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Keychain
01-12-2009, 07:56 AM
Rapid Escalation

- Keychain


Every putt is different. Your feet dictate the stroke by how they feel on the green. I just never used the same stroke on every putt. - Jack Nicklaus

Every interaction is different. As I think back over the women I’ve been with, I see pattern and variation. On occasions I’ve met a woman during the day or at a bar, taken her number, met for a date and then slept with her. Other women took a little longer, perhaps we slept together on the second date. Other women took longer still. Using the principles from Mr M and Braddock’s Social Circle Mastery seminar, I’ve slept with women from my social circle after having them on what they call a “slow burn” for some months. None of these results is better or worse than the others, they’re just different.

There are other occasions when I’ve met a woman and slept with her that very same day. I was able to achieve these “fast” results because of my ability to escalate rapidly. This ability consists of:


• Being open to the idea that rapid escalation is possible
• Being able to recognise when a woman is open to rapid escalation (an ability to read her momentum)
• Having the skill and confidence (outer and inner game) necessary to actually escalate quickly
• Having the right logistics to lead the woman to a seduction location

When training clients, I’ve noticed two main sticking points that tend to hold them back: approach anxiety (fear of starting a conversation with a stranger, particularly an attractive woman) and escalation anxiety (fear of moving the interaction forwards or “sexualizing” the interaction). It was endeavoring to tackle the latter with my students that motivated me to systemize much of this material.

Please note, this is a fairly advanced idea that does require a basic level of social and sexual savvy. You should have the ability to carry out an engaging, pleasant conversation with someone without social ticks and excessive nervousness, and you should be meeting and attracting women fairly successfully without wrestling with crippling self-image problems or “running out of things to say”. If you can’t do these things, I recommend closing the proverbial pages of this article and taking care of the ‘first things first’. They are most learnable.

The Overview
Rapid escalation game is a momentum-based approach. A woman’s momentum dictates how fast you can escalate.

A woman’s momentum is how willing she is to follow your lead. Psychologists might call this ‘compliance’. It takes low momentum for her to shake your hand, but higher momentum for her to sleep with you. Momentum can increase or decrease as the interaction unfolds.

As you approach women, you will find various levels of momentum. Some women will allow you to escalate smoothly and quickly to a kiss or pull (taking her home) without showing any social resistance at all, while others may refuse to even talk to you when you approach! It is very helpful to be able to read a woman’s momentum so that you can tailor your escalation to each situation. If there is a lot of momentum in your interaction, you can escalate very quickly. Less momentum will require a more gradual, paced escalation.

Rapid escalation is merely a combination of your desire/ability to escalate and your ability to read the woman’s level of momentum. When you truly get to the level of intuitively sensing how fast you can escalate with each individual woman, you will naturally be reading a combination of physical momentum and a variety of other signals of her interest in you.

I don’t specifically test for momentum as a distinct act. Every act of leading is a compliance test, so the best way to gauge momentum is just to escalate and pay attention. As you do, take note of how easily she follows your lead. Think of momentum testing like a speedometer on a car – it is not something you turn on and off, it constantly reacts to the car’s speed and displays its measurement. As you get more and more experience, you’ll eventually get a feel for the speed of your interaction.


“Feeling” Momentum


You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result.
-Mahatma Gandhi

When you first taste wine it just tastes like wine, you either like it or you don’t. As you become more experienced and educated about wine, you begin to make finer and finer distinctions with the information your senses are sending to you. You begin to detect the nuances of the flavor and how one wine differs from the next.

Learning by experience is about interpreting the information in your environment with finer and finer distinctions. As you become more experienced and educated, you begin to interpret each interaction better. Patterns and right-action arise from the wash of confusion and guesswork.
If I was to summarize the escalation learning process in one sentence it would be this: If you haven’t already, have a go at escalating really hard and fast and see what happens. Try this, you may blow a few sets but the finer distinctions are worth it. Here’s why:


