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    Text after no contact

    Hey guys,

    Yes I have posted here on this topic before. I had started to move on with my life, as so many advised. Last contact I had with her was over a month ago.

    However, today my ex messaged me saying, "Hi how are you? Just letting you know that I am changing the dates for my trip, so you can still go to the same time and palce. Is my fish still alive?

    Also as we haven't spoken and I thought I would never hear from her. My brother and I have booked our flights and what not. She doesn't know this.

    Before i get flamed for not moving on by anyone. I have started tai Chi and have started to be happy in my life again. Right now I am trying to be the best I can, even if she never comes back. Most of all I am moving forward.

    I also don't know if she has been with or seen anyone.

    No, she probably doesn't want to get back with me, but need some advice on what to reply? I was thinking something like.


    Hey, I've been thinking about things and I need some space to focus on my life right now. I took the breakup pretty hard but I've come to accept it and respect your decision. I need to focus on all the good things going on in my life and career so I hope you will understand my need for space as I sort things out. Thanks. Your fish is well and so am I.

    Thoughts??
    Last edited by Marvell; 06-25-2009 at 03:51 AM. Reason: Wrong info



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    I personally would not say that.

    Many will say not to contact her back but i feel that only shows that you are still affected by the breakup, there is no harm in been polite to the girl.

    Keep it short and sweet and write it in such a way that shows you dont want a reply, because you dont!! Also dont mention anything about the breakup, last thing you want is her thinking that you are heartbroken because of her.

    Something like;

    "Your fish and i are good, thanks for the heads up, take care."

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    I'm pretty sure that response you want to send is saying

    "Hey, I haven't been able to stop thinking about you, but now I'm finally moving on maybe. The breakup is killing me but I know there's nothing I can do now. So I'm just trying to stay busy and keep trying to get over you. Thanks. Your fish is well and I'm not."

    She didn't bring up anything about the relationship, so you shouldn't..

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    Hey, I've been thinking about things and I need some space to focus on my life right now. I took the breakup pretty hard but I've come to accept it and respect your decision. I need to focus on all the good things going on in my life and career so I hope you will understand my need for space as I sort things out. Thanks. Your fish is well and so am I.

    Thoughts??
    If i got this text, i would think you sound bitter and fake.

    Simply say
    "Cool, Ive already booked 2 tickets, but thanks anyway. Ive been great, pretty busy tho. Fish is doing great." (this way she can wonder who the other person you're taking is..you sound pretty normal as if tho you're replying to a friend)

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    I know what he's doing. He's trying to make her feel that he's perfectly fine about the break-up. It's written everywhere on how to "get your ex-back" .

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    "Hey there. Trip is all squared away, fish is great." Do not respond to further texts.

    I don't like mentioning the number of tickets because it will bait her into asking who else is going. You don't want to prolong the conversation.

    I agree with the others that your original message sounds kinda fake and wounded.

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    actually tell her to go screw herself and never text you again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheCollective View Post
    actually tell her to go screw herself and never text you again.
    Given the history that would be psycho behavior.

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    Wow thanks guys.

    I can see now why the original message sucked lol.

    I will keep it short and sweet.

    I feel this would be a good message to send. Thanks to Femmefatal. "Cool, i've got someone to go with now, but thanks anyway. I've been great, pretty busy tho. Fish is doing great."

    Also is waiting a day fine or should I message in a few days time. I planned on doing it later today, so that way I wasn't jumping to her every communication.

    Cheers.
    Last edited by Marvell; 06-25-2009 at 03:37 PM. Reason: added text

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marvell View Post

    Also is waiting a day fine or should I message in a few days time. I planned on doing it later today, so that way I wasn't jumping to her every communication.

    Cheers.
    Waiting to text someone back means that someone is on your mind all those days until you respond. If someone you didn't care about sent you a text, would you reply right away to end the convo, or would you wait days and days and then go back to that text?

    Send it out and get it over with.

    Rogue

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