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    I can't cum during sex

    Alright I tried to read other posts about not being able to cum but mine is a little bit different and I hope someone out there can help me out. Also, i am pretty new to sex, first time was this year.

    So as far as i know the reason i cant cum is one of two reasons. 1, its a mental thing which will pass in time or the more likely 2, which is i masterbate in a different way not using my hands and therefore am not used to the same feeling(although good) you get from being inside a girl.
    i cant remember how i started masterbating this way but it did start before puberty. anytime i had to take a piss if i was alone i kind of just pressed myself against an object and it would put pressure on the area right above where your penis starts(doing all this flacid) and it just felt good so i was a kid and would do that and it felt good so i kept doing it and after puberty doing that would make me cum so if i started to watch porn or anything that turned me on before i would get hard id do this and cum so i never have and still have never came using my hand with a hard on.

    Right around january of this year i had sex for the first time using a condom and it felt good but i just couldnt cum and didnt think anything of it really i figured its something you have to get used to. later in the year i stop masterbating the way i did and tried to use my hand and it never really works the best i could get is morning wood in the shower and if i just stimulated the head it felt great to the point my legs would practically give out on me but instead of cumming i would start to piss. so i have had sex recently and whether she is giving me head or we are having sex i can come to the same point as in the shower but im afraid i wont cum but instead piss so i hold back. i dont mind as much because i get pleasure in know she is having a good time and the last time(few days ago) this girl and i were having sex for about 30 minutes and i could not cum, she told me afterwards she came at least 3 times which made me feel good but then she felt like shit saying "sorry i didnt make you cum"

    basically, any tips on how to re-train my cock into cumming with my hand so i can in turn cum with oral/sex. also im turning 21 next week and going to vegas so same thing its nice to go for a long time and please the girl but what if she feels bad cause she cant please me and what if she is giving me head and i relax and i dont cum but i start to piss? the only thing i can think of is just to jack off with my hands as much as possible til i get used to it.

    cant believe i actually told people about this cause i never have but i hope you guys can help and obviously im desperate for it



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    Quote Originally Posted by Khanman View Post
    Alright I tried to read other posts about not being able to cum but mine is a little bit different and I hope someone out there can help me out. Also, i am pretty new to sex, first time was this year.

    So as far as i know the reason i cant cum is one of two reasons. 1, its a mental thing which will pass in time or the more likely 2, which is i masterbate in a different way not using my hands and therefore am not used to the same feeling(although good) you get from being inside a girl.
    i cant remember how i started masterbating this way but it did start before puberty. anytime i had to take a piss if i was alone i kind of just pressed myself against an object and it would put pressure on the area right above where your penis starts(doing all this flacid) and it just felt good so i was a kid and would do that and it felt good so i kept doing it and after puberty doing that would make me cum so if i started to watch porn or anything that turned me on before i would get hard id do this and cum so i never have and still have never came using my hand with a hard on.

    Right around january of this year i had sex for the first time using a condom and it felt good but i just couldnt cum and didnt think anything of it really i figured its something you have to get used to. later in the year i stop masterbating the way i did and tried to use my hand and it never really works the best i could get is morning wood in the shower and if i just stimulated the head it felt great to the point my legs would practically give out on me but instead of cumming i would start to piss. so i have had sex recently and whether she is giving me head or we are having sex i can come to the same point as in the shower but im afraid i wont cum but instead piss so i hold back. i dont mind as much because i get pleasure in know she is having a good time and the last time(few days ago) this girl and i were having sex for about 30 minutes and i could not cum, she told me afterwards she came at least 3 times which made me feel good but then she felt like shit saying "sorry i didnt make you cum"

    basically, any tips on how to re-train my cock into cumming with my hand so i can in turn cum with oral/sex. also im turning 21 next week and going to vegas so same thing its nice to go for a long time and please the girl but what if she feels bad cause she cant please me and what if she is giving me head and i relax and i dont cum but i start to piss? the only thing i can think of is just to jack off with my hands as much as possible til i get used to it.

    cant believe i actually told people about this cause i never have but i hope you guys can help and obviously im desperate for it
    quit masterbating all together fill up to the brim, and dont think about not being able to get off while fucking it is all psychological. your thinking way too much just relax and let it go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Khanman View Post
    Alright I tried to read other posts about not being able to cum but mine is a little bit different and I hope someone out there can help me out. Also, i am pretty new to sex, first time was this year.

