Working on my social circle attraction: I must be doing something wrong?

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    Working on my social circle attraction: I must be doing something wrong?

    Today, I faced a pretty big rejection(LJBF shit) in my social circle, from a girl I repute of way lower value than me... Felt like a slap on the face, cuz I could read it, and yet I tried. I got a bit pissed, so I decided to write here to see if I'm doing anything wrong.
    Any critique is appreciated.

    I'm a cool guy, however in the last 2 years, I've only f-closed 3 girls.
    1. Casual day-game lay, HB7 (after which I actually stopped doing cold approaches)
    2. Social circle hottie, HB8 (which could have turned into a FB)
    3. Dating site FB, HB6 (who begs me to come over every week)
    I've had a lot of makeouts, mostly randoms in clubs (~70-80 I'd say)

    I just don't really get what I'm doing wrong in my social circle.

    - I am healthy (good in looks, take care of myself, etc)
    - Socially skilled (have huge social proof around college)
    - Funny (Sometimes more than others)
    - High status (I'm the pres of the student council)
    - Wealthy (hmm hard to say what wealth image I give)
    - Confident (hell yeah, I truly know I am one of those people that if want to achieve something, will do no matter what)
    - Pre-Selected (again huge social proof / lots of females aroud)
    - Challenging (hard to say, sometimes not so much).

    People in my inner/outer social circle should be able to see this, and immediately get attracted, right... or am I going wrong somewhere?

    I think I'll re-start day-gaming, even though I don't have much time with all the things I'm involved with (me thinking I'm the walking DHV on campus).

    Some self-critique:
    - I'm pretty defensive, sometimes cocky / bit arrogant as a result.
    - When on a pub/club, all that feels right is hitting the dancefloor, spinning some girls around and boom make-out. But that's as far as it usually goes, for various reasons.



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    might be something that's really wrong in your mannerisms. Perhaps you seem uncomfortable. In any case, start giving girls opportunities to hang out with you one on one.

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    The problem might not be with the social circle you have developed, but your game within it. Even with a strong social circle you still need solid game to f-close girls. My advice would be to focus on practicing the parts of the emotional progression model until you find what area may be lacking and work on that.

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    I have almost exactly the same type situation. I have f-closed a little more (not much more), but compared to the ratio of girls I kiss-close, something is wrong. I make out with hot girls, then I get needy (I think) and somehow mess it up. I forget what happens usually. I need a camera or recorder on me at all times to go back and self-critique.

    I recently told one of my friends, who is a natural, about a situation with a girl. He said "Man, you are acting so gay like this is your girlfriend or something." I think he meant that I cared too much about a girl after I had only made out with her a few times AND because he could tell that I was freaking out and getting really worked up about what to do next, as it it all was riding on this one girl. I was probably acting irrational.

    I also have to rely on social-circle game, because I am in a smaller city. I was in a bar a couple nights ago, and after looking around, I realized I had made out with three of the girls there. This felt sort of like a pat on the back, but REALLY I told myself "Self, you never got to f-close with any of those girls, wtf is wrong with you"

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