sorts of things were running through my mind and my stomach was about to reject what little food I had in there... when the door opened a minute before the jump I really started to feel bizarre; Colin and I looked at eachother with fear in our eyes; Colin admitted to feeling pretty scared, even having done this before. There wasn’t much time to chat before Colin and his tandem dropped out of the plane... Gulp... now its real; its my turn! Some more nerves were added (wouldn’t have thought it would even be possible at this stage) as my tandem was cursing because he couldn’t hook up our equipment properly due to space restrictions in the cabin! A few seconds later and he had managed to sort it out; time to step a foot out onto the jump platform. Even as I write from the ground now I feel the same feelings returning; a muddy mix of fear and excitement. That point when I was about to jump, all of my nerves vanished; I just let go of my all of my thoughts and accepted that whatever is about to happen is going to be a wonderful experience, whether or not the parachute works!

    We began to fall through the clouds, it felt like my heart stopped for a few seconds at the beginning of the freefall. Once I got to terms with what was actually happening, I began to really enjoy the thrill of the freefall. It seemed to last an eternity, but was probably only seconds. When the chute opened there was a huge force pulling me upwards and stopping the fall almost instantly. What an amazing view; I could see everything for miles, along with some tiny dots down where the rest of our group were awaiting our landing. I got to take the steering handles (or whatever on earth they are called?) and we did some fun manoeuvres; barrel rolls etc. I really didn’t want this to end, but before I knew it we had to land; we came in for a near perfect landing with both of us landing on our feet. What a fantastic experience! Again, this is something that I never would have done by myself; I am really glad that we have gone so far out of our comfort zone the past couple of days. What a thrill! I will definitely do this again in future.

    Tonight we went to the Standard Beirgarten again which was much busier than last time, and ended up being a lot of fun. Afterwards, a few of us (Myself, Colin and Matt) went across the street to check out a bar called hogs and heifers. This was a tiny biker type bar, but was full of people and some good rock music; Matt and I (both Aussies) straight away started singing along to ACDC at the top of our lungs! We met a few groups of girls there and had some good sets. I got the number of a pretty hot German girl before her boyfriend stole her away! It came to 3am and we decided to leave, but whilst on the way home we came across a pumping nightclub (Kiss and Fly).

    We thought it would be a good opportunity to check it out; they really didn’t want to let us in without bottle service, but after some discussion with the doormen we managed to get in. The doorman was quite a character; a tall slim middle aged guy with white hair, white shoes, green pants, white tanktop, pink jacket, and a white hat – we instantly branded him the fluro-pimp! We all looked at eachother when we got inside and said ‘why didn’t we come here 3 hours ago?’. It was a lot of fun; Colin and I managed to get a quick make-out with a couple of girls, but ended up losing them somehow... We stayed until it closed (around 5am), managing to meet quite a few attractive girls and get a couple of numbers. I had a great night with Colin and Matt; it was great to do something a little different to what we had been doing.

    Day 23 – Friday 15/07/11
    We are coming up to our last weekend of our time in New York. We have been told that today we will be taught Venture’s text game model, followed by Future on Breakthrough Comfort, finishing off with feedback on the individual Rockstars.

    Venture’s text game model is surprisingly simple; basically involving a small number of texts progressing through game (initially) to fun, warmth, and sex; with texts in-between overlapping these areas and constantly moving from game texts into warm sexual texts. Venture firstly noted that all of us (myself included) are guilty of ‘over-gaming’ in our texts; we are all thinking game-game-game and not moving through to being ‘real’. This can be to our detriment, I am sure a lot of the women we have been texting dismiss us as clowns for over gaming in our texts. We need to include what we are doing and why, along with how we feel about it; showing our humility through our texts. This has been a valuable lesson from Venture, essentially grounding us and making us think about being real, rather than simply ‘game bots’.

    Future’s breakthrough comfort seminar was fantastic. I actually enjoy his presentations so much that he could really be talking about anything, but luckily this content was great! Future started with a disclaimer; this can be a very powerful tool when used effectively, and should only be used when necessary. It is essentially about creating a deep connection with a woman and is way beyond game; it can link her life with yours and cause her to see you as an essential part of her life fulfilment. I can see how this works and in hindsight it is precisely how any long term relationship works; I have only had one long term relationship of almost 4 years, but I can see how the entire relationship was a rehash of the content of this seminar. Although at the time I did not know that I was actually doing this, it is very interesting to see how Future has broken it down, and how accurate everything he went through is.

    Our individual feedback followed, delivered by Venture and Sterling. They told us that this weekend following will be just about enjoying ourselves with no expectations; an opportunity to relieve the pressure that everyone is feeling, and just enjoy the skillset that we have developed. We have come so far, it is counterproductive to think about why we are not further down the track. Venture gave us a quick rundown on what to expect in Stockholm, and stressed that it will be back to business once we are there; hopefully with renewed vigour, drive, motivation and passion.

    I took a lot of notes whilst Venture and Sterling were going through the individual feedback, much of it before it came to my feedback. I will re-type my notes from the day here because it really captures exactly how I was feeling at the time;

    We are going to be on our own when we return form Rockstar; no support structure or other Rockstars. It will be way too easy to slip back to comfort and let others influence me. I cannot let that happen! I will not let that happen! I promise this to myself right now to be my new self forever. I will harness the anger and part of myself that regrets not taking action – and master it. I will make a habbit of pushing myself/forcing myself. I focus too much on the negatives and not the positives. Too easily I find excuses not to go out at all; I need to push myself, I will always push myself. I will allow myself to feel like I do right now; very emotional/happy/pleased with myself and excited about what I can achieve when I focus. I will enjoy the process more!

    Every day/night I will celebrate my successes and the successes of others in the group. I must remember that I cannot focus on negatives, I will celebrate my successes, I will live the life of my own design. I have created an amazing life but do not celebrate my success in getting to where I am – this will change. I will continue to push myself for the rest of my life; Rockstar is just the beginning or my new self. I need to lower my bar to be more realistic; I will get better and better always. I cannot expect to be at the end of the journey whan I am only just mapping the path! I will celebrate my successes along the way – always. I will live my rules and they will constantly evolve. I am fucking awesome – I will share myself with the world. I can do anything I want to; when I control my thoughts I always achieve phenomenal success - I will achieve the life that I want. I will see the cute girl behind the facade, I will always have a goal in mind and push for it. Tonight we are going out to have fun and nothing else; we are going out as friends to have an absolute ball!

    Venture and Sterling on my individual feedback; I have achieved some phenomenal results, but I take successes and let my mind create a reason why it was an exception. The truth is that I have developed a great skillset... and my successes are a result of my thoughts and actions, not exceptional circumstances; so I cannot put my successes in boxes and put them away, I must celebrate them.

    I cna do whatever I want to, I just need to create the thought and take the action. I will continue to develop; I will push myself always; not when I am pushed into something or have instructors around. I am going to make this a permanent life change – I am never changing back to my old self; my old self is dead. I will do things that I have never done. I will focus on the other guys; their successes and their goals, and hold them accountable whilst helping when and where I can. I will surround myself with great people, I will see the girl for who she is, I will focus on the process not the result, I am self entertaining; I am here to enjoy myself and not worried about what others think because their opinion doesn’t matter anyway!

    There has been a lot of repeat words in my notes, but these are obviously the most important points. If I do not follow everything that I have written I am only cheating myself. The feedback has been a huge eye opener for me; I am amazed at the ability of Venture and Sterling to identify what is holding me back. A big thank you to them both.

    Day 24 – Saturday 16/07/11
    Last night we went to 230 5th again, but this time the vibe was different; everyone was relaxed and having a great time. It was fantastic to just hang out with everyone as friends with a common goal; have fun! Thanks to all the guys for a great night. I had some great sets and got several numbers, and ended up taking a girl home; she showed some interest early on and ruined a couple of my good sets, but in the end she was pretty hot so I took her hand and led her out of the club; by that time she had shown a lot of interest so it was quite easy to do so.

    Today I (along with most of the others) was nursing a bit of a hangover after last night! The entire day consisted of lying in bed, some work on the computer, and thinking about going out for dinner tonight. We all met at a restaurant called Yerba Buena at around 6pm; this was to be our last night in NYC together as a whole (Rockstars, All Instructors, AC’s etc.); we had a toast to everyone’s success and to everyone that has helped us (the Rockstars) get to where we are at this point. The food was great and it was certainly an evening to remember. From here we went to Khan’s apartment for the party we had been planning after picking up some supplies (namely booze!).

    The party started slow, but thanks to Nick Hoss a huge bunch of girls came to the party very early. As I understand, he had met a girl briefly earlier in the week and invited her to the party. She came along with no less than 10 friends; most of them reasonable looking, and one or two hot ones. Well done Nick Hoss; this really made the party. I started the night talking to everyone that I could. I was not overly interested in any of the girls at the party other than one (which a fellow Rockstar quickly latched onto and created an awesome outcome! Well done mate) in the early group, and another that came later one but only stayed for a brief period. It was an interesting experience; I really noticed how far my game has come up to this point, I was creating lasting attraction easily with many of the party goers. I often found them coming back and trying to get my attention whilst I was talking to a new girl. I had a couple of them try to make out with me, but I really wasn’t interested in them (but it was great to see how effective my game has become). Some of us were talking about going out to a club afterwards, but before we knew it 5am came around and it really wasn’t worth it at that point! I had a fantastic night – thanks to all the great company for making it exceptional.

