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    Teaching an inexperienced girl?

    I'm with this chick right now who has very little experience in the sack, and it seems I'm doing all the work. She just pretty much lies there and unless I specifically guide her to do something, she never takes any initiative. I'm not talking necessarily about doing freaky things, even with foreplay its almost like she feels i need to give her permission to touch me, to take my clothes off, etc.

    And I know its not a comfort thing, because we're way past that.

    What's the best approach to teaching her that sex requires both parties to do stuff? I hate guiding her while we're in the act, it can be a real mood breaker. And its also awesome when the chick does something spontaneous rather than me having to tell her "do this" or guiding her hand there.



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    Get her to start talking about fantasies...they might seem tame to you and kind of boring, but everyone's got a dark side. Once you tap into that, then she might open up more and more.

    Positive feedback... she might be gunshy about dirty talk though, or put off by it. But odds are they're struggling with it and need to get past the hurdles.

    I've always discussed sex outside of the bedroom, and tried to get her to open up and not be afraid to speak the truth of what she likes and doesn't like. I pretty much say what I like and don't like... I'm pretty simple and to the point, make no big deal out of it. I don't push for sex every time I'm with someone, I'll be the one to just hang out, let her curl up to me, and go home before it gets late, or I might mess around with her and not have it lead to sex.

    This is how I look at someone with lack of experience - they have no idea of how your body works and it kind of foreign to them, and if you have a lot of experience, you already know that women vary in how they like to be touched and what stimulates them mentally and physically. There's a lot of situations and images that turn women on, that most guys would be floored by.

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    It can be really hot being with an inexperienced girl if you frame in properly in your head. An inexperienced girl doesnt know what she likes. She doesnt know what feels good and what doesnt.. for all you know it, she could turn out to be a real freak.. a sex addict once she discovers what she likes... you can teach her and morph her into your perfect woman sexually..
    Im still discovering new things that i like and developing new fantasies.

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    sdnightfly, I tried your advice. I took it slowly, didn't blurt it out and push her to reveal her fantasies.

    When I finally asked the question about what turns her on and what her fantasies are, she very shyly told me one turn on. Then she quickly said she doesn't know what her fantasies are or what turns her on. I know its bs, but in good time I'm sure I'll get more out of her.

    Femme, my main problem is getting her to be more proactive. I don't mind taking charge, but i really want her to do her part to. I guess what I'm saying is that I want her to pleasure me too. There's more to good sex than just getting your dick wet.

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    She's not not gonna be spontaneous when she doesn't know what she likes or what to do. Time, practice, communication, make her satisfied and comfortable - but maybe this isn't what you want right now?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eages06 View Post
    sdnightfly, I tried your advice. I took it slowly, didn't blurt it out and push her to reveal her fantasies.

    When I finally asked the question about what turns her on and what her fantasies are, she very shyly told me one turn on. Then she quickly said she doesn't know what her fantasies are or what turns her on. I know its bs, but in good time I'm sure I'll get more out of her.

    Femme, my main problem is getting her to be more proactive. I don't mind taking charge, but i really want her to do her part to. I guess what I'm saying is that I want her to pleasure me too. There's more to good sex than just getting your dick wet.
    did you tell her what your fantasies are? if you lead she will follow

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    I'm pretty cautious with someone who's sexually conservative or inexperienced until I know she's opening up.

    He got one fantasy out of her and that had to have taken some work. Just keep going little by little and it'll come out over time. Building trust and comfort with her fantasies should lead to the both of them enjoying quality sex. Getting her to be proactive should happen when she starts enjoying and not second guessing what you like or is unsure about what she likes.

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    The main reason women don't initiate sex is because they don't have to. They know that you'll let them know when you want it, at which point they can decide whether or not they want to comply. After all, if you're always the one asking for it, why would she even bother?
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