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I met this chick jen last friday night, number closed and ...
I'm loosing the edge
I met this chick jen last friday night, number closed and a kiss on the cheek. My brain was murky from alcohol but still full with the first 50 pages or so of "The Game".
Saw her and her friends from the previous night saturday for some inn 'n out and then she and I camped on the dorm couch (fucking uncomfortable!) and watched the first disc of Pearl Harbor (her choice from my selection). We hugged goodnight, it was 4am, she leaned in a bit for a kiss just as I was withdrawing for the hug. FUCK. I noticed it but I fumbled - didn't know if I should return back and pull it in. yeah I know I Should have.
She initiated AIM with me monday, it was brief - we made plans for lunch wednesday.
Yesterday was wednesday. I picked her up from her place and like a good gentelman opened the door for her. We hit up baja fresh, I payed - no confrontation that way. The conversation was off and on, interesting sometimes - othertimes not. I have a hard time focusing the conversation on my self. She is shy without alcohol and I pointed it out, she admitted to it and I joked that she would be babbling plenty soon enough [attempt at cocky funny].
Face to face I can have all the game, whenever I am talking to her its cool. But times like right now.. where I see her available on aim and I want to IM her.. but I feel like that'd be giving her power. Since her first initiation, I have initiated aim 4 times and her none.
Shy? I doubt it. I loose.
I'm in the same situation with 2 girls...I am just putting them both in the back of my mind. I took their sn's off AIM, and am focusing on other targets til one of them makes a move. I rationalize it by the more I dwell the less I get to experience. I did this shit over a girl for a few years and I missed out on a lot. By having that mentality I am more secure and the girls can tell, then they'll make the move. That is my experience.
instant messaging breaks the cardinal rule of "give her the gift of missing her". aim and MSN for buddies and Friends (get that... friends... as in lets just be).
Originally Posted by falieson
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--
I put my 4 wheel drive in low range, and drove straight through the middle
Shouldn't have paid... average date average responses. You'll get another chance though I'm sure... just be a bit more of a jerk... no opening doors, pulling out chairs etc... only do that in the latter part of a relationship, and even then not too often. Girls say they want that but very few actually do.
If you are going to message her... make the conversation about something like "Hey I need your help with this you're this type of person blah blah so you can answer my question." Get her to answer your bullshit question, then say "thanks gtg!" Or just don't respond any more to her. This will bait her and confuse her