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11-01-2010, 04:43 PM #1
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- Oct 2010
Hey everyone I recently moved to a new state across the country and have been meeting so many new people. Including being introduced to a ton of new and interesting woman. The first girl I met out here I jumped the gun just a little and came off a bit too needy and anxious to get together with her and I really don't want to make that mistake again! I want to play it smooth, have her want to text me or call me, be thinking about me during the day etc.
New girl, long distance, how to play it the right way?
So I met a new girl through a friend out here. Her name is Katie and she is beautiful. She lives a few hours away but is planning on moving here very soon (its something she has been planning for a while) basically over the big Halloween weekend I went to a party and was introduced to her through the owner of the house that the party was at. Apparently she heard a lot of good things about me as I heard about her but I now finally got to meet her in person. We spent a good portion of the night talking during the party and then the next night she asked if she could come out with me and my friends to a bar. So we went out and had a great night, a lot of laughs, she asked me a ton of questions about my family and generally just seemed really interested in getting to know me better. One thing is I asked if she was single and she said she is but she has been seeing this guy on and off but he treats her like crap and cheats on her all the time...lol...(this is where I want to come in so she can get rid of the loser guy)
Today she went home and I couldn't say goodbye in person because I had work this morning and I was trying to figure out a way to contact her probably facebook or something. Sure enough she randomly sent me a friend request this afternoon so i was thinking hmm okay took the time to look me up and friend request me not bad. I sent her this little message that said....
"Hey it was nice getting to know you yesterday, even though you say the word water funny lol you seem like a great girl. You should give me ya number so we can keep in touch, next time you come back or even move here ill have to take you out. 123-123-1234 is my cell, have a safe flight home Katie, ttys"
Bottom line here. I have a good general feeling that I can eventually go on several dates with this girl and be with her but I am asking how should I play it? If she responds back and gives me her number being that she is a few hours away for now I want to have her start to build an interest toward me, start to text me, and start conversations with me etc. Would I text her once a week? Maybe shoot her a call on a random weekend?
I DO NOT want to come off as needy but what I am shooting for is when she finally comes back to visit or moves here, I want her to be really into me and looking forward to going out with me on a date. How should I play it? tips, advice, anything at all would be greatly appreciated, thanks!!
11-02-2010, 02:57 AM #2
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- Aug 2007
Have you had sex with her?
11-02-2010, 06:37 AM #3.
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- May 2009
yeah, you're in teh game phase, not relationship. So don't treat it like a relationship or you will scare her off.
11-02-2010, 06:48 AM #4
agreed, your not going to get a good thing happening until you have had sex with kaite.
to do that, call her when you in the area or going to be, and set up a date. go back to her place or your hotel and fuck her.
11-02-2010, 09:21 AM #5
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- Oct 2010
I have not had sex with her yet, no physical contact more then flirty hitting her or touching her arm, sharing a blanket etc. I don't think she is the type to just have sex with me next time we see each other lol and being we are some distance away I am trying to figure out as far as contacting her how to play it. Don't get me wrong if she came to visit and we went out and where alone and i was getting the signs to make the move yeah I would push it, but for now I am in that long distance phase and I want to build her interest levels up so WHEN she comes back to visit/move here she is really feeling me and WANTS to see me or possibly sleep in my bed. Advice? Opinions other then fuck her lol??
11-02-2010, 10:25 AM #6
Keep in touch with her occasionally. Be flirty and sexual. Don't be too "friendly" and don't crowd her. Be a bit of a mystery. That will maximize her interest level when she comes back.
11-02-2010, 11:26 AM #7
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11-02-2010, 11:34 AM #8
But even there, some ambiguity is good. You want her to think you're trying to fuck her but not really be sure.
That's a good guideline overall. Be ambiguous. Let her wonder if you've forgotten about her or lost interest, then reconnect. If she can feel comfortable that you are into her and not wonder about whether she has a chance with you, you are doing to much.
11-04-2010, 05:59 AM #9
but it makes sense.
look at it like this, if you havent had sex with a women your dating, who is in control of the relationship?
she has the power to withdraw or give in to her body (her most powerful and valued possession.)
once she gives you that (i.e. sex) now she has given you the power and control of her. now your in the drivers seat because there is nothing left for her to give or take back.
#2- there is some heavy evolutionary processes behind sex in regards to how a woman will think of you and communicate to you and about you.
even if your using protection and she is taking BC pills. in her instinctive mind, your the father of her soon to be children and she is relying on you to stick around to protect and nourish those children for survival. You'll notice she will be much more friendlier, more nice to you, rant and rave to her friends about you, more flirty, calls you late at night, sends cute and sweet text messages to you. etc.
more importantly, begins the process of having a deep emotional connection with you, ie-Falling in Love!
this is why sex is rather important even in a long distance relationship. your making yourself exclusive to all the other men she will probably meet in her new town. Otherwise, she may end up finding another guy who could potentially be her "father's children" and that would be the end of that.
Sex is a great tool, the feelings you have for her right now, are not the feelings she has for you right now. Only until after sex; then she will begin to receive and express those same feelings you have for her.
just so we are on the same page, if you dont think she will sleep with you on the next date, well there is some work to be done there.
let me ask you this?
if she was on a date with Russel Brad would she hold out on sex?
didnt think so.
Important bit, is you should keep in touch.
but it has to be attractive - playful, tease, and the like.
if you doing it by text. give her some attraction, and then dead air.
so for ex;
PUA-I miss my friend, she moved to a place far far away
Her- aww I miss you too, how are you?
PUA- should i text her and tell her how i fell? LOL
PUA- did you pick up the local accent yet?
at this point you can ask if she is busy for a small chat on the phone cuz you got something do to in a little bit. if she is replying to your text msg's then she may have time to talk and you can call her. build some comfort and be a wild sexy man who is fun to talk to over the phone. if the conversation seems like its loosing flavor then say you gotta run and will call her back soon. OR if you made her feel great and happy to hear from you, then you can do that as well. best to end on the High note, leaving her wanting more.
do this regularly as she need the communication from a man who is sexy in order for her to feel as tho she is just minutes away from having sex with you. all that needs to happen is a date.
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