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07-17-2006, 11:07 PM #1
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- Jun 2006
Everyone is quick to compile DHV routines and openers, but it seems like less attention is paid to the comfort part of the game. I want to compile a list of good, solid questions that will build a deep rapport with her. List 'em up guys. I'll start it off:
Deep questions for "The Question Game"
-Tell me a secret. (credit someone else, not sure who though)
-What was it like the first time you fell in love?
-What are you passionate about? (credit that person who started the "Passion" thread 2 posts down)
-What did you dream of becoming when you were younger, and why? (credit Mystery)
-Have you ever lost someone close to you? (immediately ask a more positive question after this one, don't harp on bad emotions)
-If you could live one place in the world other than here, where would you want to live?
-Do you have a stuffed animal that you sleep with?
-Tell me about your first kiss.
-If you could be anyone (living or dead) for a week, who would you want to be?
-(Quick future projection) Me and you are on a road trip. What kind of car are we in and where are we going?
-Do you prefer a quiet night in with your boyfriend or an evening on the town with him? (Obviously don't ask if she's got a bf and you know it).
All of these questions can be extrapolated into at least 5 minutes of solid conversation about something that really connects with her. So let's compile a whole list of 'em! At the very least, whether you're playing the Question Game or not, you'll have interesting material for Day 2s. Sorry if this has been posted before, I searched and didn't come up with a compiled list like this.
07-18-2006, 08:21 AM #2
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- May 2006
These are good. alot of them could directly correlate to Nlp like the-What was it like the first time you fell in love?
07-18-2006, 10:46 AM #3
Originally Posted by Carrion
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- Apr 2006
- Whats the best compliment youve ever received?
- Answer this... your first love or your first disappointment?
- Whats a stronger feeling for you, love or hate?
- Do you believe in that perfect one?
- What do you think is the difference between loving someone and being in love?
- What would the bumper sticker of your car say?
- What would you like people to remember you by, when you pass away?
- Whats the worst or best nickname youve ever had?
07-18-2006, 10:18 PM #4
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- Jul 2006
"Tell me a secret" is mine, and I feel I should point out that it is NOT a Comfort question (its not even a question). It is A3.
Half the time when you say this, they will tell you something STUPID ("I like peanuts"). Hardly a comfort building conversation. If they do say something stupid, then you still need to do some work in A3.
Even if they say something really profound, then I still make it a game....but I save the ccontent of what they say for the comfort stage.
For example, if she says (real example here) "well....sometimes....even though I have lots of friends...I sometimes feel lonely even though I am in a crowded room." I will still say something like "Oh my god! I can't believe you just told me that....now I'm going to go tell everybody! Hey buddy (to nearest stranger)....guess what! (*note* don't actually give away her secret!!!!!...your just playing). This creates a little game for the two of you to play.
You can use this information later in the comfort stage. But the routine itself is for A3...at least thats where I have used it with the best results.
I will say that I use it after that, and throughout the entire relationship. She will start to use it too. The line "Tell me a secret" becomes it's own little game that can be used whenever you wish.
07-19-2006, 11:09 AM #5
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- Jun 2006
-What would your last meal be? Your allowed 3 courses...
-If you could live at any time in history, like in books... or even fairy tales... who would you want to be, which character is your most exciting?
Credit Liberator for both
09-06-2006, 07:59 PM #6
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- May 2006
Shaker, you said I could get 5 minutes of conversation from these questions, I asked the "what was it lke when you first fell in love" one, We talked for over two hours. In the end she was crying, she told me that she was so happy to have me in her life and we had the most passionate kiss in all of mankind.
Well, thanks for posting these questions man, everyone should make good use of them.
09-21-2006, 07:25 PM #7
Check thoseLooking to get to know your date better? Running out of things to talk to your sweetie about? First date jitters and don't know what to talk about? Well, here are 100 questions that can break the ice and get a conversation going. The most important thing is to have fun! You might be surprised by what you learn about the other person. Don't force anyone to answer a question they don't want to and don't pry deeper if they are not willing to talk about a certain subject.