    Day 25 – Sunday 17/07/11
    Today was another day of nursing a hangover after our party last night. We met mid afternoon with Bullet in Time Square to do some footage. Bullet wanted some shots of us walking as a group with the camera being held by the first person in the pack at arms length and reversed so that it was facing the group. It will be interesting to see in future. Hopefully it comes out okay; we all would have looked like zombies with bags under our eyes etc.

    Late in the afternoon we went to the Frying Pan again. It was a great day once more, and the atmosphere there was fantastic. All of us relaxing together for our last night in New York; sipping on beers and sangria in the sun, and getting a good feed for dinner. I hope everyone else enjoyed it there as much as I did; it was the perfect end to an intense few weeks. We all reflected on what we have achieved both individually and as a group throughout the program thus far; it was really satisfying to look back and see how far we have all progressed in this short time frame. Although I am happy with the progress that I have made, I still know that I have so much more to give, but it is an inner game issue that is stopping it from coming out perpetually.

    A girl that I had met earlier on and had been in touch with regularly made the journey from another state nearby to spend time with me tonight. She came to the Frying Pan in the evening and we had dinner and drinks together along with the rest of the group. She came back to my apartment and spent the night, which ensured a great end to the NYC leg of Rockstar.

    Day 26 – Monday 18/07/11
    Today was our last day in New York; so we all planned to get our things together and do some shopping for anything last minute; as we understand it, everything is going to be much more expensive in Sweden. We had lunch together and did some shopping before meeting at Khan’s apartment for some rest, blogging and relaxation before taking a car service to the airport. It was great to see Darwin make the journey to meet us on our last day; he has been such a great help to us all throughout his time here; for that we are all very appreciative, and looking forward to seeing him over in Stockholm when he finally decides to come! Venture managed to scare everybody and potentially ruin the project for the immediate future when he couldn’t find his passport! But luckily Khan found it in the apartment, along with some of Ventures paperwork from the previous day.

    We had a car pick us up around 5:30pm and took the drive to JFK. It was a good time to chat to a couple of the others about how they are feeling leading up to the European leg of our journey. We began our flight at around 8:30pm from JFK to Stockholm, with a stop in Iceland. The flight started off a bit delayed, and was all over the place through some turbulence after takeoff but levelled out soon enough; which is when I got out my completer and started blogging.

    Looking back at our time in New York it was a once in a lifetime experience. It would be hard to imagine at the beginning of this journey how much we would all develop as people and as a friendship group. We have all certainly formed some invaluable lifetime friendships as part of Rockstar 2011. I have made huge progress, but am still unsatisfied at the stage that I am at now; I know I am capable of so much more. I tend to progress/develop extremely well in short bursts, followed by lengthy plateaus or dips... I wish I could learn how to harness my best self and make it present all the time; again I think it is inner game issues that are holding me back. I feel like I am getting a handle on them, but it is taking quite some time, and is not something that anyone else can easily correct for me. I need to analyse my state every day and work out what it is that drives me at the best of times, so that I can replicate it and bring myself into an improved state.

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    Wednesday, July 19 (Day 28/46)...woke up still jet lagged but got a nice gym session in with Venture after having not been for a few days so felt like good start to the day....annnnd back to day game with Nick Hoss...had been looking forward to this as we had seen plenty of beautiful women, we have not been seriously day gaming in a week or so and because I wanted to see how my newly developed skills would work out in Sweden...with all that in mind, I must have skipped between 3-5 possible sets when we began using fatigue as an excuse but in reality just not going for it as I know possible...well after 20mins or so (and Laurent giving me just enough WTF looks) I went for my first one and the hook was in...she was a cute brunette and even though she had a boyfriend we spoke for 10mins or so and then she recommended I take her info for facebook so we could continue to chat...after a couple blowouts and approaching a 17year old (they look much older than they are!),

    I got the number of a very cute brunette that I could feel I had sparked a strong amount of attraction: this is something that I usually gauge through their compliance and more specifically how much they give...the final girl I approached was probably the most beautiful girl I have approaced on Rockstar, if not the most beautiful of my life, a 22year old blond student with the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen...after talking for 2-3mins and I could feel some good attraction, she stopped herself mid-conversation and told me she had a boyfriend, you could see the disappointment she felt in saying it...we still went on to speak for another 2-3mins with strong eye contact and she thanked me profusely before leaving giving me great validation for these interactions..becoming bigger and bigger fan of Sweden..

    Interesting night out...seems I did a bit of a 180 while the rest of the guys had a big night...after feeling pretty comfortable the first night out and during day game, I hit a little bit of a block...we went to a club called Cafe Opera that had much higher energy than I was bringing -- I was dealing with some jet lag but don’t want that to be my excuse -- and as a result my subcom’s were completely off...Venture was pushing me into a ton of sets (as I definitely needed it) and it was clear that I wasn’t bringing the warmth to the interactions...I have a strange tendency to act overly-dominant almost in a “I’m tougher than you” way which is partially the result of me trying to be alpha but almost always happens when I don’t trust my game and get nervous...unfortunately I didn’t have any sets really hit -- except for the first one of the night which was a bit strange -- but I’m going to use this as a growing point as I know that I have to work on my energy and I can get back to where I was...crazy to think we are 4wks in and how far we’ve come.

    Thursday, July 20 (Day 29/46)...after being overly exhausted I slept in all day so that I didn’t have the same fatigue tonight as I had yesterday...some of the guys went daygaming but I was happy I slept in as the weather wasn’t great and it didn’t sound like the Swedes were overly open to much...some of the Rockstars stayed in or went out on dates but five of us went to dinner with Venture who gave us a quick debrief on what he’d seen the first few days of us in Sweden...my feedback was that I’m lacking warmth in my interactions (something we’ve been stressing since the early days)...Venture has a very different game than any other instructor out there, which is obvious from the speed of his success and the way that the other instructors watch/learn from him when they are around...the guiding principal of his success really comes from his warmth..it is something that is difficult to put in words and one of the greatest intangibles that all of us Rockstars will hopefully walk away from at the end of this program as we do a ton of exercises and breakdowns to work on this quality that really is magical...

    So back to Soap Bar where we went the first night and I definitely felt better after some rest...I got a couple quick warmups when we went in and then we camped out near the door of the club and started the cute girls as they walked in: at one point in the night, Venture, Khan and I all grabbed the same girl’s wrist and when she looked back we all just started cracking up and let her go due to the irony of the situation...I had my first positive night game number -- and possibly could have pushed further but am feeling out the Swedish responses as these women do not give the same type of feedback as we have been experiencing in NYC..I tried to keep “warmth” as my guiding force and it seemed to have been successful in the sense that I could feel on blowouts that I had not had it and others I would really express it with good results...Laurent made a good point that when we began many of us had been too weak and that a few of us (myself included) had gone too far from a supplication backdrop to a much more dominant frame and that we need to reign it in (just a touch) to get far greater results...good comeback day from previous day...props to Rockstar Matt for setting the early pace in Stockholm..

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    Day 28 Wednesday

    Boom Cafe Opera

    Stockholm……….. Out and about with the boys for our first day game adventure. I approached three sets today and funnily enough they all had Blonde hair. The first girl was a university student living down south studying some type of science degree I could not fathom. I knew from the interaction that she was going to be a flake we did not reach any common ground…. I don’t know the first set seems to the hardest to open…. One of the guys asked me to open a set and I didn’t go because there was some traffic in the way………….. This did make me internally disappointed. The second girl I ran across the road behind her and stopped her just outside a shop delivered the opening.... short conversation it did not hook really hard… I texted her that afternoon with the following response

    I am sorry but I don’t know who you are. Have to tell you that my boyfriend was not really happy to see this sms. Take care

    The last set I opened for the day was cute blonde girl pushing her bike. My initial reaction was not to approach the bike just gave my brain a logistical excuse. Then I thought fuck it is just a bike. We had great interaction and I hit my mastery topics of travel and performing turns out she is a producer of at one of the local TV stations.

    That night we went to Café Opera I still have my rule of approaching. I am still not feeling it… I am all in my head and heading out is not as enjoyable as it use to be putting too much pressure on myself and this is reflected with my interactions and how women respond to me. Venture has been helping me out with showing me that I need to move in more, vary my proximity and increase my energy state and try to maintain a lingering handhold. Nick Hoss was in fine form and hooked a tall blonde at the start of the night. Overall I am still getting used to Stockholm sets are not hooking because I am not projecting enough fun.

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    Day 29 Thursday

    Swedish Massage

    Day game with all the boys again we are a formidable force when we head out. I love Edgar’s approach to Day Game he truly has no Boundaries when it comes approaching girls…with there mums, sitting down, across a busy highway or in the duty free shop at the airport. One girl had a boyfriend the other two said thanks for the compliment and walked off.

    Dinner with Venture and the guys we had a quick debrief my feedback was just to have with fun the interactions and be more playful. For weeks now Venture and Sterling have been pushing this concept and was only until I looked at myself opening in the mirror that I could see exactly what they had been talking about. My facial expressions are very bland and quite frankly I bored myself shitless. I aim to spend at least 30 minutes opening and physically moving and changing my proximity.

    Soap bar at around 10ish and there was not many people there I would say it was ¼ full however within 30 minutes it was packed. The first I opened was a Blonde girl from Russia very tight body and Edgar come into wing for me. Her English was not that good and it did make it hard to communicate; they take things quite literal and will miss the joke or the total gist of the conversation.

    This happened to me when I was talking to a very hot Ukraine girl on the telephone I met in Budapest at the Sizget music festival. I rang her up we had a light chat and then I said, it was great meeting you and I will see you later
    Her: See me later?????? (Puzzled)
    Me: Yeah……..I will see you later
    Her: You wont see me later I am on a train to Ukraine, are you coming to Ukraine?
    Me: No……….See you later is farewell statement like goodbye.