• When most guys do the above, they are very often surprised at how much momentumthey find
• Most guys then realize that they don’t escalate as much as they could. Ask yourself, when was the last time you were blown out from over-escalating (has that ever happened)?
• For one reason or another, most guys don’t ever escalate to the point of blow-out and so never reach the limit of a woman’s momentum. They never really learn to feel where it is.
• If you don’t learn to feel the limit of a woman’s momentum, you can’t reliably gauge where she’s at.
• If you can’t gauge her momentum, you can’t escalate based on it.
• Therefore, your escalations very often fall short. They are based on what you think you can/should do rather than on an understanding of what you actually can do

Some How-To

Here are practical tips on how to escalate that will serve you well in-field.

o
Lead strongly from outset. The purpose here is to establish a lead-follow pattern and to get a feel for the woman’s current momentum. For example, my friend Sasha and I were on the street doing some daytime approaches. Sasha was talking to two women, I joined him. He introduced me and made it clear which was the one he wanted. As I shook the hand of the other woman, I just held onto her hand and drew her gently towards me, immediately taking the lead. I pulled her in close, spun her and draped her arms around my neck. We were face-to-face at this point, and she didn’t flinch away. Based on this, I tried for the kiss but couldn’t connect. At this point, I had hit the ceiling of her momentum, so we talked some more (still embracing), baby-stepped some more physical leading and tried again. Still no go. On the third attempt, her friend looked over from Sasha’s arms and shouted, “Just kiss him, he’s hot!” That social permission was just what she needed, and we kissed.

o Ladder the acts of leading. If you go for an act of leading, don’t worry if she does not follow. Just baby-step smaller, more palatable requests until she warms to your original intention. While doing daytime approaches in Oslo, I approached a stunning blond woman with a direct opener. She stopped, I transitioned off the opener by asking if she was Norwegian, she said yes. I hugged her (immediately establishing touch) and said, “Awesome, I love Norwegians!” As I continued talking, I moved to a bench nearby, “Come sit”’ (immediate leading) This was a fairly bold act of leadership considering the brevity of our interaction. She walked towards me but did not sit. Unphased, I simply baby-stepped the momentum with “Give me your hands…turn them over…hmm, okay…come sit”’ And she sat. The physical leading in itself didn’t make a lot of sense and I didn’t bother explaining why I wanted to see her hands. I was just laddering stages to get the momentum for her to sit with me.

o Escalate on an emotional spike. Another way to gain ground quickly during rapid escalation is to physically escalate on an emotional spike. For instance, if you want to move your woman to another location on the street and she doesn’t feel comfortable doing so, wait a while. Make her laugh and, as she feels that good emotion, take her hand and lead her, “Come on, let’s go to the bar.” When you hit a woman’s momentum threshold, you can withdraw some of the physical touching (a “takeaway”) so that she misses the connection you already have. Then when your emotional spike hits and you reinitiate escalation, it will be even better received.

o Dominant / Physical – Anyone who has been having sex with a woman and, in the throws of passion, has pinned their woman’s arms above her head for sexy effect will know that many women respond well to physical dominance. You can use this principle outside of the bedroom too.
Examples of physical dominance include taking a woman by the hips and pulling her close, physically lifting her up, catching a woman’s arm as she passes to stop her in a crowded club.

Teaching a bootcamp in London, I was talking to a woman with one of our clients. Some way into the conversation, she asked me to guess her age. She hopped off her stool and did a little spin for me (a pattern I had established earlier). I looked her up and down, pretending to mull over how old she was. I took her by her hips and pulled her sharply into me. I whispered softly in her ear, “I think…you’re twenty-six.” Then I released her.

This act of physical dominance had a profound effect on her. It was an unexpected move, and quite excessive for the topic of conversation. But it demonstrated an animal dominance that she found very arousing. Physical escalation does not necessarily have to have anything to do with what you’re actually talking about. You can make escalation jumps, take charge, test her momentum and spike her emotions all with your physical communication, while verbally talking about every day topics.

o For best effect you should have an authentic intent. Escalate and approach women that you are genuinely attracted to and all of your interactions will line up far more congruently.

o Don’t draw excessive attention to the escalation. This is a widely known point on escalation, and worth mentioning here. For more on this, check out Magic Bullets.

o Tests. As you escalate, you will encounter ”congruence tests.” The woman is attracted and she wants to test to make sure that you’re as solid a man as you seem. It’s like standing at the bottom of a mountain and giving your rope a tug before trusting your weight to it. She wants to know that you’re not putting up a front because she’s attracted – it’s a positive sign! Magic Bullets has excellent advice on dealing with these kinds of tests.


