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I know its a cardinal sin to some guys to ...
Best way to tip strippers...
I know its a cardinal sin to some guys to tip strippers...
But..if you are just going out with friends and having some fun this is a cool way.
Everybody needs to bring a stack of ones. Go to the bank or something.
Sit along the edge of the stage and have a good time and talk as if the dancers are not even there....just like you do at home. If a game is on react the same way you do at home. OOHs and AHHs and WTFs..point and enjoy it. They'll see you as guys that are having fun...and that will make them notice you. Check them out too..but dont let it be all about them. They'll start to work for your attention.
Now...this is the best part...
When she is coming to the end of her 2nd song or whatever...take a few dollars out and build a House out of the Money. They'll love it. Its something they've never seen before and every person in that club will be watching you. The Dj will most likely say something about it too..lol.
You can build it up..put a carport on it. Make any kind of crazy design u want. Make it as big as u want. You can even put a larger bill as the roof..if u want. Its your thing.
You will have everyone in the club knowing you are the ones to watch. You'll be interesting.
The women will want to know you and you will get approached as the one with the higher value. Shit keeps them honest. If you like one..take her to another table for a conversation.
I wouldn't do the private dances unless you're just out having a good time and you dont care about closing. There's nothing wrong with that.
Anyways..I've gotten them back to the hotel and closed by doing this. It does work.
Just don't mess up after one of you opens.
It's kind of ironic to go into the strip club and make everyone watch you....
I've seen the stack of bills, dollar bill airplanes, wadded-up bills, and fancy dollar bill origami.They did help me to remember a person in particular. Always had to undo the origami or whatnot eventually to store the money, though. It didn't mean I was going to sleep with him, though.
Tipping generously and showing genuine interest in a particular dancer is only going to help you. Some of us considered our work a type of art form, and made note when our hard work was being appreciated. It was no secret that you're supposed to tip more than standard when you enjoy the show. Dancers generally have to pay the house and DJ to work, not the other way around!
On that note, There were guys over the years that I did lap dances for whom I was attracted to sexually. It made for a much better dance for the guy because my seduction was real and not just a show as was standard. There were also regular lap-dance customers I got to know, even if they weren't particularly attractive to me at first, whom I would have tried to have a relationship with if I'd been single. By "relationship" I don't necessarily mean just sex, but there WERE some that I would have been happy just with sex.
If you're going to the strip club to watch the dancers and not try to pick up a dancer then, yes, you're going to want to tip. A single 50 from the stage usually works, but turn down the lap dance. The girls will usually bend the rules on a strong move like that. Just don't mistake an extra friendly dancer for a dancer that's interested in you.
Oh, and you should probably make sure it's a classy place or they'll think you're trying to buy something.
If you're going to game then you're going to want to shy away from doing anything that makes you come off as a customer.
I use to go to strip clubs to pick up the dancers, but I've had better results picking up other females in the club.
Iím an author, traveler, and movie addict.
I agree that extra-friendly doesn't mean she is interested. But turning down the lap dance usually tells me that someone is either cheap/broke (the most common), or they would rather spend their hard-earned cash on a blonde instead (or likes thicker/taller/smaller-breasted women... you get the idea). It does not say "I am interested" in any way, shape, or form. Maybe that's why it works for some. It makes a woman feel as if the guy doesn't care, so she feels a need to show him why he should care. I don't know the exact psychology behind it, to be honest. That was just a guess.
Someone coming off as a customer never deterred me from being attracted to them or considering them for a relationship, either strictly sexual or long-term.
You probably had better luck picking up women who were customers than dancers because dancers are not that easy to pick up as a whole. When you get hit on sometimes 100 times a night and work X nights a week, you learn that you can be selective nearly to a fault and still get what you want. Plus, dancers are not in the club because they want to get laid. That's a misconception many men enjoy having. We do it because we are aware that there are people out there who pay very good money to get turned on by someone very sexy, and they -think- they have a chance with (because ALL dancers are nymphos, LOL). And they don't. Because the reality is that we're in it for the money.
