What kind of situation am I in?
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  1. What kind of situation am I in?

    Met an Austrian girl last Xmas in the Maldives. We had a few common friends so we hit it off immediately. We were already hooking up on the first night and we slept together within the first few days.

    At the end of the holiday we both went our own ways due to prior arrangements but kept texting and emailing each other an an almost daily basis. At first our contact was full of I miss yous, can't wait to see yous, etc. Over time that fizzled out but we were stil in daily contact and somehow the subject of when we would see each other kept on coming up with both of us being keen.

    We now both live in the same country although at different ends so it makes for a 2 hour drive. We decided to see each other a month ago and so I went to her place, we had a few drinks, got dinner etc. The ambiance was hardly sexual and we only started making out towards the end and ended up sleeping in each others arms. Next day I left, kiss good bye. Hope to see you soon... And left it at that....

    Since then things have been very strange, she always used to initiate text convos and be quite involved. Now she hardly ever initiates conversations, and even when I do, she is quite cold.

    I texted her about this and asked why she was being distant if anything had changed and she said no, she had just been very busy but that she would like to see me again.

    Despite this her text messages are still cold and don't show much affection. I occasionally throw in the occasional miss you, or thinking of u. She always used to reply to these and reciprocate but not any more.

    She has told me twice that she would like to see me soon, I am quite keen but am confused because of her push-pull attitude.

    What am I dealing with. What should I do? I do see myself eventually being in a relationship with her.


  2. Seems like a sticky situation. I would show some distance and not initiate texts for a while and see what happens. As for meeting up with her, if she seems keen for it, then I say go for it. Although I'm new here. What do others think?

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    100% agree with the take away, I have a chick (FWB kind of thing) that pulls that crap on me. Things are going fantastic then all of a sudden she goes cold. I do a small take away and not showing any signs of interest/communication then what do you know, a week or two goes by and I get a playful text from her like this

    "Did you die or something?!"

    I then respond with something funny to get her laughing and were back where we should be

    Good luck amigo let us know how it turns out.

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