    So as far as i know the reason i cant cum is one of two reasons. 1, its a mental thing which will pass in time or the more likely 2, which is i masterbate in a different way not using my hands and therefore am not used to the same feeling(although good) you get from being inside a girl.
    i cant remember how i started masterbating this way but it did start before puberty. anytime i had to take a piss if i was alone i kind of just pressed myself against an object and it would put pressure on the area right above where your penis starts(doing all this flacid) and it just felt good so i was a kid and would do that and it felt good so i kept doing it and after puberty doing that would make me cum so if i started to watch porn or anything that turned me on before i would get hard id do this and cum so i never have and still have never came using my hand with a hard on.

    Right around january of this year i had sex for the first time using a condom and it felt good but i just couldnt cum and didnt think anything of it really i figured its something you have to get used to. later in the year i stop masterbating the way i did and tried to use my hand and it never really works the best i could get is morning wood in the shower and if i just stimulated the head it felt great to the point my legs would practically give out on me but instead of cumming i would start to piss. so i have had sex recently and whether she is giving me head or we are having sex i can come to the same point as in the shower but im afraid i wont cum but instead piss so i hold back. i dont mind as much because i get pleasure in know she is having a good time and the last time(few days ago) this girl and i were having sex for about 30 minutes and i could not cum, she told me afterwards she came at least 3 times which made me feel good but then she felt like shit saying "sorry i didnt make you cum"

    basically, any tips on how to re-train my cock into cumming with my hand so i can in turn cum with oral/sex. also im turning 21 next week and going to vegas so same thing its nice to go for a long time and please the girl but what if she feels bad cause she cant please me and what if she is giving me head and i relax and i dont cum but i start to piss? the only thing i can think of is just to jack off with my hands as much as possible til i get used to it.

    cant believe i actually told people about this cause i never have but i hope you guys can help and obviously im desperate for it
    I know exactly what you're talking about. Whenever I F*Close girls fast, like two days, i get that way. I feel like i might as well be some random AFC or like i could be replaced by one because of how simple it is to get some girls in bed. Knowing I'm better than most if not all of the guys this girl has been with, if i feel like she doesn't realize it, she doesn't deserve me. So when this happens, I have trouble getting hard. My dick says "HELL YES!" and my head says "eh, i don't really wanna do this yet."

    Just don't masturbate at all, if anything, masturbate, and right as you're about to have an orgasm, stop masturbating and do something else. Do it like three times a day until the encounter. You will cum. Trust me.

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    This sounds entirely psychological to me.

    Take the advice above: stop masturbating for like a week or two before you see her next.

    But also: enjoy the moment. Concentrate on what you're feeling *right now* instead of how you want to/can't cum. If you find your mind wandering, slow down to a crawl and concentrate on the feeling again. Make sure you're not dry f*ing her, use lube or some spit to keep things wet.

    Good luck, man. And, enjoy it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Khanman View Post
    Alright I tried to read other posts about not being able to cum but mine is a little bit different and I hope someone out there can help me out. Also, i am pretty new to sex, first time was this year.

    So as far as i know the reason i cant cum is one of two reasons. 1, its a mental thing which will pass in time or the more likely 2, which is i masterbate in a different way not using my hands and therefore am not used to the same feeling(although good) you get from being inside a girl.
    i cant remember how i started masterbating this way but it did start before puberty. anytime i had to take a piss if i was alone i kind of just pressed myself against an object and it would put pressure on the area right above where your penis starts(doing all this flacid) and it just felt good so i was a kid and would do that and it felt good so i kept doing it and after puberty doing that would make me cum so if i started to watch porn or anything that turned me on before i would get hard id do this and cum so i never have and still have never came using my hand with a hard on.

    Right around january of this year i had sex for the first time using a condom and it felt good but i just couldnt cum and didnt think anything of it really i figured its something you have to get used to. later in the year i stop masterbating the way i did and tried to use my hand and it never really works the best i could get is morning wood in the shower and if i just stimulated the head it felt great to the point my legs would practically give out on me but instead of cumming i would start to piss. so i have had sex recently and whether she is giving me head or we are having sex i can come to the same point as in the shower but im afraid i wont cum but instead piss so i hold back. i dont mind as much because i get pleasure in know she is having a good time and the last time(few days ago) this girl and i were having sex for about 30 minutes and i could not cum, she told me afterwards she came at least 3 times which made me feel good but then she felt like shit saying "sorry i didnt make you cum"

    basically, any tips on how to re-train my cock into cumming with my hand so i can in turn cum with oral/sex. also im turning 21 next week and going to vegas so same thing its nice to go for a long time and please the girl but what if she feels bad cause she cant please me and what if she is giving me head and i relax and i dont cum but i start to piss? the only thing i can think of is just to jack off with my hands as much as possible til i get used to it.

