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    I feel like I can't make my girlfriend horny for sex

    Early on in the first few weeks of knowing her, I could get her horny by merely touching her in the right places and we used to fuck everytime we saw each other. The makeouts were super intense and would get super sexual in front of friends, and I'd get her so horny that we'd just fuck in the car constantly. Now, 2 1/2 months later, I'm down to getting laid 2-3 times a week and she tries to get me to cum as fast possible as if it's a chore for her. Now when I try getting her horny by touching her (she never lets me touch her vag with anything but my dick unless we pre-arrange it), it just doesn't happen anymore. I can just sit there kissing around her tits (can't kiss the nipples unless we're fucking, otherwise she freaks out) and it's like she's just lavishing in the attention but not actually getting horny. I can never touch the pussy or she'll just flip shit.

    She won't even makeout with me or give me blow jobs. She almost refuses to do foreplay. Sex is like a discrete event for her and it's almost never spontaneous. I can't really kiss her using my tongue to begin with because she refuses to do that since she's so insecure about her ability to do it. She won't touch my dick for handjobs, only the balls, meaning that I have to do the work.

    Bizarrely, my penis is pretty big and will break everything but trojan magnum xl's, so it's not like I'm lacking in that department. I feel like I'm getting used for non-sexual physical affection. The girl I knew for the first few weeks was absolutely insanely horny, what in the hell is going on? She's more or less told me she has no problem with me fucking other women so long as I tell her because she feels as if she can't fulfill my sexual needs (she used to do it really well when we just fuck buddies, though, wtfff!). Do I need to shitcan this relationship? Besides the fact that she's gorgeous and has a model figure, the sex has become absolute shit because she tells me to go as fast as possible (presumably so she can get to cuddling with me quicker?) and it feels like there is no sexual chemistry in this relationship. Whenever I bring it up, she makes it look like I'm insane for wanting to get laid more than twice a week, wanting to actually makeout with her rather than peck her on the lips grandparents style, wanting to eat her out, or spontaneously having sex. I know relationships aren't completely about sex, and there are a lot of good things going on in this one that I value, but it's like I'm just a friend of hers that she fucks now out of obligation.

    She's 19 and I'm 24, just in case anybody is wondering. Some of the objections she has are almost high school level. What am I doing wrong so I don't repeat these mistakes again with another girl? We cuddle a ton, perhaps this has desexualized me.



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    ive highlighted the symptoms of the problems.... have a good read yourself at what you wrote... i hope it becomes clear what is going on..

    Quote Originally Posted by gottagetit View Post
    she tries to get me to cum as fast possible as if it's a chore for her.

    she never lets me touch her vag with anything but my dick unless we pre-arrange it

    can't kiss the nipples unless we're fucking, otherwise she freaks out

    I can never touch the pussy or she'll just flip shit.

    She won't even makeout with me or give me blow jobs.

    She almost refuses to do foreplay.

    Sex is like a discrete event for her and it's almost never spontaneous.

    I can't really kiss her using my tongue to begin with because she refuses to do that since she's so insecure about her ability to do it.

    She won't touch my dick for handjobs, only the balls, meaning that I have to do the work.

    She's more or less told me she has no problem with me fucking other women so long as I tell her because she feels as if she can't fulfill my sexual needs

    she tells me to go as fast as possible (presumably so she can get to cuddling with me quicker?)

    she makes it look like I'm insane for wanting to get laid more than twice a week,

    wanting to actually makeout with her rather than peck her on the lips grandparents style,

    wanting to eat her out, or spontaneously having sex.
    diagnosis: crazy girl

    problems occuring due to the craziness: you jerking yourself off while crazy there is in the corner hiding from aliens trying to get to her nipples.

    remedy: get the fuck OUT!!!!!!!

    let some desperate fucker have her instead.. you are NOT desperate, you are a PUA!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Simon says View Post
    ive highlighted the symptoms of the problems.... have a good read yourself at what you wrote... i hope it becomes clear what is going on..



    diagnosis: crazy girl

    problems occuring due to the craziness: you jerking yourself off while crazy there is in the corner hiding from aliens trying to get to her nipples.

    remedy: get the fuck OUT!!!!!!!

    let some desperate fucker have her instead.. you are NOT desperate, you are a PUA!
    She's fucking insanely hot (110lbs at 5'8") and super sweet with me, but yes, she is literally a crazy girl. She writes me songs, she's witty, and is a really fun conversationalist. I love that.

