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    I dont like my boyfriend touching my nipples anymore

    I dont know why I stopped liking it...I used to LOVE it, almost obsessively. but over time i've begun to absolutely hate it. It makes me feel queezy and dirty. I don't like the idea of nursing a baby. I'm afraid it would feel dirty. So I started to feel dirty when my boyfriend attacks my chest. I think it may be in part due to his inability to tease them. He just goes straight for it. x.x

    It makes me feel like Im nursing a baby. The way he goes at my nipples. I don't know how to get my love of having them touched back. I miss it. It used to make me orgasm. Now I feel like it's almost impossible to.

    Any advice?



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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetcakes View Post
    he didnt get it.
    Then dont let him touch them until he does get it

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    Oh really?

    Quote Originally Posted by sweetcakes View Post
    I dont know why I stopped liking it...I used to LOVE it, almost obsessively. but over time i've begun to absolutely hate it. It makes me feel queezy and dirty. I don't like the idea of nursing a baby. I'm afraid it would feel dirty. So I started to feel dirty when my boyfriend attacks my chest. I think it may be in part due to his inability to tease them. He just goes straight for it. x.x

    It makes me feel like Im nursing a baby. The way he goes at my nipples. I don't know how to get my love of having them touched back. I miss it. It used to make me orgasm. Now I feel like it's almost impossible to.

    Any advice?
    Well a girls' inability to orgasm is usually because there's a mental block(which you explained earlier) or because the partner isn't doing it right(him not teasing them). Now I can give him advice on how to do it right and how to slowly tease the breasts, but you got to be able to clear your mind from the whole nursing thing as well. If you're not comfortable, then he could tease your nipples with the holy spirit and nothing would happen. But, I admire your honesty and the fact that you told your boyfriend about it, most girls keep those things to themselves which is bad. if it used to make you orgsam, then most likely he's not doing it right anymore and he should just google "how to tease nipples" or something. But, if he does make the effort to do it correctly, you should make the effort to not allow any mental blocks and just let go. best of luck

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    You've anchored unpleasant thoughts to your BF touching your nipples. The way to change that is you'll need to be horny enough to love it again, and re-associate those feelings of orgasm and happiness. Good luck digging yourself out of that hole.
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    Most problems like this are fixed by simply making yourself feel another way. Obviously feeling bad about having your nipples touched during sex isn't positive, so just stop feeling like it's ugly/nasty/unclean. Works for me in other areas of life.


    The separate issue is that your boyfriend doesn't touch your nipples in a way you like, you should probably suggest in a nice way to teach him how. He's probably touching them because he wants to touch them to make you feel horny so it doesn't matter to him how he does it as that's not the goal.

    Hope that helps.
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    Well until you are in to it there is nothing wrong with telling him, when you are not mid sex, that you don't like it and would rather he not.
    I have a LTR that has amazing boobs but due to nerve dmg she hates them messed with. It is actually uncomfortable, so I just have to busy myself elsewhere and respect her request. Sex is supposed to be fun, and when one person is doing something JUST to make the other happy, but it is either unenjoyable, or actually painful, well then it's about respecting the other person enough to be ok with not doing that thing.

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    Why do you associate it with nursing a baby and being dirty?

    I would just tell him one day that the nipples are sore when he does it for longer than 15 seconds and need to move on to something else. Even if you demonstrate on him what you want a few times, he should start doing that more. Don't expect miracles... but guys usually like to go with what works for them, but this turns out to be predictable and routine for the woman.

    But when you say he has an inability to change and "didn't get it", it comes across that he wants sex to be a specific routine way each and every time. What doesn't he get?

    Quote Originally Posted by sweetcakes View Post
    I dont know why I stopped liking it...I used to LOVE it, almost obsessively. but over time i've begun to absolutely hate it. It makes me feel queezy and dirty. I don't like the idea of nursing a baby. I'm afraid it would feel dirty. So I started to feel dirty when my boyfriend attacks my chest. I think it may be in part due to his inability to tease them. He just goes straight for it. x.x

    It makes me feel like Im nursing a baby. The way he goes at my nipples. I don't know how to get my love of having them touched back. I miss it. It used to make me orgasm. Now I feel like it's almost impossible to.

    Any advice?

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