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JimmieRustler
10-16-2012, 07:54 PM
You guys know how women think, and can possibly help me here.

I personally think he's putting up this front so he can try to have sex with my sister. Shes a virgin at 20 which is fairly rare these days. She wants to wait until shes "in love" to have sex with anybody. And I think this guy is playing his cards right. I know hes not really like what I'm about to explain below, he's putting up a front and my sister cant see through it because she barely knew him prior to them dating so she didn't actually get a chance to see what he is really like. He took advantage of this fact and quickly started acting the exact way my sister wants a guy to act. How does he know the way my sister wants a guy to act? He's been friends with my other sister, and it came out naturally. They met through my other sister as well. Hes a fake, and I don't like my sister getting taken advantage of. I'm simply trying to protect her from making any stupid decisions. I'm protective but I'm not the over the top, and abusive, "I'll kill you if you touch my sister" type of brother.

So anyway, onto their relationship. My sister is the type of girl who loves cutesy, cheesy, lovey dovey stuff. Love notes, flowers, cards, surprises with flowers at work, romantic stuff basically. She's young and doesn't know any better. She thinks all guys are pigs and this guy comes along like price charming and changes her views completely. He talks about how lucky he is to have her in his life, how lucky he is to be dating her, how shes the most amazing girl in the world. This guy is providing this fantasy lifestyle and my sister is absolutely infatuated with him. She honestly wants her love life to be a Disney movie, or The Notebook. Its just unrealistic.

I know him, he's a horny video game collector. He has every video game under the sun, spends all day in his room watching Spongebob and playing Pokemon/Call of Duty when hes not in class. I've seen his tumblr blog, its FILLED with porn and pictures of naked girls just outright masturbating, with some video game pictures and other random stuff mixed in. Im not saying liking video games and porn makes you a bad person, I'm just saying, thats what hes really like.

Its not even his private blog that only he can see either, its his public page that all his friends can view and he links this page through his Facebook/Twitter, everybody can see it. He's just putting up a fake persona is order to win my sister over and have sex with her. I know men, I've dealt with this shit, men do not do this type of stuff. Flowers and love notes are cool in the beginning a few times during that "getting to know each other" stage but this guy just piles it on and my sister is just sitting there and accepting it like her life is a romantic movie.

They're planning their "future" together and whatever. Their relationship is cheesy and fake and its cringe worthy the way they act together. They call each other up and talk about how perfect they both are. "You're perfect babe", "No, you'reeeeee perfect babe!" They said they loved each other after a month of dating...

Anyway, what do I do here? This guy is obviously just trying to fuck my sister by playing the love story/movie card and I don't want her to be tricked into thinking this guy is perfect and amazing when in reality hes just some basement dwelling 20 year old. I know I should just leave my sister alone and let her do her thing but I just cant. She's young and stupid, shes blinded by this "love" and this guy is just pretending to act like prince charming because he knows that's what my sister likes. I would feel guilty not doing anything about it. I've spoken to her, and simply told her to be careful and while it might not seem like all he wants is pussy, he's definitely on his way there.

Thoughts?

Starfox
10-16-2012, 08:25 PM
If he is like you say, then chances are he is not getting laid by anyone else. So if he is as nerdish as you describe he probably will stick around your sister even after he bangs her. You probably think your sister can do better, I get that. But she may not be into the typical jock cool guy types who usually aren't there to stick around. Truthfully at the end of the day she has to make her own decisions and her own mistakes. Provoking the situation will only escalate the problem.

JimmieRustler
10-16-2012, 08:30 PM
If he is like you say, then chances are he is not getting laid by anyone else. So if he is as nerdish as you describe he probably will stick around your sister even after he bangs her. You probably think your sister can do better, I get that. But she may not be into the typical jock cool guy types who usually aren't there to stick around. Truthfully at the end of the day she has to make her own decisions and her own mistakes. Provoking the situation will only escalate the problem.

I understand, she said if he asks for sex before shes ready and he keeps pressing she'll just leave. I mean, it just gets me angry that his guy puts on a fake personality to get with her, it just doesnt sit well with me, especially with my little sister, you guys who have sisters understand where im coming from.

Thanks though

HugeGrant
10-16-2012, 11:29 PM
Someone is trying to fuck your sister and you don't like it? Welcome to earth!

Love Monkey
10-17-2012, 04:42 AM
Lead by example, it is all you can do. How do you do that in the case of your sister? Beats me.

When they don't work out you can be there for her to show her how real men act. Until then you have to let her make mistakes.

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boston_019
10-17-2012, 05:31 AM
There's nothing you can do but wait and pick up the pieces if he breaks her heart. As men, we just have to deal with other men seeing our sisters, daughters, and mothers as sex objects.

JimmieRustler
10-17-2012, 08:31 AM
Someone is trying to fuck your sister and you don't like it? Welcome to earth!

I know but he could at least be genuine. I don't like her being taken advantage of more than anything

JimmieRustler
10-17-2012, 08:33 AM
Lead by example, it is all you can do. How do you do that in the case of your sister? Beats me.

When they don't work out you can be there for her to show her how real men act. Until then you have to let her make mistakes.

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Do you think he's doing something that would not cause them to work out in your eyes? I guess you don't really have enough details now that I think about it

But he's basically doing all the things this community teaches us to avoid. Tons of attention, flowers, gifts, etc. Guess it works on some people

Hitman47
10-17-2012, 08:55 AM
You guys know how women think, and can possibly help me here.

I personally think he's putting up this front so he can try to have sex with my sister. Shes a virgin at 20 which is fairly rare these days. She wants to wait until shes "in love" to have sex with anybody.

Before I read any further.
Understand that this is your sister's life - not yours.
Have a conversation with her about your concerns (if you want). And THAT IS IT. Whatever happens after it's her decisions and her life. Whether good or bad it will all be her experience.

JimmieRustler
10-17-2012, 11:23 AM
Before I read any further.
Understand that this is your sister's life - not yours.
Have a conversation with her about your concerns (if you want). And THAT IS IT. Whatever happens after it's her decisions and her life. Whether good or bad it will all be her experience.

I understand its her life but it just feels wrong to sit back and not do anything. I guess realistically I cant do anything

Birthday
10-17-2012, 11:31 AM
Why not show her his porno blog? that ought to put her off.

Birthday
10-17-2012, 11:39 AM
Ok I thought I recognised this thread...

This is now the third time you have posted a strikingly similar thread. Here is the first and second (they were merged): http://www.theattractionforums.com/general-discussion/158957-dude-gets-his-knee-ring-asks-my-friend-his-gf-thoughts.html

WTF is the deal dude? So now she is your sister? Can we believe anything you say?

Hitman47
10-17-2012, 01:46 PM
I understand its her life but it just feels wrong to sit back and not do anything. I guess realistically I cant do anything

Do anything about what?
What exactly makes you think you're right and she's wrong in the choosing of a partner?
You have your opinion she has hers. Keep an open mind that she ll do whatever she sees fit and she might be right in her decision (although right/wrong is highly overrated).