Thread: My GF is not alloed to have sex with me AFTER a girls nigt!?

spot the red "underlines"

speaking of which, it doesnt work for me anymore.

Chicks before dicks, or something.

If she wants to leave, then her friends notice and help her have a good time, she'll rationalise staying with them (that was why she went out remember).

I have a friend who has a boyfriend..and she frequently gets other guys to buy her drinks and she welcomes lots of flirtation, she likes to lead men on for her own benefits (Drinks, lunch, the lot). She hasnt cheated yet, but a lot of what she does goes against MY values.. so even though we hang out, it doesnt mean I'll act the way she does with guys. If she is that easily influenced by her friends to the point where she steps over her own values, that would be a character flaw in my books.

What happens during girls nights? It depends on the girls involved. Dont worry about guys hitting on her. If shes a good looking girl, guys hit on her ALL the time, everywhere. They hit on her at the mall, at the video store, supermarket, school and clubs. If she wants to pretend that she doesnt have a boyfriend, she doesnt need a girls night out to do it. Keep this always in mind.

Now, shes had this girls night and all her friends have tried to do is get her to have fun and basically forget about you. This doesnt mean that she'll cheat on you..it just means that shes with her friends now and she needs to make them a priority. When my boyfriend has a boys night out/ or if he's hanging out with the boys during the day, I dont sit at home texting him. I dont call him either.. and I dont try to schedule time with him. This is his time, away from me.. which is something HE needs.. its something everyone needs and deserves.

Originally Posted by FemmeFatale

I have a friend who has a boyfriend..and she frequently gets other guys to buy her drinks and she welcomes lots of flirtation, she likes to lead men on for her own benefits (Drinks, lunch, the lot). She hasnt cheated yet, but a lot of what she does goes against MY values.. so even though we hang out, it doesnt mean I'll act the way she does with guys. If she is that easily influenced by her friends to the point where she steps over her own values, that would be a character flaw in my books.

Ever heard of the saying "you get judged by the friends you have?" If you're not like them, or condone their behaviour, why are you friends with them? Don't hang out with people who do not behave in a way that you wouldn't. When you are tempted to do some funny shit, your friends should be there to support and help you in the right direction. I firmly believe that you are resposible for your own actions, of course! BUT you should create supporting pillars in your life with your friends too.

Originally Posted by J03

Ever heard of the saying "you get judged by the friends you have?" If you're not like them, or condone their behaviour, why are you friends with them? Don't hang out with people who do not behave in a way that you wouldn't. When you are tempted to do some funny shit, your friends should be there to support and help you in the right direction. I firmly believe that you are resposible for your own actions, of course! BUT you should create supporting pillars in your life with your friends too.

Bleh Bleh Bleh, BFF for life right?
Please.

I use people for whatever strengths they have and whatever I can get out of them. If a girl is not a LTR but shes hot, you'll still fuck her right? So if i a girl is a superficial but shes fun for something else, maybe we have a similar style and like to shop together.. Im still gonna hang out with her for the same reason. I keep my opinions to myself and im everybodys friend..and when someone contributes less to our friendship, i dont drop them, i simply decrease the amount of time i spend with them.. they become..a once a month friend.

Originally Posted by Precious

But for everyone confused about the tenets of individuality and high self-esteem---DO WHAT YOU WANT, WHEN YOU WANT!

WRONG! WRONG! WRONG!

To do what you want, when you want without regard to your bros/buddys/friends or whatever you prefer to call them, just means that you are selfish, childish and think short-term. It has nothing to do with individuality or high self-esteem.

If you have any concept of what male bonding truly is about, you'll have no problem taking a hit for the team, just as you'll expect the others to do the same. Your group exists because it is a greater good. You voluntarily give up a bit of your individual freedom in order to be a part of something stronger and greater that will enrich you.

Now, taking hits for the team to seek approval or doing things that fundamentally goes against your beliefs is another thing. Don't go there, but taking hits for the team because that is what you guys do for eachother does not mean that you have to give up your individuality or high self-esteem.

Your friends are friends. If you want friendship (or a meaningful relationship with a girl or a good carreer for that matter) you have to give up parts of your freedom. It's that simple, but it's no problem as long as you have strong boundries which you don't cross and as long as you don't give up the wrong freedoms for the wrong reasons.

When you roll with the boys, you roll with the boys, and when the boys roll with you, they roll with you.

You made the mistake the second you started caring about what she was doing that night when she was out with her friends.

She's out with her friends, go make plans and hang out with your boys. Don't sit and mope because she didn't come to your place to bang you.

The biggest mistake I see time and time again is guys thinking too much about the actions of women.

to me it sounds like it has nothing to do with sex, just sounded like she wanted to bail on her freinds early to be with you, and they stopped her.

if you hadn't seen your buddies for a while, then organised a night out with them all, they'd be pretty pissed if halfway through the night you said you wanted to leave so you could see your girlfreind.

seems like the same thing to me.