It's more of my old roommate, he's the one into strip clubs. I think it's because it confuses them. I mean when you're pealing off more or less the same amount (or is it half, I don't remember) as a dance per song, but still turning the dance down. The not being interested thing probably has some merit as well.
Originally Posted by VeraLynn
He gets them to do fucked up stuff that could probably get them fired. Not sure if he just pushes as far as he can go or if gets off on it, never really asked.
For example (All middle of the road places, I wouldn't agree to goto a trashy place): He has had girls come over the rail to have him suck on their tits, girls come over the rail sit in his lap and start making out with him in full view of the rest of the club, a fully nude dancer sat on the rail and wrapped her legs around his head pushing it practically in his face, and fully nude girls straddle and grind on his leg. That's just the stuff I know about and while I don't know the dancer's code I'm pretty sure most of that stuff isn't kosher.
I usually go because I'd rather hang out drinking and talking with friends and occasionally looking over and seeing a dancing girl instead of a TV with sports playing. Oh, and for some reason Portland strip clubs tend to play better music than other places.
You probably had better luck picking up women who were customers than dancers because dancers are not that easy to pick up as a whole.
In other words I go to hang out and would rather not be bothered by a girl coming up all the time to see if I'm looking for a dance or to even talk to them (this depends on if they are going to be real and have something to say vs dancer speak). In Portland it's part of the culture and no big deal, not so much so in other areas. (A certain famous club in the city should have been paying me as a promoter as many "vanilla" girls as I got to come with me into that place. Or so went our inside joke.)
The reason I don't do better with the dancers in the club is because I usually overdo it and come off as uninterested and/or an asshole.
I've met and gone out with a few dancers, but for the most part I met them outside of the club and found out they were dancers later. Most have told me they don't date customers. So who knows, I guess some do?
Iím an author, traveler, and movie addict.
Yes, some girls will date customers and some won't.
I'd like to address the fact that you prefer to look over to see a dancing girl instead of a tv with sports playing.
I can understand why you would rather see a dancing girl, but you also have to realize that these "dancing girls" aren't getting paid by the club. They are PAYING the club to allow them onto the stage! If everyone comes in to get a free show, the girls go home with no money. And money is why they are working. I have had nights every there are guys in the club staring at the stage, but all sitting far away enough to not feel obligated to tip. When on stage we do their best to entice a few dollars, but all we get is stares and "Do more to earn your cash, baby!" That's not only frustrating, but demeaning to those on stage. When you're working so hard, wearing 4 inch (or higher) heels for 6+ hours into the wee hours of the morning, getting naked for strangers, you expect that some of them might see you as more than a horny chick who gets off on all of this. We spend so much time on makeup, shaving, whatever we think it takes to be "attractive" to customers, and then girls often drive an hour each way -or more- to the club. I was in pain 9 times out of 10 after getting off a shift between the heels and working hard physically to turn guys on. When a dancer does all of that and then goes home with $20 after paying the club and DJ $50+, it makes her not want to work anymore.
Can you see why those pretty girls dancing maybe should be treated differently than a tv image up on the wall?
Some girls would rather chance being fired and/or go a bit further than their usual comfort zone to elicit some income instead of going home broke after paying the club and figuring in gas money!
If you don't want a girl "bothering you" about a lap dace, then maybe you should be going out to a dance club bar instead of a strip club. There you can check out all the hot chicks dancing as you like, drink, not have to tip any girls, and not be bothered by anyone who expects that you might be there for a lap dance and depends on their livelihood from said lap dances. If I didn't ever ask for a lap dance, I wouldn't have earned half of what I did working at a strip club. I've asked guys who didn't appear remotely interested yet spent hundreds on me at the mere suggestion. That's why the girls "bother" you. They are trying to earn a living!
Can you understand where the dancers might be coming from a little better now? It's a JOB to us, and the goal is for the girls to earn as much cash through the night as she can. We're not there because it gets us off - no matter what any of them say, that's the cold hard truth.
