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    Alpha male in my group keeps making fun of me in group for having read game

    I'm dealing with subtle verbal battles going on in my social circle from my department. There is a single alpha male who, even though he's naturally pretty ugly, has done a good job of building up an image of a man and making fun of other people for stuff. He's got a lot of "cool" things going for him: plays electric guitar in our band, knows a lot about music, is tall and plays basketball very well, etc.

    This guy will take shots at the appropriate people like me from time to time to stay in power. I'm socially weak but learning, I need to get more experience. I take shots at him, but he's built up great defenses it seems. Meanwhile, he's got all the right uncool things about each person in our group seemingly memorized to make fun of them.

    I told him a while back when he was talking about game that I was pretty intensely into it for a while, even though I never did much with it. Gave him a great weapon there. Now he uses it against me all the time. It has all these associations of weirdness and creepiness associated with it. Makes me look bad in our social circle even though I don't really react much, also I'm pretty cool but not known for bringing girls around, so people may think I have none. Even if I show a girl, he'll just bring up game and hurt my image.

    Tonight I got pissed inside because I felt like I "lost" again in our social setting because of this. I think my reputation isn't good. I can't think of a good defense. I'm calmer now, and can look objectively at this stuff as just another game, he's strong and I respect him for that, but I'm damn tired of this one.

    How would you guys deal with this? Am I overreacting?



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    Well, here are my 3 cents:

    a) Know better your friends, how much of a "friend" they are etc...
    b) Never, I say never show weaknesses to your "friends". You will jst DLV yourself
    c) Well if you dont like the situations theres one thing you can do, dont hang out anymore with ur "friends"
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    Call him out.


    "Are you really so insecure about being an ugly fuck that you feel the need to rag on everybody else? Dont worry bro, we dont want to fuck you. You dont have to try so hard to impress us with being 'cool' "

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    im not even going to read your post.

    this is your problem: you dont consider YOURSELF the "alpha male in your group"

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    Hitman47: Agree about never showing weaknesses to "friends" anymore, lesson learned. This guy is entwined in my social circle though. We're in a band together.

    NumbaOneDesi: Too strong a comeback, will come off as try hard and too angry?

    professor_x: I'm trying to be one, and learning, but you can't instantly become it. I just fucking don't know how yet. I WANT to.


    Question: Is it "normal" for guy "friends" to be making fun of each other and putting each other down? I know this sounds like being a fucking pussy, but I have groups of friends where we're totally cool with each other and treat each other with respect, make fun of each other jokingly, there's solid respect still. I treat this "making fun" culture this other guy has introduced as "normal" for men to do also, a sort of stregth training because it attacks who we are, but not sure. I sure don't feel good about it.

    The problem is his making fun is light and subtle enough that getting angry and trying hard about it will come off as insecure.

    Then again, I could say fuck this shit and just say, hey ugly fucker why do you need to make fun of other people for this shit, leave them alone. He's driven away a couple cool guys from our group because they didn't like his making fun of him.

    Hmm, maybe you're right, fuck this shit. I respect men who respect and try to help out other men, which I do, if I make fun of someone, I sincerely try to help them out. I will tell them things in private. This guy's just as asshole and tries to make himself look good. I've been ragged on for so fucking long that I've just gotten used to a culture where guys put each other down with intent to attack, but this doesn't have to be the way things are.

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    I guess you could just say, cool you usually do well with chicks but can you explain how or why, using any kind of logic...i can. Maybe you should try reading sometime too.
    Or hang with the friends who don't cockblock and try to put u down constantly.

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    Just do your own thing with different people.

    Sometimes when friends get together, they try to piss each other off -- and try to AMOG the other, and switch up the frame. I have a couple of really good buddies who do this with me, and the only thing to do -- is laugh about it. Those are however, really good friends. Not just someone from "a group". The context of making fun of each other -- is not in front of women -- It's between us.

    If you insist on staying around him....

    This doesn't sound like that situation. If you're vengeful, you could get your 'shizz' together and do the exact same thing he does. Just do it better.

    Or, Call him out on it -- Make it known that's not something to do.

    Either way, you always have the option to bail out to go with different people. Socialize and make different friends, is always an available option.

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    Quote Originally Posted by teabag View Post
    Hitman47: Agree about never showing weaknesses to "friends" anymore, lesson learned. This guy is entwined in my social circle though. We're in a band together.

    NumbaOneDesi: Too strong a comeback, will come off as try hard and too angry?

    professor_x: I'm trying to be one, and learning, but you can't instantly become it. I just fucking don't know how yet. I WANT to.


    Question: Is it "normal" for guy "friends" to be making fun of each other and putting each other down? I know this sounds like being a fucking pussy, but I have groups of friends where we're totally cool with each other and treat each other with respect, make fun of each other jokingly, there's solid respect still. I treat this "making fun" culture this other guy has introduced as "normal" for men to do also, a sort of stregth training because it attacks who we are, but not sure. I sure don't feel good about it.

    The problem is his making fun is light and subtle enough that getting angry and trying hard about it will come off as insecure.

    Then again, I could say fuck this shit and just say, hey ugly fucker why do you need to make fun of other people for this shit, leave them alone. He's driven away a couple cool guys from our group because they didn't like his making fun of him.

    Hmm, maybe you're right, fuck this shit. I respect men who respect and try to help out other men, which I do, if I make fun of someone, I sincerely try to help them out. I will tell them things in private. This guy's just as asshole and tries to make himself look good. I've been ragged on for so fucking long that I've just gotten used to a culture where guys put each other down with intent to attack, but this doesn't have to be the way things are.
    Hmmm, it depends from the social circle, but usually
    making fun of = High Value
    being made fun of = Low Value

    Usually in a scoial circle there is always a guy who is made fun of, and at least one leader, and Ive been to both sides.

    But remember its all about impressions, so if smb understands he can make fun of you without consequences and with rewards (making other ppl laugh, displaying high value, etc) Then he will do it.

    so let me think of a cpl of tips:
    - Dont ever confront the guy, with words or even fights if you didnt in the first place. The outcome would be everyone supporting him because you would be the one incongruent with what u were until now.
    - Dont take it personal. As some movies say "Its jst business", so do not fight the guy, fight the act.
    - In fact a good behaviour would be to befriend the guy even more, to make him understand your point of view.
    - And if nothing works, jst cut it, this cannot be the social circle you want to be in anymore
    - Again its very difficult to change a negative situation, but friendships and social circles come and go through all life, the most important things is to know "how not to get to this negative situations" and apply it through the rest of ur life.

    Good luck
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    you need to get away from this destructive environment. i had someone like that once ... and i learned to deal with it by just getting out of there. if his idea of fun is bringing people down .. then thats not where i want to be. i want to be where the idea of fun is bringing people UP to my level. if your other friends dont see this, then theyre even worse than you .. if you hava a talk with others odds are they feel the same way, so just start hangign with them instead of this insecure dude.

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    Tell that faggot he can't even read

    Do not let this phase you man.

    Tell this "alpha male" that you are trying to fuck 10s.

    Be like "Dude... whens the last time your faggot ass hooked up with a 10 besides when you were beating off to your little brothers Maxim?"

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