    cant believe i actually told people about this cause i never have but i hope you guys can help and obviously im desperate for it
    I've done that un the shower... usually after masturbating, by either rubbing your handover the tip or by allowing water to hit it and for some reason it makes you piss... do not worry about that happening when you are with a lady... when with a lady you will be aroused and the tube that comes from the bladder is cut off, you can piss with an erection just not when your turned on... i've never heard of the way you cum, but everyone had there own little quirks.... i think all you can do is try to stop doing your old technique completely and then sit in the house by yourself, put on some porn and masturbate normally, your body should get used to it soon enough... don't worry about pissing in a girls mouth haha, i can gaurentee it won't happen... i hope i helper =]

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    you can be a fuck pro.

    you can fuck for days without cumming?! you have a golden cock! you would make big bucks in the porn business.

    heres a mathematical equation
    girls+fucking+nevercuming= days of pleasure + pleasure a girl for hours.= incredible pussy pounding+ girls coming back for more.


    you have it made.
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    ive been in the same boat before, girls actually get offended which is weird. I stopped beating it and the problem stopped.. good luck man
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    Quote Originally Posted by surffreak View Post
    you can be a fuck pro.

    you can fuck for days without cumming?! you have a golden cock! you would make big bucks in the porn business.

    heres a mathematical equation
    girls+fucking+nevercuming= days of pleasure + pleasure a girl for hours.= incredible pussy pounding+ girls coming back for more.


    you have it made.
    hahahhahahha soooo true!!!!!

    I had the same problem when I first started fucking... but then it turned into going too early... and then slowly it turned into controlling when I want to go.

    My two cents... Just keep fucking and enjoying it, soon you'll be more relaxed and be able to go whenever you want.

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    I think I know what's happening with your masterbation and sex, if I am right, I hope you will think I am bang on the money, if I am wrong, you may think what the hell is this guy on about?

    When you first started masturbating did you use a pillow or other object and put your knees quite high to your chest, a bit like climbing a tree? Do you get a really good feeling just below your balls when you do this?(even when your not cumming.)

    If so, then I think you are engaging your prostate when you masturbate, and when you have sex you don't, therefore you find it harder to cum. If you hump your pillow and raise your knees to your chest, for some reason it seems to stimulate the area between your balls and your ass, which is where your prostate is. If you watched American Pie when Stifler is in the sperm bank, the Nurse stimulates this area internally to make him cum, you may be doing it in a slightly different way but it is still very powerful. The problem with doing this is that it creates an association, like NLP, which means that you only associate cumming with prostate stimulation.

    If you are doing this, then don't worry, its not uncommon. You can slowly wean yourself off this in two stages, firstly is to start masturbating differently, use only your hands not your pillow or other object. If you find it hard to cum from just touching your dick, then stoke or press on the area underneath your balls to stimulate your prostate and practice cumming from that. Once you have got through that stage, stimulate your prostate less and less so that you are relying on your prostate less and less, and eventually not using it at all

    Like I said, alot of it is about association at first, then as your brain realises that its just as good to do it another way, it should become easier to cum. Likewise, if you are finding that only the base of your dick allows you to cum, then experiment with different areas and gradually applying less pressure to the base in order to cum, this should make you a bit more sensitive.

    Finally, do it less, the guys are right, and as a plus, I find that I am a slightly sharper guy if I don't do it more than twice a week.

    Hope this helps Man

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    Dude,

    I totally understand. The first time I had sex, I was drunk and nervous which made it difficult to stay hard. Blew quick the first 2 times. Like under 10sec..! The girl was at least a 9 and not impressed. She actually begged me to drop her off at her boyfriends after that teaser.. which I did not LOL.

    That crushed my inner game which made it difficult to come with my second partner about a year later. Again, I had more than a few before going at it... I used protection and had no problem lasting but this time I wasn't satisfied. It was like delayed Karma!

    Recently, I got together with an amazing girl and I just could not come. What the fuck

    To make matters worse, I'd start to go soft after putting on the condoms. Good thing I made her explode via fingering before hand. Regardless, we improvised and had a great night together.

    I quit pleasuring myself for the last few days in order to meet my own demands lol

    Hopefully this works for both of us!!!

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