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sling
08-23-2009, 11:39 AM
Went out daygaming on Thursday in Trafalgar Square/Covent Garden. Did some half-assed, fun approaches (i.e. finding girls who were taking photos and saying we were famous supermodels and they could take a photo with us and sell it on ebay) before I decided it was time to get serious and show my wingmen (one of whom is Adam Raphael, read his Demonic Confidence journal here: http://www.theattractionforums.com/field-reports/102003-adam-raphaels-journal-now-30-extra-raphael.html ) how it's done. I managed to instant date both targets I went direct on, which was pretty cool. Anyway I get one facebook close (she has an Italian phone and it's not really working) off one and a number close off HBPolish. So I start text game. This is where it gets confusing. I texted:

"Have you found any more cutting edge fashion items in the attic? with your innovative ideas, you'll have your own show in milan in no time!"

[reference to the fact that she wants to study fashion and she had a weird tiny jacket which she said was from when she was 5 years old and she found in her attic and put it on again; I teased her when I met her with stuff like "wow, so you're a fashion student... this is what's IN now? I must be out of touch"]

Then she sends me this motherfucker of an essay:

"Hi sling, sorry i didn't text u back, i'm giong through financial crisis at the moment. unfortunately i don't have a chance to penetrate my attic cos as u know i'm away from my home. i just came back from work n i was annoyed about the fact that there was no night out for me on saturday. how unfair is that! i hope u haven't felt that i gave u the brush-off that day, the thing is that i was miles away the time we talked, too much worrying about my existence. you know i just realised that i forgot to introduce myself when we met n also i was quite mean so now i wanna apologise for that cos this wasn't right. my name is hbpolish n i really appreciate the fact that u stopped me just to initiate a conversation n thanks to that u made me feel special, because i was the one chosen from the crowd... i believe it's your way of meeting people n making friends, so unusual!"

... Wow.

It seems like a lot of qualifying when she says sorry I was mean (she wasn't really, maybe a little confused because she'd never been approached like that before), the last part seems like a bit of a shit test (i.e. "you must have no other friends if the only way you can meet people is by talking to random strangers") but maybe I'm overanalysing. I'm just very very confused.

sling
08-23-2009, 12:33 PM
Ok I just sent her the following message:

"Wow, long text! i didn't think you were mean, just shy. but i'll see if you can make it up to me. :) glad i could make your day better. i specialise in making people happy. how was your weekend?"

We'll see how this goes.

sling
08-23-2009, 12:46 PM
Right, pretty much straight away I get this reply:
"fri sat working. so lazy today, i didn't even go out from my tiny flat, sleeping till 2pm, sitting there listening to some music n now i feel so bad that i wasted whole day n missed this wonderful weather :( how about u?"

I'm assuming this is a hint that she wants to get out of the house, i.e. me take her out.

GIGGIDY GIGGIDY :D

AdamRaphael
08-23-2009, 12:54 PM
Quick reply, and from her original text she's been thinking about you lots. And now hints that she wants to go out?

"Well you can make the most of the day on x when we x"

GO FOR THAT MEET-UP! :D

sling
08-23-2009, 12:58 PM
I think I might steal your zoo idea dude. How much is it to get in?

Oh and you were probably right; a better response would have been "when can I penetrate that attic?" Hahaha

TrueStory
08-23-2009, 01:09 PM
....

"Hi sling, sorry i didn't text u back, i'm giong through financial crisis at the moment. unfortunately i don't have a chance to penetrate my attic cos as u know i'm away from my home. i just came back from work n i was annoyed about the fact that there was no night out for me on saturday. how unfair is that! i hope u haven't felt that i gave u the brush-off that day, the thing is that i was miles away the time we talked, too much worrying about my existence. you know i just realised that i forgot to introduce myself when we met n also i was quite mean so now i wanna apologise for that cos this wasn't right. my name is hbpolish n i really appreciate the fact that u stopped me just to initiate a conversation n thanks to that u made me feel special, because i was the one chosen from the crowd... i believe it's your way of meeting people n making friends, so unusual!"

... Wow.
....


This girl isn't going to end well for you.

This is a HUGE red flag...........if american girl sent me this.

She's foreign, confused. So that might be an excuse.

Just invite her out. She's experience cultural adjustment and probably struggles with school.

Get a cup of coffee for now. Don't do anything elaborate yet. But have something planned for "after coffee"

You should pay.

If you say she's polish, that's a custom cultural thing for a man to pay. That's just how it is.

