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09-26-2008, 09:37 AM #1
Per many requests, modified version of advice given to infamous Canadian kid
Welcome to College: "Where Do I start?" Short Guide to Getting Your Ass Socialized!
Join couple clubs and groups:
This should be NO-BRAINER, but many people miss it.
Go to your college home page on "teh Internetz". Search Clubs and/or Organizations.
Find ones you like.
Look up how to join.
Some suggested categories to look into: Social, Leadership, Arts, Recreational, Sports, Travel, etc. Religious organization or political ones typically require a lot of unnecessary work. You don't have to be passionate to be part of Karate Club, but you'll have to put ass-sweating work to be part of Young Republican Volunteers (and not get paid for it). Religious organizations usually have mission trips, community work, and other stuff, that you don't really wanna do, unless you truly belive in the cause
Naturally, check out the Social groups:
There is really no way to word this any better and simpler. Social groups party. A lot. End of story.
consider (Your City's Name) Young Professional Network/Club
Nearly ALL BIG cites have one. Check with your local Chamber of commerce department. If not, google it.
Add friends on facebook from your classes.
1 Start shooting shit with guys and girls after or before class,
2 ask for facebook.
4 Rinse, wash, repeat.
Check out local groups on facebook. Join them. A lot of events get posted on facebook. Also not to overlook event pages, special and promotional events, student events, and other activities eagerly advertised on the social network.
Do same shit with myspace.
Distribute fliers for events
Here is your perfect opener: "Hey, got a minute? We're promoting free/university sponsored concert for a band. You should come check it out."
You can get those gigs at (craigslist) http://craigslist.org (find your local city).
Another good thing to consider, is local bar/club. IF it's a college bar, go to a bar manager/owner and offer to distribute their 'special/promotional' fliers for a few pitchers of beer. Typically bar managers don't mind covering tab if you will run around campus handing out fliers. Some might even pay, but don't bet on that.
Talk to club promoters, ask them if they need any help distributing fliers on campus. Usually, they offer you a free small bottle of Goose or free VIP passes for you and friends (those promotional items are dime-a-dozen for club promoters). Naturally, it gives you DHV and it gives you opportunity to meet people.
Fraternity. Do NOT rush anything yet. (did you get that pun? ) If you're a freshman, chill. ...here is why:
The reason is, you need to get to know someone who is already in respectable fraternity, otherwise, you'll just be one of the "bid-wanna-be's" and never get a bid. Fraternities, usually, ones that are popular, don't just accept everyone that rushes them.
You're either COOL DUDE
You friends with someone in the house that can vouch for your coolness or potential coolness.
check out your student union center (or student center) and look for events, concerts, social gatherings. most of this shit is University sponsored, and will be free, or ridiculously cheap. Invite people from dorms.
Again, LIVE IN DORM, for both social aspect and alcohol aspect. It's nice to be in walking distance to classes and parties. Dorms are like Sex-brothels...a lot of cool and unusual shit goes there. Drugs, alcohol, sex, group sex, orgies, skinny dipping, streaking, beer-bowling (you'll learn), strip poker, bathroom fucking, under the table blow-job getting, drunken fucking, drinking, threesomes, throwing up, ....ok ok , i don't really need to sell it anymore do i?
Come to study groups for classes, especially if you know the material and you feel that class is easy as fuck. WHY? Because, you'll help others with their homework, which absolutely DHVs that. It's not that you need those groups or help with classes, it's that hot-piece-of-ass-journalism-major needs help with her required Basic Algebra 101, and those nerds are too afraid to help her with her homework. You get them, tiger!
Try getting a part time job near campus. Working in a coffe shop or a library can give you chance to interact with people all day. If it's a popular coffee shop that most student frequent, you'll be recognized elsewhere "hey, you work at campus starbucks, don't you?". Something to think about.
But at least ONE text book at a bookstore. During quarter/semester begining all textbook stores are slammed with people. Like it or not, you'll end up standing in line anyways, what are the chances you can strike up a conversation with some hot-asian-chick next to you?
Pretty much every single large college has a social online network where a lot of students hang out; kind of like this forum. find it and join it. you have to google around.
Join Uloop.com if you guys have it at your college; also check out (JuicyCampus) www.juicycampus.com for shits and gigs, really not going to help you with game, but something to kill time online lol some of shit there hilarious. Interesting "facts" you can learn about your friends...lol
ALWAYS ask your social friends what they are doing on the weekend, if they say nothing they either are lying or losers. Dont hang out with lyers or losers. But, if they invite you to whatever they are doing, go hang out with those guys.
Focus on staying in school as well as partying. Don't overload your academic load first year, get a feel for college. Even if you barely meet full-time status, it's much better ROI to make friends at the beginning than graduating in 2-3 years with double major, and half way to your masters, and no friends or girlfriend. Social life is just as important as academic life. Balance and you'll be in good shape.
Go to the gym. It's amazing the amount of friends/girls you can meet while workign out.
Go to sporting games and events. Absolutely show your spirit. Even if it's a wrestling match. Smaller sport events can be easier and cheaper to get tickets for, and better for socializing.
I am sure you have at least one or two people you hang out with, invite them to concert, bars, clubs, or anything to do around campus.
Take a walk on campus. At my school, students study outside on Ohio State Oval. Or play frisbee.
Play sport. Even for a club. Preferably man sport, rugby, hockey, football, or futbal (soccer), none of that ballet shit!
Take a yoga class or art class. You have to take electives ANYWAYS, so take something where you can interact with other people.
Try taking as many liberal arts courses as possible. If you have a choice between Statistics or Business Economics, take business economics. Bigger class, more girls; Call me sexist, but hot chicks are sorta stupid, or play stupid, they come from richer families, they take business classes, major in journalism, participate in group discussion, typically opinionated and have stand off attitude. Smart hot chicks major in nursing. Stereotypes still exist.
