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TheBeanMan
09-20-2014, 07:04 PM
I haven't spoken to this girl in a month or maybe longer and I thought I would try it by text, this is the first time I have tried it at all. This is how it went:
M=me h=her

M: we need to talk
H: didn't expect a text from you at all *laughing crying face* what is it?
M: aliens are coming to abduct all the sexy people to force them to breed. You should be safe, just thought I'd say goodbye.
H: oh shit, thanks for the heads up Danny boy
M: you won't believe the week I've had at uni....
H: oh goddd, what's happened?
M: it's been fun, remember we got drunk at your and we're up really late?
H: good! Yeah haha, why?
M: Jeez... We've only started talking again and you're already questioning me, are you always this needy? ;-)
H: always, just can't help it
M: luckily for you I'm very good at giving :P
H: yay! Why were you asking if I remembered being drunk at mine anyway?
M: I just walked up to some random girl thinking it was you and said "hey China doll!!"... And she was a Hispanic lady
H: oh my god haha as if!
M: you up to anything this week?
H: college and work! You?
M: I got my uni work starting this week lol. Spent the last week going to sleep at 4.
H: uni life sounds pretty fun then!
M: All the better for talking to you, China doll!
H: haha oh Danny boy! You been up to much apart from uni?
M: been drinking, went bowling. Although wasn't fun like us bowling China doll :D
H: I am the best at bowling!
M: only when I take it easy on you... ;)
H: you're awful *laughing crying face*
M: keep being that rude and I'll have to spank you ;)
H: omg Dan
M: I'm sorry, are you not the girl I knew that had a sense of humour? :P
H: i do have a sense of humour! I'm the funniest person around!
M: that's only cos I don't live in worthing now :P
H: oh obviously

That's all.

What do I say next? If anything?

More importantly, how was it? Was it good game or terrible game?
Be brutal as I want to learn haha

Izakimak
09-20-2014, 11:57 PM
I haven't spoken to this girl in a month or maybe longer and I thought I would try it by text, this is the first time I have tried it at all. This is how it went:
M=me h=her

M: we need to talk
H: didn't expect a text from you at all *laughing crying face* what is it?
M: aliens are coming to abduct all the sexy people to force them to breed. You should be safe, just thought I'd say goodbye.
H: oh shit, thanks for the heads up Danny boy
M: you won't believe the week I've had at uni....
H: oh goddd, what's happened?
M: it's been fun, remember we got drunk at your and we're up really late?
H: good! Yeah haha, why?
M: Jeez... We've only started talking again and you're already questioning me, are you always this needy? ;-)
H: always, just can't help it
M: luckily for you I'm very good at giving :P
H: yay! Why were you asking if I remembered being drunk at mine anyway?
M: I just walked up to some random girl thinking it was you and said "hey China doll!!"... And she was a Hispanic lady
H: oh my god haha as if!
M: you up to anything this week?
H: college and work! You?
M: I got my uni work starting this week lol. Spent the last week going to sleep at 4.
H: uni life sounds pretty fun then!
M: All the better for talking to you, China doll!
H: haha oh Danny boy! You been up to much apart from uni?
M: been drinking, went bowling. Although wasn't fun like us bowling China doll :D
H: I am the best at bowling!
M: only when I take it easy on you... ;)
H: you're awful *laughing crying face*
M: keep being that rude and I'll have to spank you ;)
H: omg Dan
M: I'm sorry, are you not the girl I knew that had a sense of humour? :P
H: i do have a sense of humour! I'm the funniest person around!
M: that's only cos I don't live in worthing now :P
H: oh obviously

That's all.

What do I say next? If anything?

More importantly, how was it? Was it good game or terrible game?
Be brutal as I want to learn haha

It is good for building attraction but your aim is to get her to meet in person, else you are just another guy behind a phone.

Example of me doing it.
Me: I just had a life changing cup of coffee, hope you having a good day too
Her: Blah blah, coffee sounds great right now.
Me: Blah blah, *shocked face* A girl that drinks coffee!
Her: Blah blah. Yes! A girl that loves coffee!
Me: Haha, <name> the badass. Speaking of coffee, let's chat over a cup tonight/today.

She might just play it off like she did with me the first 2 times but meeting up today. Be casual with it, don't take it seriously.

TheBeanMan
09-21-2014, 03:46 AM
It is good for building attraction but your aim is to get her to meet in person, else you are just another guy behind a phone.

Example of me doing it.
Me: I just had a life changing cup of coffee, hope you having a good day too
Her: Blah blah, coffee sounds great right now.
Me: Blah blah, *shocked face* A girl that drinks coffee!
Her: Blah blah. Yes! A girl that loves coffee!
Me: Haha, <name> the badass. Speaking of coffee, let's chat over a cup tonight/today.

She might just play it off like she did with me the first 2 times but meeting up today. Be casual with it, don't take it seriously.




Thanks for the help, I'll try some more today and see how it goes. Although I'm glad it wasn't awful haha

storyofaguy
09-22-2014, 01:59 AM
I haven't spoken to this girl in a month or maybe longer and I thought I would try it by text, this is the first time I have tried it at all. This is how it went:
M=me h=her

M: we need to talk
H: didn't expect a text from you at all *laughing crying face* what is it?
M: aliens are coming to abduct all the sexy people to force them to breed. You should be safe, just thought I'd say goodbye.
H: oh shit, thanks for the heads up Danny boy
M: you won't believe the week I've had at uni....
H: oh goddd, what's happened?
M: it's been fun, remember we got drunk at your and we're up really late?
H: good! Yeah haha, why?
M: Jeez... We've only started talking again and you're already questioning me, are you always this needy? ;-)
H: always, just can't help it
M: luckily for you I'm very good at giving :P
H: yay! Why were you asking if I remembered being drunk at mine anyway?
M: I just walked up to some random girl thinking it was you and said "hey China doll!!"... And she was a Hispanic lady
H: oh my god haha as if!
M: you up to anything this week?
H: college and work! You?
M: I got my uni work starting this week lol. Spent the last week going to sleep at 4.
H: uni life sounds pretty fun then!
M: All the better for talking to you, China doll!
H: haha oh Danny boy! You been up to much apart from uni?
M: been drinking, went bowling. Although wasn't fun like us bowling China doll :D
H: I am the best at bowling!
M: only when I take it easy on you... ;)
H: you're awful *laughing crying face*
M: keep being that rude and I'll have to spank you ;)
H: omg Dan
M: I'm sorry, are you not the girl I knew that had a sense of humour? :P
H: i do have a sense of humour! I'm the funniest person around!
M: that's only cos I don't live in worthing now :P
H: oh obviously

That's all.

What do I say next? If anything?

More importantly, how was it? Was it good game or terrible game?
Be brutal as I want to learn haha

You are too random. You bounce from conversational thread to thread without really going deep. I get the sense that you are trying to progress the conversation towards your goal, but your impatience is showing. You are also throwing out too many baits, and putting her down a tad too much. I get that it is all in fun, but there has to be a balance. Too much, and you seem over-confident. Too little, and you aren't confident enough.

Good thing is, she is asking questions. Feels as if she is leading you though. You want to lead the interaction. You don't have to ask questions, but you want to make her contribute more statements rather than questions.

You're also not providing enough banter. You are teasing a lot, but that's about it. There is no sense that you are providing more beyond that. I wouldn't even say that you are showcasing anything attractive, but your conversation is better than most. For now.

Also, Izakimak gave a very good way to lead the conversation towards talking about a date, or arranging one. But it's still early days. Feels to me like you gotta do more first.