    Bad stuff: She went to a mental hospital for a couple weeks because she was trying to kill herself a couple years back. She's on medications to treat bipolar. I'm afraid that if I drop her, she's gonna go batshit insane and try to kill herself or harm me. I feel like I'm literally her only friend sometimes and when I yell at her/berate her when she's acting totally insane, I get these vibes that she's gonna kill herself. I know exactly how to get this girl into having sex with me like she used to (i.e. gather up a harem of girls and make her feel insanely insecure), but do I want to? I kinda wanna put her down gently.

    I tightened up my game to fuck hot chicks, but not get into relationships with literally insane hot chicks.

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    Oh yeah, quick question. I haven't been in any relationships outside of friends with benefits and one night stands, so I'm wondering if it's normal for a new couple to only fuck 2-3 times a week when they hang out 6-7 days a week, and 99% of the time, it's just the two of you.

    Like instead of stayng in a super sexually charged, loving relationship, it became a super physically affectionate relationship where she just spills her emotions about things, tells me how obsessed with me she is, and is constantly demanding that I touch her. A cuddlebitch could do the SAME thing. This whole withholding sex thing is totally insane if you two are actually physically into each other. I couldn't rub around my former fb's vag and not have her egging me on to go further when we're both alone. My friend says I need to be more dominant, but really, how are you gonna be more dominant when she gets seriously angry when you try to escalate gradually.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gottagetit View Post
    She's fucking insanely hot (110lbs at 5'8") and super sweet with me, but yes, she is literally a crazy girl. She writes me songs, she's witty, and is a really fun conversationalist. I love that.

    Bad stuff: She went to a mental hospital for a couple weeks because she was trying to kill herself a couple years back. She's on medications to treat bipolar. I'm afraid that if I drop her, she's gonna go batshit insane and try to kill herself or harm me. I feel like I'm literally her only friend sometimes and when I yell at her/berate her when she's acting totally insane, I get these vibes that she's gonna kill herself. I know exactly how to get this girl into having sex with me like she used to (i.e. gather up a harem of girls and make her feel insanely insecure), but do I want to? I kinda wanna put her down gently.

    I tightened up my game to fuck hot chicks, but not get into relationships with literally insane hot chicks.

    I've known bi-polar girls in the past who've been great people, when they're on a high. they'd come dancing with me, buy me expensive things, cook me dinner, ext. But when they got down, they'd be horrible to be around, and it wasn't worth my time.

    In relation to Simon's diagnosis, GTFO of that relationship, there's no such thing as a special vagina, and it's all just a "fish in the sea" kind of thing anyhow.

    it's totally not worth your time to put that burden upon your shoulders, I'd leave her, and find some non-damaged goods.

    Sarge hard,

    -Joker

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    yah,..you can't fix this one,..move on,..use her as a booty call down the road but don't make her exclusive,..

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    Yeah, I'm hopefully going to be leaving for a new job on the other side of the state within a few weeks. She'll be starting her sophomore year of college around then, too. It'll be a very convienent and easy breakup that way. I had some insane sex with her yesterday, but whatever, this shit isn't worth it. It's my fault for getting into a relationship with a girl that told me she's bipolar and that she's been to a mental hospital before I even fucked her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gottagetit View Post
    She's 19 and I'm 24, just in case anybody is wondering. Some of the objections she has are almost high school level.
    Thats it man, she is not sexually mature. In that she probably has not had a true ADULT sexual relationship yet. You have to either be patient or just tell her it ain't working and next her.


    Edit: I answered before reading the rest of your posts. Um, ya this girl has some serious issues she needs to see a prof counselor for, which you are NOT.

    As a rule, ignore their armchair psych diagnosis' often the younger girls have decided that having a "pop disorder" is just a weird way to get attention. Like saying they are Bi Polar, pretty much how claiming they were "raped" or "molested" was popular for the last few years, it's something they can say, that no one will question or accuse them of lying, and everyone gasps and acts concerned and wants to say and do nice things for them. They learn from this and decide it is a valid way to get some attention.

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    this is what always happens. hot and heavy goes....cold. there is an old chinese saying. "much talk leads inevitably to..silence."

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    Quote Originally Posted by gottagetit View Post
    She's fucking insanely hot (110lbs at 5'8") and super sweet with me, but yes, she is literally a crazy girl. She writes me songs, she's witty, and is a really fun conversationalist. I love that.
    the oneitis is strong within you young padawan.. see her again you will..

    leave her behind you must. let the dark side take over, you must not.

    hmm..

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