    The second set was two girls sitting at a table in the corner of the soap bar. I walked up and said: You two look like trouble……..we should combine forces and tear this place apart. The interaction whet really well the girl I was talking to had the Swedish facial features and dark sandy brown blonde hair very cute. We talked about travel then diving and she is heading to Australia in November gave her a few tips and started to escalate and she was very responsive.

    I was with her for about two hours but left every 30 to 40 minutes to talk with the boys and to get drinks. We ended up leaving the club at about 2:00 and went back to her place. She would have been one of the hottest girls I had ever been with, it was a real magic moment for me. I do feel it has internally changed my perception what is actually possible when you push the limits and most of all have fun.

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    Day 28, July 20
    Gettin' My Drink On

    Wednesday began what has been a really transformative period for me thus far. We went out to do a little day game and I almost missed it because of that 12 hour sleep. I made sure to get a quick shower in and met up with a few of the guys. I am having serious issues unlocking my iPhone so I've been trying everything I can think of. I learned of a place that will do it for me, so I'll go check it out.

    Mantra of the week - to get 10s you have to be a 10

    I only opened a couple of sets, but the first was quite memorable. I was in the grocery store near the train station with Laurent, getting ready to go unlock my phone at this magical store a few train stops away. I was next in line to pay and this tall, attractive woman walks into the store. I look around to make sure none of the other guys have opened her already, and nod to Laurent to let him know I'm going in. While I'm in the process of paying she leaves the store! Laurent pushes me out the door and says, "Go man go!" I hand him my wallet and run out after to go open. Hooked really hard, we had a fun conversation for a few minutes and it turned out she was only 17. Boo. As I'm sure you've seen from the other blogs, this becomes a bit of a trend for day game in Sweden. Lots of younger women.

    I approached another set on the train and they turned out to be young as well. I am realizing that I am not comfortable pursuing women that much younger than myself right now.

    Before going out at night I ended up pre gaming some with Khan. We had a great chance to talk - I really respect him a lot and his opinions have been invaluable. We talked about what our family's think of what we are doing (his brother is going to be joining us this weekend), and I realized something pretty deep. While I can see how this program would be incredibly confusing to some people, I don't know one guy in the world who wouldn't want to improve his ability with women. To take things a step further, the love of women as a whole that the men here exhibit is something truly incredible. While much of these blogs seem to be about sex, there's a much deeper process of self-transformation going on. Each and every one of the rockstars has had several life changing experiences. There is no where else in the world I would rather be than on this trip with these guys right now. And honestly, I would be happy to have any one of them date or even marry my sister. It's a weird way to frame this, but I have a deep and genuine respect for all of the members of this program.

    So after drinking some we met the crew downstairs and everyone got to experience going out with me a bit under the influence. We went to Cafe Opera, which I really enjoy, and I was on fire. I have no clue how many sets I opened, but every attractive woman I saw I at least spoke to. I got in pretty deep with a solid 9 and hopefully will go on a date with her in the next few days. The kindness and warmth the Swedish women show Americans is awesome. I had two women purchase me drinks after I took them to the bar to buy them one! So cool.

    I think I ended up with 7 or 8 numbers after the night, so tomorrow I can hopefully get my phone working so I can begin texting.

    I love this city!

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    Day 30 of 46: Friday, July 22nd
    Four weeks into Project Rockstar and I’m starting to feel really comfortable and confident in day game. While I still have a TON of room for improvement, I’m noticing my conversations are getting better and better with beautiful women. I’m to the point now where I can approach almost any set anywhere with confidence and start at least a decent conversation. Now I’m fairly consistently (consistently is a relevant term since day game is so much different than club game) getting phone numbers from cute girls and starting to have very good moments with some truly hot women (in fact the hottest girl I number closed in New York was from day game – she’s the one that came to our final party). However, I see that to take my day game to the next level, I need to hook much harder with the gorgeous women since they have so many options; I need to be as memorable as possible.

    Today I want to take a moment to give specific praise to Rockstars Edgar and Nick. While everyone on the team has been very supportive of me as I continue evolving, these two have taken an inordinate amount of time and energy to help me improve. It’s also awesome that the relationships I’m building with both of these guys will carry forward to my “normal life” back in Denver. Nick is currently starting his business in Denver and Edgar is planning on living in Denver and Vail this winter. For how much each of these guys has given me, I can only hope that I get the opportunity to return the favor in the future. Thanks guys, it really means a lot.

    Night game: I can finally let out a sigh of relief… I think I’m finally starting to get it. This doesn’t mean I’m doing anything amazing yet, but tonight was probably the best night I’ve ever had in a loud venue. It started with just being in the right state of mind. As I promised I’d do in yesterday’s blog, I took EVERY SINGLE analytical thought in my mind and threw it in the trash before we entered the venue. And again, I felt fantastic! From the very second we walked into the venue I felt very spontaneous, friendly, interesting, and, well, fun. I have virtually the exact same understanding of night game as I did two nights ago but my results have been completely different. Since this new outlook on night game is still pretty new to me, I don’t want to expound too much and act like I know more than I do. However, I do feel like I’ve have a major breakthrough and I’m proud that I fought through so many nights were I struggled to have fun. I can’t wait to go out again tomorrow night and see what happens.

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    Day 29, July 21
    Yes, We Met On World Of Warcraft

    Really slow day today. Did some day game and Adam is fucking on fire! Kid has a passion for this and it's really fun to see. I, on the other hand, am feeling pretty sick. The weather is crappy today - rain and clouds and cold. Also my throat is not my best friend at the moment.

    I got some really good feedback from Nick Hoss about how to manage my energy a bit more. My goal for tonight is going to be to go out, have fun, and not drink at all. I got my phone working so text magic is gonna begin. I don't think I have any idea how to text here. We've had a bit more downtime so I've done some reading on the forums here and Nick was kind enough to send me some links from his blog.

    This is a shout out to Venture - thanks dude, you literally made my night tonight!

    We met a "girls night out" group and managed to them with stories of our epic world of warcraft victories. They literally believed we were here on a convention as the most successful WoW guild in the world. This became a theme for the night and we had a ton of fun telling girls about the dragons we've killed and the number of epics we all own. HAHA!

    Lastly, and perhaps best, while we were watching Matt deep in with a girl we came up with another game. I found a very short girl (which is incredibly rare here in Sweden) and opened her with, "Oh my god! My friend would absolutely love meeting you" and then introducing her to whomever was standing next to me at the time. Substitute short for whatever happens to uncommon and funny in the area you live. I think this one will continue on during Rockstar.

    Epic night, Zach and I left to go check out a few of the other clubs because we hoped they would be fun for us to get a feel. Berns was closed, we stopped in Cafe Opera, but it was dead, and then we went to F12 which had a few people. The woman tried to charge us cover at 2 am (club was open another 45 mins) and we did a lousy job of talking her out of this. I need to step it up in situations like this. Something for me to working is vibing with anyone - there are plenty of ways I could've talked her into letting us check the place out.

    I'm already looking forward to tomorrow. First weekend out in Sweden! F-yeah!

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    Once again I was walking home in my going out clothes it was a very beautiful walk beside the river. The last couple of days had been epic and I was still adjusting to the new time zone. I slept for the remainder of the day well needed adjustment sleep. Unfortunately missed completing any day game.

    Back to Café Opera…………… It felt different the second night everyone in the group was having more fun and we had a mission that night to get Adam drunk. I was drinking Red Bull and Vodka again and this stuff really nails you that night and the next morning. I am putting myself on a Red Bull and Vodka ban…. Why.... No One should be that Drunk and that awake at the same time. I wrestled a Crocodile in Cairns a couple of years ago after Red Bull and Vodka Binge….admittedly it was plastic and in a play ground. The problem with too much alcohol is that you miss certain social cues and the analysis of the situation is sometimes impaired. I started talking to the blonde girl who lives in Sydney but is from Sweden…… good talk.

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    Day 31 of 46: Saturday, July 23rd
    Today was a really great day. While I have some good stories from both day and night game, the thing I’ll remember most today was finally meeting Jeremy Soul. As someone who’s been familiar with Love Systems for a couple years, I always saw Jeremy Soul as someone I really admired and felt I could at least somewhat relate to. After meeting him, and this is consistent with my impression after talking with him, he is a very genuine conversationalist. However, he self-admittingly isn’t the high-energy teasing guy that has success in night clubs. I always envied how he took his own personal strengths and preferences and found a way to build an awesome dating life around it. I too feel that my inclination is more towards intriguing conversation than high-energy banter so it was awesome to meet a true pioneer. However, that being said, I’m so glad that I’m in Project Rockstar where I am being pushed FAR outside of my comfort zone as I learn how to be successful in higher-energy nightclub venues. While day game feels more “natural”, night game done right is still a rush like no other (if only I could get good enough to truly do it “right”!).

    Cruised the city a bit with Venture and Zach today, mixing in day game along the way. Stockholm really is a beautiful city. Walking through what their “old town” you can’t help but be a bit in awe. In fact, the entire city is quite nice compared to anything I’ve seen in the United States. The public transport is spotless, the roads are really nice, the buildings are very well kept, and even places like McDonald’s here are actually pretty nice. Anyway, back to day game. I had several decent approaches today and I’m definitely getting better at approaching 2-sets by myself. While we’ve learned that taking a friend in with you from the very beginning is probably the best way to initiate during the day, I know I won’t have that luxury when I move back home. As a result, I want to keep practicing the skillset as I’ll most likely need it. The best number I got today was also from a girl in a two set that was standing with her friend near some shops in old town. I approached with Zach as my initial wing, and then Venture came shortly after. I’m really starting to hit a calm confidence when it comes to day game.

