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AnacondaMMA · #51 08-27-2009, 02:27 PM

can u answer post #44? Its short so u prob missed it lol. I'm about baby steps!

windel · #52 08-27-2009, 07:02 PM

Hi Tenmagnet. 2 questions from me:

1) Whenever I do a direct approach (i.e. I know it's a bit random, but I just saw you walking by and I would kick myself all day if I didn't come say hi. I think u look stunning!), and then do a typical transition like... 'so what's going on for you today?' or 'what's the occasion?'... and sometimes they would respond with, 'oh nothing much, just hanging out, etc.' These are situations where I'd be at a loss for what to say. What would you advice?

2. Sometimes I'd sarge alone on the streets and I'd see 2-sets, 3-sets or even bigger ones. How should my body language be if I choose to do an indirect opener?

thanks man!!!

Tenmagnet · #53 08-27-2009, 07:29 PM

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Originally Posted by AnacondaMMA

What is the best way to acclimate to approaching regularly?

Throw yourself in head first. I would say 1 set a day, followed by 7-10 sets thursday-sunday for a few weeks. This is one of those things that you really need to power through, the slow method doesn't work too well.

Tenmagnet · #54 08-27-2009, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Basically Yes

I think my question got lost in the mix:

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What in your opinion are the most important things to do/say to build comfort the fastest with a girl you just opened?

Openers, facial expressions, tonality, touching, conversation topics etc.

I can't really answer the question as stated.

When you just open, the things you need to do to create comfort are mostly body language and tonality oriented. It's the "vibe" you give off that will make her feel at ease with you at first. Thinks like locking in, and Cajun's bodylanguage post (on his blog) are really useful advice.

But when you're actually talking about creating deep comfort, the sort that comes up after a few minutes of , that's all about your conversation topics.

Tenmagnet · #55 08-27-2009, 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by windel

Hi Tenmagnet. 2 questions from me:

1) Whenever I do a direct approach (i.e. I know it's a bit random, but I just saw you walking by and I would kick myself all day if I didn't come say hi. I think u look stunning!), and then do a typical transition like... 'so what's going on for you today?' or 'what's the occasion?'... and sometimes they would respond with, 'oh nothing much, just hanging out, etc.' These are situations where I'd be at a loss for what to say. What would you advice?

2. Sometimes I'd sarge alone on the streets and I'd see 2-sets, 3-sets or even bigger ones. How should my body language be if I choose to do an indirect opener?

thanks man!!!

You can't open direct and then just go into asking questions - or if you do, they need to be qualifying questions that you can create a conversation out of.

So, you might say "You have a nice style, are you the creative type?"

"Well, yeah..."

"Nice... I'm a bit of a musician myself, though not professional. I actually just came from a show....."

YOU need to carry the conversation, don't just put the weight on her shoulder.s.

Q2 - It really depends on the situation... but pretty much same as in a club.

Tenmagnet · #56 08-27-2009, 07:42 PM

Alright guys... that's it for this thread, hope you liked it.