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  1. Less Sex Per Week - Whats going on?

    My girlfriend of 8 months has been slowing down the amount of time we have sex weekly. It used to be 3-4 times/week, but now it's more like 1 or 2 times (if that).

    I know there is nothing else going on and that she is being faithful. I wonder if it has something to do with stress levels affecting her drive?

    My main concern (which I don't voice to her) is that she's losing interest. However, I'm just unsure of how to bring this subject up without being too needy. I want to articulate that this isn't acceptable to me. She doesn't seem to have an issue with it.


  2. #2

    1- stress is a HUGE factor, so is workload at her job.

    2- its pretty typical of a relationship, try asking and then doing some of her fantasies (once i found out my girl wanted to get fucked on the staircase and we never did it there, who knew !)

    3- try watching porn together if shes into it

    4- build up sex with lots of MENTAL foreplay (sexual innuendos, dialogue etc..)

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    It could be anything.

    There's more to relationships than worrying about if someone is being faithful. Over time you'll realize that's not why people break up. It's usually the other stuff. Getting bored and lack of interest I think is a bigger reason why breakups happen than cheating.

    One thing you need to know - the number of times you have sex is irrelevant to whether you or her cheat. You'll still have sex, possibly have more sex when you cheat, mostly out of guilt and hoping she doesn't notice any difference.

    You could be knocking orgasms out of the park more than Babe Ruth but she could still consider the sex routine and lose interest.

    Small acts of being thoughtful, out of the blue might help. Being an active listener should help.

    1-2 times a week is still good. It's when it goes to 1-2 times a month.

  4. #4

    Good thread... I used to think I knew what to do in a relationship, but now I feel like I don't have a clue.

  5. #5

    I suggest reading David Shade's "The Secrets of Female Sexuality" for pointers my man. Best insight to women's sexuality you could ever get.

  6. My girlfriend of 8 months has been slowing down the amount of time we have sex weekly. It used to be 3-4 times/week, but now it's more like 1 or 2 times (if that).

    More common than you think. She's hooked you, now she doesn't have to try so hard. Everyone is on their best behavior early on in a relationship. Once the brain chemicals of romantic love fade, the "real thing" ensues.

  7. #7
    Join Date
    Nov 2006
    Seattle, WA

    same thing

    I am experiencing the exact same thing with my gf of 9 months. In the first few months we were literally having sex everyday, and usually even more than once. Now, its like once a week, which I can't stand.

    So, I'm thinking about brining it up with her, because it has gotten me into an entire pissed off attitude about her, like "how dare she withold this from me, she is being a completely different person than we we first started dating". Like I said, its affecting my entire attitude in the relationship.

    How should I bring this issue up/what should I say??????

    Any opinions would be much appreciated

  8. #8
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    Aug 2007
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    Welcome to the whacky world of relationships. They move through phases. People sometimes notice that after a period of "agreed upon" abstinence, for example, or a real absence (one of you goes away for a business trip) the reunion sex is more intense.

    In sex, as in relationships, the pacing and timing of things is very important.

    If you expect that things will always be the way they were, you will almost always be disappointed.

    Finally, the more open your discussions about sex, the easier it will be to navigate through transitions.
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  9. #9
    Join Date
    Dec 2005
    Miami Beach, FL

    DED is spot on.

    also, maybe you let yourself go and she's losing attraction for you!?

    Happens often with married couples.

    Try spicing it up. Try NOT to have sex for extended period of time (don't jerk off either).

  10. #10
    Join Date
    Dec 2005
    Miami Beach, FL

    OOOOOOOH another very important thing i forgot to mention:

    WHO initiates sex, usually?


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