    I mix in a few teases here and there to keep it fun (I also use those moments to touch a bit) but mostly I try to have a genuinely interesting conversation. From what I’ve learned so far, the best conversations seem to be the ones where you get to tell good things about yourself, the she’s able to comfortably tell good things about herself, and there is a shared sense of “vibing” with one another. Another important element also seems to be knowing when to get out. Numbers seem to come easier, and flake less, when you close on a high note. I want to work on getting the conversation to spike with interesting commonalities. As a side, it also felt good to be able to show Venture in person how my day game has progressed. He even gave me a couple compliments which felt great after my share of struggles in night game.

    Another solid night on the town! I really think my new perspective of eliminating all analytical thought before I enter the venue is working. Last night I had success after getting pretty tipsy and tonight I had fairly similar success, and most importantly fun, without drinking at all until I went to the bar with a sexy blonde. In fact, I actually had a pretty awesome interaction with that blonde. And the best part of it was, the first few sets I opened in the venue kinda sucked and they were with far less atrractive girls. But I kept my confidence up and didn’t hesitate at all opening this girl with her friend. I won over her friend enough that she took off and my girl and I spent a good 45 minutes in interesting conversation with pockets of teasing and sexual banter. She actually ended up being really interesting as well.

    She’s an investment banker, an emerging singer (has been doing a number of smaller venue gigs recently), and she seems to come from an extremely wealthy family in Sweden. The interaction actually reached a point where I thought I might be able to leave with her (we were interlocking hand-holding, hands on hips, talking very close, and more without her showing any signs of uncomfortability) so I went for it. However, when I tried to leave she said she HAD to talk to her friends so I went with her. After a short conversation with her friends it was clear that she wasn’t going to leave with me. Oh well, at least I tried and I figured maybe if I stick it out for a little longer I can still make it work. However, it got really tedious because I felt like I couldn’t just follow her and her three friends around all night.

    Looking back, what I could have done was help bring other guys into the group for her friends to talk to. But since I didn’t think of that at the time, I decided to just bail and hope that the number would stick. So in the end, while this wasn’t as good as taking her home, I was felt pretty good about the quality of my interaction with such an attractive, high-value woman. Lots of room for improvement.

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    Tonight's magic moment: In loud venues, trust your subconscious mind over ALL else. Outside of the venue you should certainly think deeply about what you want to improve on and go over it as many times as you can beforehand. However, once you get to the club, throw away EVERY SINGLE analytical thought in your mind. These thoughts are like terrorists in your brain that absolutely crush your creative energy. Trust your instincts, play like a champion, and worry about what happened in the morning.
    Dude. You have no idea how happy I am reading this. It's what I've been saying all along, and you're getting it. Fuck yes. See you Friday.

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    Day 32 of 46: Sunday, July 24th
    Today I’m excited because I achieved a first in day game. While walking a local shopping street with Matt, I approached a beautiful blonde girl that was walking quickly in the opposite direction wearing ear buds (never use the excuses that the “she looks busy” or “she’s doesn’t want to be bothered”). I started with something like, “Excuse me (while signaling for her to pull out her headphones), I saw you walk past and I couldn’t help but notice how stunning you look today. You have a very sharp, confident style that I really like. I knew I had to meet you.” She absolutely lit up after I said that. I then about how even though she looks very professional, there’s a creative fashion edge about her that makes me think she works in a creative field. Low-and-behold, she’s actually an editor for a local Stockholm fashion magazine. We then connected a bit more regarding traveling and then something awesome happened. She asked me, “What are you up to today? Are you with anyone?” Since I wasn’t walking with Matt at the moment she walked by, I said, “No, today is actually my relax day and I’m just cruising the city a bit while my friends are doing their own things. How about you?”

    She proceeded to tell me that she didn’t have anything pressing to do either and we decided to continue walking together down the street! After a few more minutes she actually asked me, “Are you interested in grabbing a drink?”. Um, let me think… intelligent, hot Swedish girl wants to grab a drink with me… fuck yeah. Since I don’t know the city at all, she took me to two really interesting places including a really relaxing place on a dock. We sat and chatted for probably two more hours before I eventually dropped her off at a restaurant where she was meeting a girlfriend of hers. We talked a lot about our passions, the differences in cultures, our careers, and I made sure to include sprinkles of sexualization. However, while I was regularly touching her on the arm and wrists and light taps on the stomach and legs while talking, I was only able to hold her hand for a few seconds. It will be interesting to see how the dynamic changes if/when I can get her out on a date at night. That said, I’m really happy about the progress I made today and I’m genuinely proud of myself for how far I’ve come. Every time I see a major breakthrough like this it rewrites what I previously FELT was possible. Even though I’ve always known this was possible, until it actually happens to you personally, it never quite feels real. A day to remember for sure.

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    Day 25, Saturday, July 16th:
    Today is the day of our farewell party, which is to take place at my place. I get up quite late, since I was up till the wee hours, getting freaky with my girl. By now, I have completely let the morning workout part of the program slide, which is terrible, but I just can't do it when I'm out drinking night after night.

    All the Rockstars, the approach coaches, and the instructors that are still around (basically just under 20 people) meet for a final dinner, at a place that I recommended in the Lower East Side. The food there is great, and the manager knows me and treats us very well, putting us in a private room downstairs where we can be loud. Many laughs are had and toasts are made. I look around the room and see a bunch of awesome dudes; one team, one dream. We collect money and delegate a team to buy alcohol, another team to buy mixers, and another one to come with me to help set my place up for a party that I estimate will be somewhere between 50-80 people.

    The party is set to start at 9, but by 10 there are still only guys there. Just when I’m beginning to wonder if the evening might be a disappointment, a group of just fewer than 10 girls arrive, all attached to one girl that Nick Hoss invited. One of them is the hottest by far, with a great curvy body and a really beautiful face. I realize quickly that if I don’t make a move very quickly, I will lose my chance with her, as the room is full of about 13 very keen and able guys.

    I greet the group, as I’m the host, and after talking to each one for a little bit and not paying extra attention to the hot one, I turn to her and ask her if she would like a drink. There is a setup for vodka and mixer drinks near the entrance, but I tell her I will make her a special drink she will love, and lead her by the hand to the kitchen. Her friend follows, and I give them a mixture of St. Germain and Champagne, which they absolutely love. This drink is literally chick crack; I have not yet met a girl who does not love it and wants more and more – recommended for any party.

    I tell her she is adorable, and then I hold her hand, telling her to be my girlfriend for two minutes. While I hold her hand, I turn away from her and look around, then I turn to her and say “this is nice, I’ve never had a girlfriend before.” She says she doesn’t believe that, to which I say “OK, I have, but my mother always picks them for me,” which makes her laugh. I tell her she only has one more minute as my girlfriend, so she better make the most of it, and after a bunch of conversation, where I make myself scarce, as I have to play host, I make out with her in plain view, to seal the deal that she is mine for the night, which she seems very happy about.

    By now, many more girls have joined the party, and there are probably close to 50 people in the loft. A girl I had met in the subway, that I had not heard back from, despite sending her a few Facebook messages, calls me and says she is trying to get in. Wow… I had no idea she would come. I’m pleased, but also worried about what to do with her, given I’ve come quite far with my girl. I lead them to get some drinks, and talk to them for a while. I consider trading up for a second, but I’ve already got so far with one girl. I decide to stay with her, but I tell her that I didn’t expect to meet her that night, and while I’m very glad I did, I want to be completely honest with her and tell her that I had invited a girl that thinks we might have something going on. I assure her that those plans are out, now that I met her, but I still need to go talk to her and explain the situation, so as not to be rude. She asks which girl, and when I point to the really hot one, I think it must have done wonders for me.

    The funny thing is, I go to the girl and tell her something very similar, about how I didn’t think she would be coming, and while I thought she was awesome from the first moment I saw her, we would have to be friends, as I was with another girl. I go back to my girl and I start to escalate very fast. Zack has done some good winging for me, telling her I have a rotation and she would be lucky to get Tuesday – hahaha.

    By now, I am escalating very hard physically, while making out with her on the sofa. She is very turned on and we are talking about fucking when I’m back in NY in August. Before long, I take her to the pantry to get some privacy, since that is actually the only spot in the whole place that we can be completely alone, as there is only one bathroom that the other 50 people need to use. This pantry is roughly 4 feet by 4 feet, and only a flimsy curtain separates it from all the people at the party. I still can’t quite believe it happened with 50 people just outside.

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    Day 34 of 46: Tuesday, July 26th

    I saw a beautiful blonde girl with an amazing body walk by under the bridge we were standing on. I had to run down two sets of stairs and across a street to catch up to her – luckily the closer I got the more I realized it was a good idea. I give her compliment on her looks then I follow it up with what I noticed specifically about her such as how she carries herself, what she’s wearing, or how she’s wearing her hair. This second part, I’m finding, is what really makes a girl’s face light up when you deliver it well because she realizes there is genuine spontaneity here.