Well here's the breakdown its pretty simple. We know that strippers have to make there money. We aren't really trying to get in the way of that... we just don't like being disrespected by having them think we are like all the other tools in the club that are blowing wads of cash on dances. If they don't like the fact that we aren't buying into there game they can go find a dude in the club that is willing to pay them. No strippers will date customers as in guys that spend money. They may say that they will... but the moment you spend on money on a stripper you are not going to be able to take her home, get her number, or get anything from her for that matter. She see's dollar signs, and you are an atm to her. If She see's you as person and you can bring her home. I usually feel kinda bad for the girl that spends the whole night sitting on my lap and talking to me. I tell her to go give other guys dances because if we get into a relationship I can't be the only one bringing home all the money. Usually they get up and go dance for some other guys than come back to sit on my lap and relax and talk more. I understand that the heels hurt there feet and I applaud them for that. I don't have any respect for guys that only try to game strippers and never go to regular clubs. Usually these guys have fear of opening and since strippers open them they think they are getting somewhere. Once and a while its fun to go to the strip club and work on stripper game. Most of the girls know me and we joke about how im not buying any dances. They don't even care because my group is always fun.
Originally Posted by VeraLynn
Not sure I know any of these guys you're talking about. You would think they would be easy to spot by the massive blue balls.
Originally Posted by Fleezy
Personally I'd say I game at the strip club maybe 1 time out of every 10, maybe even less. Usually it's when we're out gaming and then decide to go to the strip club.
Yeah, it is a job and not always an easy one at that. That really doesn't make it my problem though.
When I say "bother" I'm referring to the fake routines dancers pull to try and pump guys for cash. I know several reasons for why it happens beyond the money, but if she comes over and wants to interrupt me while I'm talking to my friends it had better be a real conversation.
You kind of have to live in Portland to understand that the strip clubs are part of the culture. There are more strip clubs than bars and clubs combined, I think. If not the numbers are really close.
If I'm there with friends and the girls aren't being fun I'm talking with my friends, I'm not there for the girls.
Say I'm there for 30 minutes to an hour and I look over it's not so much to watch the girls as it is something moved out of the corner of my eye and I looked over. That'll happen several times for a split second for maybe at total of 3 minutes of watching the girls.
People go to socialize and to hang out more so than to be turned on. A lot of the dancers are lazy there as well. Some of the biggest tippers are women who grade on talent and skills. They think of the dancers as sort of kick ass super heroes.
For some reason the strip clubs tend to play better music than both the clubs (which are so loud you can't talk) and the bars. Which, by the way, is one of the reasons I go. Depending on the place cheaper too.
We go for fun too. The last time we had the girls singing songs and putting on our clothes. Although, in a few clubs in Portland they do have strip karaoke.
I'm not sure if it is like this in other areas, but in Portland it's a little different.
Iím an author, traveler, and movie addict.
I guess it does sound a bit different.
It's certainly rude of a dancer to interrupt just to ask if anyone wants a dance. It IS a game to be a stripper. You need to be playful and fun and have a personality.
Never did I expect any particular guy to spend enough money on me to make my whole night. That's not to say it hasn't happened. I also consider myself an atypical stripper in many ways. Guess sometimes I fail to remember that all of the girls were different and so many had no clue what etiquette was.It just gets me when a girl or girls would spend a long time with guys who were not regulars, the guys would appear to be enjoying the company, yet none of the would tip or buy a dance. They treated it like it was a regular bar. A stripper's time is money to her!
Sounds like Portland -is- set up a bit differently than I'm used to.
I apologize for coming off a bit more strongly than I probably should have in my last post.
The only thought I have beyond that are that even when a dancer interrupts you, you'll be a class act if you politely turn her down. If you can sense that she's trying to play games, you might interrupt HER and let her know kindly, but in no uncertain terms that you're not interested in spending money on the dancers tonight. Maybe even wish her luck. Word will likely get around between the dancers that they shouldn't bother asking you after a few of them have asked and you've politely turned them away. They won't waste their time and you won't be bothered as much. Win-win!
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