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Prodigy451
01-01-2013, 09:29 PM
Alright so i'm not here complaining about how I can't game or get girls but my problem here is I can't find any social circle situations for me to game girls or meet hot women.

I'm a very good looking guy and was fairly popular in high school. I didn't have any problems in high school getting IOIs and attraction from numerous HB8-10s. In high school I was able to interact with these girls through social circles and knowing them from friends of friends but now i'm screwed.

I go to a community college, I chose to go there to avoid the ridiculous scam costs of universities. I realized I was making a sacrifice to my social life by choosing this but money is something that is very important to me. Now my problem here is that by going to community college there is no hot girls here whatsoever and everyone around here is much older than me (and on the nerdy side). The average age here is at least 28 while i'm a young 18 year old kid fresh out of high school.

I still keep in touch with some of my friends from high school who live near me but I always find myself asking where any parties are at or what exactly there is to do on the weekends. I'm tired of feeling like a value leecher to my friends asking for parties but theres not much I can do since everyone else I knew in high school went off to universities.


Life after high school sucks and at the age of 18 I feel like life isn't going to be as fun as it was in high school. I got the girls in high school but now they're gone and most of my friends are gone also because of college. I'm not going to lie its been making me pretty damn depressed.


Wtf do I do? I'm a pretty social guy but I barely find anymore parties or events to go meet girls and my social life is shit now. I find myself either working out at the gym or going to school. I'm out of opportunities and barely have anything fun to do anymore.

cassanova87
01-01-2013, 09:40 PM
No idea how to build a social circle in that situation(older and nerdy people). I'd suggest, finding a wing here if you can, at least you can practice and meet girls with someone.
Yes, life after high school is tough...no surprise there.:cool:

BoomGoesTheDynamite
01-01-2013, 10:01 PM
Did the same thing. Realize that community college is less schooling and more of a daycare. Anyone your age is in the same boat.

I ended up spending most of my time going to local parties and visiting friends every weekend. Not saying that's the answer, but I developed a lot through it.

I assume, if you are like me, you will end up transferring to a school. I'd suggest doing your best to make that an easy transition. Visit that school you want to go to and study in the meantime. When I transferred, I was well ahead of my peers and had a great outlook post college.

I've graduated and now have an awesome job, running around having a great time. Reason? Because I did my shit and took care of myself. Now I'm more consumed with girls than I know what do with.. why I joined this forum.

Quick fix though; idk where it's at, but go to local study places (coffee shops, library, etc.) And develop a presence. I met a lot of cool people (and some decent chicks) hanging with that crowd.

I some how managed and had the time of my life. Sure you can do the same.

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airwavesii
01-02-2013, 08:58 AM
I went to 4 yr university and then community college - in that order. There are definitely some huge differences in the social dynamics. For one - people at community college are usually less well off financially and/or intellectually. Another is that community college students are more likely to be continuing education adults which means they would be considerably older than 18 yr olds. In my experience however I found the vast majority to be in my social age bracket 18-22.

University seems to be like a city all of its own where the inhabitants may or may not leave campus for days or weeks at a time and there is always someone awake or something going on at all hours.

CC are commuter campuses and while they still have commons areas like dinning hall, library, and lounges.. almost all the students are gone by 5 o'clock. So obviously, like you were saying, it would be harder to meet people at community college.

Everyone I met at community college was in my class or lab. I was never one to hang out in the library. I would arrive on campus immediately before my class and leave immediately after.

So I think your best bet would be to just talk to the people who are around you. Something is bound to happen for you.

Prodigy451
01-02-2013, 11:58 AM
Well unfortunately I also chose not to pursue a 4 year degree and transfer because I wanted to avoid the costs of paying for classes that wouldn't help me. For example in a transfer degree they would require me to take physics, calculus, chemistry etc a bunch of worthless classes that are a waste of time and money with what i'm pursuing a career in. As much as I wanted to go to a university and I definitely could of if I wanted to, I didn't want to waste my money and be 10+ years worth of loans in debt. Instead i'm planning on going for a 2 year degree and straight to a full time job.


Appreciate the advice but its looking like I might have to wait until i'm 21 to go to the real clubs but thats a long 3 years from now. Theres only one 18+ club here and its only on sundays and is pretty lame at that.

I guess I don't really have many options it sucks looking at pictures of your friends having good times at universities and partying 24/7 while your stuck at home figuring out what to do on the weekends

koltz
01-03-2013, 12:34 AM
I did the exact same thing as you; Im now a junior at a state school and looking back on it I wishing I hadnt wasted so much time worrying about all the parties I was missing.

The next four years are going to fly by, so i suggest you take this time to work on your inner game; ie kick ass in school, get in great shape and develop your hobbies. When your in the post college dating scene you'll have more girls then you know what to do with. Commuting to college allowed me to work awesome paid internships and develop my own business. Girls I know are starting to graduate and moving back home because there covered in debt, guess who they text for weekend plans now? Also online dating is an incredible resource (POF,OKC, MeetMe) the majority of girls on there are college commuters or in the workforce, they mostly live at home and are just as bored as you. Ive had great success finding girls that live close to me and met a bunch that go to my school.

The brief discomfort your faced with now is going to pay off a ton in a few years, relax!

perrywhistler
01-03-2013, 06:17 PM
You're unlikely to find hot women or quality social circles at community college. There are exceptions, but community college student bodies are usually made up of: 1) very slow students who barely made it out of high school, 2) 40-something people trying to get a degree before they die, and 3) poor people.