In Conclusion


Blow me or blow me out. - Brad P

Your mission as a learner, should you choose to accept it, is to go out and escalate a bunch of interactions to the point of blowout. Find that point. Really zone in on escalation until you begin to obtain those finer distinctions. Escalate, escalate, escalate and let experience redefine your ideas about escalation.

When you get to the point where you can accurately read a woman’s momentum you can tailor your “game” to suit. Approach the women you’re attracted to. Some will be open and invest in your escalation so go rapid. If she’s less so, play solid game and shoot for the phone number, and setting up a date. Learn slow burn style from Braddock and Mr.M and add that to your arsenal for long term pulls. Rapid escalation is a part of your overall skill set to be used with calibration when the situation requires it.

That said, it really is fantastic fun!

Enjoy!

Keys


This article can be found as guest contribution from Keychain in Soul's new Daygame ebook...available soon!

Swish36
01-12-2009, 03:34 PM
Stupendous.

I am having trouble on this, especially Day Game.

Dude, thanks!
Well written. Quotes, info, more info, how it's done and a conclusion.
lol

I can't believe this is the first comment

Keychain
01-13-2009, 08:35 PM
Stupendous.

I am having trouble on this, especially Day Game.

Dude, thanks!
Well written. Quotes, info, more info, how it's done and a conclusion.
lol

I can't believe this is the first comment


Awesome, glad you enjoyed the article Swish!

Could you describe your daygame escalation troubles? I'll see if I can give some advice here on the forum.

I have a really specific physical escalation ladder for daytime approaches that I teach on my 1-1's to help students have a clear, practical way to push escalation to the limit and begin to feel compliance/momentum.

Let me know if you'd like me to write it up.

Keys

foma
01-14-2009, 07:37 AM
Keychain, great post.



I have a really specific physical escalation ladder for daytime approaches that I teach on my 1-1's to help students have a clear, practical way to push escalation to the limit and begin to feel compliance/momentum.

Let me know if you'd like me to write it up.
Ummm . . . HELL YES! Daytime escalation seems like it would be awkward, but a laddered approach makes sense - gets her momentum up and is gradual enough that guys are willing to actually do it.

Keychain
01-14-2009, 05:41 PM
Hey guys,

No problem. Swish36, let me tailor this a little for you - what does your daygame escalation look like now?

Now, I'd like to point out that if your daygame is consistently getting solid number closes and day2's that lead to lays and relationships...well great!

Fast escalation and SNLs are not for everyone...if you're already successful at a slower, more paced style of game, you're under no moral obligation to learn the ideas in my article.

But if you'd like to learn about it, I'll happily break your approaches down with you as best I can here (without actually seeing them of course!).

That said, what do your current daygame approaches look like?

Keys

newbiepua
01-14-2009, 06:14 PM
This is an awesome article! I see myself doing some of those things unconcsiously but now I can see what it works esp leading and about the emotional spikes. Every time she laughs it's an oppurtunuity to escalate..

For my daytime opener, it's something my friend/guru taught me, it goes like

Direct opener
Nice too meet you what's your name
Hand shake
Spin her once and then, spin her the other way
"Wow you're so awesome, give me a hug"
Hug her
Qualify

I'd also be interested to know what the ladder is like, and how far can you actually go in day time?

Keychain
01-14-2009, 09:48 PM
This is an awesome article! I see myself doing some of those things unconcsiously but now I can see what it works esp leading and about the emotional spikes. Every time she laughs it's an oppurtunuity to escalate..

For my daytime opener, it's something my friend/guru taught me, it goes like

Direct opener
Nice too meet you what's your name
Hand shake
Spin her once and then, spin her the other way
"Wow you're so awesome, give me a hug"
Hug her
Qualify

I'd also be interested to know what the ladder is like, and how far can you actually go in day time?

Glad you're enjoying the article, newbiepua.

Your daygame structure looks great.

One question, why stop at the hug? Have you ever tried going beyond it?

