No smacking bitches, or choking em out. Sometimes they beg for me to choke them so I do for a few seconds and thats it. The main thing that ALL women love, is getting their hair pulled during sex. But you have to do it right. Slide your hand up the back of her neck to the back of her head, make a fist with your hand until you have an ok grip on her hair, and then slowly pull it back until their head goes back a little, hold that position for a few seconds, and then release. Be a little rougher and more dominant in bed, I think thats what she's trying to say to you.
This is negative thinking. Delete: can't, won't, never, will not, not good enough, etc; from your vocabulary. I used to be the same way as you are. I grew up watching movies and crap where the sex scenes were all "romantic" and slow and it made me think that's how all women want it. Some do, but most like it rough IMO. Read some sex ebooks and learn some shit.
I can't do it. Don't know why,
I just know that i cant do it.
"Take the lead but don't show the need."