This should be EASY lay. Don't need to go out on complicated date to the zoo. She's already attracted to you, fascinated by you, just go get coffee, couple drinks and invite her back to your place for some more drinks. Should be quick close.

ellipse
08-23-2009, 01:17 PM
yer nothing to worry about at all, shes obviously well into you!
good luck brother, you shouldnt need it

sling
08-23-2009, 01:27 PM
Hmmm, I've already sent her an invite to the zoo. Oh well, I don't actually need to take her there. She hasn't replied yet, though it's only been like 10 minutes. We'll see what happens. If she still doesn't reply I might freeze her out tomorrow, then call her in a couple days and just invite her for a drink (or maybe I should call her tomorrow anyway even if she doesn't reply? hmmmm). It's a bit problematic though because I'm home from uni at the moment and staying at my parents' house. They're on holiday now but coming back on Tuesday, so if the lay is going to happen at my place it needs to happen tomorrow. Otherwise I'll have to get her to invite me into hers.

No worries dude, I'm only in the country for another 2 weeks then I'm actually moving to Russia for a year abroad (holy shit), so it's not like I can get seriously involved anyway if she turns out to be a nutcase.

TrueStory
08-23-2009, 01:32 PM
You will *LOVE* rooskie women


After coming back from Ukraine, I cannot achieve a boner on american girls for a month. :)

sling
08-23-2009, 01:44 PM
Haha yeah, I am definitely looking forward to it. I was there last year in Petrozavodsk for a month, there were so many hotties. I hadn't gotten into game yet so I didn't think to just approach. I remember I went down to sit by the lake every night with a friend and we would watch two-set after two-set after two-set of ridiculous hotties walk by, all of whom looked very approachable and non-bitchy. If only I had known then what I know now... my Russian's not amazing yet but it's gotten to the point where I can hold up a basic conversation, and I can think of nothing better than conversing with the devushki to make it better. I'll see what happens; only problem will be that I'll be staying with a host family, and bringing girls back will needless to say be a violation of their hospitality, unless I get lucky and end up with younger people who are cool with it and not a 90-year-old Stalinist babushka. I'm going to have to figure out how to get myself invited into the devushki's homes. :)

But anyway, on the subject at hand, if she doesn't reply to text (which she hasn't yet), should I straight up call her tomorrow or wait another day? I think I might just go with calling her tomorrow and see how it goes, since the lay needs to happen tomorrow for it to be at mine.

sling
08-23-2009, 02:08 PM
w00t. It's a date. :D

sling
08-24-2009, 03:07 PM
Okay, so at first I called her and she said her sister might be inviting her out during the day so she probably won't be able to come. I say ok, fuck it, call up a guy I know and go day gaming in Oxford St. I don't really like Oxford St for day gaming cause it's just too bustling and hectic and you can't just sit a girl down and talk to her, but I do two approaches anyway, one of whom doesn't want to give me her number, and the other seems flattered but is 16 (eep).

So anyway the guy I was with and his wing end up instant dating a cute Spanish girl who is asking them for directions, and we go to a bar on Carnaby St. Then HBPolish calls and says her sister isn't taking her out after all so she can come hang out with me and she comes to the bar, I introduce her around and we have a couple cocktails. She's throwing IOIs left and right, which is completely different from the time I first met her, when she seemed a bit distant to the point that after I did really light kino by touching her lightly on the shoulder about 3 times she complained about me invading her personal space. Now she's completely warm to me, and after a while the other guys, being cool community guys that they are, understand the deal and, under the pretext that they're off to get some food leave with HBSpanish, leaving HBPolish and me in isolation.

I chat with her for about an hour while gradually escalating kino. We sit next to each other with our bodies touching, I touch her arms, hands, legs, face, neck, hair, even drop a couple ice cubes down the back of her shirt. I'm not so much systematically qualifying and building comfort as I am just quite simply genuinely getting to know her: she's actually a very cool, interesting girl. Then we end up making out pretty passionately for about half an hour. She's getting total DDB and getting really emotional as well... I think she actually came close to crying at one point. Maybe it's the whole Hollywood romance overtone that day direct approach seems to intrinsically carry with it. Her sister calls her up; apparently she has important news but does not want to say (HBPolish says she suspects her sister might be pregnant) on the phone, so HBPolish has to leave to meet up with her. We kiss again before we get on separate trains on the tube, then I go back home. Guy I went out with suggests I join him at a club to continue gaming, but I decide I've done enough for one day.

Damn, I actually really like this girl. She's a total sweetheart and really attractive. Today was very good.