Assuming that 1) you want to escalate as fast as possible 2) you've had the compliance/momentum to get all the way up to the hug without any resistance...why stop there? What could you do next, assuming you had the compliance/momentum, to ladder the acts of leading up to, say, a kiss?

With these questions, I'm trying to open you up to the idea of escalating based on compliance/momentum, rather than on a preconception of how far you can go at first meeting...

Imagine how romantic it would be to meet a girl, sweep her off her feet and be kissing within moments of meeting...how could you achieve this?


Keys

Swish36
01-21-2009, 11:14 AM
Sorry Keys, I'm still getting the basics down.

And I skimmed through this part:
"Please note, this is a fairly advanced idea that does require a basic level of social and sexual savvy. You should have the ability to carry out an engaging, pleasant conversation with someone without social ticks and excessive nervousness, and you should be meeting and attracting women fairly successfully without wrestling with crippling self-image problems or “running out of things to say”. If you can’t do these things, I recommend closing the proverbial pages of this article and taking care of the ‘first things first’. They are most learnable."

Ehh.

Keychain
01-21-2009, 12:45 PM
Sorry Keys, I'm still getting the basics down.

And I skimmed through this part:
"Please note, this is a fairly advanced idea that does require a basic level of social and sexual savvy. You should have the ability to carry out an engaging, pleasant conversation with someone without social ticks and excessive nervousness, and you should be meeting and attracting women fairly successfully without wrestling with crippling self-image problems or “running out of things to say”. If you can’t do these things, I recommend closing the proverbial pages of this article and taking care of the ‘first things first’. They are most learnable."

Ehh.

Okay Swish36, if you have any questions etc...then by all means PM me and I'll endeavour to help as best I can as you get the basics down.


For other readers, let me unpack the paragraph that Swish quoted:

Everyone starts their development at different stages and I have the uptmost respect for anyone who embarks on the journey to improve their social skills.

Some guys are absurdly good-looking, smart, funny, socially savvy and successful...they need a couple of tweaks to their beliefs, the permission to approach and they're well on their way to the success that had previously elluded them.

Others can't make eye contact, have bad voice projection, are cripplingly shy and/or deeply socially uncalibrated...for these gentleman, the journey starts from a different place. We fix their eye contact, warm up their voice, encourage and coach them in-field until they're approaching and interacting at a far higher level than ever before. Very often these guys see the most radical transformations on the bootcamp!

Of course, most of us are somewhere in the middle - normal, cool guys who just can't seem to get this area figured out and need a helping hand, some dating science and some in-field steering.


My point in the quoted paragraph is: don't run before you walk. If you're grappling with approach anxiety and find it difficult to make yourself heard in a loud club...don't expect to start getting bathroom pulls with any degree of consistency. Fix the first things first. BradP has written some really inspirational stuff about this.


One more point: Bathroom pulls, threesomes, rapid escalation, stripper game (just to take a handful of examples) etc...are considered 'advanced-level' but here's a secret...I consider these things 'special interest' topics. If you want to learn them, awesome - you can!

But if you can consistently number close and day2/close beautiful girls, have a great social circle and enjoy healthy relationships...your life will be full of gorgeous women anyway!

What am I saying? Two things:

1) Handle the first things first.
2) Define your own success.


Don't let extreme community images of success influence your idea of what success means for you - define it for yourself. If that's banging four strippers in a bath of baked beans, well go for it! Hey, you might even get voted #43 PUA in an online poll! For most of us, it's being able to consistently attract, date and have relationships with gorgeous girls - everything else is a bonus :) Who knows, maybe you'll meet the girl of your dreams, fall in love and get married! :)

Having said that, I fucking love all of those special interest topics and looove getting up to all sorts of sexual mischief...funfun!

But that's me ;)

Be you.

Hey, that could be a song!...'you be you, and i'll be me, can't you see, dalala...'


Keys


PS: Defining your own success, being your own man etc...is part of strong Inner Game, the foundation to a successful life. If you're into this stuff, Mr.M and Braddock are the absolute kings of it, I've learned an immense amount from them - their Inner Game Seminar (http://www.lovesystems.com/training-programs/inner-game) is the go-to place for this.