Women problems --- "just shut up"

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    Women problems --- "just shut up"

    Ok

    I know women love to talk. Especially when it comes to their problems and issues in life.

    All the women I know seem to bitch and whine about it. I want them to STOP, all I can say is "i'm no Oprah".

    How do I get them to stop talking about this issues and have a positive outlook???

    HELP



  2. #2

    stop hanging around bitches with low self esteem

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    not low self esteem just personal issues with family & work. She would kick a guys ass in a second but she always wants to talk about her job or family problems ruining any mood I start up.

  4. I like when the chick acts out her entire day at work, including mimicking the voices of her coworkers.

    Almost worse is when they describe a dream they had in fine detail.

    I've had many filibustering GFs. Chicks can't stay in the moment.

    Her: "Blah blah blah blah, and Jeanie said blah blah blah and"

    (raise your palm up to her and make the 'stop' gesture)

    You: "Really? We have to go through this again? I really look forward to seeing you. I can't listen to any more of this. It's not fair to me. I appreciate you feeling safe enough to discuss your troubles with me, but this is becoming like Groundhog Day. I'm not a shrink, I'm your BF. Let's have some positive experiences together."

    Her: "But blah, blah, blah"

    Don't be surprised if she starts crying. It's their underhanded way of getting you to capitulate.

  5. #5

    This is the one thing I got out of Mars and Venus, when they complain - they're not looking for you to fix problems or be Oprah, but you want to try to get her to shift focus a bit and get her mind off of it, because she's going to be stuck on it. It's also a good relationship test - how interested is she in your day to day life? Another test is how tolerant she is when you talk over her or disrupt her. Sometimes I'll just tell her I need to go take a leak and odds are whatever she was talking about will have been forgotten by the time I'm back.

    Because there's some people that will talk, and talk, and talk...

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    Yeah this girl is a New Yorker, she will have attitude about it.

    Lately I've been moving thoughts acting like a Alpha Male. This could help much speaking about how it repeats over and over. I dont want to be the friend to hear her issues but I dont want to be a total asshole about her expressing herself.

    Transitioning to a positive out look is what I'm hoping to go with in a ALPHA's mentality. Any more would help to consider future actions.

  7. #7

    Just listen to her, don't try to look for answers for her problems.
    And read what sdnightfly said again, it's good advice.

    Women have the urge to say 35.000 words a day. Men only have the urge for 10.000. So if she hasn't been able to have her nonsensical ramble, just listen for a few minutes and move on. It's a drag, but she'll appreciate it.

  8. #8

    Take your phone out and start checking your texts.

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