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i really like my gf and all, shes cute ...
my gf sux at giving bj/hj
i really like my gf and all, shes cute id say 8 (people say my ratings are generous, so most maybe 7) but she sux at giving head and handjobs. like she gets me hard and everything id know, im physically attracted to her but she cant get me to cum.
i dont know what i should do to get her to improve. at least she knows she sux lol.
im going to try a couple things the next time i see her (long distance relaitonship). she said shes only had sex once in highschool, unprotected lol but no kid and shes clean. i think shes just inexperienced.
she wants to watch porn with me that could help, and im not j/o until i see her (almost 2 weeks.. fuck)
if anyone has any suggestions i would really appreciate them. thanks.
Whatever you do, don't tell her that she's bad at it. Thats a horrible thing to say. How would you feel if your girl told you that you had no idea how to please her? Try to keep it positive.
Say things like "I really like it when you..."
Get the idea?
You Miss 100% Of The Shots You Don't Take - Wayne Gretszky
I agree completely. Telling her she's bad at it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. She'll feel self-conscious about her BJ abilities and will be more timid and less willing to figure out how to please you.
Originally Posted by oreilly81
Guide her. Tell her what you LIKE, not what you don't like.
Perhaps enjoying more porns with her could help her improve. Exactly like what other members have said, don't criticize her. While both of you watching porn, you can show her what you like by telling her "I'll be in heaven if you do this next time."
lol NO! dont watch porn with her. You can but, what is better than actually "experimenting" first hand? one day, or night, when you two are alone again, just get her to put you into her mouth and try different new things. Seriously. Lay there and just basically -"ok your getting warmer... oh nvm cold... cold... ok warm.. warmer... etc" and ofcourse, frame it like your doing her a favor of allowing her to give you a bj. I did this with my current LTR and whenever i tell her to gimme a bj, or even hint at it, shes all over it, with a cute smile on her face. Try it. How did you learn how to please women? trial and error.
Show and never tell
Never ever tell a girl how to give you head, and never grab her head while she does this eather, believe it or not even hookers can't stand it.
First show her how you like it by doing it in a similar way to her, and ask her weather she likes it by saying things like " you like that," or just " like that", and " tell me what you like".
When she goes down on you she will pay more attention to your reactions and might ask you the same questions, if she doesn't then moan and breath a lot heavier, when she suddenly does something you rally enjoy, if she ralizes that she will keep doing that. This always works.
I have to respectfully disagree here.
Originally Posted by Odon
It's perfectly okay to tell a girl how to give you head, as long as it's done in an encouraging manner.
You can tell her things like "mm.. yeah baby, just like that.." and "jerk it, nice and slow.. there you go.." and "damn girl, you look so hot when you do that" etc, etc..
Also, grabbing her head is okay too, IMO. You can caress the back of her head, or gently pull her towards you, or tilt her head and stuff. Just as long as you treat her with respect.
Haven't you ever gone down on a girl, and had her grab the back of your head and pull you into her? It's hot when you know that she's really into it.
Same for the chick. She'll appreciate it when you show that you're really enjoying it... and in the same manner, you can tell her what to do, and she'll oblige.
More fun for the both of you!
I don't try to close her. I tease her while she tries to close me.
Attraction is behavior-based.