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So I went to a strip club today for the ...
Need help with being approached.
So I went to a strip club today for the first time ever (I'm only 19) and I was prepared to run some game, but when I got there I was extremely intimidated. Never been around beatiful, naked women, and as soon as I walked in the door a young hot girl came up to the desk for the cover fee and bent over it looking right at me. I didn't know if I should make eye contact or not, I just pretended she wasn't there. My friend that I came with didn't do much either, but we played pool and looked like we were having a good time. The other guys playing pool liked us, but the strippers seemed to have no interest. When I wanted to take a shot I asked a dancer to move, and she put her hand on my back in an alluring way and said "Like this?" It was very uncomfortable and awkward to me, mostly because I didn't know what to do. I only played pool because I was very uncomfortable in the new environment, but after a while I felt like I owned the place and I can't wait to go back. After playing pool with my friend, I sat down and waited to be approached, but it never happened.
I think this was for a couple reasons:
When I first came in, I wanted to "shut off her stripper programming" so when I was being shown around I said "I have to be honest honey, I don't have money right now." Looking back, this was a phenomenally dumb move, since it meant she would never come back and she might tell her friends.
Also, before I had sat down, my wing who tries to run RSD frat boy game went up to this girl and used "the claw" and held her into him and said "hey, what's your name? I love you!" She played along and said "Oh! we should get married!" But it was really weird and I am sure she was creeped out. After we didn't get approached he signalled for girls to come over and they didn't, so I am sure having him with me fucked me over some as well. From now on, I will only go out with him for daytime approaches since he won't be affecting my performance.
My problems are:
How can I react to a girl when they do said things above? Should I make eye contact? Is it okay to say "That's great honey" and brush her off? To me it seems like disqualifying yourself by saying you won't pay or can't pay is a bad idea, since that possibility is a pre-requisite for them to hang around you. If I sat down and reached a hook point, I think I could be good, but I don't know how to act around strippers generally. Is it okay to say things like "You ladies look great tonight." Or will that put me in a customer frame? To me it seems like acting super aloof is weird, how do you guys stay playful while still not being in the customer frame? Also, do you have to make a girl THINK you might pay her to run your game?
as a rool of thumb i use to tell 10s thay wher smart and smart 7s thay wher hot, but u cant be intimidated by any girl remember she wasnt always that hot. the money thing prob didnt help remember THAY are the center point of a strip club thay are strippers but you have to change that try getting one to take a shot for you on the table if she takes it she will try to do it as sexy as pos u must be indifrent and only compliment her if the shot is good if it isnt she has just set up a neg then make her try agan she is now trying to win ur aproval and the shift is on u, so remember 1. never be intimidated 2. make her try hard for ur aproval
hope this helps let me know
Lol. This is probably good advice but I can't help myself. Now that I have been there once I am fascinated.
Originally Posted by DeadEyeDick
Thanks charmer, good ideas. I will definitely think about that next time I go out. I probably just need more experience.
Originally Posted by charmer69
Never tell a stripper you don't have any money. even if you only have enough for the cover, always go there like you have millions but are looking for the right girl to spend it on (re frame). Because when it comes down to it you are the one with the money. God gave them the pussy for free. you had to work for your money and so should they. strippers only have three parts to there job. 1.)lap/table/vip dance 2.)dancing on stage 3.)conversing with the customer(getting drinks bought for them). #3 is where you run the most game. you're going into a club to be entertained. you need to find reasons why you should let them entertain you.
The main mistake you made here was telling anyone you didn't have any money. She did tell her friend. You're done.
If you want to work on strip club game, go back or go to another club and don't do that. Then you'll run into other problems. Come back ask about them.
You are at an exciting point in your life, and it sounds like fun. I am still fascinated by the clubs, even with the frustration that often accompanies spending time in them. There is a lot for you to figure out on your own, but I can't stand by and be silent about a few things:
Originally Posted by RabidMouse
- Do not take any more money into the club than you are willing to spend.
- Do not even take debit or credits cards with you. Leave them at home!
- Do what the bouncer says.
- Remember that the women who work there should treated with respect. Those naked, sometimes crazy girls, are someone's daughter, sister, and/or mother.
Have fun, and Do Work, Son!
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