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  1. Not sure how to take it to the next level.

    I've been hitting it off with one of my co workers (We're both servers at a restaurant)
    We started off as friends, then to flirting then I eventually got her number and it ended on a positive note.
    I didn't feel the need to rush anything so I didn't text her and it's been about 3 weeks since then.
    I see her at work about twice a week.
    I'm just not sure when's a good time to text her or how I can take it to the next level from here. (It's really hard to get a drink or go grab food with her before or after shift cause we're on a different schedule, she either gets cut wayy after/before me and vice versa)

    Much appreciated for the help

    Cheers



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    anytime is a good time for text. she'll just reply at her convenience

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    There is nothing unique about this situation at all. The best time to text is any time where it's not reasonable to assume that she is sleeping. Just text.

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    Texting isn't the problem here. Flirt with her at work! I was a bartender and server for years and part of me still misses it because it's so easy to bang your co-workers. (This is the one scenario where I promote banging people you work with. Now that I have a big boy job, I avoid that.)

    Everyone I know that works in restaurants always go out for drinks after (sometimes before or in between) shifts. If this isn't happening at your work, start trying to get it to happen. If you can't go to a bar, do house parties or whatever. Be Ryan Reynolds from Waiting. Seriously, his character is perfect and a great example of working in a restaurant. You can get away with so much more for whatever reason in this work atmosphere. No clue why to be honest. I've slapped asses, had my ass slapped, made the most sexual jokes ever, etc while working in a restaurant.
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    To take it to the next level organize a group event. Every restaurants have their clicks. Be the organizer of this one. Invite a bunch of the people you like for drinks, pizza, or a hangout. Then invite her too. Since she's in your social circle you don't need to be super direct. All you need to do is get some alone time with her at this social event. No need to bring her on a date.

    If your schedules absolutely don't align, go the date route.

    I highly agree with Jig here:

    Quote Originally Posted by jiGsawyouth View Post
    Everyone I know that works in restaurants always go out for drinks after (sometimes before or in between) shifts. If this isn't happening at your work, start trying to get it to happen. If you can't go to a bar, do house parties or whatever. Be Ryan Reynolds from Waiting. Seriously, his character is perfect and a great example of working in a restaurant. You can get away with so much more for whatever reason in this work atmosphere.

  6. Thanks. Yes we've been flirting on each other for quite sometime. Would it be okay to just shoot her a text and start casual? (Of course with the purpose of spending time with her outside of work whether it's just me and her or with our colleagues.)

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    When you are this insecure about it I have to suggest that you practice om some other girls than one at your workplace

    You should be writing posts about what you did, not about what to do.

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    From my experience, I would just get a group of people together and next time you see her say "Me x, y, and z are doing this after work. We're getting a bunch of people together, come out!" or whatever. Whenever there were new girls, this is exactly what I'd do. Even if it was really just me and one guy going to the bar across the street, I'd invite the girl. It makes you look like you're already doing something and just inviting her along for the ride, but also subconsciously she knows you're inviting her. Hanging out with a bunch of coworkers the first time isn't bad though because it takes away that "date vibe." Doesn't mean you still can't bang her though.
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    Next time you see her invite her to a group event. It is far easier for her to say yes to a group thing than a one on one date. Like Jig said, invite one or two other people and her. Plus your social value goes up at your work space. Aka you become more attractive. If you don't need to text her don't. In person interactions are almost always better than texts.

    Here's the plan: Invite the group out. Find a way to spend some alone time with her at this event. Call it drinks, pizza, or whatever. Then as the night fizzles out invite her to do something else. Maybe food, an other bar, or a simple walk.

    The whole point of inviting the group is to make it really easy for her to say yes. Inviting her on a one on one hangout or a date is easy to bail on. But hanging out with the crew at work? She doesn't want to miss out. This is your excuse to ask her out. She's going to get it.

    No joke, this is how I met my current girlfriend. Now we're living together.

    Go the group route.

  10. IT doesnt matter when you text her, she is probably shagging another dude as were speaking.

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