    She had the hugest glowing smile and we instantly fell into a great conversation. I can remember for a split second during the interaction thinking, “Oh my god, this girl is incredibly sexy, and sweet, and this is going amazing.” After about 10 minutes I was sure I’d get her number and this felt like this was one of the strongest connections, if not THE strongest, I’d made in ANY day game approach. However, just as I asked for her number her reality snapped back in very abruptly as she remembered she has a serious boyfriend. Fuck

    It's so strange, I’m finding that sometimes you can have such a whirlwind, awesome interaction with a girl that she forgets her own reality until you get to logistics such as asking for her phone number or bouncing somewhere. While I still got her number and she replied to my first text, I found her on Facebook with a profile picture of her kissing her boyfriend. Oh well, hot girls often have boyfriends. However, one of these days I WILL approach a gorgeous girl, create the same type of whirlwind interaction with her, and she actually WON’T have a boyfriend. That will be a glorious day! Until then, I'll continue to enjoy the process of getting better and enjoy each small victory.

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    Day 26 – Monday 18/07/11
    Today was our last day in New York; so we all planned to get our things together and do some shopping for anything last minute; as we understand it, everything is going to be much more expensive in Sweden. We had lunch together and did some shopping before meeting at Khan’s apartment for some rest, blogging and relaxation before taking a car service to the airport. It was great to see Darwin make the journey to meet us on our last day; he has been such a great help to us all throughout his time here; for that we are all very appreciative, and looking forward to seeing him over in Stockholm when he finally decides to come! Venture managed to scare everybody and potentially ruin the project for the immediate future when he couldn’t find his passport! But luckily Khan found it in the apartment, along with some of Ventures paperwork from the previous day.

    We had a car pick us up around 5:30pm and took the drive to JFK. It was a good time to chat to a couple of the others about how they are feeling leading up to the European leg of our journey. We began our flight at around 8:30pm from JFK to Stockholm, with a stop in Iceland. The flight started off a bit delayed, and was all over the place through some turbulence after takeoff but levelled out soon enough; which is when I got out my completer and started blogging.

    Looking back at our time in New York it was a once in a lifetime experience. It would be hard to imagine at the beginning of this journey how much we would all develop as people and as a friendship group. We have all certainly formed some invaluable lifetime friendships as part of Rockstar 2011. I have made huge progress, but am still unsatisfied at the stage that I am at now; I know I am capable of so much more. I tend to progress/develop extremely well in short bursts, followed by lengthy plateaus or dips... I wish I could learn how to harness my best self and make it present all the time; again I think it is inner game issues that are holding me back. I feel like I am getting a handle on them, but it is taking quite some time, and is not something that anyone else can easily correct for me. I need to analyse my state every day and work out what it is that drives me at the best of times, so that I can replicate it and bring myself into an improved state.

    Day 27 – Tuesday 19/07/11
    We stopped in Iceland for around an hour. It gave us time to get some food and have a bit of a chat together. The food was great; perfectly fresh salmon and other seafood that had obviously come from nearby. If only all salmon was this fresh. Back on the plane for our final flight to our destination; I managed to sleep through this flight without waking up so it went very quickly for me.

    Once we arrived, we made our way to our hotel to check in, then get some much needed rest to try to somewhat offset the jetlag. First impressions of Stockholm are that it looks like a lovely city with good quality of life, clean, mad about recycling, and all of the people that I have come across thus far have been awfully nice; let’s hope this is the case throughout our time in Sweden. We would meet later in the evening to go to a place called ‘Soap Bar’ to check out the local party scene.

    Unfortunately for me I have come down with some sort of sickness like a minor cold/flu. I went out to Soap Bar tonight, but I was really struggling lasting the night. I tried to push on and made myself open a couple of sets; all of which failed miserably. I think this is definitely because of the way that I am feeling; I really didn’t want to be talking to anyone and would rather be in bed. It really goes to show how much your internal state reflects on your external presence and how even if you try to shake this and put on a fake veneer, it will usually show through anyway. This may be different for some people, but is certainly the case for me; those of you that have been keeping up with my journal would have seen that this is not the only time that I have experienced this. After an hour or so I decided to call it quits and make my way back to the hotel and sleep for about a week!

    Day 28 – Wednesday 20/07/11

    Today I literally spent the entire day in bed feeling horrible and sometimes waking up to watch some sort of television show with Swedish subtitles. All of the others went out for day game today, but I don’t think there is any way that I would have been able to do it; I am feeling really flat and can’t stop my cough and running nose (attributes that I am pretty sure girls aren’t attracted to!). I knew that I wanted to go out tonight, so it was going to take some serious repairing throughout the day to get me feeling fit enough to brave the Stockholm night scene!

    I finally awake and start getting ready to go out, pumping a bit of music and downing a local equivalent of a Red Bull certainly helps to keep me moving. We went to Cafe Opera tonight; a mid size club with a long-thin floor plan. It looked like it would be a good night; already quite busy, and plenty of good looking girls around. It felt great to be out for my first night in Stockholm (I don’t count last night!) and get a taste of what the party scene and the local population are like. I opened a lot of sets tonight because I really wanted to get a feel for what the girls are like here.

    By the end of the night, I had 5 phone numbers, had a quick make out with one girl, and then spent around 1 hr with another girl whom I was making out with and escalating a lot. This girl had several friends there with her so I tried to go for a bathroom pull a couple of times without any luck, so I then got her convinced that it would be fun to ditch her friends and proceeded to walk her out the door. She stopped us and said she really had to get back to her friends but promised we would be going home with each other next time; by that stage it was getting a bit late so I decided to call it a night and go back to the hotel (most of the others had already left also). It was a great night – I had a lot of fun. It left me feeling very happy with Stockholm so far, and excited about everything to come!

    Day 29 – Thursday 21/07/11

    I have to start today by saying – I feel fucking fantastic! Its my birthday today and we had a great time last night whilst celebrating (more celebrations in order tonight I think). I thought that today I would be a bit down turning a year older, but its quite the opposite. Its midday in Stockholm now, and I haven’t been able to sleep since 6:30am; I only got about 3 hours sleep.

    Why do I feel so good? I have made a huge discovery about myself today. This is the first time on this program that I have really been able to spend time with myself; able to relax completely and contemplate freely. I had an early breakfast in the hotel, did a little work in my room, and just got back from a great gym workout. I have really realised now that critical to my mindset, focus and happiness is being able to spend time alone, and physically exercise regularly. After such a full on busy time in NYC, I hadn’t worked out very often, and not at all in the last week.

    A year older and a year wiser... I have looked back on what I have done in the past and although the past 12 months has been the toughest in my life, I have achieved a lot in my (so far) short life, and today I am celebrating my successes and contemplating the future. I am so fortunate to be in this position; never before have I been able to take 2 months of my life to solely focus on myself and improving every aspect of my life. There are no excuses for non performance; sooner than we think, Project Rockstar will be over and we all need to carry on our self betterment journey without the full time aid of eachother and everyone that has been around to help us. I will no longer listen to the crap that my brain comes up with to try to stop me from doing something... I just jumped out of a plane the other day for fucks sake! Take that little voice in my head!

    Receiving messages from everyone back home and around the world today is very satisfying. I have such an amazing bunch of friends; I have been getting so many emails/facebook/texts wishing me happy birthday. I am very fortunate.

    Today I joined the rest of the group for daygame. After feeling so great for the first half of the day, I really crashed hard in the afternoon. My day game was virtually non existent, and I could feel myself falling asleep whilst we were walking around. I made it through the day but my performance was certainly not noteworthy. Once back at the hotel I fell asleep and missed dinner, and going out that night; sleeping for around 12 hours. Although it is very unfortunate to be taking time off, it is pretty clear at this point that I am not going to make it without taking some serious rest. It was still a great day – I really felt my drive and ambition return to me in full force this morning; it’s not dead after all, I will be back better than before!

    Day 30 – Friday 22/07/11

    I awoke around 6am again this morning and could not get back to sleep so I decided to go down and get breakfast at the buffet. Again, I met Laurent there; another victim of a ruined sleep schedule. Its great to have someone to chat with at breakfast so early, especially Laurent; I am always learning such much from him and have such huge respect for him.

    After breakfast I returned to my room, along the way Laurent and I engaged in a bit of self entertainment; putting a ‘please make up my room’ tag onto one of the Rockstar’s doors to ensure he gets a good wake up at 8/9am! I did some journal on the computer, relaxed whilst digesting breakfast, then went down to hit the gym. I definitely have to do this often, otherwise I feel like my body hates me; I have to make up all of the long nights to my body by rewarding it with regular exercise. By now my sleeping pattern is so far out, and I am still coughing up a storm; I crash for the day again not to be seen until night time. I really want to make the most of going out with the group, so the ludicrous amount of rest is necessary at this point.

    Tonight we were left to our own devices to go out and practice. All of us Rockstars meet in one of our rooms to hang out and talk, pump some music and have a few drinks before going out. This time together before going out really made our night; we could all tell that we were going to make tonight a great night. After this experience we all agree that we need to make this a regular thing to help us get into a good state before going out.

    It was a great night, we all opened heaps of sets and got a lot of numbers, some of us even bringing girls back to our hotel rooms. We were definitely out to have fun tonight and were not worried about the outcome, as long as we were all enjoying our time together. At one point in the night, Laurent pointed me toward a couple of attractive Asian girls. I wasn’t overly interested at the time because I was enjoying myself with the guys too much; but I kept an eye on them. They were in the same spot near the dance-floor for quite some time, and I saw a whole lot of guys get blown out by them; for that reason I had to go and give it a shot so that I could prove the quality of my skill-set to myself. I approached them and they were very tough at first, so I kept on ploughing through and after about 10 minutes really hooked. I took one of them onto the dancefloor and made out with her before returning to where her friend was. I excused myself for a few minutes and went to get one of the other Rockstars (Matt) to come. I am not really sure how it happened; I think maybe we were confused, but there came a point that I could see the other friend was very attracted to me, so I just ran with it. I made out with this girl for a little while and we all spent some time on the dancefloor.

