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    Revealing the Social Matrix: Structure to Social Circle Pick Ups

    Hey guys

    This is the second installment of the 4-part Revealing the Social Matrix Article Series and is an updated and modified version of the Elongated Seduction model described in the Lsi (Love Systems Insider) email.

    I hope to delve into some seriously groundbreaking stuff related to both social dynamics and social circles in this four part series. The technology is taught in its full form in our (Braddock and my) Social Circle Mastery seminars. I obviously can't reproduce everything in the Social Circle Mastery seminar, but I think the below will give you some very useful information that is applicable to your daily lives.

    This will also be taught to the superstar padawons in my exciting program Project Rockstar. There are some real nuggets of knowledge in the journey of the guys in Project Rockstar and the breakthrough concepts of 'Game 2.0' being taught to them. Dating and pick up technology has evolved so much since The Game and some of the more advanced aspects of Project Rockstar are based on new principles in Social Circle Mastery. I'd definately recommend having a read of the thread.

    Part 1 of the ‘Revealing the Social Matrix' article series - 'The Structure of Your Social Life' is available here. I would strongly recommend reading the first article first and catching up to the new technology.

    Now, without further ado... the aim of this article is to break down and explain the key to social circle pick up. To do this most effectively, you use the same skills from Magic Bullets or a bootcamp, but apply them in a new way, using what we call the Mr. M and Braddock (MRB) 5 Elongated Seduction model (otherwise known as the Elongated Seduction Model)

    This model is designed to help you hook up with hot women you meet through any social circle event, such as dinner parties, work events, or even random introductions. It is also a structure which uses very well on particularly hot girls (the only real type I get enthusiastic about going for!). As you can tell from the name, it's not designed to be a lightning-fast method, ALTHOUGH IT CAN BE. Is sometimes does work quickly, but it's a method designed for effectiveness over speed, so it may work the same night you get MRB2 (i.e. value - see below), or it might take weeks if not a couple of months. The time flexibility actually works to your advantage - you won't fall into the trap of killing your value within a social circle by escalating when it's not appropriate or the moment isn't ripe; instead, you are likely to end up with multiple friends with benefits.

    For example, I used the Elongated Seduction Model to recently close a top model who happens to be the poster girl and 'door girl' for one of the hottest and more prestigious clubs in London. This is me we're talking about here - I'm about 5'3 and of Asian descent, I'm no body builder or male model. (You can read more about my journey and biography in a new PDF report about how I got good with girls - check it out here: The Man Behind Mr. M.). The close happened a few months after I met her through a friend. When I first met her, the time wasn't ripe, so I worked the model and waited until the right moment to strike. I'll explain how this works below.

    Before I do that, a word of warning. Before getting into Social Circle Mastery and any elongated seduction model, it is crucial that you have a very strong abundance mentality. This is why Braddock and I insist that you understand dating science fundamentals before you take the Social Circle Mastery seminar. You need to know - not pretend - that you are attractive to beautiful women and that you have succeeded with beautiful women and can easily have more. You'll get this if you attend one of my bootcamps. If you don't have an abundance mentality, having friendly 9s and 10s on "slow burn" will drive you crazy and you may not be able to help developing needy, attention-seeking behaviors commonly associated with "oneitis" (the unhealthy fixation on a specific woman who is not as attracted to you as you are to her).

    So, without further ado, the structure for the Elongated Seduction Model is as follows:

    1. Neutral Rapport
    2. Build Value
    3. Social Circle Attraction
    4. Sexualization
    5. Closing

    What follows is merely a summary of each phase. It would take me too long to outline each phase in the level of depth we go into (and customize and personalize) in the Love Systems Social Circle Mastery seminars, but I won't let that stop me from giving you enough that you can use if you're not going to be able to come to Los Angeles, New York, or Chicago to take the course this summer.

    MRB1: Neutral Rapport

    When you first meet someone through your social circle, you want to be emotionally neutral. Think normal, friendly, conversation instead of state-pumping routines. This neutral-rapport process lasts for a minute or two at most.

    As Savoy emphasized in Chapter 12 of Magic Bullets, social circle introductions put you all the way into the Attraction phase of the Emotional Progression Model. You don't need to Approach, and you don't need to Transition, and because of this, you don't need to "break the ice," "cut through the clutter," or "be different than the last 5,000 guys who approached her." You already are different. You're a friend of one of her friends. But the attraction phase is also different from regular cold approach attraction and must be calibrated appropriately.

