What if she turns around and sees you before you are close enough to open?

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    What if she turns around and sees you before you are close enough to open?

    So I've made a huge milestone in my day game. I'm finally starting to approach more often and surprise it's not as scary as you think though my approach anxiety is still present. Anyways, question about a gaming at the mall. I was coming down the escalator when I saw an extremely beautiful woman walk into a store. When I got down stairs, speed walking wasn't going to cover the distance so I had to jog a little bit but about 30 feet away I think she heard me and turned around. Should I have still approached? It almost appeared that I was stalking her and obviously I am not and I don't want her to feel that way. It felt a little creepy to me so I turned left and walked out the mall and wrote this question.

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    LOL. Ironically five minutes after writing my last post I just ran into her and opened. LOL. Though I didn't get past what she was doing today, for me it's a big accomplishment because that means progress. I still want to know the answer to my question. Her name was Ellie. ��

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    you approached her and got your answer, so asking here is moot. What did real life experience tell you?
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    I feel running into her again was luck. My gut tells me once she turned around when I was jogging to her would have been creepy or socially awkward.

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    Why not try next time and find out? That's the only way to tell.
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    In that situation, the #1 thing to remember: be respectful of her physical space. Especially if you're running towards her, you have to slow down well outside of her comfort zone. Wave + half-smile so she knows your intention to approach and talk to her.

    Your size also matters! Tall guys have to stop and physically signal further away. The imperative is to defuse her primal fears. If she feels threatened then you've blown the approach before saying a word.

    Can you still open? absolutely. It just requires you have to admit you chased her down.

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