    Matt and I agreed that we need to make a move so we just told the girls we should get out of there, and we walked then to our hotel. Once we were in my room, Matt and his girl went out onto the balcony so I began to escalate on my girl. She was pretty shy so I took her into a corner of the room where we couldn’t be seen from the outside. We made out and I started some heavy physical escalation. She was clearly enjoying it a lot, so the next point of escalation was to take her into the bathroom. I took her to the other side of the room and into the bathroom. Once Matt managed to get the other girl to go to his room, my girl and I went to bed for round 2.

    Day 31 – Saturday 23/07/11

    Again I awoke early and not feeling too great. I got breakfast and then went back to my room and slept. At lunch time Zach and I went for a walk around the city to grab some lunch. It was good to finally have a bit of a wander around the city and see a few things that I hadn’t had a chance to up to this point. Zach took me to the ‘greatest sandwich spot on earth’ which served us a mess of a hot dog roll filled with grease (i think there was some meat in there too!); I elaborate a little, it was actually quite nice and I can see why Zach loves it so much.

    Once we returned to the hotel, I crashed out (again!) for most of the remainder of the day. I missed dinner again because I wasn’t feeling up to it; which is unfortunate because everyone was going out to dinner with Jeremy Soul who was in town for a day game bootcamp. I missed meeting up with him, but will catch up with him soon when he returns.

    Tonight we went to a nightclub called Berns. This place is huge – several different rooms and bars over 2 levels catering to different styles and tastes. At the centre of the club is a huge ballroom with a balcony level and 3 elaborate chandeliers overhanging a warm, bohemian setting. I managed to get I think 6 numbers of hot women, and found myself in the dance section with none other than Matt. I stole my girl away and we were making out for quite some time until I went for a trip to the bar. I was at the bar next to a hot blonde girl, so began talking to her and ended up getting her number too; the girl I had just been making out with happened to be right behind me and had seen this whole thing! Awkward... She wasn’t happy and took off pretty fast, which is a pity because it was super-on with her otherwise. Somehow I even managed to lose Matt and was standing there with 2 fresh drinks and no friends to share them with!

    A really attractive Swedish brunette walked past me, so a opened her, talked for a few minutes, and gave her my spare drink. She drank some of it but then gave it to her friend who came to join us. The club closed shortly after this, and I took the 2 girls back to my hotel. Luckily for me Edgar and Laurent were still up and in the hallway next to my room. I was lying on my bed when the friend said she was feeling sick. At this point I was so tired I just wanted to go to sleep; so I suggested that they get a cab to get the friend home. It’s always a pity when you get that far and don’t close, but I don’t regret opting for the sleep option.

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    Friday, July 21 (Day 30/46)...back at it with day game with some of the guys today...we were all kind of excited because with our very own instructor, Nick Hoss, Soul had come to town for the weekend to teach a workshop...this is a guy that everyone in the community has heard about, most likely seen and I can imagine most want to meet...so as we walked the streets of Stockholm, we knew it was likely that soon enough we’d cross paths as we shortly did...Laurent quickly noticed his mentor from last year’s Rockstar and interestingly Soul already knew two of this year’s Rockstars through bootcamps and the community but he also seemed to have be following this year’s progression from afar -- as he was teaching we didn’t have much time to talk but from this short interaction it was clear that he is an absolutely genuine person -- which is a quality that very few can learn or be taught...back to daygame, Edgar and I had some laughs as he typically prefers blondes and I typically prefer brunettes, in our of last sets of the day I went in and number a brunette (with his help)

    Because the instructors were tired and fighting some jet lag, we had the opportunity to go out as a group of just the Rockstars and decided to make it a “fun” night...after having a debrief dinner where everyone revealed their goals for the final 2+wks of the program which included some good, honest feedback from all...we set out for a night at Cafe Opera...Venture recommended Nick me for most of the night as he has hit a whole new gear since being in Stockholm and I was happy to have his positive energy alongside me for the night...we went into 5 together and I was able to completely vibe off of him...I number two really hot girls over the course of the night but the highlight for me was walking out of some late night food with Laurent at 5am and number one of the hottest girls I’ve seen in Sweden while some guy (whom she may or may not have been with) just watched in stunned silence..

    Saturday, July 22 (Day 31/46)...well I have to admit after a long, crazy night out, today was my least effective time in day game, actually the first time I haven’t gotten a number since I started (even on the first day when I sucked I got one) but I really didn’t have the energy to go into too many...running into Soul again on the street, we all decided we’d meet for dinner to discuss how Project Rockstar has been going and hear some of his thoughts since he’s been involved basically since its inception...it was kind of cool at dinner to use the workshop students for comparison as only a few weeks ago we had many of the same tendencies and questions that they had, so our growth was pretty clear on that scale...

    I really enjoyed getting to speak with Soul..daygame is something that I had zero experience with prior to Rockstar and he is the undoubted pioneer of where it has come over the past few years...so just to hear his thoughts on questions from the mundane to the intricacies was pretty cool...he seems to be able to have a really holistic view on everything, helping keep everything in perspective...somehow the topic got to his text game and he showed us some of his recent texts: I just find it absolutely fascinating the differences in peoples’ text game...having had the opportunity to speak with Venture about his completely unique text game (more on that on Monday) and then see Soul’s version, it kind of just reiterates to me the importance of inner game >> i.e. there is no one right way and as long as you believe in yourself you’ll be good..

    Out again with big group at night to cool club called Berns...this place is old hotel/castle kind of place with 10+ rooms, many of which with awesome furniture and chandeliers...super loud, had some trouble getting traction in here...ended up going to a smaller club with one of Soul’s buddies later in the evening where I had one of my more enjoyable experiences...in this after hours place, I quickly grabbed a hot blonde Swedish girl...after 15mins I was just thinking logistics as everything seemed to be on (Swedes rarely make out in clubs but her eyes were telling the whole story I needed to hear)she took me outside to have a cigarette with her but then logistics f’ed me as she had stuff to do early in the morning and lived far away, so just went with number close..

    Things got really interesting when I left the club and saw on the road and approached them...after making friends pretty quickly, I recommended we get a drink at my hotel room and they were all into it...after getting out back to hotel, the dude takes his girl into the bathroom and my girl and I are on the bed...as it turns out she was a 20yo Norwegian (distraught from the tragedy and had a bf)...when everyone finally left I found out the other two had broken my toilet seat while getting at it in the bathroom, awww just another Project Rockstar for the memory book!

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    Day 30, July 22
    Getting Straight

    So I used a hair straightener for the first time tonight. But, more about that later.

    I was still in deep recovery mode this morning from our flight - it's really taken a lot out of me. We went out to daygame a bit and ran into Soul. It was great seeing the guy, I've known him for a few years and he's my favorite person in the community. He's the guy who motivated me to apply for Rockstar this year. We talked to several of the other students and did a few out and about. Being out of it during the day is making it a bit tough for me to fully recover from being sick. However....

    Went out to dinner w/ Venture and the Rockstars and he gave us some first round feedback. He wants me to just overall tone the energy down. Definitely down to keep giving this a try. Thursday night was chill and I worked on it a lot. So for tonight he wants me to hang out with Khan when he's over 3 minutes in, and to wing Zach as much as possible. We got home and I straightened my hair. It looks fucking awesome - wow. I am a sexy beast.

    Fuck yeah, had an absolute blast! It was only the Rockstars out (+ former Rockstar, Laurent), and we tore the club up. I was literally bouncing around the room with Zach and pushing him to stay high energy and not get distracted by the two casino tables they had and the slower music in one room. If I had to guess we opened...like 25 different groups of people. We talked to several large groups and pulled off some under 3 minute numbers which have already been texting back. It's cool how open people are here to talking to strangers, I think they don't realize how much they all like to do it.

    I talked my way into the VIP area. It was really hard, just purely coming from value. I loved it though it feels like an entirely new challenge. A girl just started kissing me without even talking at all, I kinda pushed her away because it was weird. I think Edgar and I are going to continue to practice working these types of areas because it was fun and we have huge room for improvement.

    Me, Zach, and Laurent left the bar together, and I was texting a girl from a 5 minute number. Laurent gave me some excellent help while we were at McDs, and she ultimately invited me over for the night. Unfortunately, she then asked me to pick up some TP on the way and called me every 5 minutes when I didn't show up. Yikes, it's interesting having enough abundance to know that I didn't need to go chase her. Zach, meanwhile, was approaching everything with legs. I believe like 4 different groups while we were in McDs, and another two or three outside. It was awesome! Dude was on fire.

    Day 31 - July 23
    Low Point

    So I've hit a big low point today internally. Just having a hard time going out so much and my body is getting reeeealllly tired.

    We did more daygame today and my throat is starting to feel a little better. I ended up sleeping most of the morning and got in a great workout. +1 cool point for Nick.

    I went out to dinner with the guys as usual and we headed to a really big club. Probably the biggest I've been to since Rockstar started and it was intense. I was really out of state, we met some local guys that knew who we were, and there were a ton of guys there. It was loud and and in my opinion there weren't many attractive women in the areas I was hanging out at. Ended up with Khan's brother who came in to visit for the weekend. There was one girl I found really attractive whose number I got, and she has been the only girl I've texted since being here who hasn't texted back.

    I'm starting to calibrate to the locals, but I just couldn't get fully into state. Hmmm I'm gonna have to think about this one a bit more and discover what's up. I decided to go home a little before closing time and got my first really good night's sleep.

