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01-06-2009, 06:57 PM #1
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Ok, so I am in a (very happy) LTR, and although it might seem a bit odd I ended up posting on these forums, I reckon it's fair as I'm constantly trying to manage my inate male desire for multiple sexual partners. Due to the LTR I can see no open doors to an extended sexual life these days, so I was thinking I should rather concentrate on my current sexual life, which I see some potential for development in, despite it already being very good for both of us.
Making her really want to give me blow jobs (LTR situation)
So, to the case. I love blow jobs, but don't get them nearly as often as I would like, since, naturally, it is significantly more pleasurable for my GF to have the dick going in and out of her vagina rather than her mouth.
Even though this preference of her's makes perfect sense with regard to the physiology of the female body (vaginal stimulation can be immensely pleasurable, contrary to oral), I know for certain that the determining factors for my sexual partner's specific sexual desires are many and complex. Think cat-string theory, for instance, and apply it to my situation:
She knows I absolutely love blow jobs. She knows vaginal penetration is significantly more pleasurable for her. Thus, a blow job is "a gift"; something she gives me because she thinks I deserve the pleasure it brings, because she loves me, or something of the sort, and not merely because she wants to have a big dick in her mouth. If I am not wrong, I would need to bring up in her such a desire for her to really want to give me a blow job. "The problem" is she can get "dick in mouth" all the time; it's not something special or exotic, and "desire" for such a thing would therefore serve no function for her.
So, I am thinking: Foster desire for dick. Thus, take away the dick. Make her want it. And it is about this that I would need your opinions and advice. Am I onto something? Can it work? And how, specifically, should I go about doing this?
I believe there is a second factor of high value in this task of mine: Dominance. I haven't seen my girlfriend for three months, and it is during those three months that I immersed myself in seduction literature and realized that in our sex life I may not have a sufficiently dominant role, or "dominant-like" role, if you wish. Could increased dominance be applied to assist in this particular quest of mine? Could I benefit from, for instance, telling her to give me a blow job, rather than asking nicely? Should I perhaps quit thanking and complimenting her like I do while she blows me, and instead "correct her" and tell her to go on for longer?
I suppose increased dominance and me decreasing the availability of blow jobs should be used in combination for the best sucess, but honestly, (1) I can't imagine the latter bringing about any improvement at all since I suppose she would be doing all fine without giving me any blow jobs, and (2) I don't know how these two should be combined, since they are in places very contradictory.
Thanks for any advice, which I hope can be to the benefit of others as well; after all these matters or not at all constrained to serious relationships.
01-06-2009, 08:06 PM #2So, I am thinking: Foster desire for dick. Thus, take away the dick. Make her want it. And it is about this that I would need your opinions and advice. Am I onto something? Can it work? And how, specifically, should I go about doing this?
What DOES work; and it is fantastic, until you get sick of Blowjobs -- (I did this for my current LTR) -- But you might find slightly difficult to accomplish.
The principal of a takeaway is -- when you take it away, they want it in the first place. Your girlfriend "gives" you a blowjob, she doesn't want it in the first place. The takeaway works -- if she wants it to begin with.
Most important part of the post:
The thing you want to accomplish -- is to somehow make her enjoy it sexually.
How I do it:
I'm a hypnotherapist, I use my bring my work to a lot of my close friends, and with my girlfriend. In combination with "Instant orgasms" (Attach her cumming to a 'trigger' phrase) -- I decided to make her beleive that her lips on her mouth were more sensitive than that of her vagina. (Idea to mix up, repeat several times in the induction: It has equal, and greater pleasure -- and is SO SENSETIVE, that it is overwhelming. Any sensation in her lips feels so good, because it brings her very close to orgasm.)
(Sorry for the ONS guys, unless you've got a really horny girl -- I don't see a way to consistently get blowjobs She'll enjoy giving. I've only found this to work with FB's and LTR's.)
Kiss her once, and she'll get the picture. If you've set up the induction correctly, she should be very close to orgasm with any stimulation to the lips. Then, Tell her you want her to go down on you. It's a short story thereafter.
During the process of the blowjob, fire off the anchor words a couple of times; and BAM. She orgasms from giving YOU head. She's very enthused about going down on me thereafter, because it gives her pleasure, and she cums more than a pornstar on an 8 hour workday.
If you're not leading sexually in your relationship -- forget about it, because it won't work for you. You need to be leading for 90% of the sexual interactions. If you don't know anything about hypnosis.... I really have a difficult time seeing how you could make her orgasm from giving you head.
01-06-2009, 08:58 PM #3
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- Aug 2008
On a less psychological side, how are your pubes lookin? No girls I've met likes goin down on a jungle. After I went to being well trimmed and shaved balls my girl couldn't get enough of blowjobs. She started giving them practically anywhere we were alone.. beach, back of the club etc.
Another thing is to make sure she knows you're having a good time. Some girls are just afraid they're not very good at it, so a little encouragement goes a long way.
01-08-2009, 01:34 PM #4SmoothO Guest
good post. More ideas would be appreciated.
01-08-2009, 03:44 PM #5
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please share your experiences !
01-13-2009, 06:54 AM #6SmoothO Guest
Badak, where did you get those white tiger vids, tell me more about them and steve P, I remember reading about him in the book the game, (he is the wolverine looking guy right?) I am interested. I remember he would get girls to pay him to give him bjs. Interesting isn't it to have the kind of power.