1. What was your best job?
2. What were your worst jobs?
3. Tell me all the places you worked
4. Tell me about your best friend
5. Tell me about your family
6. Tell me about your relatives
7. What was your first car?
8. Favorite movie star?
9. Favorite entertainer?
10. Favorite song?
11. What were your life changing moments?
12. First girlfriend/boyfriend?
13. First kiss?
14. What is the dumbest thing you have ever done?
15. Have you ever been arrested?
16. Political affiliation?
17. Have you voted for someone you wished you hadn't?
18. Have you used drugs?
19. Do you like to shop?
20. Best way to relax?
21. Favorite thing to do alone?
22. Ever had a one night stand?
23. Do you save money?
24. What hobbies to you spend money on?
25. If you found a $100 what would you do?
26. Do you want children/more children?
27. Are you a good parent?
28. What makes a good parent?
29. Are you romantic?
30. Ever loose a pet?
31. Dog or cat?
32. Pets growing up?
33. Sleep in the nude?
34. Favorite midnight snack?
35. Do you exercise?
36. Did you ever see your parents making love?
37. Peanut butter and what?
38. What is one food you will never give up?
39. What is a food you can live without?
40. Favorite drink?
41. Perfect day?
42. How many cds do you own?
43. How many dvds to you own?
44. Favorite thing to spend money on?
45. What is the weirdest thing about you?
46. What is on your bedside table?
47. Are you cheap or thrifty?
48. Ever been in love with 2 people at the same time?
49. Grades in high school?
50. Favorite teacher?
51. Relatives in jail?
52. Toppings on pizza?
53. Black or white?
54. Glass half full or half empty?
55. Ever been to a food shelf?
56. Ever milked a cow?
57. Ever tipped a cow?
58. Bath or shower?
59. Mountains or the beach?
60. Plane, train or automobile?
61. Favorite all time movie?
62. Worse movie you have ever seen?
63. Best concert you have been to?
64. Beer, wine or coffee?
65. Best vacation?
66. If you could retire tomorrow what would you do?
67. Worse vacation?
68. Three places you would love to visit?
69. Worse boss?
70. If you could do anything what would it be?
71. Super powers you wish you had?
72. Ever had a massage?
73. Ideal romantic dinner?
74. Dumbest purchase you ever made?
75. Where did you find money when you were flat broke?
76. Ever sold blood?
77. What sporting event/concert/entertainment would you buy tickets to regardless of price?
78. Ever hit a jackpot on a slot machine?
79. Ever won the lottery?
80. What would you do with your lottery winnings?
81. Are you a neat freak?
82. Can't stand being around people who_________?
83. Crowds or small groups?
84. How old do you want to live to?
85. Loose your sight or hearing?
86. Ever had a crush on a member of the same sex?
87. Pet peeves?
88. Most annoying habit?
89. Sexiest parts of a member of the opposite sex?
90. Major turn offs?
94. Plastic surgery--would you/have you?
95. Computer geek?
97. Play an instrument?
98. Been in a band?
99. Most embarrassing moment?
100. Nude beach yes or no
There Some Good Shit in here , Pick Your Favourite and bang 'em .
I'd like Sometimes to ask Questions like :
*What do you Most Like in a Guy (Not in the Q-Game) ?
Then I would start talking about what I like in a Girl and start Prizing the HB and Showing my High Standards and How I Dumped Show Stoppers for How they were Dump and Cold , Which is a Good DHV .
*Whats Your Most Embarassing/Breathtaking Moment/Craziest/Adventurous/Naughtiest/Weirdest/Heartbreaking/Funniest(Insert an Adjective ) Moment you ever Had ?
This Sure Gets 'em to Open up and Ask more Reasonable Questions that Build more Comfort for Sure .
