View Full Version : Is this married gal into me?

The Mexican
07-2012-06, 10:49 PM
Hi all, so this colleague calls me a lot,
She is hb5 and am not interested in her. But usually we spend all day together for work reasons. Her husband knows me and everything, sometimes I even go to their place for drinks...

When we are alone she kinoes me a lot and play with her hair and her body language is really flirty, sometimes likes to talk about how much he is into porn and how lonely she is during weekends coz of her husband is working

Since i am not interested in her I don't bother into reframing shit tests and just play along, hoping to be letsjustbefriended

they both seem happy when together and since they both are young (26) perhaps she just wants to have more male friends? once she mentioned something like "if him (her husband) cheats on me is his problem not mine"

Does that mean she is willing? Or that it's an open marriage?

a couple times when her husband is working I take her out for drinks with my friends or go to a party and her husband knows about it, so that might mean she is not trying to cheat?

In case she is, how can I turn her down? I havent fooled around with a married woman (well only once but se hid for months the fact she was married) and I think if I ever do that it has to be for a woman who really drives me crazy in everyday, otherwise I just go for single girls...

Suffering is something useless nobody will thank you for

The Mexican
07-2012-08, 08:21 PM
Really? No one?

Suffering is something useless nobody will thank you for

07-2012-08, 08:32 PM
She kinda sounds like she gets a bit lonely so she might flirt a bit with you so she can get some attention, doesn't mean she would actually cheat. So, I wouldn't worry about it, if you are not into her just act like you would with any other friend. Obviously her husband has no problem with you hanging out with his wife and if it ever comes to the point where she tries to make a move on you, just LJBF her and well she is married anyway so you don't need much of an excuse for why you wouldn't go there.

07-2012-08, 08:52 PM
If she makes a move on you, which I doubt she will simply say "You are married" and walk off.

I doubt she will initiate the first move though.

If you are uncomfortable with the way she acts around you, then you can even havea talk to her about it, and let her know the actions that make you uncomfortable... Or just avoid subjects that you think can get you into trouble. I.E. Porn, sex, etc.

I wouldnt get excessively drunk around her either. Even a 5 can turn into a 7-8-9 and look tasty after a few beers. Logic tends to go out the window as well.

If you genuinely arent interested, then there isnt anything to worry about. You are just friends, and thats fine.

07-2012-10, 09:27 AM
The main question is she just looking for company and validation or actually attracted to you and will act on it. There really only one way to know what is what is by gradually escalate with her.

But given that you know her husband and probably have many mutual friends and people who know both of you, things can get very complicated very fast.

I would think very hard before acting on anything. You probably better off leaving things as they are.

07-2012-11, 08:51 AM
Hah, can you try just avoiding her.
If you are good friends with her husband, then just do nothing out of loyalty to him.
They might have problems in the marriage, and she is looking for a divorce and another man to latch onto.
Young married couples often get divorce. The young husbands usually cheat and find a hotter woman.

The Mexican
08-2012-23, 09:27 PM
thanks for the replies, things are cool now... we still hang out, but it s more than clear that nothing will happen