Be Louder

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  1. #1
    Join Date
    Dec 2005
    New York, New York, United States

    Be Louder

    When we go out and teach boot camps, we see a lot of sticking points over and over again. One of the foremost of these is the lack of volume in a student or green PUA's voice.
    Weekend after weekend, students shoot themselves in the foot because their targets cannot hear the material. You can be the best PUA in the world, and if she can't hear you, your chances drop dramatically. (Yes, body language can play a huge part in getting you laid. That said, I guarantee that if you are in a loud Crobar in Miami or NYC or Light in Vegas, you will not stand a chance against a better looking, better built guy in more expensive clothes when the volume is cranked to 11. If you were that good looking, you probably wouldn't be here.)
    Of course we point this out, and of course students hear my Marine NCO, theater-trained ass, and they are like, "How can I possibly be that loud?"
    Your vocal projection rests on certain muscles, and if you have a weak voice, you must work those muscles, just like you would work your arms or chest in the gym.
    Good vocal projection comes from your diaphragmatic muscles. A lot of people have no idea where these are.
    To find out what it feels like, put your hand on your belly and expel all the air in your lungs. When your body demands the air, you will feel your belly expand.
    These are the correct muscles.
    Get a feel for breathing from there.
    Now that you have some feeling for it, try producing words on the breath. Your lungs expelling air will produce a considerably more powerful sound than what your vocal cords alone could achieve. It also has the cool side effect of not fucking your throat up when you spend night after night in a venue. This is why Broadway performers and opera singers are able to do what they do.
    Get a partner. Stand a normal distance from them, and say some mantra to them. Long or short, silly or normal, whatever. But it should be the same. (e.g. are, "Unique New York," "Sally Sells SeaShells on the Sea Shore," "He Thrusts His Fists Against the Posts and Still Insists He Sees the Ghosts," or, of course, the hook of your favorite opener.) Visualize the sound hitting your partner. Now pick a spot a good distance behind him and visualize it hitting there while you speak. Try to sound natural, and make sure you are speaking from your diaphragm. Drop your shoulders, keep your chin level, and don't be afraid to open your mouth a little wider. If your partner can't hear you clearly, have him tell you to repeat both parts.
    Take a step back. Repeat.
    Take a step back. Repeat.
    Keep it up. Eventually you will put serious, serious distance between you and your partner.
    Focus on sounding natural and breathing correctly.
    Eventually you will reach a point where, if you're not breathing correctly, you simply will not be able to project to a suitable level.
    Do this regularly for six weeks, and you will find considerable improvement in your vocal projection abilities.
    Also, while you're improving, check yourself periodically and see if you're breathing from your diaphragmatic muscles. (Hint: if your shoulders go up and down, you're breathing from your chest and you need to realign.)
    These are things I do, and I offer the other MM instructors and their experiences as a proof. When Sinn finishes a boot camp, his throat is tore up from the floor up. I'm ready to shout at small children.
    Having the loudest, most noticable voice in the room is a very important trait for an alpha male, and if you want to improve your success with women, it's very important that you make material gains on your vocal abilities. I can guarantee that most people reading this need to be louder when they enter a set. Doing what I recommend in this post will help you considerably, but as with any area of your life, nothing can replace personalized instruction from someone who knows better than you. If you're serious about improving your voice, go see a voice coach.
    Mystery Method Approach Coach

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Dec 2005

    Great post, Future.
    Thankfully, I've always been a loud bastard all my life. I love to sing, talk excitedly, do public speaking, and just bellow out. I don't have an "indoor voice", my friends say...
    A sarging buddy that I went out with last Friday has a much weaker voice than mine. He was trying to tell the salad-tossing story as he winged my set... I strained hard to hear him and I'm sure the girls in my set were just pretending to hear him. The set lost complete interest... and I ejected. I couldn't have a guy bringing down the energy level like that.

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Dec 2005

    Awesome insight!
    Im one of those people whom have a quiet voice, and esspecially in a club, find it hard to be heard. Even by the barmaids. I spent all day yesterday on Google, searching for advise and techniques on developing a strong, louder voice...but all i got was politics "We are one VOICE and we shall be heard!"...
    Practise makes perfect and im determined to make this work for me.
    Thanks again Future

  4. #4

    YES YES YES! This is my long awaited answer about how to speak from the diaphragm! GOD! I love you for this post!

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Nov 2005

    I think tonality is why most guys suck.


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