The three aren't mutually exclusive. Some women in group # 1 will look superficially okay, but most will be chunky and of the "I-like-to-wear-PJs-to-class" variety, meaning they will keep their ratted hair in ponytails, eat taco bell and slurp Mountain Dew while farting. Group #2 women already live in the real world, and are too preoccupied with bills, children, and microwave dinners to seek out men to fuck. As for poor people, expect bad teeth, lousy hygiene, a grateful-for-what-ya-got attitude, and dependents in the form of kids or irresponsible adults.

If you're dead set on saving money during this time, find friends from a real university or college, and hold onto them for dear life. Hope that people don't ask where you go to school, and if they do just lie or say you're working for your dad. IMHO, this is no time to be saving money. It's your time to sew your wild oats and blow your wad of cash--you'll never have a chance to do it again, and missing out on the joy of a real college life could haunt you.

gorn
01-03-2013, 07:10 PM
I did the exact same thing as you; Im now a junior at a state school and looking back on it I wishing I hadnt wasted so much time worrying about all the parties I was missing.

The next four years are going to fly by, so i suggest you take this time to work on your inner game; ie kick ass in school, get in great shape and develop your hobbies. When your in the post college dating scene you'll have more girls then you know what to do with. Commuting to college allowed me to work awesome paid internships and develop my own business. Girls I know are starting to graduate and moving back home because there covered in debt, guess who they text for weekend plans now? Also online dating is an incredible resource (POF,OKC, MeetMe) the majority of girls on there are college commuters or in the workforce, they mostly live at home and are just as bored as you. Ive had great success finding girls that live close to me and met a bunch that go to my school.

The brief discomfort your faced with now is going to pay off a ton in a few years, relax!

Dude, i'm kind of in the same boat as you here (26 senior), commute, and this post is a revelation.

To OP: i slaved away 6 years at community college out of hs, heck i was too nervous then for chicks and internet porn certainly doesnt help, but now the uni seems way different like otherworldly, chicks are easy, especially after getting laid, also commuting from home to school certainly does not help with chicks but who cares, need to focus on those internships...

Prodigy451
01-03-2013, 11:42 PM
I did the exact same thing as you; Im now a junior at a state school and looking back on it I wishing I hadnt wasted so much time worrying about all the parties I was missing.

The next four years are going to fly by, so i suggest you take this time to work on your inner game; ie kick ass in school, get in great shape and develop your hobbies. When your in the post college dating scene you'll have more girls then you know what to do with. Commuting to college allowed me to work awesome paid internships and develop my own business. Girls I know are starting to graduate and moving back home because there covered in debt, guess who they text for weekend plans now? Also online dating is an incredible resource (POF,OKC, MeetMe) the majority of girls on there are college commuters or in the workforce, they mostly live at home and are just as bored as you. Ive had great success finding girls that live close to me and met a bunch that go to my school.

The brief discomfort your faced with now is going to pay off a ton in a few years, relax!




Thanks man that makes me feel a little better, I wasn't sure things would get much better socially after community college but I guess i'm gonna just tough it out, keep hitting the gym and get some money and experience off internships while time passes by.



It sure as hell isn't easy depriving yourself of social contact for a long time though...

gorn
01-03-2013, 11:53 PM
It used to be the same for me as well , i go to community college, and basically went home playing starcraft/tv, i did join some club later on to deprive myself of anguish but it sucked, the transfer to the uni was rocky as well socially, but i eased it in the 2nd semester, 3rd semester, and about to start 4th semester things are slowly better and better socially.

I believe i posted somewhere here how i would do many cold approaches at cafes when i hit the uni. Community college ironically didnt afford ANY cafes except some cheapass one but i didnt feel like eating with anyone though then.

dentaldoc
01-05-2013, 10:04 AM
Prodigy; Dont listen to any of these idiots as to how CC college is only for poor people, slow people an 40 year olds an so forth an how your missing out an so forth...Lemme set things in perspective for you. 1) I did CC college for two years to get the bullshit classes out of the way, then transfered an took my pre-reqs. 2) Your not missin out, your going to learn valuable lessons ontime management instead of drinking 4-5 days a week and failing classes. 3) You fuck up know its gonna be a bitch to make up those grades later on. 4) Your not blowing any cash in college, that comes after.

I missed out on alot of the college life, at the time ill admit it sucks, but im going to be graduating dental school soon at 27 and my starting salary will be more than most 40 year olds ever see. Moral of the story is, things are competitive these days, an you have to do what you gotta do to make it. Bust your arse now an it will pay off later.. Took my 9 years but when im out partying in a VIP cabana in vegas you really think im gonna care about what i missed out on at 18-21?? Nope! You will make up for the lost time, trust me!

koltz
01-06-2013, 03:35 PM
The worst thing you can do is get the "commuter blues" and just go home and play video games everyday. Ive seen several people from high school drop out due to this.

My best pick up advice for commuter schools is to dress really nice to class. People tend to just wear their pjs to class and by dressing up your essentially pea cocking. I started wearing the outfits I wore to my office internship at school. I noticed that random girls in my classes started complimenting me on my clothes. I used these opportunities to strike up conversations with them; ended up hooking up with a few this way.

Ive also got in the habit of going on a lot of coffee dates with these girls. Alot of times girls in your classes will have the same breaks as you. If you see them hanging around after class alone ask them to grab a coffee after next class. If you dont scare her this usually becomes a routine then you start hanging out on the weekends and the rest is history...


Im a veteran at this shit OP feel free to pm me.