View Full Version : How interpret her eye contact?

04-24-2018, 02:14 PM
Hello all,

So I've been talking to this coworker of mine and I'm not sure how to interpret the eye contact she gives. When we're talking, she'll make eye contact, hold it for a bit (definitely longer than most people), break it off, re-establish eye contact, and the cycle repeats. Most of the time she'll be smiling and our conversation is flowing well. I'm just a bit confused by this because I was under the impression that holding eye contact during a conversation is merely a signal of politeness and respecting the other person. When someone breaks eye contact, I typically see this as a sign of disinterest but then she'll keep looking back again. This girl in particular is a bit shy, but receptive to conversation and very friendly. How should I interpret this to help me use eye contact to engage with women in the future?


04-25-2018, 11:10 AM
You're probably overthinking it.

Stick to the basics: becoming attractive, developing good conversation skills; developing good physical escalation skills.

Probably in time you'll start to gain a sense of what certain "looks" mean, but the're very subtle and subjective.

04-28-2018, 10:00 PM
The only feedback that matters is actions. E.g. you've offered to grab lunch together. She said, she's busy. Then she's not interested, no matter what eye-contact theory you have :-)))

Is the conversation on a personal topic? If it's work-related, and you are not her boss / well-known person at the company, then it means nothing. Even if she's into you, she isn't going to do anything about it, right? You'd have to do something. That "something" is the interesting part. Not how she looks at you.