    Day 32, July 24
    I Think This City Is Hitting On Me

    What a great great day. I woke up after having crazy nightmares in a cold sweat. I went downstairs to the gym and ran into Venture and Jake. I've been lifting like crazy since I got here and I might be in the best shape of my life. If I wasn't drinking I'd be absolutely shredded at the moment (in an Ahnold voice).

    Went out for daytime fun with Edgar, ended up chatting with him for a few hours about our collective theories on work, our lives, and who we are and want to be as people. He's going to spend some time with me in CO later this season and become a badass snowboarder. He's one of those lucky guys who can travel the world at a whim and has made himself through work already. I'll add that he's also one of those guys you'd happily introduce to your parents as he carries himself as fun and genuine. I think he'll learn a ton from Soul if they can spend some time together - their game seems to be quite similar.

    Miiiiine, on the other hand, is quite different. We went out to a bar for what turned out to be hip hop night. Enter Operation Adam. Adam loves hip hop, he loves dancing, and shaking his white ass on the dance floor. We had a blast and danced all over the place while gaming along the way. It was a weird night at the bar, but I was in state and having a blast.

    Venture and I began acting like cheerleaders for Matt, we saw him in set and started clapping our hands and shouting his name and jumping up and down while he was getting a girl's number. We told girls about our epic world of warcraft adventures, and we high fived and pretended to be gay. It was fun, and I found a girl with an awesome sense of humor who I ended up talking to for awhile. I ejected to go talk to other friends and wing for someone and ultimately re opened the girl and her friend. I told her I was bisexual, and that Laurent was my really attractive french boyfriend with a huge smile on my face. I forget that sarcasm is like nuclear war here...it just doesn't happen.

    Back to my story - so I kiss Laurent on the cheek and and am totally in state as the interaction continues. I'm having fun, I've had three or four drinks bought for me, and if you want more details, ask, because it was fucking hysterical. I end up leaving with this woman and her friend, and we go to an after party, which is another club. I am American, so I demand to be let in with my two female friends even though there are some 30 people in line with me. They agree, and let me in along with the girls. I am literally approaching anyone, I end up escalating with a woman in the bathroom which ends happily.

    When I come back to the dance floor the girls both jump and hug me as their new bi best friend. We leave the club and head back to the hotel to after party. I wake up Jake, because the asshole has woken me up several nights in a row via calling and banging on my door every two to three hours and has utterly killed my sleeping habits. He wings for me, and I happily close. Wonderfuly fun night and owning the interaction as the bi guy who is in control was ridiculously fun. Being silly and just enjoying myself was brand new and I really learned a tremendous amount from last night. The text messages the woman sent to Laurent during the night were hilarious, and he replied back, as my "bf", and it was awesome. I don't think I will continue to run this, but it was really fun.

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    Day 33, July 25
    Some R and R

    Actually had a nice chill day for once. We had a two hour seminar from Venture today and I was able to take a niiiice long nap. It gave me some down time to really think back on the last few weeks, and to get a lot of work done. I've been in the process of organizing a business with a partner back home, and he's had to take on a lot of the responsibility while I've been here. I'm incredibly grateful for the amount of work he's put in to things and it's been hard for me backing off when I've wanted to put more time into a project. I spent a good deal of the afternoon and evening catching up with people back home and attempting to get some work done.

    Thanks to having such a weird schedule the past few days I wasn't able to go to sleep until something like 4 in the morning. As I'm reflecting back on the time I've spent here and the ways I've grown, I think the most important change is that I feel like I can take on any type of challenge thrown in my way. It's kind of a hard feeling to really put into words, but literally every boundary I've had has been broken down and moved at least a few feet backwards. The success in life I've seen from mentors, rockstars and instructors has opened my eyes to what is possible for myself in terms of business and my personal relationships. I can't wait to begin facing all of the things on the path in front of me, and on that same note there is a huge part of me that wants to live in Sweden for some time in the future...The people here are fantastic, the food is good, and the city is one of the most beautiful I've ever spent time in!

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    PRS Blog - Edgar

    Day 15 (Thur)
    Today we had Big Business (a professional standup comedian ) come in to teach us about incorporating humor into our pick-up. Wow! He just introduced a whole other set of skills that can improve our game tremendously. I especially liked the concept of heightening, which can be easy to incorporate into sets once you know how to do it. One of my big sticking points is that for some women (especially younger women), I have a difficult time building attraction strong enough early in my sets. And I think humor is going to help me out significantly with this.

    In the evening, Adam and I got together for coffee, we got together initially to talk about setting rules. He has created this rule that he thought was useful (basically he has to engage every single attractive woman he sees and either try to number close or get blown out). I thought it was too detailed and complicated, rules to me should be simple. My rule regarding every attractive woman I see is to just try to make her day, and it can be done by playfully waving at her, or smiling at her, or approaching to talk to her. Adam and I talked about a lot of other things too, like what I've learned throughout my travels, and what was going through my mind when I left my job. I closed out the evening by approaching a girl sitting next to us, who had just moved to NYC to work in ecology. Engaging her in conversation and getting her number was so easy, it was like I knew she would give it to me 30 seconds into the conversation. The confidence that I had to go talk to her, and then to pull up a chair to sit next to her was attraction enough, and I knew my stories about travel would hook her in. All this in just 2 weeks! Can't wait to see where my game will take me over the next 4.5 weeks...I know that by the end of Project Rockstar, I will have the ability to date some incredible women!


    Day 16 (Fri)
    I thought I killed it tonight and had a big breakthrough. I only hit on girls that I thought was really hot. We started the night off at a rooftop pre-party, and then headed over to Bar Basque, a club in midtown. When that died down, we went over to 230 Fifth.

    At 3am, when it was dying down at Bar Basque, Laurent, Collin, Nelson (our business mentor) and I went to 230 Fifth. The entire place was pretty dead, but I made the most of it.

    Then came my proudest moment of the night. There was a mixed group with 2 guys hitting on 3 girls (all pretty cute). The second most attractive one in the set (tall blonde polish girl) looked really bored, so I went in(why do you look so bored)? She said she wasn't bored and then turned away. But I kept ploughing, i said let me guess, you are all students, she said no, only i am a student. So i said, see? I'm a psychic! Then she said the other two are full time nurses. I made some joke about poking little kids with needles. And then she said, actually i am studying to be a dentist. And then she starts telling me about how she loves teeth and started showing me her teeth (which is when i started teasing her about it - seriously, what kind of dork loves teeth??). And that's when she hooked.

    Up till this point, the other four people had been watching me talk to her, and the moment she hooked, they all stopped watching and immediately turned away from me and my girl and started talking to each other. I teased her more, and she teased me back with some smart teases. So I pulled her in and told her how much I loved meeting smart girls at bars, and that most girls that I meet in places like this aren't very intelligent. She ended up having fun with me and while she wouldn't give me her number, she did add me as a friend on facebook, and sent me a message later.

    While I had a lot of fun tonight, the best part of tonight, by far, was teaching one of our business mentors and helping him break through limiting beliefs. Nelson is such a successful, and nice guy, but has limited game. I got a huge satisfaction out of helping him improve his abilities with women.

    Day 17 (Sat)
    During the day, in addition to running day game with Colin (rockstar from last year), I also brought Nelson out to go shopping for clothes, he has always been conservative in his dressing and needed to spice things up a bit.

    At night, we went back and got a table at 230 Fifth. What felt like an incredible day so far just fell apart at 230 Fifth. I thought I was terrible tonight. It was almost like our first day of Rockstar at Brother Jimmy's. Other than one cute girl (where the girl was pulled away by her friends after 3 minutes of conversation), and 2-3 so so ones, I was blown out of every other within the first 5 seconds. It was brutal. I kept trying to plough through, but I just wasn't making any traction. I'm still not quite sure why my day game was going so well, but my night game was so terrible today, but I think a part of it was that I was completely exhausted. By 2.30am I got frustrated, and went home.

    Day 18 (Sun)
    After getting blown out so many times in set last night, I was just tired and needed a break from game for a while. And it's funny, once I started to relax and not care about game, my game got good again.

    After spending the morning taking pictures and videos for PRS in Times Square, we went to Central Park for some theory regarding stand-up comedy, followed by debriefs from the instructors. The issue that I needed to fix was about being more intimate and being less rigid. We then headed over to the Frying Pan. To be honest, I really did not feel like going, I was tired, I needed to prepare my stand-up routine, and I was still bummed out about how badly I did last night. But I decided to go, and just have a good time with the boys. We were having a great time just drinking and talking with everyone else.

    And then I spotted Q, an acquaintance I had met almost an year ago. She was with her really cute friend L. I went up to them and we just started talking. It was just the 3 of us for about 20 minutes, and we mostly talked about travel. While we were talking, anytime L said anything cool, or funny, or weird, I would go in to tease her. When Q noticed that I was flirting with L, I immediately turned to Q and whispered, "I think your friend is so cute". At another point during the interaction, I teasingly placed my hands over the ears of L, and said to Q, "you're ok if I hit on your friend tonight, right?", and Q said "sure".

    After getting another drink at the bar, we went to join the rest of our table, where there were about 6 other rockstars and instructors. I sat next to L, and immediately went into various stagesas the conversation progressed (my hand on her back, holding her hand, hand on her leg). I asked her more about her travels and learning of languages (both passions of mine, she had lived in two Latin countries and is now fluent in Spanish), and her heavily on those (and I genuinely meant what I said when I told her I loved her sense of adventure and passion for travel and languages). And I escalated until I started kissing her.

