I've been dating this girl for a while and we started having sex a few weeks ago. The problem is that despite some fairly solid effort on my part, she still hasn't had an orgasm. She says she's never had one that she knows off, only that she's felt "good".
Problems getting my girl off
One obvious thing could be that she isn't attracted to me. I doubt this is the case, since she intiates sex as often as I do and is always wet when we do. She says she thinks of me when she masterbates (she can't get off with masturbation either) and she loves my body (and to be fair I have a very nice body). So while this can't be ruled out, I doubt it's the main problem.
The other thing is that she is holding back mentally for whatever reason. She says she is insecure because she packed on a few pounds over the last year (what do I care, it's all gone to her boobs anyways) and only recently allowed me to see her completely nude. As mentioned she says she's never had a legit orgasm, and I suppose that could be true. So insecurity could play a part. I was working on her clit last weekend for a long time (using the david shade patented "pinch" technique among other things) and I noticed that her body started twitching as if she was headed in the right direction. Then it seemed like she sort of "pulled back" and it was back to square one...
As for sexual technique, I'm not claiming to be a master by any stretch of the imagination. In fact I'm a novice at best. But I do have some ability and my effort has been (I daresay ) quite good.
Now, I've tried to not be affected by it because I don't want to put any more pressure on her. However, it's hard not to let your ego get bruised by it slightly. And of course most importantly I like her alot and want her to happy.
(Dispense with the "it's not the destination that matters, it's how you get there" statements, I want for her to cum)