    In fact, if a friend of yours did introduce you to a beautiful woman and you jumped in with one of the many opinion openers from the Love Systems Routines Manual or even a state-pumping direct opener, you would likely come across as "try hard" or "the weird pick up guy" or otherwise socially awkward. The book Magic Bullets identifies eight key attraction switches that most women will be attracted to, and one of these is Social Intuition. Unless you really know what you're doing, anything other than friendly conversation and neutral rapport when you are first introduced to someone through a social circle will brand as socially awkward. And, as Savoy puts it, "beautiful women run from social awkwardness the way most people run from hand grenades." So be "cool" when you are introduced to someone. Don't worry about conveying value. Keep it simple. Start with something like "Hey, what's up?" when introduced to someone. Or "Hi, I'm [name]." In the first minute or so of conversation, stick to normal, neutral conversation like:

    • "Are you here for [x's] birthday?"
    • "How do you guys know each other?"
    • "What do you do?"
    • "I think I know you through [x person] as well."

    You can even throw in some very light teasing, but limit it. Think "normal and cool." You are not trying to build comfort, demonstrate your value, break rapport, or anything else.

    After about a minute or two, disengage from the conversation. Unlike cold approach, you have a pretty good idea where she'll be later (in your combined social group) so sticking to her like a man on a life raft isn't necessary. In fact, it will make you seem needy and, again, display a lack of Social Intuition. So disengage. (After the first couple of minutes is when you should turn to focus on the "gatekeeper" of her time and of the social circle in general - this is an important concept in Social Circle Mastery and one I hope to get to in a future article.)

    MRB2: Build Value

    Like I was saying above, when you meet someone in your social circle, you are straight into the Attraction phase of the Emotional Progression Model. Once you've passed through the introductions, it's time to get the woman you want attracted to you.

    Creating attraction is based on the same underlying principles of social dynamics and female psychology whether she's a stranger in a coffee shop or a friend or a friend. Attraction is based on value. If you have enough value ("enough" usually meaning "more than she thinks she has") she will become attracted to you. The link between value and attraction is very well broken down in Future's last interview (with Tenmagnet) before he retired.

    What every woman values in a man is slightly different, but you're not stuck guessing what it is that will interest a particular woman - one of the breakthroughs of the book Magic Bullets (Chapter 3, Female Psychology) is there are eight key factors that attract virtually any women, and all of them can be demonstrated to her no matter what your age, background, or looks. I'm not going to have time to go through all eight of them in the context of social circles, but I did want to pull out a couple, so that if you're not able to make it to the seminar, you have a sense of how to think about value in a social circle context.

    • Pre-selection. Pre-selection refers to the process by which a woman perceives that other women of equal or higher value are interested in a man and becomes more interested in him herself. A woman will feel this especially acutely in a social circle situation. Having other women in the group attracted to you is gold, as long as it looks like they are doing so under their own terms, not because you are hitting on them. However, if your skills aren't up to this yet, you can create the illusion of pre-selection by regularly meeting other women and using body language and body positioning to imply to observers that they are chasing you. Magic Bullets explains the concept of "locking in", which is crucial to this. Use jealousy to your advantage. I'm going to skip over a detailed discussion of jealousy because it was covered so well by Braddock, Cajun, and Tenmagnet in their interview on Jealousy Plotlines.
    • Status. Social Status is not a constant thing. You might be of lowish status when you first walk alone into a bar where you don't know anyone, but if the doorman, manager, owner, bartender, and high-value customers all acknowledge you, you will have what Magic Bullets calls "relative social status." In social circle game, we call it situational status to emphasize its fleeting nature. Situational status also arises in any situation where you are the gatekeeper to the situation. Having situational status means that people act well towards you because in that situation, you have high value. You can achieve this by throwing your own party, organizing an event, being the coach of a team, being one of the dominant members of a social group, and so on. Relative status is a great tool in cold approach, but a crucial one in social circle game.

    All of the other six attraction switches from Magic Bullets still apply in Social Circle game. Additionally, in social circles, it is important to provide the group with good emotions, social status within and without the group, demonstration of alliances, being able to lead, and so on. We cover these secondary attraction switches in the Social Circle Mastery course, but if you're not able to make it, this will hopefully get you started.

    MRB3: Social Circle Attraction

    This is related to value. In social circles, it also has a lot to do with being the most fun and interesting guy in the social situation and controlling the RAS (Reticular Activation System - an advanced concept we talk about in the Social Circle Mastery seminar which is about how to control a person's attention).

    Traditional techniques to create attraction (e.g. cocky & funny, teasing, disqualification, etc.) should be used, but one of the key differences between social circle pickup and cold approach is that Emotional Momentum (as defined in Magic Bullets) is much more forgiving with social circles. In cold approach, when you meet a woman, the interaction could theoretically end at any moment and she has no reason to talk to you the minute she is no longer stimulated. So we keep the emotional momentum pushing straight ahead until she is so invested in the interaction (usually after Qualification, the fourth stage of the Emotional Progression Model) that we can afford to move to more natural peaks and valleys in the Comfort phase.

