First time sex nerves / erection problems
I don't think I've ever needed your advice more.
My problem area is getting an erection before sex and being far too nervous about sex in general. I'm a 20 year old virgin and despite two great opportunities i've failed to f-close my gf, who i've been with for 2 months. To be honest I am really nervous about it. When i'm waiting to see her and i know that we could end up having sex, I literally shake with nerves.
I have no problem getting hard in situations where i know sex is not possible such as in the daytime, and for blowjobs and handjobs im absolutely fine. Losing my erection seems to kick in when i'm lying over her and about to reach over for a condom. I start to think too much and it just goes.
Take the first time it happened, I put the condom on and then lost my erection and couldn't get one again no matter how hard she tried. Afterwards i told myself it was due to having to search for a condom from the other side of the room. But deep down i knew it was a nerves issue.
The second time I eventually got hard and was lying over her and was just gonna reach over for a condom when we both stopped cos we could hear my heart pumping really loudly. No joke. My heartbeat has never been so fast and loud even after going for a run.
That sort of killed the moment and we didnt end up having sex because we could here her parents coming upstairs. But then as soon as i realised sex wasnt gonna happen i immediately loosened up and relaxed and then had no problems whatsoever getting hard for a blowjob.
I will have a free house again in four days and i'm hoping that I'll be able to deliver. Any advice will be much appreciated
Oh a little bit of extra info: my girlfriend isnt a virgin and I know her ex who she lost her virginity to, which makes me feel a bit wierd. I really like her (maybe too much) and have never felt so close to a girl before. Also i used to masturbate to porn daily until last week but have decided to stop to try and help my cause. I only used to masturbate to the foreplay parts of porn though, the sex parts never really did much for me.