Typically easy courses will have party people in it; by the time you're sophomore you should have idea of which courses are easier and which are harder. Those required general courses don't count towards shit but your major, nobody cares about them, so take the easier ones instead, and try to get into bigger class.
Sit next to cute girls in lectures and classrooms. Sometimes, TAs like to break students in groups, don't you want to be in a group with Miss Hot-Abercrombie or do you wanna be in a group with Miss Unibrow?
Talk to other freshmen or sophomores. Ask them what they do for fun. "Hey bro, anything to do around here? It's wed, and i still have nothing to do for friday or saturday?"
Don't drink and drive. I felt i needed to throw that in there.
Hope this helps. College can be pretty difficult and scary, don't worry, it's ok.
Last edited by TrueStory; 09-26-2008 at 09:54 AM.
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10-01-2008, 04:06 PM #2
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Good guide. I would like to add: If you live in a big city, get out and sign up for extra-curricular courses. Bartending courses, language courses, cooking courses, dance courses, etc...these are great ways to meet people outside of your university/college, and the skills you learn really make you much more interesting to be around.
And most importantly: Don't get so caught up in studying that you don't have a social life. I mean, if you're on a scholarship and need to keep your grades up, don't neglect them, but don't sacrifice the best years of your life by being utterly obsessed with future prospects of getting into the top grad schools. There's a balance. You don't want to slack much, but you don't want to be an asocial nerd either.
10-02-2008, 04:42 PM #3
I think there is one important thing left out. The hookup. Not the sex hookup, but the beer hookup.
Being the beer hookup in a freshman dorm can be a big deal. And furthermore, having a beer/liquor hookup (fake id?) can also help bigtime. Being the party hookup is even better so long as you have girls at the party. If you're caught without m(any) girls at a party... good luck recovering from that one..
BTW, winter quarter in cold states is the best time to host a party. Why? More people are likely to show up. LEss parties go on when football isn't around and it's not uber warm out. Therefore, there is less competition, and people get a bit of cabin fever and want to get out in the winter. We always had great winter quarter parties, but the spring ones were hit or miss since there were always 20 other big parties to go to.
10-02-2008, 05:11 PM #4
That is soo true.
Especially if you live RIGHT on campus. Nobody wants to hike 3 miles in blizzard to a kegger across campus.
As far as fake id goes, don't get in trouble with it. I can't recommend you getting one, I can't even suggest drinking under 21
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10-04-2008, 04:21 PM #5
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Kind of sucks. I don't live on campus at my uni. You think anybody would let me use their room for sexy time? Well of course unless the girl herself lives on campus.
10-04-2008, 05:55 PM #6
Living on campus is required in most universities, and majority state schools require dorm-residency for first year or two.
FOR A GOOD REASON
Try moving closer if you can, it's really great experience you don't want to miss.
Not participating in college social life is NEARLY equivalent of saying "I don't need college degree, high school degree is enough to get me a job"
To tell you the truth, most of your job leads and connections will be through social and professional network. So think of it as life time investment.
10-04-2008, 06:26 PM #7
i thought i should share this... I have been doing this since the start of my college career..
find the hottest girl in your class and ask her if you can share her book when needed...
i've even gotten notes from girls and made photocopies for me because i say "your hand writing is sooo much prettier than mine, can i borrow your notes real quick and run and make a copy"
but i think thats more on the level of "how to get through college half assed" not socialized..
but kudos to you true story.. that is some good advice!
02-07-2009, 12:37 PM #8
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Only thing I disagree with, and that is the living in a dorm bit..and maybe it is due to my age.
When I started university a few years back, I made friends instantly who were on campus as I played on the soccer team with them, so of course, I get dragged to parties and when youre on a team, you get nice social proof. I didnt even live in res and knew most people in it..and somehow got laid like a rockstar...and I didnt even study the game until year 2.
Fast forward to today, I transferred schools a good 1500 miles away and lived in a dorm. I thought the experience was awful, mostly for 2 reasons, my roomates were horrible (smoked weed and broke things like it was goin out of style) and about 95% of the people in my bulding were fucked in the head. Didnt wanna be in the madhouse so I transferred dorms and there isnt a lot of partying in this one.
Dorma are not for everyone, part of it is the people you are around...and I think you know this TS
02-07-2009, 01:42 PM #9
Good point ibrox.
I guess dorm is a freshman experience. I wouldn't live in a dorm now, or at higher rank.
It's very psychological. When you're freshman, a first time out of your parents house, dorms are good place to teach you responsibility. If you have shitty roommates thats one thing, you need to move, but things that would bother you now wouldn't bother you back than that much..
When I lived in the dorm i had noisy roommates, had to deal with staying up till 5 am and having class at 8...and not getting any good sleep. Then I moved, and my roommates were a lot better. But even then, I think made more friends in dorms than i would have if i lived else where.
Especially after you are independent and responsible going back to "dorm life" is bad.
The big no-no here is DO NOT LIVE WITH PARENTS TO SAVE MONEY.
Take extra loans if you have to, it will be WELL WORTH IT.
You will make connection for life, you will experience college in a whole new way. And if you have extra 5-7k to pay in student loans so be it. I think it's worthy investment ESPECIALLY if you're naturally not a social kid.
Living with parents and commuting to college is probably the MOST devastating factor to social life that will affect you for rest of your college and work experience.
02-27-2009, 06:24 PM #10
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Sorry to gravedig guys, but I just wanted to say this.
These are all good tips. This is also a great way to completely flunk out of school.
Just be cautious, don't forget why you're there: to get a degree.
Also, don't expect to get into any professional programs if you're going to college for the experience.