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02-17-2010, 03:23 AM #1
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- Oct 2009
She's 33 and I'm 32. She's giving off a lot of mixed signals and seems to be a bit of a headcase. She came on to me at first very strong, then pulled away and wanted to be "friends". I backed off and now she's been "hanging around" me and throwing hints that she wants me to chase her.
How to tell if she's playing hard to get, or not interested??
I'm getting all sorts of advice on this. Some guys are telling me:
"Chase after her, she's playing hard to get!! A woman wants you to be a MAN and chase her!!"
Others are saying:
"Ignore her!! It'll drive her nuts!! And she'll eventually come after you if she wants you!! Be a MAN!!"
Notice how both sides claim their way is the "manly" thing to do. So who's right? Whats the more "manly" thing to do" Chase her or ignore her?
I'm so confused with this. The advice I'm getting is so conflicting I dont know who to listen to anymore. So far I've just ignored her. Should I go after her?
My fear is this: She's trying to get me to chase her, and when I do, she'll go to her friends and say "HAHA look at this sap!! He keeps coming after me HAHA!! What a loser dork!!"
On the other hand, she could be saying to her friends "Why isnt he going after me?!?! Doesnt he care enough about me to chase me?!?!"
AAARRGH!!!! I dont know what she's doing or thinking!! I cant read minds!! HELP!!
02-17-2010, 07:30 AM #2
- Join Date
- Jun 2008
- New York, NY
Can you elaborate on her mixed signals? It's hard to tell exactly whats going on with what you've provided us.
02-17-2010, 08:18 AM #3
I am always on the side of let her come to you... dont ever chase, but knowing the situation more will help me make a better judgement.
02-17-2010, 10:55 AM #4
Don't be needy, and be confident in what you do; nothing is a big deal.
If you make a move for her it should be a 100% "I am making a move", move, nothing that could be construed as a friendship thing.
She could just be a flirt and as you said, hoping to get you to ask her out to show her friends that you're chasing her, but I wouldn't let that bother you. If she is genuinely flirting with you and you ask her out, there's not a whole lot to be embarrassed about there! Its if you followed her on nights out, kept texting/ringing etc that it would start to be DLV / embarrassing.
02-17-2010, 11:59 AM #5
How I tell is when she files a PPO order against you... shes not intrested
02-17-2010, 03:25 PM #6
- Join Date
- Mar 2008
- Chesaning, Michigan, United States
I've never witnessed a girl playing hard-2-get. But i'm sure if i did and she was directing it towards me. I'd call her a low value, because she's obviously trying to lower your value because she wants to be the star of the night, not you. Ya digg. In simpler terms she's jealous because your more valuable then her, when she tries to get you to chase her DONT use this to your advantage. Make her chase you, most likely all the other girls (if this is in a club) will see her chasing YOU, and this makes them feel more attracted to you, which then you can build even more, then choose who you want.
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