    The next problem I had was how I could isolate her from Q that night, since L was supposed to stay at Q’s for the night. In comes Darwin, who generously offered to wing me the rest of the night. Darwin had a friend that had a table in the bar at the Standard Hotel, so we convinced the girls to go with us there. Darwin did an amazing job of entertaining and isolating Q the whole time, so that allowed me to further escalate with L. We got to the Standard Hotel, and hung out outside for about 10 minutes (waiting for another of our friends), but things were so sexually charged by then between me and L that she was willing to go back to my place as long as Q would. So Darwin and I convinced Q that we should all just have drinks at my place instead of going to the bar. The cab ride back was just about making sure that both girls received attention. Once we got back to my place, L and I immediately went to my room.

    I went from my worst night so far during PRS to the best night within 24 hours, and part of the shift came from just allowing myself to relax and enjoy just being out and having a good time with my friends.

    I applied the things that Venture and Sterling taught us over the last few days, by introducing a sense of intimacy to my game, and seeing her as a person that I want to care for and look after. That made a huge difference. And the best part is, L is a girl that I am genuinely attracted to, both physically and mentally (smart, loves to travel, loves languages, wants to do good for the world), and someone that I would love to spend more time with in the future. I am loving how everything that we are learning actually works best with girls that we are truly attracted to.

    Special props to Darwin, who volunteered to wing for me to the end, and played the role of a wingman perfectly. He isolated Q, and that allowed me to escalate with L. He kept Q entertained and enjoying herself all night, he kissed her but never risked escalating too far to possibly kill the interaction. When Q wanted to go home and bring L along with her, Darwin kept dropping ideas about how people should live in the moment and how she shouldn't ruin her friend's good time, and that allowed for everything to progress throughout the night. Classic wingmanship.

    Day 19 (Mon)
    Today, we just spent most of the day working on our stand-up routines. I'm getting nervous about doing stand-up, we only have two days before we have to perform on stage, and I have very little material. I spent the afternoon watching youtube videos of various stand-up comedians and was drawing a blank. I don't mind being on stage and speaking in front of people (I had done it many times before), but telling jokes and using humor has never been a strength of mine.

    Day 21 (Wed)
    Today, we spent all day working on our standup routine. I was nervous during the day, because I still had very little material to use. I spent most of the day looking at various videos of stand-up comedians, and would basically come up with one joke every 1 or 2 hours. But given that our routine only needed to be about 3 minutes long, we really didn't need much. By 5.30pm, when we had to start heading out towards the comedy club, I basically decided that I would just be happy with what I had, and just have a great time.

    We got to the comedy club, and each did a short video interview with Bullet. I wasn't really very nervous at that point, I knew that there were zero consequences whether we did well or we bombed on stage. I went up on stage and did it, and it was fun! I ended up getting good laughs from the audience, more than I expected. When we were all done, I was so proud of the entire group, we had all done well! I honestly think that all 7 of us were among the funniest of the night, beating out comedians that do this on a regular basis. We all went out for Thai food to celebrate afterwards.

    After dinner, most of the group decided to check out some bars in the lower east side, but I was invited by a friend to another club called the Chelsea Room. I managed to recruit both Nick and Laurent to join me at this place. We got there around midnight, and there were already a lot people there. There were lots of good looking girls at the club, and we were having a great time opening up sets. However, this was a very loud, very high energy location, and it took me out of my element. I think one of my strengths is in running a conversation. But in a very loud environment like that, it was near impossible to be running any conversation at all. I spoke to Laurent about this, and he told me that for places like this, it is just all about body language, physical dominance. Everything else is very difficult to do.

    I managed to do pretty well in the end, a lot of good looking girls (solid 7s and 8s), and invited them to the party that we are having on Saturday. One = in particular was with a French girl, Laurent had opened up the 2-set, and introduced me to my target. I flirted with her heavily and immediately went into a marriage roleplay with her. After about 10 minutes of banter, she told me that she had to go back to join her friends, but she gave me her number and told me to add her on Facebook. I added my number into her phone and immediately sent myself a text from her phone "You are very sexy...", and then I proceeded to reply from my phone "hey, stop flirting with me!". This led to a series of texts throughout the night while we were both at the club. This worked really well, and I need to incorporate this more into my game going forward.

    Day 22 (Thur)
    Skydiving! This was a day I was really looking forward to. I had skydived before, and it was an incredible experience! This second time did not disappoint at all. The nervousness while sitting in the plane as the plane goes up to 10,000 feet, the shock of standing at the edge of the door, and the incredible high of free-fall makes skydiving one of the best experiences anyone can ever do in life in my opinion. The high that we got from jumping off the plane stayed with us for hours afterwards. It was also a great bonding experience with all the guys, and we all had a blast.

    After skydiving, we got changed and met up at Beer Garden again. I got there and opened up a few sets, but I started feeling sick after about half an hour because of something that I ate earlier in the day. So I went home early.

    Day 23 (Fri)
    Today, Future came in to teach us about Breakthrough Comfort. This is material that is very powerful and can hook a girl hard if used, but it can also hurt her as well if the intentions are not genuine. I see it as a very powerful tool if I find a girl that I like very much and I want to have a serious relationship with her.

    We also talked about the very recent evolution of Game (or Game 3.0), which is a result of certain discoveries that occurred recently, part of which came about during Project Rockstar.It is really cutting edge stuff and I am excited to be learning this while it is being developed.

    In the evening, we had our debriefs. The feedback that I got from the instructors was that in the past two weeks, I wasn't having fun anymore, and as a result, I was too robotic. And they were spot on. I had started looking at all this as work (and sometimes it is), but I had been forgetting that this is fun, and that we are supposed to have fun! So my goal for tonight was really just to let loose and have fun.

    At 230 Fifth (our last night there!), I didn't think about any technical aspect of game and just went ahead and had fun with my friends. When I saw a cute girl that I liked, I would grab her hand and introduce myself. Once I had more fun, and smiled more, the sets became so much easier to open up. At one point, I kissed a beautiful blonde girl within a minute of meeting her. My body language was strong, and I felt that she had wanted to kiss me, so I went in for it and we made out for a while. She ended up getting pulled away by her friend, but I number closed her before she left and we exchanged texts all night. I saw her again close to the end of the evening and made out with her more then. I had tried to escalate further with her, but she wouldn't let me, and then she had to leave with her friend. I ended up staying till the place closed down and went for food with Zach before calling it a night.

    Day 24 (Sat)
    Day - I just had the best day-game interaction I've had in my life. She was a girl that traveled broadly, had just gotten back to NYC from living abroad in Europe, and did volunteer work. We had such a strong connection that without me even consciously thinking about it whatever I said, I really meant. I brought up the idea of "Destiny" and said "you really suck, why do you have to show up in my life 2 days before I am about to leave". We talked about travel, and discovered that we are both in love with Barcelona.

    In the evening, we had a great celebration dinner with the boys at a south American fusion restaurant. It was just great to see everyone get together to celebrate our achievements over the past 3 weeks.

    The house party at Khan’s turned out to be great, there was a good girl/guy ratio, and quite a few really cute girls were there. Earlier in the evening, I was talking to a girl T, somewhat cute. For some reason, the conversation lead into my volunteer experience in Africa. I showed her some pictures of my time there, and she got so emotional after hearing my stories that she started tearing. I wasn’t exactly planning on it, but I knew that this girl was really into me.

    And that is when D showed up. D is a brunette girl from a week ago, when I was out shopping with Nelson. This girl is the hottest girl that I've ever hit on and expressed interest in. We got into our normal conversation flow, and most of my expression of interest was through my body language. We were holding hands within minutes and all night I kept trying to escalate. I faced resistance in the beginning when I went in for the kiss, (she said she doesn't kiss on the first date), but over time her resistance subsided a little. We would kiss on the lips, but never got into a full make out. I certainly wasn't as smooth as I could have been, but I felt no fear nor any anxiety with a smoking hot girl, and that to me was a breakthrough. Unfortunately, D had to leave to meet up with her friend in another part of town, so she only stayed about about an hour and a half, and that ended the set. I feel confident that I can reconnect with her the next time I am back in New York.

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    Rockstar Rogue: Matt

    Day 31 Saturday

    It Burns

    Another late night / early morning not feeling the best a little seedy from the previous nights antics. I feel like my sub communications and physical escalation has drastically improved over the last week. A switch has finally been turned on in my head and I have realized girls like to be touched and they are open and accepting of it. Lunch with Soul and the boys was great…. It is always good to hear what other lead instructors thoughts are. Did no day game and just relaxed for the day in preparation for the night.

    Burns it down………… Burns is a massive club it has three distinct different parts, the ballroom, dance club, and balcony………..hell even the stairs turn into a section. I was pretty quick off the mark and opened a set in the then empty dance club. I must of gone toooo hard with the girl. She thought I was full of shit….Oh well her lose. We moved into the ballroom and saw a red head who I just had to open we talked for a bit.

    Walked up stairs to the top section of the ballroom amazing décor massive chandeliers hanging from the ceiling and great lighting . Opened two girls standing at a bench she thought she was not very interesting because she was a chemist I drew the passion for her work out and we had a great talk….

    I made the mistake of asking the bar tender to make me something interesting from Sweden….. He made me a very strong ginger tasting drink and to my surprise the mixer he used was Bundaberg ginger beer (Made in Queensland Australia). I had two and these drinks………… made me a little pissed…. There where a few other interactions but the one at the end of the night was with a cute blonde girl wearing a polka dot dress. It was going alright I was interrupted by a very excited Nick Hoss…… He was like Matt….Matt do you have any condoms? After my first night fuckup I always carry condoms with me now. I handed over a franger to Nick Hoss and I am sure he had a good night. Polka dot Girl did not work out I tried for a little while longer but she was not interested.

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