First time. Couldn't get hard.

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    First time. Couldn't get hard.

    So I'll keep this as short as possible. I'm 21 and I met a girl the other night, she said she wanted to have sex and this is the first time we met. I was really nervous I was shaking even. Anyway long story short she started to give me a BJ and I couldn't get it up. This was my first time ever so I don't know if it was nerves or something is wrong with me I'm just really upset right now.



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    The more you think about it and stress over it the bigger deal it will be. It was just nerves and it totally normal and natural, not all guys can just get a raging boner and nail a chick they don't even know right off the bat. A good woman will see it as a "plus" when you meet her and she realizes that it means you can't just have "casual sex" and need some kind of bond, or that's how you spin it anyways. ;-)

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    What is your relation with her? If you just recently met her it will be more difficult to keep it up than if you two have been dating awhile. Could have also been situational, make sure your first time is in a pretty secluded spot. You can't be in the backseat of a car in a walmart parking lot.

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    dude think about it, we've been having sex for 1000000's of years. it's as natural as eating. except society has fucked us up with all this "size" and "stamina" bullshit.

    it's all in your mind. god gave us a dick and a brain and only enough blood to supply one at a time


    i know it's a hit to the ego but don't stress. if she stops seeing u after that then she's not worth it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shwnd View Post
    What is your relation with her? If you just recently met her it will be more difficult to keep it up than if you two have been dating awhile. Could have also been situational, make sure your first time is in a pretty secluded spot. You can't be in the backseat of a car in a walmart parking lot.
    I think my relation with her might have been part of the problem. We just started talking a couple of days ago and this was the first time we met so I was really nervous.

  6. Pure and simple stage fright / anxiety. Happens to most people at some stage, usually very early on or later in life with ED... Usually a couple of alcoholic drinks should help relax and that's all that needed.

    You shouldn't need this at your age but the five G's are great for a herbal option.

    http://www.pegym.com/forums/erectile...erections.html

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    Happenned to me on my first time too.Dont make excuses to her or say sorry,etc.Just relax and try not to think about it next time and dont watch some much porn

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    Happened to me, too bro. My first post was about this same subject. It happens to most men their first time so don't be too down and the good news is that it never happened to me again. It's a one time deal.

    If it happens again, do this: The best way to deal with this is the simplest - make her cum. Flip the situation and you get the added benefit of not letting her think about it without looking like a loser by apologizing or whining. Undress her and completely explore her body, avoiding the R and X rated parts for a while. If you can make her orgasm (fingering and clit stimulation), you'll be the man. Explore her body, then, give her a massage and shower with her. Do these things before you ever even think her going down on you. Make it special for her. Basically, stop thinking about yourself as a light switch. Getting comfortable with her is as important for you as it is for her, mind AND body. There's no need for you rush and ram your dick in her mouth as soon as your pants come off. If you take your time with her, you'll find that the problem will go away on its own. Yeah, and definitely stop jacking off and DO NOT DRINK OR SMOKE TOBACCO, they don't help. Hope this helps

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    Go hard or go home...

    Dude. Do Not worry. Or It will get worse. I know from first hand experience that it will. I think maybe You need to reframe it so you have control. Or Ask yourself. Are you really attracted to her? Maybe it's the pressure you felt you were under to perform... My real advice. Go pick up another girl. Get yourself and her hot and heavy. Lots of teasing and fore play. Have sex with her and boost your ego back up or you may find that when your with this girl you had the problem with. You will be thinking about it again. Putting too much pressure on yourself and you may fail again.

  10. So it happened to me. I know that it happens to the best of us, but...
    Next morning though tried again and success was achieved. Now I know the secret. If I ever had the shot to get laid, I'd have some magic blue or yellow pills handy for possible proformance anxiety.
    Hope this helps.

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