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    I need some help here to

    hey,

    nice thread guys. well i will try to be quick....opened this HB 8 at the grocery store on monday...i asked her questions...and ahe asked me questions..lots! e.g. If I am married, where I am from etc. We exchanged numbers and I gave her a lift home. She has a 5 month old kid but is separated from her husband. She called me the same night..we chatted..and made plans to go out on Wednesday or Thursday...

    i called her on Tuesday but she didnt answer her phone. i called back on Wednesday and she did answer and sounded pretty cool and excited to hear from me. I confirmed our plans for Thursday. When I called I got no answer. I text her and still no answer. I didnt bother calling back.

    Now I thought I had this one in the bag! Can you tell me what may have happened? Maybe I thought I was getting IOI's when she was just being friendly..I dont know!

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    Hey tm

    Basically Ive been on an SNL streak. The first few were just average, the last one was a hottie, woot woot right?

    My problem though now seems to be making the connection between the day 1 and the day 2. Like if I can even GET day 2 now, it goes nowhere. Im even to the point where I cant get a girl I laid to hang out again unless she initiates it.

    Im pretty sure its not the sex....as there apparently loving it and the last FB wouldnt shutup about how amazing I am , its just like Im not having the same realness/connection I did the first day/night.

    I know there isnt a clear cut answer to this and this isnt even a clear question but any thoughts would be appreciated.

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    Hard to pinpoint from that little bit of info, but it's either not enough attraction, or not enough comfort, I would say. It's possible you moved in too fast.
    "Curiousity killed the cat... but for a while I was a suspect."

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    Quote Originally Posted by miaddict View Post
    My question is about identity.

    You are in Grad School(according to your blog). For those who are also in grad school, how do you incorporate this aspect of your identity in your identity-conveying routines? Would you DHV by talking about your life as a grad student? Or would you avoid it altogether? How would you approach that?
    That depends mostly on what kind of program you're in, and who you're talking to.

    For example, programs like Medicine, Law and Business are definitely cool, and you should bring those up ASAP. Accounting, Computer Programming and Engineering are usually things that you can leave until she asks.

    As for everything else, it depends a lot on who you're talking to. A Masters in Philosophy would be pretty cool to an undergrad girl working at Starbucks, but a stripper or actress wouldn't care that much.

    In the end though, whatever you're doing, whether it's Law or Accounting, you're going to have to mention it, and you're going to want to make it sound good. If you can tie what you're doing to a grand goal, make it a stepping stone on your path to being a bigshot, if you can show passion about what you do, women will pick up on that and they'll appreciate it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Colin View Post
    HeHeHa...Have you been buying your own smokes?*LOL*

    Seriously though, I've had some difficulty getting solid Day2's. Most of my pulls have been same day and not sure if they are because of good game or alcahol. Honestly I don't have much time to commit to Day 2's so I guess it's alright. But I do have girls I haven't closed "getting back in touch" and I get a little lost as to how to escalate and close them. DHV and comfort I assume?
    A lot of guys have a problem with solid Day2's. When you're in a bar and the booze is flowing, you can get a girl REALLY into you, but when she wakes up in the morning, the magic is gone. Why? Because she was in the moment, and the next morning, all the emotions and the fun is gone, and she thinks to herself "who was that guy?".

    And if you haven't done any comfort, she has no answer to that question.

    Now, if I build some good attraction, then change gears and switch into comfort, I can start talking about my passions and my ambitions and the funny hick-town that I'm from, and some of the crazy shit that I've done in my life, and when the girl I'm talking to wakes up in the morning and thinks "who was that guy?"... now she has an answer.

    And when I call the next day, I'm not some funny stranger, but actually a real person.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ware_ru View Post
    How do you begin and then continue an mLTR with two best friends who hang out with each other all the time and both want your dick? If you haven't physically escalated on either one yet although have been clearly sexual verbally. ARGHHH!!
    Grow some balls and be a shameless whore and try and threesome them. You know what to do, you're just scared
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lansing View Post
    How do you manage multiple girls at once? At what point do you think you should be telling one girl about another girl (or that you are dating others in general).
    See, I don't TALK about this stuff... I just imply it really subtly, starting from the very first day I meet them. Right off the bat I'm subtly communicating that I have other women in my life, and while I never talk about it directly, I never really do anything to hide it.

    And shockingly, women NEVER ask me if I'm seeing other women, or whether we're monogamous or anything. And if they did, I wouldn't lie... but I haven't had to. They know what the answer is and they don't want to hear it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bjswift View Post
    Question #1)

    LTRs: How neutral should you be when your GF involves you in girly things.

    examples:
    1) while driving she plays some girly R&B chick music like avril lavigne or something.

    2) while at the mall she wants to go to girl stores (with no men stuff at all - ie clothes). I want to spend time with her so I don't want to ditch her, but following her around looking at chick clothes seems pretty gay and anti-alpha)

    they aren't really hoops IMO.. they are just things she likes to do but me being around while its going on seems to lower my alpha value.

    Question #2)

    If your GF has many guy friends and you know that one of them is telling her to break up with you for him how would you handle it?

    or

    When you and your GF decide to become exclusive, at what point do you say that her freedom with guys is inappropriate? She insists on continuing to hang out with this guy who became her fuck-buddy while me and her were on a 4 month break and im pretty sure hes the true original reason for the break anyways. Should I tell her "your free to do what u want but if ur with me, ur with me. and hanging out with that guy is inappropriate.." or should I just let her have her opportunity to bang him behind my back while I know she is hanging out with him? (i realize theres 5 million other girls out there, but I could just as easily have this same loyalty problem with any of those 5 million others, whats my best bet to handle this specific situation?)


    Thanks for ur help Tenmagnet.
    Sounds like you have no power in your relationship. You're her tag-along, cheated on BF. You don't even get to pick the music!

    In my experience, once respect is gone, your relationship is fucked. Not that I'm really an expert on fixing bad relationships, I always move on when that happens.
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    edit: nevermind, I was gonna ask another question but I think while writing it I answered it..
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    Quote Originally Posted by Riddic View Post
    A girl I am seeing is very naive when it comes to guy friends. She's too nice for her own good. Before I met her, she had a guy friend that was interested, and blew up after she LJBF'd him, and scared her. She has since cut him off, but lately she's been hanging out with tools.

    How do I explain this to her, that she needs to be more careful with whom she associates with, without sounding controlling or jealous?
    In contrast with the previous poster, I think you need to just chill and don't worry about it. Beautiful women are always hanging out with guys that have crushes on them, but as long as these guys are AFC and struck with puppy-love, they're no threat.

    I would just point it out (in case she doesn't notice, she probably does at some level), and treat it like it's no threat. "Aww, he has such a crush on you... it's cute"... stuff like that.
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