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    Thanks for the input guys. You guys can be a little harsh lol but your critics are helpful and i feel like i deserve a little bit of harshness right now.

    I actually think that if i do run into her again i am going to be completely honest and tell her im a virgin.

    edit: I realized that i really fucked up here. But for future references should i just admit to the girl beforehand that im a virgin if she asks how many girls have i been with?



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    Actually with all you guys input i see exactly what i did wrong and it was believing in her shit tests (i had no idea it was a shit test and genuinely thought it was the truth). That she wouldnt have sex with me unless i was her boyfriend and i psyched myself out thinking that we werent going to do it anyway.

    Anyway looking back on the situation i feel like kicking my self in the ass for blowing it. Well there are tons of other girls and i can look at this as a starting point and atleast i now have some experience in fooling around.

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    Can't say too much more than what has already been said really.

    When a girl asks how many people you've slept with, don't lie, there's no point. Especially not when you're a virgin. Just say it! Don't be ashamed because it's nothing to be ashamed of. When I was a virgin and people asked, I'd say, I didn't care. It doesn't turn women off but what will is lying. A lot of girls would tell me it was cute, and not in the bad way, more in the way of "I respect you for not just giving it up to anyone".

    It just sounds as though your kiss put her off just as a bad kiss does. Cut this one and move on to another girl. If you want to re-initiate contact at some point, leave it a few months. The next girl you get to this point with, don't lie about being a virgin and don't let it consume your life. Honestly the fact that you made this thread in the first place suggests it's on your mind in a bad way. You consider being a virgin a problem and as if it makes you a loser. It doesn't.

    Start realising that it is NOT a big deal. It'll help your confidence for sure.
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    Gfrigo, don't feel too bad. We all make mistakes. Just learn from what you did. Sometimes a mistake can help you progress a 1000 time more than a success.

    Forget this girl, just remember what happened for the next one. And the golden rule is don't worry about what she says, worry about what she does.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Triple S View Post
    Gfrigo, don't feel too bad. We all make mistakes. Just learn from what you did. Sometimes a mistake can help you progress a 1000 time more than a success.

    Forget this girl, just remember what happened for the next one. And the golden rule is don't worry about what she says, worry about what she does.
    Thanks man, Best advice ive gotten in a while. You've been with my thread from the start, I really appreciate the advice, especially now since i feel like i just scored the winning touchdown of the superbowl, but it was declined.

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    Well look at it this way...you got within 1 yard of the endzone. I've been in your shoes man. I lost my V card when i was nearly 25.

    I got rejected by a girl for a bad first kiss and even though i tried to patch it up, i invited her over to my place made her a candlelight dinner and gave her an amazing kiss that made her blush...it didn't change a thing.

    Don't worry so much. I can tell you lots of girls like virgins, they care more about how.you act then how you fuck. Sex for the first time is not that great, virgin or not. It's when you start having feelings for someone that sex become awesome. I got laid last night with my new gf. It was our 6th time togheter and it was awesome. Just don't sweat the V card so much, if you don't make it a big deal then it won't be...just don't lie.
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    it seems like she wants nothing to do with me since finding out im inexperienced.
    Don't talk to her ever again. In fact if you cross paths just keep walking. No one deserves to judge you like that. No one you hang out in person, and no one on this board does either. IMO judging someone on how little sexual experience they have, unless they have invited it by being a tool themselves is unacceptable.

    I was nearly 25 as well when I had my first woman (I was gay until then). All I did was pretty much copy what I saw in the porn that I watched. Having alcohol in my system helped a lot as well haha. I didn't finish however, and in fact I really didn't enjoy it. So much so that I pretty much didn't care about having sex ever again until now, after seeing all my buddies get back out there. I can't believe it has been five years since I had sex last lol.

    The whole topic of sexual experience brings a lot of paranoia IMO. It is stupid difficult to resist it, hell I'm feeling it right now. Truth is I never was comfortable with sex ever. Hell my first time wasn't with a girl it was with a childhood friend of mine who confessed that he wanted me (gay guys are friggin BOSS when it comes to LMR btw). Hated it so much that I wanted nothing to do with sex until was comfortable enough to tell ppl about it. And that was when I was 16. Took me nearly 10 years to finally respect myself as a former homosexual. tbh I felt like I may have even been raped but there was no violence involved just a TON of pressure.

    So be glad that something like that didn't happen to you. I wouldn't want what happened to me to happen to anyone. Hell you could have been one of those poor kids who Jerry Sandusky molested, and how bad would that have been right? I would give anything to not go through what I went through. There are days where I feel like a misfit for it.

    Sorry if this is too graphic or anything like that. Ever since I have come to terms with my first time I feel obligated to let those who haven't had sex know that it can be A LOT worse. Don't know if dropping homosexual experiences is "legal" on this board and if not, 1000 apologies.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TrainingDay666 View Post
    get a hooker.

    ^ Thanks for the serious advice -_-


    And to Big Jew. Your story is uncomfortable to hear and it is touchy. Im sure it was hard to get through but thanks for sharing it. Its a unfortunate experience and I can tell that you've made it far in dealing with it, since you can openly talk about it on an online forum. I actually feel like being a virgin isn't such a bad thing now thanks to all of the encouragement of the guys here.

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    And I also have an UPDATE: (I know i'm killing you guys with the updates here)

    If you havent been following my situation all of this happened last Tuesday night and the following Wednesday morning i made the mistake of texting her and asking if we could meet up and speak, which she declined but suggested that we stayed friends. Well from the input of the guys here I decided that I would let this situation die and move on to the next girl.

    That same Wednesday night she texted me something playful like "Hey I think i saw ur mom on the train". I texted back playfully something like "stop lying". We kept a mini conversation for a while which i eventually stopped replying to.

    Friday night she texted me while i was at work and asked how i was doing. Again we had a mini conversation which died.

    My thing is I think she genuinely wants to be friends with no relationship. What should i do now? Keep low with contact and wait a few weeks then try to get out of the LJBF zone, and try again to F close? Or should i just stop replying to her altogether and tell her that i wanna move on?

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