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  1. Girlfriend is flat chested

    And as a result of that, our almost two year relationship is suffering. She is aware of my preference for medium to large breasts, but that has not been stopping us from having a great time together and having good sex. However, as of recently, I have started to lose interest in having sex with her, and have not stated that explicitly to her (although I'm sure she can sense the decline in my desire).

    I am looking for serious advice on how to make things work still because we are very much into each other and there are no other problems between us other than this one. Please don't say "find a big titted girl" - that's no advice, and besides I already know that and if I wasn't into my current gf, I would've already done that a long time ago (I got attracted to her personality and beauty, and for the first few months of me just "courting" her... I did not know that she was completely flat).

    The problem however, is that we are still highly attracted to each other (minus the body issue which affects my desire for sex) and both do not see this as a reason to break up. Although, I think I am starting to lose my mind slowly from all the temptation that is always around me (I'm a social guy, go to university, know my shit, am a club DJ, and have lots of female friends).

    Does anyone have experience with something like this? I mean two years is a pretty long time, we have both gone through a lot of experiences together and have "grown together", and now to see this lack of breast issue split us up... would be hurtful. Like I said, I'm looking for positive advice and possible resolutions to this problem, however, I am also willing to listen to experiences that you guys may have had with this issue that were negative. Thanks in advance.

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    How old are you both? It sounds to me like you are satisfied with most aspects of the relationship, but how important is your preference for the big boobies... I can only offer this advice... that you make a list of attractive traits you'd like in your woman.

    Not just your woman but also your relationship because this is equally as important.

    The girls around you may look tempting but will they offer the same benefits as your partner. Its down to you to decide whether you want to pursue a relationship or whether you want to try other girls...

    And it is important to realise that if you do break up with your partner, this decision is final as you will be wise not to get back together.

    Also .. how often do you spend time together... because sex isn't everything in a relationship, you might want to try doing something new and interesting together.

    Does this help at all?

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    If you can't handle her body, find a new partner. But I wouldn't throw away a 2 year relationship because of my GF's chest. No woman's body will stay the same over a decade, nevermind a lifetime. If you leave her and find a GF with "perfect" boobs, they won't look the same in five years.

  4. I agree with you guys, that's why I'm asking what I can do to be able to stay... since all the other aspects of the relationship are satisfactory. We're in our early twenties, to answer the age question.

    I also agree that any girl with "perfect" boobs won't feel the same in, say... five years or so, but that's just a shitty fact of tolerance and our insatiable nature.

    But why is the sex beginning to suffer? Is it because I can compare her to most of my exes who DID have boobs and the sex in those cases fulfilled more of my desires that my current gf is? (although, I am having better sex with my current gf, but am only unsatisfied with lack of breasts). I am her first bf, so she has nothing to compare me to, but I have a bit of a history already and lots of other girls to compare her to (not consciously, but subconsciously I think it just happens when we're having sex). Any tips on how to handle that particular scenario?

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    How old are you and how many relationships have you had of this length?

  6. I'm 24, she is 21. This is my first long relationship (previous one was seven months long, but I don't know if that's considered "long"). Does age play any role in this? And does my experience with previously busty chicks come into play in any of this as well maybe?

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    I'm thinking you are reaching the point where maybe the grass looks a bit greener on the other side because you've been dating her for a while. This may have not too much to do with her cup size and more to do with your libido when it comes to your GF dropping over time, which is normal.

    Typically if I date a girl for an extended period of time, in a purely physical sense I miss the qualities that she doesn't have.

  8. Possibly. So what now then? I find this to be a difficult situation to be in, and that's why I come to ask for help. It's not particularly pleasant feeling knowing that I might have to let her go because of something so trivial (developing tolerance).

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    ^ You're going to become used to anyone you're with. That's part of what it means to have a mature, long-lasting relationship. You need to work on being happy with what you've got, or else you'll never be able to settle down with anyone. That doesn't mean this is the lady you've got to settle down with, but it's something to keep in mind.

  10. Audrey is right: either I learn how to have a mature, long-lasting relationship with this particular girl, or I find someone else who is more suited for me and doesn't yield for too many things for me to pick on after tolerance starts developing (ie. a gf that has all the qualities that attracted me to my current gf, PLUS a decent sized chest). I probably answered my own question here.

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