    In Social Circle, she is going to talk to you and interactions aren't likely to end suddenly with no chance to pick them back up again later. So you can more easily mix fun attraction material with periods of qualification and comfort without her getting distracted or losing Emotional Momentum. In addition, you should definitely not always be focused on her when the two of you are around each other. We call this the “wax on, wax off” approach, where the “wax on” is you pumping her attraction to you and the “wax off” is when you’re building comfort, subtly qualifying her, and talking to other people.

    In between attraction material, let her see you interacting with other people. Remember Observed and Told DHVs from Magic Bullets? Social Circle interactions are an amazing place to make these happen. Rather than you having to subtly slip in information about your good qualities in normal conversation with a woman, you have ample opportunities for your and her friends to be telling her about these and why she should be interested in you. If you've kept up with our new models of female psychology, you'll know how powerful this can be.

    MRB4: Sexualization

    This is a crucial step. It only occurs once she has given you indicators that she is attracted to you. If she hasn't, keep cycling between the first three steps above until she does. This is the calibration phase of the model. Social Circle pickups can be a bit slower and occasionally more random than cold approach. This ‘cycling' process is one of the main features of this model, which can go over a period of weeks if not months in hard cases.

    Once you have GENUINE indicators of attraction (Magic Bullets has a list of dozens of things women do when they are attracted, but you probably know the basics by now... touching her hair, laughing at your jokes, staying with you when her friends go off to the bathroom or another part of where you are at, triangular gazing etc), you can start to sexualize.

    Sexualization includes decreasing the personal space between you, making and holding intense eye contact, glancing between her eyes and her lips when talking, and sexualizing the conversation (e.g. "your hair smells really fucking good" after talking to her next to her ear or "you look incredibly sexy in that dress"). A lot of this is subtle, and should not be apparent to others in the social circle. Discretion is the key here, which is where sexualization blends into MRB5 - closure.

    It is true that this phase can be a more risky one. Although this is described in more depth in the Social Circle Mastery seminars, just briefly, you start with small hoop sexualization - decreasing the personal space between you, making and holding intense eye contact, go into medium hoop sexualization (glancing between her eyes and her lips when talking, increased kino, kino pinging) and then move into large hoop sexualization (verbalization of your sexual intent) thereafter.

    MRB5: Closing

    This phase relates to the process of escalating, isolating and closing. It is not dissimilar to normal cold approach escalation and closing, but it's much more important to set discretion frames.

    You also need to get her into what we call a sexual situation - when you're alone with her, past the Comfort phase of the Emotional Progression Model, somewhere where sex could reasonably happen. Don't appear like you are working hard on logistics, but this often does take some planning. There are some real-life case studies of this in Chapter 12 (Social Circles) of Magic Bullets.

    The great thing is, if you can do ‘sexualization' properly, then you create insane amounts of sexual tension because you both want to hook up, but can't due to the social situation. This is, counter-intuitively, an ideal situation. You should be able to feel the sexual tension build in this case. Logistically, all that is left is to get her alone. In fact, a variation of this, which is explored more thoroughly in the Social Circle Mastery seminar, is not to escalate until you both get to the seduction location.

    End notes

    Remember, as stated above, the MRB5 / Elongated Seduction model CAN work quickly. The question is how long it takes her to respond to MRB2 and MRB3. If you build value (MRB2) and do wax-on/wax-off SC attraction (MRB3), then it may be that the FIRST time she comes into your social circle where YOU have value (MRB2), and you execute SC attraction (MRB3), she may give you the requisite IOI's to just hit on her (go on to MRB4 and MRB5). The higher your social value within the group, the more likely this is to happen if you are interacting with her in a group setting. The KEY to all of this is MRB2 - create those situations and/or develop those attraction triggers WHICH GIVE YOU VALUE. Value is like the fuel. SC attraction is like setting flame to it.

    Also, keep in mind that the MRB5 model is calibrated towards those stupidly HOT girls that DO NOT give you any IOI's when first introduced to you. It is how you build value and attraction and then calibrate for, and work towards, the close. Like I said, it may happen over weeks (cycle MRB1-MRB3 over weeks or months), or very quickly (MRB1-MRB5 in one night or a week), but therein lies the structure.

    That concludes the second article in the ‘Revealing the Social Matrix' articles, which covers a small part of the issues, theories, tactics and techniques that we address in Social Circle Mastery. Watch out for the third installment of ‘Revealing the Social Matrix,' entitled ‘Achieving Social Dominance: The Jedi Mind Tricks of Social Interaction'... coming up whenever I get a chance to get away from work to write it!!
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    Thanks for posting this. I'm starting to understand why I go wrong so often when trying to run game in social circles. It really does seem to be an entirely different animal from cold approach.

