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Dr4gon
11-18-2008, 08:07 AM
Ok guys i have a problem with my sexuality. The problem is... i am not comfortable with it and i don't know what to do. I'm 22 have only had sex with 1 girl (my nympho of a gf...now ex gf) and that was over 2 years ago. I'm going to lay the rest of this info to let you guys know of any other factors that may be affecting me. I'm Filipino (asian//pacific islander) I'm 5'3" and grew up in a pretty strict house hold with traditional beliefs and morals. Now i don't have incredible problems with game, until it gets to the bedroom. A guy who cant sexually escalate is a guy who becomes a friend. Although i havent had sex in over 2 years i have had the great experience of hanging out with a handful plus girls, kiss closing but never....having sex. I believe i blew it on 3 occasions.

My most recent event was with an 8 who was totally into me. I know how to dhv, i actually have pretty natural ability so im not completely lost. Shes ioi'ing me all night, im pretty much in. Weve kissed throughout the night. When the end of the night came we laid in bed and bantered, teased, kissed, massaged, licked, but nothing below the belt. When it came down to it she saw right through me and said "your shy arent you" and she knew this b/c i wouldnt just attack her. I played it off like i don't F* on the first meeting (which is bs) we go on and off with the kissing. At this point she is frustrated and flat out says she is confused by me. "Why are we always stopping and going" haha....this is good push pull IF i were to F close her. At one point i turned my back to pretend to go to bed and she says "SO...Are we going to do this?" I felt like shit...embarrassed inside but never let it show. In the end we just cuddled and went to bed. She messaged me the next day and called me a tease. I havent lost it yet, but i feel if i dont F close her im going to lose another one.

So any advice on how to enhance my sexuality//libido? I'm not a horny guy by nature i enjoy the romantic experiences with the women im with. I feel like this is my sticking point and im sick of it. Any advice will help.

Cheers
-Dr4gon

dagger
11-20-2008, 05:01 PM
viagra and booze--that's why they were invented...

seriously though, this sounds like something you may want to talk to a good friend or psychologist about and not a bunch of random dudes on a chat board.

good luck and take care,

Basically Yes
11-20-2008, 08:51 PM
Yeah, I'm going to get graphic.

If you didn't have a boner when you were doing all this sexual stuff, and massaging (who does that?) then you may either have a physiological problem or you're gay (same thing depending on how you look at it). If you did have a boner (don't answer that) then maybe nobody has informed you; PUT THAT IN HER VAGINA.

I'm not insulting you I really mean it. Do you ever get boners when you think about dudes? QUIT IT.

If I were you, actually let's not pretend that. My advice would be to call/text her and say "sorry about last night, honestly I had a really upset stomache and I'm pretty sure any back and forth motion would have ended in more than one thing squirting out. Oh, and yes I'm a tease...but not like that."

then go hang out with her and have horrible sex with her because you've only been with one girl-good luck at trying to explain your way out of that one.

T<3 (tough love)

lucaluca
11-21-2008, 02:07 PM
Watch massive amounts of porn.

Actually a little while ago while I was trying to find a cure to my lack of mental/physical energy and emthusiasim in everything I came across something called passion Rx it's supposed to increase libido and sex drive along with energy. I can't link it on my iPhone so just search passion Rx it will definetly come up.

Promise me one thing though. If you try it tell me how it works.

TrueStory
11-21-2008, 02:25 PM
.............

So any advice on how to enhance my sexuality//libido? I'm not a horny guy by nature i enjoy the romantic experiences with the women im with. I feel like this is my sticking point and im sick of it. Any advice will help.

Cheers
-Dr4gon


It's all in your head. Your subconscious mind is programmed to reject ANY kind of sexual desire, because, it's probably "immoral" according to your upbringing.

You can see a psychiatrist about this, to help you release some of those inhibitions.




AND NO watching insane amount of porn is not going to help.

In fact, stop wacking off. Completely. In two -three weeks you'll feel the effect. Trust me.

lucaluca
11-21-2008, 03:07 PM
AND NO watching insane amount of porn is not going to help.

In fact, stop wacking off. Completely. In two -three weeks you'll feel the effect. Trust me.

Haha he's completely right I don't masturbate to keep my energy. I wasn't being serious about that.:)

TrueStory
11-21-2008, 03:19 PM
lol i am sure.

lucaluca
11-21-2008, 04:12 PM
haha my bad I didn't re read my post!

Truestory is completely right. Do not touch your cock. Save that sexual energy! I was joking about the porn thing. I actually resist masturbating to make me a more sexually energetic person.

dex
11-21-2008, 08:45 PM
Are you not f-closing cause you're nervous?? This sort of anxiety can even prevent you from getting hard.

My advice, drink a bit to relax and then just go for it. Think of it as practice. This isn't the girl you're going to sleep with for the rest of your life so just do it and if you finish fast, or aren't that good, who cares. Since its in your head, she'll probably think you're much better in bed than you do. Get her going heavy before sex, oral..hands..., then just go for it.

Do this with a few girls....it will be less and less stressful and then one day you'll just kick ass at sex and have no fears.

I understand the anxiety, but after lots of experience I've realized girls have really low expectations and standards regarding sex. They've been having bad sex for years. If you do anything a little more interesting or spend a little more time on foreplay then most times they think you're a sex god.

Do think, just act....Let us know how it goes.