Hint:If you want to make up Funny Stories ,try Searching for Stuff like Funny things to Do at College or...etc , You'll find hilarious stuff ,And Truly Can start Amazing Stories , Check those links :
101 Fun Things to Do to Freak Out Your College Roommate!
FUN THINGS FOR PROFESSORS ON FIRST DAY OF CLASS
Ways to Have an Extra-Specially Fun Time At WalMart
Some funny things you can do while Intoxicated
Fun Things to do at a Funeral
22 Things To Never Say To A Cop
50 Ways to Mess With People in a Computer Lab
6 Things to do in an Elevator
63 Ways To Piss Off A Cop
Have Fun and Be Creative guys .
*Do you Believe in ESP (Extra Sensory Perception ) ? Credit Mystery
This Topic is Friigin cool if you read about it , Gets Chicks so Damn Interested that they ask many Questions with Curiosty (If they say they're not into this Mumbo jumbo Screen them by saying "Oh I thought you're Adventurous :O ,Too bad you're not or smthin similar works like a Charm and Gets 'em into it )
From this Topic you can get into a lot of topics like Telepathy ,Dejavu ,Psychokinesis (moving stuff from away which is Good for making Fun of them ) , Mind Control ,Empathy(feeling Others feelings ) , Remote Viewing...etc
A Similar thing thats so Damn Cool to Try to Talk about is Lucid Dreams or Astral Projection(I guess that was a Hobby of Sinn) , Which gets them interested coz there's lot of Friggin Cool Stories out there that you can Use ("Get this, One of My Friends...." type of Stories) , As Long as you can catch their Attention , Then Go For it .
try these Stories :
*Do You Believe in Ghosts or EVP(Electric Voice Phenomenon Watch "White Noise" Movie If you haven't ) ?
This Question gets me to Start Tales about me and My Friends and all kind of Weird Incidents (And How you were the Protectore and Leader ) , And they're actually Cool if you can use Suspense and Voices ,Usually they'll think of you everytime they're Alone , And it'll be Great to Tease 'em when they Tell you that you scared the Hell out of them (Aww i thought you were Xena ;P )
About EVP , You can listen to Any of the Recordings just by Googling the Term , Or even try it yourself , It's Funny to see Girls and Even Guys when I tell them I recorded it once by Leaving my Voice Recorder of my Mobile On for 3 mins and left in the Bathroom Alone and Guess what Did I hear :O ) .
I hope this Helps Guyz .
09-22-2006, 10:03 AM #8
Thanks Crazy Snake 36 and Shaker,
That's some great stuff. I'm cutting and pasting it into and email as we speak. Got a date tonight with a Girl I gamed at the Getty Centre here in LA.
I had a lot of fun flirting with her via text message on "Talk like a Pirate day" Telling her I was going to steal her away on my ship and asking how she was going to earn her passage. Anytime she told me something I didn't like she was going to have to 'Walk the plank' or go 'swimming with the fishes'
I'm going to try some of your stuff tonight when we're out.
Thanks Me Hearties.
09-28-2006, 10:55 AM #9
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- Aug 2006
Credit my boy Steve H., who introduced me to this community.....
Another good C question
"What was it like to grow up in xxxxxx?"
Gets her talking about her childhood, family, etc. You can anchor a lot of emotions during the subsequent conversation. You can interject a lot of "How did that make you feel?" to get her actually feeling the emotions......tremendous stuff.
Another good one:
"Think back to the best Christmas morning you ever had.......what was it like?"
10-16-2006, 06:01 PM #10
1.Only ask questions you are interested in knowing the answers to.
2. Only ask questions that have an underlying purpose in mind [eg information gathering questions, her DHV to you, increasing sexual tension etc...]
Many of the questions in the previous posts are 'fluff questions", i.e they lead to nowhere but to fill up time.
Comfort is not about "playing games", but getting to establish an emotional connection. You may start it as Style's game[with his 5 rules], but as it goes on, the questions should escalate in degrees of "intimacy" or to increase sexual tension[change the tonality of the conversation towards sex-related subjects].