    One quick question - How is kino handled differently with this method? I'm guessing it would be kept light and friendly up until the Sexualization phase? But how could you keep it subtle enough to go unnoticed by the rest of the social circle, and still escalate?

    I can see why this is being called Game 2.0, and I am so totally envious of the Project Rockstar guys for getting to master this stuff for free. Oh well, like you said, maybe next time!

    Lionheart

    P.S. Some of those books on Inner Game you recommended to me at the interview have blown my mind completely. I feel like I've been living in complete darkness for the past 23 years, and can finally see. Thanks again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lionheart_UK View Post
    Thanks for posting this. I'm starting to understand why I go wrong so often when trying to run game in social circles. It really does seem to be an entirely different animal from cold approach.
    Awesome! It requires practice and it is a completely different thing to cold approach. It's like the indirect approach on crack. But if you want to live a lifestyle filled with beautiful women, then you have to know how to manage a social circle and understand TRUE social dynamics, which is that is EXACTLY what Social Circle Mastery is all about.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lionheart_UK View Post
    One quick question - How is kino handled differently with this method? I'm guessing it would be kept light and friendly up until the Sexualization phase? But how could you keep it subtle enough to go unnoticed by the rest of the social circle, and still escalate?
    Yes. Light and friendly. NOT escalating too much at all. I have modified the post above to include some further guidance on this in the sexualization bit.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lionheart_UK View Post
    I can see why this is being called Game 2.0, and I am so totally envious of the Project Rockstar guys for getting to master this stuff for free. Oh well, like you said, maybe next time!
    We had SO MANY brilliant candidates, of which you were one, and I truly wish that we could have accepted them all, but unfortunately, we couldn't. I truly hope that you'll get a chance next time

    Quote Originally Posted by Lionheart_UK View Post
    P.S. Some of those books on Inner Game you recommended to me at the interview have blown my mind completely. I feel like I've been living in complete darkness for the past 23 years, and can finally see. Thanks again.
    Mate - they are AMAZING aren't they? I can't wait for the launch of the launch of the Inner Game Seminar by me and Braddock. We're gearing up for some amazing stuff. I'm glad you got something out of the interview anyway. Keep it up and remember to keep positive and keep trying. It's the guy that gets back up each time he gets knocked down, and adapting and trying again, that wins in the end. You were an awesome guy from what I remember and I really think that you've got potential to be awesome with girls.
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    Geeez.....amazing stuff....

    Now I realize why I go ok at cold approach but never get the girls I want within my social circles...

    Just a thought, what happens when my mates or other social circle members attempt to hit on (and possibly succeed) in closing the target whilst I'm waiting these weeks or months to close her myself???

    Whenever a beautiful or for that matter average looking woman is introduced into my social circle she is snapped up very quickly as I would imagine is a fairly commonplace practise.

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    Great article Mr M. Lovely read
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cubix View Post
    Geeez.....amazing stuff....

    Now I realize why I go ok at cold approach but never get the girls I want within my social circles...

    Just a thought, what happens when my mates or other social circle members attempt to hit on (and possibly succeed) in closing the target whilst I'm waiting these weeks or months to close her myself???

    Whenever a beautiful or for that matter average looking woman is introduced into my social circle she is snapped up very quickly as I would imagine is a fairly commonplace practise.
    I modified my post above to highlight where I said that it CAN work quickly. The question is how long it takes her to respond to MRB2 and MRB3. Aka - if you build value (MRB2) and do wax-on/wax-off SC attraction (MRB3), then it may be that the FIRST time she comes into your social circle where YOU have value (MRB2), and you execute SC attraction (MRB3), she may give you the requisite IOI's to just hit on her (go on to MRB4 and MRB5). The higher your social value within the group, the more likely this is to happen if you are interacting with her in a group setting. The KEY to all of this, in my point of view, is MRB2. Create those situations and/or develop those attraction triggers. Value is like the fuel. SC attraction is like setting flame to it.

    Also, keep in mind that the situation you are envisaging is one where she is NEW to your social circle. It may be that you get the requisite IOI's off the bat. If so, go for it, son! The MRB5 model is for those stupidly HOT girls that DO NOT give you any IOI's when first introduced to you. It is how you build value and attraction and then calibrate for, and work towards, the close. Like I said, it may happen over weeks, or very quickly
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    awesome I'm so excited for the next semester. I've always found myself most attracted to girls in my social circle or in a friends social circle. I'm really excited to try and improve my social circle game. Do you have any tips
    for meeting a social circle and having them sticking to you. I meet a lot of different social circles and hang out with them once then never talk to them again. I'd love to be connecting these types of social circles with my social circle.

    Thanks! Again awesome model!!

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    Very cool article and really makes complete sense when I look back at all my previous social circle successes.
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